Are bossy by nature..

I catch myself doing those things, then back down..
I worry that it will be percieved as I am in a hurry or that it is a turn off to you..

We can't read your mind...... wish I could...

I don't know about her taking control, but I don't mind being her part-time O-servant if she's into that.

all suggestive and informative behavior is mutual. No?

if you can't figure it out without her telling you, you got no business even having the dick god gave you.  where'd i leave my goddam hat?

especially during DATY:

Faster, no slower, up, no the other up, no down, not that kind of down, deep, not that deep, oooo, that's the spot, why did you just move, you almost had it, now, that's it, don't stop, (scream!), OK, now get out of there.

It's God's version of a video game.

I like for the lady to let me know what's working. No two people are alike regardless of gender. Communication is important. I may know what works for one lady and that same thing is a no go for another.
I don't mind letting her know what's working for me. Turn about is fair play to me.

ok let me make this alittle more simple

what I mean is like when you are daty do you like her to let you know when to slow up or speed up lick harder or softer use full tongue or tip only suck on it...stuff like that. and that is not being bossy and no it is not staying at home with the wife...LOL

I love it when a woman takes control of her own pleasure.....I find it highly erotic when a woman tells me exactly what to do to please her....especially while DATY!

My favoites have no problem issuing me my marching orders.....But turn about is fair play and they get their fair share of instructions as well.

Depends on the provider, the situation, the rapport, our mood. Mostly I like providers to be a little submissive and gentle, but getting pushed around and worked over a little is a nice change.

And with my regulars, the answer is mostly that it varies. Sometimes I lead, sometimes she does.

I get the idea that we find things we like and stick with them so long as we keep enjoying them, but for me this also has been a voyage of discovery, of women, of acts, of roles. So there is no one, true, answer.

zig