I'm a single/divorced guy considering giving the Sugar Bowl a try.  For others who are also single, do you meet with your SBs at your place or do you get a hotel room?  What are pluses and minuses of each?

Why spend 100+ if you don't have to?

Single and live in a nice quiet neighborhood and no SO.  I always have them come to my place, would rather give the money for a room to the SB, and keep her happy.  You have to feel that is ok, with each SB.  Of course, that is for local SB's that have cars and can stop by.  I have plenty of locals within a short drive so don't deal with the long range SB's.  

by all means get a hotel, or see if her place will work.

I’m also single and recently divorced. I just host them all at my place. I do tell them to dress casual and not bring unwanted attention while outside in my complex. But other than that it’s been great. I can set the mood in a familiar environment, etc. plus it saves a ton on hotels. I can use those savings to spend more time with SBs. The only minus I can see is the potential for unwanted attention from neighbors.

Sometimes you may not want them to know where you live...

I have no SO, other than my #1 SB who does call herself my GF and who socializes with my friends at parties, road trips, etc. And I live alone with no kids.  
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I regularly have one or two women coming to my house each week. Sometimes they park on the street, sometimes in my driveway.  I really don't care what my neighbors see or what they think. If anyone were to ask me about the people who visit me, I'd tell them I have friends who visit me.  It's the truth after all.  
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On occasion, my #1 SB will find interesting things in my house; a single earing, a sweater that doesn't fit her, or maybe a pair of panties that are not hers. She just hands it to me and chuckles, while I pour her another glass of wine.

I read it as he is single and can host at home.  That ought to allow MORE time for everything.  Hotels have check-in and check-out times, etc.  

Also I didn't want to navigate mid-town Manhattan in a car at 2am on 3.5 hours of sleep in the last 24 -- or hand a valet $70, or let him drive my brand new car.

"Single", with divorce thankfully almost completed. Marriage abruptly ended, as I have posted before, due to how I switched over to the sugar bowl and the huge increase in logistical details led me to make mistakes that she caught. I think married men need to consider how much easier escorts are, while still acknowledging the differences in the relationships and dynamics involved.  

I live in an apartment building with desk concierge and lots of neighbors, having gotten on a first name basis with those peers who are literally a few doors away. Have found that NEW SBs quite rightly prefer to go BCD at a hotel until a comfort level is achieved that overrides the "ax murderer" syndrome so commonly found these days. My current #1 did actually do BCD the first time here, but part of that exception I think has to do with an apartment building feeling "safer" than going to a private home. She has never said so, but it would feel safer to me, anyway.  

I hardly ever use hotels unless we're traveling. The neighbors have said hello in the hall as I escorted a woman thirty-some years younger into my apartment, and they will do so again. The desk concierge staff seem somewhat more amused, as they, more consistently than neighbors, have seen the few different faces coming and going.  

I have two college-aged children who will be with me now and then, during vacations. I would not voluntarily share my bowl experiences with them unless they asked directly and put me on the spot. Is it possible that others in the building, or an SB herself, might fill them in? The delights in having these women spend the night, or at least several hours here, is just too much the reason for being in the bowl that I see this as an acceptable risk. Naturally, if I thought that a particular SB was going to be a kiss and tell risk, I would take preventative measures, maybe like restricting to a hotel. In the end, were the young adult children to find out, I'd just have to deal with it. That too I see as just another price for playing in the bowl.  

It does bring up the question, though, about the knowledge of family concerning our SD-SB relationships. I am fascinated remembering the posts way back in which bros have talked about meeting their SB's families, and that, for the most part, parents were okay with what their daughters were doing!    ********************     Can anybody please give us the play-by-play, or color, on such a situation!!!

Conversely, which of you have children or other family members (Sweetman, you're off the hook on this one!) who are aware of your playing in the bowl?          ****************************    What do they say about it? Does this ever work out okay?

and it causes me to stop and contemplate my retirement:

How much likelier is active participation in the Sugar Bowl to cause a catastrophic error that leads to divorce, than active participation in the hobby?

My first guess is around 10 fold...

Same situation here. Since moving to this condo from a suburban house I've been reluctant to bring in SBs for fear of a disgruntled front desk staff or a nosy neighbor in an elevator spilling the beans to my SO who everyone in the building knows about. So I'm looking for an SB that can host and that reduced the field by 90%

You guys ask such vague stuff here sometimes. Hotel room definitely feels safer for most SBs most of the time, so it might be a good idea to start there. I’ve heard SBs say that it means the guy has more money too.  So if he won’t book a nice room, he’s probably pretty broke. But if you have a nice and safe feeling apartment in a great neighborhood, that might feel safer or it might even be a status symbol.  If you’re gonna do a motel 6 when you have a million dollar house, the house is definitely a better bet. On the other hand, if you live in some town with a bad name, just the sound of the name could drive her off. One SB told me about a guy in Santa Ana asking her to her house and she said no, of course, just cause she heard that town. There are a few nice places there, but it has a bad name.  

Also consider how you look compared to her. If I were single, no one would bat an eye at the young women I’d be with, because I don’t look much older and it’s no ones business if I like to sleep around. On the other hand, I’m married, so of course, no hosting at my house except for my #1 on very limited occasions and in total guerilla mode because the neighbors can’t see anything.

In all the years I've been Sugar Dating lots of my SBs have told me stories about their families, some great , some horror stories.  But only one has invited me to meet her family!  She's a current SB, 22yo, sweet blond beauty, seems to love me a lot, and as I recently posted elsewhere on this board, I made her cum 4 times on our last date till she made me stop, couldn't take anymore.  Well she told me at our very first coffee date over a year ago how her parents were druggies and could not raise her so they gave her to her Grandma to raise.  Now, her Grandma is very cool, having done some escorting herself back in the day.  My SB had told Grandma about all my sweet messages to her, and it was actually Grandma who told her looks like you found a good one, why don't you just go ahead and meet him?  He's been asking you long enough! So she did, and we did and the rest is history.  About 6 months later she actually invited me over to her Grandma's house where we had a very cordial conversation and finally got to meet each other.  Grandma is perfectly aware of the nature of my relationship with SB.  I think this is a rare occurrence, at least for me.  And very special.

especially if you are a single guy.  I use a nice RV for most of my dating.  the girls love it and we can meet almost anywhere.

What about branding the outside of your RV?
"Sweetman's mobile fuckmobile" or maybe something incorporating sugardaddy - with some killer art too?
We should take up a collection to pimp your ride...  

I'm down, let me know when you've collected the first thousand to send me. Funny thing is I'm sitting in Starbucks right now replenishing my strength. The RV is right outside. About a half hour ago I said goodbye to  a stunning little 23yo blond college baby with the most incredible labia I've ever seen who I hosted in the RV. She  gave me a fantastic workout. That damn vehicle has paid for itself over and over. Works for me!

It's crazy - I've been getting all these pop up ads on SA for RV's...

Since we are in the same zone, what's your rack rate to borrow the RV??

Dude! I'd rent you my wife but not my RV!  I have morals.

For the wife?

I always meet them the first time at a nice hotel.
I never pay for them, just use points.

That could easily be interpreted as “rape van”.

The more you keep promoting that RV the more I start thinking up scenarios to convince my wife we need to buy one as planning for retirement. Lol

What if the two of you didn't get along or weren't attracted to one another? At least the SB wouldn't know where you lived. If you hit it off, then by all means show her your humble abode.

Sugar bowl?
I wonder where the line crosses between sugar babies and escorts

They are both pretty much the same right?

In either situation an upscale hotel is most safe and your home is an option but not the first choice for most girls

My #1 SB told me today that she wants me to feel loved just as she feels loved by me.  

I picked her up from her college apartment at 12:30 pm and dropped her off there about six hours later. We had brunch together, went shopping, and afterward when we got back to my place, she modeled some of the new clothes in my bedroom. And we ended up on the bed, which was lights out great. I appreciate her so much that I felt fine gifting her $260.  

I have never asked an escort for an arrangement. If I did, and we worked something out, I think that I would probably think of her as an SB at that point. In any case, the description above is not remotely what my experience has ever been with an escort, so, no, i do NOT think that there is a blurry line separating the two.  

As has been noted on this board many times, lots of SBs do not want to think of themselves as escorts, so the relationship needs to be developed and nurtured along the lines I have indicated mine is.

Agreed!  Both of the approaches are respected and are in their own world. I have enjoyed both types of relationships

I have never had an SB not want to come to my place.
I'm ok with that, and I've never had one flake either.
The hotel is a nice idea but all you can do there is fuck and go to the bar/restaurant if its a nice hotel.
At home the date can linger many hours and many intimate experiences !
But I will say, the thrill of going to a escort's incall is also nice.  Now that I think of that, time to find an escort to see this week!

I’ve had her to my place but in a month she’ll have a 1 br apt.   She’s already asked me if I’d stay overnight.  Perfect.  Looking forward to wearing her out over and over.