I have known a guy for 24hrs, yesterday to be excat , I met him last week.

He is married has a separate bedroom sleeping situation. Many do so don't judge. He is in his mid to late 50's,  age is irrelevant as long as I am Happy and content, plus there is NO next best thing, life is NOw.

He cant stand the thought of me and onother man because he loves me so i HAVE to STOP escorting starting (yesterday), I had to cancel 2  appointment costing me 2800$- I need the money and August is a slow month, plus were my regular clients are good "friends". I was looking forward to see them separately.

I have been independent all my life,I fear giving up my ability to come and go as i please, but i am willing to try for with someone i have feelings for. There is no money talk yet again without an assurance that I will be ok, I can't bring myself to ask him for money.

He doesnt want to talk about the money, I am to like him for him. And I DO, he is my ideal type of a guy,  tall , older, mature , sophisticated, he is simple loves nature parks, ocean, woodlands, trees etc just LIKE I do. He is a golfer, I am yearning to learn.  I can see in his eyes, the genuine desire to adore and love me if I let him. It's Refreshing to me the first guy in this hobby to see my INNER TRUE BEAUTY and willing to ambrace me.

My heart and my intuition (never wrong) tells me he means well.

How do I solve this dilemma-

I am young and vibrant, full of life, i want to see the world, do things i like hiking, Bikram yoga, reading, I have my whole life a head of me. I know nothing about the FUTURE life that is to come. I know this life which is this present Moment with all it's good and Bad. I can't live waiting for a FUTURE or wishing that the past could be any different.

I live life in the present Moment, I love easily, I forgive quickly and I see the good in people. I try to be careful with my judgement and trusting that ALL will be well.


What would you do in my shoe?.

Zoe

... but since you asked... I say do nothing until YOU know what to do and right now you clearly do not. Not only that but seeing as you have known this guy for only 24 hrs I would say you will change your mind 24 times in the next 24 hrs.

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-- Modified on 7/30/2012 8:32:35 PM

Wha Wha Wha you only got one leg?

Shifterp OUT!

To answer your question directly - If you are independent and smart, you should be able to figure this thing out...

Now my EDITORIAL - I call BULLSHIT..

How come every post of yours is a mini soap opera?

A couple of months ago you made a posting about your lawyer boyfriend, and how you would like to introduce a third lady into this thing. Your post almost caused a trainwreck.

Then you made post about your good friend getting arrested and we JOHNS not bailing her out...

Finally after a couple of ADVERTISEMENTS that you posted were removed by TER, you post this drivel?

May I suggest you watch some Olympics if you are finding it hard to kill time?

He doesn't want you to see guys anymore, which is your income... but, he is still married & lives with his wife... separate rooms or not, that is a problem. Until he gets a divorce, he is full of crap. He wants you to takes things seriously by quitting what you do, then HE needs to do the same, & get divorced, & move out of the house he is sharing with his wife. Or, if he wants to be your sugardaddy & you do no see any clients besides him, that is fine as well, BUT, he needs to compensate you in this type of situation.

No one can actually fall in love in a week's time.. it's called infatuation... live together for a couple months, and then you can see if you really, truly love him & the feeling goes both ways.

And it is love at first sight, you are retiring, and going to live happily ever after.

You are the biggest drama queen of the year or you need some help that you can't get get on a fuck board.

I am already fielding the bets on how long it will be before you are spread eagle and creating drama posts.

You should have earned that $280 and begged for a review.

Well, thanks for the laugh.

You have known each other for 24 hours and he loves you and you love him!  Use your head, not your hormones and you will be much better off.

Zoe,

You're still young and much more to go in life.

My recommendation?

Just be friends with this guy you've known only for 24 hours.

This guy sounds like a good catch for the moment... what about next week? Next month? Are you still going to have the same feelings for him? What about his feelings for you?

It will change, trust me.

Again... just be friends.

sunrosc

Posted By: ZoePiers

I have known a guy for 24hrs, yesterday to be excat , I met him last week.

He is married has a separate bedroom sleeping situation. Many do so don't judge. He is in his mid to late 50's,  age is irrelevant as long as I am Happy and content, plus there is NO next best thing, life is NOw.

He cant stand the thought of me and onother man because he loves me so i HAVE to STOP escorting starting (yesterday), I had to cancel 2  appointment costing me 2800$- I need the money and August is a slow month, plus were my regular clients are good "friends". I was looking forward to see them separately.

I have been independent all my life,I fear giving up my ability to come and go as i please, but i am willing to try for with someone i have feelings for. There is no money talk yet again without an assurance that I will be ok, I can't bring myself to ask him for money.

He doesnt want to talk about the money, I am to like him for him. And I DO, he is my ideal type of a guy,  tall , older, mature , sophisticated, he is simple loves nature parks, ocean, woodlands, trees etc just LIKE I do. He is a golfer, I am yearning to learn.  I can see in his eyes, the genuine desire to adore and love me if I let him. It's Refreshing to me the first guy in this hobby to see my INNER TRUE BEAUTY and willing to ambrace me.

My heart and my intuition (never wrong) tells me he means well.

How do I solve this dilemma-

I am young and vibrant, full of life, i want to see the world, do things i like hiking, Bikram yoga, reading, I have my whole life a head of me. I know nothing about the FUTURE life that is to come. I know this life which is this present Moment with all it's good and Bad. I can't live waiting for a FUTURE or wishing that the past could be any different.

I live life in the present Moment, I love easily, I forgive quickly and I see the good in people. I try to be careful with my judgement and trusting that ALL will be well.


What would you do in my shoe?.

Zoe

Never know unless I try. Yes, 24hrs is short, I look at the person not the physicalities. With that as a policy I have made this far and have had priceless experiences I will never trade for the world.

If he really loved you as much as you seem to think he does he would not ALLOW you to be worried about the money.  Furthermore, if there is any aspect of the relationship that you CAN NOT talk about with him the relationship is doomed to failure.

Sorry but life, and love, with another human being has to be a two way street for it to work over the long haul.

This is all new, especially my feelings being involved.  I like him, I really do. I would any guy who make me feel 'that'.

In the contrary I want to see the world, come and go as I please.  See clients only when I want too, he won't let me, not for a second. I  Just want to be.. But I am willing to trade all that for experiences with someone I find interesting.. Finances are practical. I wouldnt be here if I didnt feel the need to or want too. I love my lifestyle, I like the effect I have on men sexually but it's not for a lifetime.. And I also have students loans and an MBA to consider.

I don't know the future, I know what I have and feel now. I am willing to take him as he is as long as I am a priority, we all have bagages. I am sure escorting is something he has to deal with..

I genuinely think he means well, but overwhelmed that this is too good to be true because he doesn't believe he can have me.

I am willing, afraid to not know the 'practicals'

Zoe

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I like to like him for him. I don't mind the money discussion, i would want to be sure that he will be supportive as I will never  bring myself to ask. Not in my DNA.

Its truly frustrating. And I don't want to be jaded..

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I'll play. Real love comes without strings. It doesn't say "I love you as long as you don't fuck other people."  Real love comes without conditions. The first step is to ask yourself whether it not you have that in your relationship.

You met him a day ago and want to quit escorting to be with him. He won't talk about money but does not want you to continue doing the job in which you met him. He won't talk money but you are to stop and be with him. What a question and a situation and you are asking for help on what to do? Wait, aren't you the one who got upset that clients would not bail your friend out of jail when you contacted them? lol. What adventurous and exciting life you live! Whatever decision you make I am sure will be good lol!

"What would you do in my shoe?."

   I'm not you .   I don't know what I would do in your shoes ?  Hopefully I would be a
lesbian escort catering to lesbian porn stars  and hot straight women walking on the wild side  .
 If he was a she trying to control me before the week was up , I'm done , as in over .
 
  If she  falls  in love with me  in 24 hours or a week I'll   swim around her  like
she's  an  outgoing  rip tide .  
 
  If he tells you he can't live without you before your 50th anniversary , RUN .

 If your post is true hope it works out well for you two  .
 If his name is Mark , I won't tell him .
 If fiction  , I can see your future , you will do fine without him .  


 
 

 

 
 
 

Posted By: ZoePiers

I have known a guy for 24hrs, yesterday to be excat , I met him last week.

He is married has a separate bedroom sleeping situation. Many do so don't judge. He is in his mid to late 50's,  age is irrelevant as long as I am Happy and content, plus there is NO next best thing, life is NOw.

He cant stand the thought of me and onother man because he loves me so i HAVE to STOP escorting starting (yesterday), I had to cancel 2  appointment costing me 2800$- I need the money and August is a slow month, plus were my regular clients are good "friends". I was looking forward to see them separately.

I have been independent all my life,I fear giving up my ability to come and go as i please, but i am willing to try for with someone i have feelings for. There is no money talk yet again without an assurance that I will be ok, I can't bring myself to ask him for money.

He doesnt want to talk about the money, I am to like him for him. And I DO, he is my ideal type of a guy,  tall , older, mature , sophisticated, he is simple loves nature parks, ocean, woodlands, trees etc just LIKE I do. He is a golfer, I am yearning to learn.  I can see in his eyes, the genuine desire to adore and love me if I let him. It's Refreshing to me the first guy in this hobby to see my INNER TRUE BEAUTY and willing to ambrace me.

My heart and my intuition (never wrong) tells me he means well.

How do I solve this dilemma-

I am young and vibrant, full of life, i want to see the world, do things i like hiking, Bikram yoga, reading, I have my whole life a head of me. I know nothing about the FUTURE life that is to come. I know this life which is this present Moment with all it's good and Bad. I can't live waiting for a FUTURE or wishing that the past could be any different.

I live life in the present Moment, I love easily, I forgive quickly and I see the good in people. I try to be careful with my judgement and trusting that ALL will be well.


What would you do in my shoe?.

Zoe

This week you're saying you're retired effective immediately, you're in love with a 50-SOMETHING YEAR OLD MAN ***MARRIED MAN*** YOU MET A DAY AGO.

Does any of this sound absurd to you?

If not, trust me.  It is.

No married man can or will love you the way you want to be loved.  And no love will pay the bills.

Your posts may be youth...but if you're serious about your ambitions you'll get smart and fast.
And education isn't on the TER GD board.

Assuming this is true, please do not tell me that a guy who says he loves you wants you to quit your "job" without helping you financially.  Please do not tell me that you don't have any other way to pay your bills. And please, I beg you, don't tell me that you are ok with quitting this "job" to struggle to pay for your expenses after some guy tells you to stop doing what you are doing to make ends meet.  
If this is what you are agreeing to...
Then for the love of God, please tell me you have stacks of cash in savings.  
If this is a real situation and you aren't BS-ing us....
Then ignorance is bliss, I guess.

While I believe that love can occur between provider and client, the client needs to understand that what she does is something she does for money.

I have a great relationship with an ATF.  She spends a lot of time OTC with me and gives me a very, very discounted rate.  But she still provides.  And that's fine by me, because I cannot provide for her financial needs.

She is incredibly smart and beautiful, and sure I would rather her not work.  But it's WORK, and that means that she does it because there is something on the other end.  Does that mean she dislikes her work?  No.  I'm sure she has great relationships with her clients, just as I have great relationship with many providers.

But in the end, you have to understand that until money is truly no longer an issue, it is a fact of life.

Maybe one day she will stop escorting, but I have zero right to ask her to do so.  Sure, I'd rather she not do it and run an agency instead or win the lottery, but if you really care about the other person, you have to let the other person who what she/he wants.

In this case, it sucks, but I think you need to do what is best for you financially.  If he can't understand that, he really can't be a long-term relationship.

For most women, escorting is a means to an end.

Last week you did mention that you wanted to password protect your site and wanted feedback.  Only after being prodded for more info did you then say that the objective behind the question was to find a Trump-esque rich client who would pay you five figures per encounter.  

Okay, assuming that you are still being sincere and consistent, can we then assume that you are looking for a client to pay you so much that you can demonstrate to this guy that the amount of money being offered is so great that you cannot turn it down?

Or are you having conflicts because you really have a moral issue with escorting for the going market rates?

Or was the objective to find love via doing this?

I am not ripping on you, but it seems that your posts always start with some kind of very general statement and then after prodding, you reveal something completely different.

It is hard to give you a usable answer when we get everything piecemeal.

This reminds me of a bodyrub provider I know.  She has plenty of business doing a session that is more limited than her peers because she is so supernaturally gorgeous.  Her schedule is nearly booked.  She toyed with offering a little more in her session and said she was at odds with it because she didn't have to.  She gave me every explanation as to why she didn't need to do something, but kept saying she was conflicted about not offering more when her less-attractive peers did.  Clearly she didn't need to.  After mich prodding, she finally admitted she wished she could up her revenue.  

Point is, it took me a lot of time and texting to get her to admit the objective was just more money.  If she had been upfront, I could have given her better advice.  Kinda like what you are doing here.

her ad says it all..the UNMATCHABLE MUSE..how very true..

ZoePiers,

What I am seeing from you is some doubts about what you are doing with this guy.

As quoted by Benjamin Franklin, "When in doubt, don't."

You have some people like myself telling you just be friends.

You have a few asking you, "Are you nucking futs?"

You have a number of people telling you that he maybe controlling you in some way.

See the pattern here?

There are way too many red flags about this situation that you need to step away for a few days from this guy. No email, no text, no phone calls. NOTHING! Watch for his responses to your silence.

If he comes across as an butthead, then you have seen the real side of him. If he comes across as being understanding and being cool about it, then it's *possible* he *may* be an OK guy.

Zoe, you came in here for a reason... you had some doubts going through your mind.

You shared this with us and have gotten some feedback. Some of which may have not what you expected.

Proceed with caution.

sunrosc

Love, Life- two four letter words....

See you Around towns next week.

Zoe

..didn't do a damn thing to change my mind..

...I was just joking about the scandal that took place last summer. It was all over the news.

In case you missed it google DSK and IMF and you will be able to read it.

I don't know how a smart and sophisticated girl like you missed such a huge story.

I'm in a very similar situation with a long time ATF and all of what you say rings very true. In the end it's not about her job, it's about mutual respect. What I'm reading from the OP here does not exemplify this...

When I start agreeing with the guys I bash heads with...

Anyway, I agree, unless this poor girl is in the wrong place at the wrong time, meeting the wrong people, having all this turmoil I am not sure whether to feel bad for her or think she's full of it.

I go with watching some Olympics...I have been and it's way fun.



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Drama Queen Whack Job she is.  That's just good intel to have.

and it does seem to be working. but wasn't it just a couple of days ago that she was talking about trying to break into the $20K a session market?

This girl is all over the place, she can't seem to make up her mind about what type of story she wants to spin. This might bother me a bit if I gave a fuck, but I don't so i can simply shake my head each time she tries to reinvent herself.

This might be an attempt to reinvent herself as young and vulnerable so that some of the old fucks here might feel bad for her and give her a boatload of money since she was so throughly ridiculed for her post about trying to break into the $20k a session market.

I'll give her credit though, she keeps swinging for the fences. She might strike out a lot, but if she can only  land one rich gullible, naive, stupid sap, her work is done.  The problem is, while there is no shortage of stupid, gullible saps on TER who would want to "rescue her", I doubt any of them are even close to rich. Someone should tell her that if you want to catch a blue marlin, it's not advisable to go fishing in a catfish pond. lmao

she wants you curly..she is just to surly to admit it..