I like for the lady to let me know what's working. No two people are alike regardless of gender. Communication is important. I may know what works for one lady and that same thing is a no go for another.
I don't mind letting her know what's working for me. Turn about is fair play to me.

all suggestive and informative behavior is mutual. No?

especially during DATY:

Faster, no slower, up, no the other up, no down, not that kind of down, deep, not that deep, oooo, that's the spot, why did you just move, you almost had it, now, that's it, don't stop, (scream!), OK, now get out of there.

It's God's version of a video game.

Takes control and tells you just what to do to get her off? Yes or no and come on guys swallow your pride and be honest. I like it when she does that cause when she gets off makes me feel food knowing I had something to do with that. I am about mutual satisfaction.

Are bossy by nature..

I catch myself doing those things, then back down..
I worry that it will be percieved as I am in a hurry or that it is a turn off to you..

We can't read your mind...... wish I could...

I don't know about her taking control, but I don't mind being her part-time O-servant if she's into that.

if you can't figure it out without her telling you, you got no business even having the dick god gave you.  where'd i leave my goddam hat?

Yeah, but it's more fun if you get them to beg to do what gets them off.

Just sayin'


HH

what I mean is like when you are daty do you like her to let you know when to slow up or speed up lick harder or softer use full tongue or tip only suck on it...stuff like that. and that is not being bossy and no it is not staying at home with the wife...LOL

Directly up your ass...No one is a mind reader so it is nice when someone lets youm know what pleases them.

No sorry that is not why I am not into that stuff. I just like haveing a lady let me know what gets her off because it has already been said in this thread that no 2 women are the same.

I love it when a woman takes control of her own pleasure.....I find it highly erotic when a woman tells me exactly what to do to please her....especially while DATY!

My favoites have no problem issuing me my marching orders.....But turn about is fair play and they get their fair share of instructions as well.

For myself I like a mutual control situation.  I am doing dity and she says "harder.... oh thats it.... keep going!!!"  That is a form of control.  Even cow girl is a form of control.  Did she just hop on and start riding? And I personally like the horney babe routine where I get attacked. That girl will be bossy. lol

Depends on the provider, the situation, the rapport, our mood. Mostly I like providers to be a little submissive and gentle, but getting pushed around and worked over a little is a nice change.

And with my regulars, the answer is mostly that it varies. Sometimes I lead, sometimes she does.

I get the idea that we find things we like and stick with them so long as we keep enjoying them, but for me this also has been a voyage of discovery, of women, of acts, of roles. So there is no one, true, answer.

zig