... but since you asked... I say do nothing until YOU know what to do and right now you clearly do not. Not only that but seeing as you have known this guy for only 24 hrs I would say you will change your mind 24 times in the next 24 hrs.

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You have known this guy for 24 hours..

And it is love at first sight, you are retiring, and going to live happily ever after.

You are the biggest drama queen of the year or you need some help that you can't get get on a fuck board.

I am already fielding the bets on how long it will be before you are spread eagle and creating drama posts.

You should have earned that $280 and begged for a review.

Well, thanks for the laugh.

Wha Wha Wha you only got one leg?

Shifterp OUT!

To answer your question directly - If you are independent and smart, you should be able to figure this thing out...

Now my EDITORIAL - I call BULLSHIT..

How come every post of yours is a mini soap opera?

A couple of months ago you made a posting about your lawyer boyfriend, and how you would like to introduce a third lady into this thing. Your post almost caused a trainwreck.

Then you made post about your good friend getting arrested and we JOHNS not bailing her out...

Finally after a couple of ADVERTISEMENTS that you posted were removed by TER, you post this drivel?

May I suggest you watch some Olympics if you are finding it hard to kill time?

He doesn't want you to see guys anymore, which is your income... but, he is still married & lives with his wife... separate rooms or not, that is a problem. Until he gets a divorce, he is full of crap. He wants you to takes things seriously by quitting what you do, then HE needs to do the same, & get divorced, & move out of the house he is sharing with his wife. Or, if he wants to be your sugardaddy & you do no see any clients besides him, that is fine as well, BUT, he needs to compensate you in this type of situation.

No one can actually fall in love in a week's time.. it's called infatuation... live together for a couple months, and then you can see if you really, truly love him & the feeling goes both ways.

You have known each other for 24 hours and he loves you and you love him!  Use your head, not your hormones and you will be much better off.

Zoe,

You're still young and much more to go in life.

My recommendation?

Just be friends with this guy you've known only for 24 hours.

This guy sounds like a good catch for the moment... what about next week? Next month? Are you still going to have the same feelings for him? What about his feelings for you?

It will change, trust me.

Again... just be friends.

sunrosc

Posted By: ZoePiers

I have known a guy for 24hrs, yesterday to be excat , I met him last week.

He is married has a separate bedroom sleeping situation. Many do so don't judge. He is in his mid to late 50's,  age is irrelevant as long as I am Happy and content, plus there is NO next best thing, life is NOw.

He cant stand the thought of me and onother man because he loves me so i HAVE to STOP escorting starting (yesterday), I had to cancel 2  appointment costing me 2800$- I need the money and August is a slow month, plus were my regular clients are good "friends". I was looking forward to see them separately.

I have been independent all my life,I fear giving up my ability to come and go as i please, but i am willing to try for with someone i have feelings for. There is no money talk yet again without an assurance that I will be ok, I can't bring myself to ask him for money.

He doesnt want to talk about the money, I am to like him for him. And I DO, he is my ideal type of a guy,  tall , older, mature , sophisticated, he is simple loves nature parks, ocean, woodlands, trees etc just LIKE I do. He is a golfer, I am yearning to learn.  I can see in his eyes, the genuine desire to adore and love me if I let him. It's Refreshing to me the first guy in this hobby to see my INNER TRUE BEAUTY and willing to ambrace me.

My heart and my intuition (never wrong) tells me he means well.

How do I solve this dilemma-

I am young and vibrant, full of life, i want to see the world, do things i like hiking, Bikram yoga, reading, I have my whole life a head of me. I know nothing about the FUTURE life that is to come. I know this life which is this present Moment with all it's good and Bad. I can't live waiting for a FUTURE or wishing that the past could be any different.

I live life in the present Moment, I love easily, I forgive quickly and I see the good in people. I try to be careful with my judgement and trusting that ALL will be well.


What would you do in my shoe?.

Zoe

If he really loved you as much as you seem to think he does he would not ALLOW you to be worried about the money.  Furthermore, if there is any aspect of the relationship that you CAN NOT talk about with him the relationship is doomed to failure.

Sorry but life, and love, with another human being has to be a two way street for it to work over the long haul.

I'll play. Real love comes without strings. It doesn't say "I love you as long as you don't fuck other people."  Real love comes without conditions. The first step is to ask yourself whether it not you have that in your relationship.

He's not me

"What would you do in my shoe?."

   I'm not you .   I don't know what I would do in your shoes ?  Hopefully I would be a
lesbian escort catering to lesbian porn stars  and hot straight women walking on the wild side  .
 If he was a she trying to control me before the week was up , I'm done , as in over .
 
  If she  falls  in love with me  in 24 hours or a week I'll   swim around her  like
she's  an  outgoing  rip tide .  
 
  If he tells you he can't live without you before your 50th anniversary , RUN .

 If your post is true hope it works out well for you two  .
 If his name is Mark , I won't tell him .
 If fiction  , I can see your future , you will do fine without him .  


 
 

 

 
 
 

Posted By: ZoePiers

I have known a guy for 24hrs, yesterday to be excat , I met him last week.

He is married has a separate bedroom sleeping situation. Many do so don't judge. He is in his mid to late 50's,  age is irrelevant as long as I am Happy and content, plus there is NO next best thing, life is NOw.

He cant stand the thought of me and onother man because he loves me so i HAVE to STOP escorting starting (yesterday), I had to cancel 2  appointment costing me 2800$- I need the money and August is a slow month, plus were my regular clients are good "friends". I was looking forward to see them separately.

I have been independent all my life,I fear giving up my ability to come and go as i please, but i am willing to try for with someone i have feelings for. There is no money talk yet again without an assurance that I will be ok, I can't bring myself to ask him for money.

He doesnt want to talk about the money, I am to like him for him. And I DO, he is my ideal type of a guy,  tall , older, mature , sophisticated, he is simple loves nature parks, ocean, woodlands, trees etc just LIKE I do. He is a golfer, I am yearning to learn.  I can see in his eyes, the genuine desire to adore and love me if I let him. It's Refreshing to me the first guy in this hobby to see my INNER TRUE BEAUTY and willing to ambrace me.

My heart and my intuition (never wrong) tells me he means well.

How do I solve this dilemma-

I am young and vibrant, full of life, i want to see the world, do things i like hiking, Bikram yoga, reading, I have my whole life a head of me. I know nothing about the FUTURE life that is to come. I know this life which is this present Moment with all it's good and Bad. I can't live waiting for a FUTURE or wishing that the past could be any different.

I live life in the present Moment, I love easily, I forgive quickly and I see the good in people. I try to be careful with my judgement and trusting that ALL will be well.


What would you do in my shoe?.

Zoe

This week you're saying you're retired effective immediately, you're in love with a 50-SOMETHING YEAR OLD MAN ***MARRIED MAN*** YOU MET A DAY AGO.

Does any of this sound absurd to you?

If not, trust me.  It is.

No married man can or will love you the way you want to be loved.  And no love will pay the bills.

Your posts may be youth...but if you're serious about your ambitions you'll get smart and fast.
And education isn't on the TER GD board.

Assuming this is true, please do not tell me that a guy who says he loves you wants you to quit your "job" without helping you financially.  Please do not tell me that you don't have any other way to pay your bills. And please, I beg you, don't tell me that you are ok with quitting this "job" to struggle to pay for your expenses after some guy tells you to stop doing what you are doing to make ends meet.  
If this is what you are agreeing to...
Then for the love of God, please tell me you have stacks of cash in savings.  
If this is a real situation and you aren't BS-ing us....
Then ignorance is bliss, I guess.

While I believe that love can occur between provider and client, the client needs to understand that what she does is something she does for money.

I have a great relationship with an ATF.  She spends a lot of time OTC with me and gives me a very, very discounted rate.  But she still provides.  And that's fine by me, because I cannot provide for her financial needs.

She is incredibly smart and beautiful, and sure I would rather her not work.  But it's WORK, and that means that she does it because there is something on the other end.  Does that mean she dislikes her work?  No.  I'm sure she has great relationships with her clients, just as I have great relationship with many providers.

But in the end, you have to understand that until money is truly no longer an issue, it is a fact of life.

Maybe one day she will stop escorting, but I have zero right to ask her to do so.  Sure, I'd rather she not do it and run an agency instead or win the lottery, but if you really care about the other person, you have to let the other person who what she/he wants.

In this case, it sucks, but I think you need to do what is best for you financially.  If he can't understand that, he really can't be a long-term relationship.

For most women, escorting is a means to an end.