Why spend 100+ if you don't have to?

Single and live in a nice quiet neighborhood and no SO.  I always have them come to my place, would rather give the money for a room to the SB, and keep her happy.  You have to feel that is ok, with each SB.  Of course, that is for local SB's that have cars and can stop by.  I have plenty of locals within a short drive so don't deal with the long range SB's.  

by all means get a hotel, or see if her place will work.

I’m also single and recently divorced. I just host them all at my place. I do tell them to dress casual and not bring unwanted attention while outside in my complex. But other than that it’s been great. I can set the mood in a familiar environment, etc. plus it saves a ton on hotels. I can use those savings to spend more time with SBs. The only minus I can see is the potential for unwanted attention from neighbors.

Sometimes you may not want them to know where you live...

I have no SO, other than my #1 SB who does call herself my GF and who socializes with my friends at parties, road trips, etc. And I live alone with no kids.  
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I regularly have one or two women coming to my house each week. Sometimes they park on the street, sometimes in my driveway.  I really don't care what my neighbors see or what they think. If anyone were to ask me about the people who visit me, I'd tell them I have friends who visit me.  It's the truth after all.  
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On occasion, my #1 SB will find interesting things in my house; a single earing, a sweater that doesn't fit her, or maybe a pair of panties that are not hers. She just hands it to me and chuckles, while I pour her another glass of wine.

"Single", with divorce thankfully almost completed. Marriage abruptly ended, as I have posted before, due to how I switched over to the sugar bowl and the huge increase in logistical details led me to make mistakes that she caught. I think married men need to consider how much easier escorts are, while still acknowledging the differences in the relationships and dynamics involved.  

I live in an apartment building with desk concierge and lots of neighbors, having gotten on a first name basis with those peers who are literally a few doors away. Have found that NEW SBs quite rightly prefer to go BCD at a hotel until a comfort level is achieved that overrides the "ax murderer" syndrome so commonly found these days. My current #1 did actually do BCD the first time here, but part of that exception I think has to do with an apartment building feeling "safer" than going to a private home. She has never said so, but it would feel safer to me, anyway.  

I hardly ever use hotels unless we're traveling. The neighbors have said hello in the hall as I escorted a woman thirty-some years younger into my apartment, and they will do so again. The desk concierge staff seem somewhat more amused, as they, more consistently than neighbors, have seen the few different faces coming and going.  

I have two college-aged children who will be with me now and then, during vacations. I would not voluntarily share my bowl experiences with them unless they asked directly and put me on the spot. Is it possible that others in the building, or an SB herself, might fill them in? The delights in having these women spend the night, or at least several hours here, is just too much the reason for being in the bowl that I see this as an acceptable risk. Naturally, if I thought that a particular SB was going to be a kiss and tell risk, I would take preventative measures, maybe like restricting to a hotel. In the end, were the young adult children to find out, I'd just have to deal with it. That too I see as just another price for playing in the bowl.  

It does bring up the question, though, about the knowledge of family concerning our SD-SB relationships. I am fascinated remembering the posts way back in which bros have talked about meeting their SB's families, and that, for the most part, parents were okay with what their daughters were doing!    ********************     Can anybody please give us the play-by-play, or color, on such a situation!!!

Conversely, which of you have children or other family members (Sweetman, you're off the hook on this one!) who are aware of your playing in the bowl?          ****************************    What do they say about it? Does this ever work out okay?

and it causes me to stop and contemplate my retirement:

How much likelier is active participation in the Sugar Bowl to cause a catastrophic error that leads to divorce, than active participation in the hobby?

My first guess is around 10 fold...

You guys ask such vague stuff here sometimes. Hotel room definitely feels safer for most SBs most of the time, so it might be a good idea to start there. I’ve heard SBs say that it means the guy has more money too.  So if he won’t book a nice room, he’s probably pretty broke. But if you have a nice and safe feeling apartment in a great neighborhood, that might feel safer or it might even be a status symbol.  If you’re gonna do a motel 6 when you have a million dollar house, the house is definitely a better bet. On the other hand, if you live in some town with a bad name, just the sound of the name could drive her off. One SB told me about a guy in Santa Ana asking her to her house and she said no, of course, just cause she heard that town. There are a few nice places there, but it has a bad name.  

Also consider how you look compared to her. If I were single, no one would bat an eye at the young women I’d be with, because I don’t look much older and it’s no ones business if I like to sleep around. On the other hand, I’m married, so of course, no hosting at my house except for my #1 on very limited occasions and in total guerilla mode because the neighbors can’t see anything.

especially if you are a single guy.  I use a nice RV for most of my dating.  the girls love it and we can meet almost anywhere.

For the wife?

I always meet them the first time at a nice hotel.
I never pay for them, just use points.

What if the two of you didn't get along or weren't attracted to one another? At least the SB wouldn't know where you lived. If you hit it off, then by all means show her your humble abode.

Sugar bowl?
I wonder where the line crosses between sugar babies and escorts

They are both pretty much the same right?

In either situation an upscale hotel is most safe and your home is an option but not the first choice for most girls

I have never had an SB not want to come to my place.
I'm ok with that, and I've never had one flake either.
The hotel is a nice idea but all you can do there is fuck and go to the bar/restaurant if its a nice hotel.
At home the date can linger many hours and many intimate experiences !
But I will say, the thrill of going to a escort's incall is also nice.  Now that I think of that, time to find an escort to see this week!