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Yeah, then they probably called you a slut for flashing them
GaGambler 1163 reads
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but at least they were calling you a big titted slut though.

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So I am just wondering what makes (some) people on the board make newcomers feel unwelcome? Been noticing that it is rough here on the board for new people (man or woman).  

Is it that they have to prove themselves? Or that certain posts feel they are faux?

Not trying to start an argument... I have ALWAYS been welcome here, even by the board rough guys lol. Even for years prior to me having reviews. I never once got questioned. But perhaps shed some light on what makes you (if this is you or your theories on why) rough on new people.  

What makes you not want to play nice with others? Is it what they say or purely that they are new?

I 100% believe it is how you say things. I can nicely tell you to f*ck off and everything is well... other people may not do it nicely and they get slammed.

Just curious and maybe this will help the newbies or new posters on this board. Sorry I enjoy new people, especially female posters, as it seem there are few of us. London and I don't have enough time to take on all you guys lol. Of course Mstaylor is too much for you'all to handle ha ha. :D

Be great to have some suggestions on what is the best way to be cool here.  I for one, think it is important to be yourself. Be nice but stand up for yourself.

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Iwantyouwecanhititupthefloor1093 reads

Assholes thrive on anonymity and they love to circle jerk each other. This board is a fertile environment for such.

Lord of The Flies..

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randomdeebag1164 reads

If you read the forums without being involved, it seems like a small club of friends who use it, not a wide community like many other forums. It's tougher to break into a group of 5 or 6 people than a huge forum of thousands, especially when many of the posts don't really seem all too welcoming.

Posted By: SexyflirtAmber
So I am just wondering what makes (some) people on the board make newcomers feel unwelcome? Been noticing that it is rough here on the board for new people (man or woman).  
   
 Is it that they have to prove themselves? Or that certain posts feel they are faux?  
   
 Not trying to start an argument... I have ALWAYS been welcome here, even by the board rough guys lol. Even for years prior to me having reviews. I never once got questioned. But perhaps shed some light on what makes you (if this is you or your theories on why) rough on new people.  
   
 What makes you not want to play nice with others? Is it what they say or purely that they are new?  
   
 I 100% believe it is how you say things. I can nicely tell you to f*ck off and everything is well... other people may not do it nicely and they get slammed.  
   
 Just curious and maybe this will help the newbies or new posters on this board. Sorry I enjoy new people, especially female posters, as it seem there are few of us. London and I don't have enough time to take on all you guys lol. Of course Mstaylor is too much for you'all to handle ha ha. :D  
   
 Be great to have some suggestions on what is the best way to be cool here.  I for one, think it is important to be yourself. Be nice but stand up for yourself.

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CaitlynKennedy1172 reads

be able to self monitor?  In cases of societies with no one "in charge"... someone eventually appears as the accepted "leader" or i.e. moderator in this case... even though he may not be able to really remove, this person is respected, and looked up to...is impartial and fair no matter what!  

Who do think has shown this as of late?

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mrfisher1209 reads

It's from the "adults".

Something for all to ponder the next time we go tsk, tsk over some news report over bullying.

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cspatz1294 reads

.. you should have seen it before they made it user friendly.

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breannabreeze1221 reads

I have been on many different kinds of forums with a varied amount of subjects, yet I've never seen the kind of hostility on those forums as I do on the general discussion forum on TER.  Whether it's the type of people that post on here or that the subject of sex brings about such passionate opinions, I do not know.  I've seen political boards tamer than this board.  My least favorite attack is when a provider disagrees or pisses off a hobbyist and he automatically attacks her appearance.  I also don't like it when a hobbyist sticks up for a provider or is nice and is automatically called a "mangina."  Since when does being a man mean you should be an a**hole?  I generally dislike confrontation and got stung a couple of time on this board expressing my opinion so I don't like to post too much.  I wish this board was more hospitable but unfortunately it's not.

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CaitlynKennedy1305 reads

We were not put on this earth to all agree with everything everyone says or does! That would be boring!  

I see the trend of the personal attack on the looks or age if they disagree... That is just them showing their inability to form a intelligent argument about why they disagree. They have nothing intelligent to say, so they attack your looks.  

I find this amusing! I may be a BBW, and more average or attractive to some, not to others, but those things have no correlation to my mind. I will still have my brain and intelligence whether I lose a ton of weight and become a hot body or stay curvy/bbw...  

As I age, I have become MORE insightful, mature, and educated...  

A guy should be able to be nice, and stick up for a provider if she deserves it without being called a mangina...  

Now, if the guy is over the top and gushes and sticks up for her even when she has proven to be in the wrong, that is a mangina!  
lo

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breannabreeze1012 reads

Yes it's definitely immature to go after a provider's appearance rather than coming up with a logical argument.  In that aspect it is rather like high school all over again.  I think personal attacks are malicious quite honestly.  If you say you don't like the personal attacks they call you a cry baby.  It's just straight up bullying.

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CaitlynKennedy1080 reads

The people who get enjoyment by doing or saying things like you mention, do it for amusement, to get a reaction...  

I learned a long time ago, to just ignore, or be even nicer...  

The only person in the end who looks bad is the one making the comments, especially if you are being sweet back, not engaging, and being the adult between the two of you...  

This is a anon board, and anyone can hide behind a keyboard and say or be who ever they want (catfish sound familiar? ) So who cares what they say? They are not clients anyways, so they do not affect your income...  

ya know?

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breannabreeze1068 reads

That's true, it's much easier to hide while bullying if you have no pictures or physical description of yourself on the Internet.

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Panthera12976 reads

I guess there is a reason for password protecting your photos. Show some confidence in yourself.

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Panthera121030 reads

until London intervened. She's going to hear it from me now.

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Panthera121048 reads

See, you are already learning how to play in the sandbox. London is still going to get it though ;)

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London Rayne1009 reads

Posted By: Panthera12
See, you are already learning how to play in the sandbox. London is still going to get it though ;)

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Panthera121187 reads

You will respect me after I untie you ;)

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Panthera12954 reads

boards. All of the fuck boards are like this, most are worse in the "meanie" category.  I belong to a couple of non hobby related boards that make TER look like a walk in the park.

If you are offended by being called fat, hit the gym. Even your TER profile says "baby fat"

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breannabreeze823 reads

I've never been called fat on this board until now.  A perfect example of what happens when you disagree with a hobbyist that likes to bully.

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CaitlynKennedy1283 reads

a example of your comment about being attacked on your body and so he used that statement as a example to say that if your offended by someone saying something about your weight, then work out...  

 
maybe

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breannabreeze945 reads

If it isn't your weight they can use against you, it's your age.  If they can't use your age against you they call you an idiot.  There's already a stigma out there that hobbyist demean women, why keep perpetuating it?  Perhaps he didn't mean it as an insult but I still disagree with his logic.  I've never been called fat by anyone, it's not my fault TERs body type system is so screwed up.  Baby fat covers everything from being thick/curvy to being straight up fat.

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CaitlynKennedy1189 reads

I am a BBW... baby fat is not a BBW

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Panthera12992 reads

I didn't make it up. If you don't like it do something about it. You call that bullying? That's funny.

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CaitlynKennedy915 reads

thats bullying... imho....teasing someone about something they have no control over...  

My son, he is autistic... and he gets teased a lot at his special needs school.. however they all have issues so...  

but he gets bullied sometimes because of his special needs... and he cant change it, he was born that way...  

I am fat, a bbw, whatever, I dont stress... I know I can fix it and have recently...  

if someone calls you fat, they are not bullying, just being rude lol because there is nicer ways to say something to someone about their weight than the term fat... even if it is true! Fat has long ago been seen as a derogatory way to describe a person... and if a person was not rude, they could say the same thing but in a nicer way... still all means the same thing that we are overweight..

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breannabreeze1084 reads

I was bullied as a kid, it's not fun.  I was tall, quiet and didn't stand up for myself so was an automatic target.  It's not fun and now it's extended to the Internet.  So many kids kill or hurt themselves over Internet bullying, you'd think as adults we'd know better.  Luckily most of us have the sense to not do something drastic over it.

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London Rayne1077 reads

That was, until freshman year and they sprouted to full Cs, and I flashed those assholes at the bus stop bwahahhaa. They never called me that again

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GaGambler1164 reads

but at least they were calling you a big titted slut though.

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CaitlynKennedy1269 reads

my dad died when I was 7.5, and some mean kids would tease me about not having a dad (I know WTF!) or say too bad I was not in the car too...  

kids can be cruel!  
I also to this day have a slight lisp... and I was teased about that too...  

In Highschool, I was very active in my Youth Group, and so I was different, I did not drink, party, do drugs, have sex... lol  

I was always my own person... and some people were intimidated by me, because I was different.  
I remember in my town, they had a section in the Friday Scene section of the paper, and they did a feature on me and a interview... and the kids at school were jealous sigh... called me stuck up or a bitch, just because I did not stoop to their behaviors...  

oh well

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London Rayne1301 reads

if some snot nosed brat ever hurts my child! I have a friend who lost his wife (mother of 2 children) and the boy has adjusted well, but the poor little girl is just so lost and sad all the time. I can't imagine going through that at such a young age. My parents are everything to me.

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CaitlynKennedy1041 reads

I stuck up for myself eventually... but was labeled a bad kid because of it...  

But yeah, instead of sad I think I acted out... I lost him and his dad both... they were not wearing seat belts ( no seat belt law then)  

It was Fathers Day... and they could not go sailing, because there was not enough wind... so took a drive on hwy 1..  

this 17 year old girl, swerved, and the end result, they hit head on... and in a matter of minutes 3 families were affected...  

her, she was paralyzed from neck down... my grandfather died immediately (went thru windshield) And my dad only 34 yrs old, died on the way to the hospital, the steering wheel crushed him...  

I definitely can not believe kids would say I should have been in the car, or I should get hit by a car, to be with them...

If any kid said that to my child, there would be some serious problems!!!!!

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GaGambler1137 reads

I can be a prick at times, but I try not to be cruel.

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GaGambler1181 reads

none of them really want a spineless, gutless excuse for a man that they can walk all over.

I try not to be that man. lol

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CaitlynKennedy1324 reads

When I first met my bf, I told my aunt.... "I dont know, he seems way too nice"  

I found out REAL quick he was nice, but he could be a total asshole. Sarcastic, smart ass, controlling to a point, does not put up with BS... so definitely a nice guy, great dad, super funny, but has the asshole/prick side that can come out when needed...  

women love that combo.... you dont want a prick all the time lol and you dont want some sappy, mushy, pussy whipped yes dear man either!

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GaGambler1269 reads

but of course I say it with such sarcasm that no one believes me for a minute.

In my experience the only emotion a jelly fish can evoke from a woman is sympathy, and sympathy fucks rarely score higher than a six. lol

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breannabreeze1118 reads

Like I said, I can't do anything about TER's messed up eating system.  If someone saw me in public they wouldn't think "oh she has a babyfat body."  If you have any meat on your bones, no matter where it is, you are going under "babyfat."  Like I said, I've never been called fat before.  My description is usually "thick", "voluptuous", "stacked" but never "fat."  And yes I do consider you pointing out that my profile says "babyfat" inferring that if I don't want to be called far I should go to a gym when I'm not fat and never said I was called fat to be somewhat insulting.

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London Rayne1324 reads

Ok, I have a huge problem with people who continue to use the word "bully" for such a stupid instance as being disagreeable on a fk board! When you or your child (heaven forbid) deal with a REAL bully who can cause you physical harm, and hurt you by rumors in your REAL life, you will know what a bully is. Someone making fun of you illegal hooker persona, is not a damn bully...they are just assholes. Big difference!  No one is being FORCED to post here! You can log off your computer and get away from anyone you wish...tell that to a kid at the damn bus stop!  A child can't exactly change schools every year when some kid is taking their lunch money, or literally beating them up. The overuse of the word "bully" is total nonsense, and rather asinine!



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breannabreeze1183 reads

Alright I can agree that the term "bully" isn't the right word, but I still think you should be able to disagree with someone without being insulted.  You're right, I don't have to post on here and call me a cry baby but I rather dislike confrontation and probably won't post on the GD board again.

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London Rayne955 reads

You can just ignore the posters that constantly attack one's physical attributes, and play with the others. Don't let ANYONE run you off if you WANT to post, girl. That's insane!

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WondersOfTheWrld1365 reads

belly rolls, small dicks or whatever insults every time they posted something w/ disagreed with, they wouldn't like it either. That's a fact and wouldn't mean they were overly sensitive either. It's just fucking rude and very elementary, but it is what it is. So just be you, sensitive or not, but just realize that a lot of the posters here won't ever change, so just ignore them. I ignore about 15 posters b/c their posts add no value to my life. good luck and peace

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CaitlynKennedy1225 reads

IF I feel low about myself, I will just put you down, or nit pick you and then I feel better about myself..  

I am as real as one can get. I will tell a person the straight up truth, and I wont talk behind your back and smile to your face..

However, regardless of how REAL you are, there is such thing as still being decent, and polite, and not go looking to START drama...  

Sure you think such an such about me, and wont give me a compliment or what not... but to then turn around and say something insulting or rude, with the justification of being REAL, is a excuse.  

all that accomplishes is starting drama unnecessarily.  I know some people thrive on tension, strife, and drama. I am NOT one of those people.. but I am just as real as they are.. You will always know my opinion of you, or where you stand... but done in a way that is drama free...  

I can be real with out being CRUEL

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London Rayne1466 reads

In GD, you can't call a woman a bitch or a c*nt without your post being pulled, but you can do that all day on the P and R board. Yes, it's hostile, but not nearly as bad as that board.

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inicky461167 reads

the board has become more self-policing.  But not all newcomers are flamed.  The wise ones stick to the newbie board (as I did) and just lurk here until they have some knowledge of how things work in this game and on this board.  Then they're able to post some reasonable observations.  But the ones who jump in with lame or incorrect advice or observations get flamed by the self-appointed Board Police, which is not always a bad thing.  Jerks like the late, unlamented Serpius would come here (and even the Newbie Board) with really stupid advice.  If they were not flamed, newbies would take their crap seriously.  In a board without real mods, sadly, this is the only way.

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Panthera121032 reads

The whiners and crybabies should grow some thicker skin. It is what it is. If you need hugs and kisses, go to your mommy or your family. That's what they are there for.

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CaitlynKennedy1217 reads

but a kiss and hug never hurts anyone :)

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OldTraveler1426 reads

Every organization, real or virtual, has a way of "indoctrinating" new people.  Especially on a place like this that has subcultures within the subcultures.

Of course new players need to be shown the ropes, corrected when they are wrong, etc.  But when the initiation starts to resemble a gang beat-in ritual then many potentially useful contributors are driven away.

I'm sorry if you are incapable of educating/orienting new folks by wit, logic, etc. (like a MrFisher or London for example).  I'm sorry for you if you think the value of a person and their right to be an active member here is directly proportional to their willingness to tolerate insults and attacks from the Juvenile Detention mob.  If that's how you really see the world you are both pitiful and an idiot.

But I shouldn't be surprised.  Thread after thread shows that the macho biker neandertal subculture of TER isn't exactly open minded to anyone else's view of the world, are you?

If you want to see the future of your board view, just look at what used to be the "other" national board.  A clique developed that felt just as you portray:  test the newbies by attacking any small sign of "weakness", drive them away, ridicule them if they dare say something that the "enlightened" thought was inappropriate (read "different").  It went from being about as active as this board to a state where they have had 3 whole threads started in the last 5 days

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Panthera12871 reads

and your opinions have zero credibility with me. In real life you would be eating my left overs.

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OldTraveler1126 reads

As to your first point, if I am not credible with you I don't care much.  It's easy to tell you and I do not fit in the same TER sub-culture groups.  I have quite enough credibility with those I am more compatable with.  For you and most folks on here I try to give credit to their good posts, and less to their others.  Just as I assume most would do with my posts.

As to your closing comment:  that could well be, we all have people above us and below us on the food chain.  But somehow in your case I doubt it.

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Panthera121152 reads

See, I would expect you to go to the ladies rooms just to make sure all of the toilet seats are down.

Just stick with the other sardines. It has served you well for many years.

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Panthera121071 reads

but they are not quite extinct either. They are good to see, but most of their engines just putt along while sputtering.

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CaitlynKennedy853 reads

tying you up, and doing random tease and denials for hours and hours, till you were begging me to let you finally release..

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OldTraveler1027 reads

that I am a sadine driving a model T?

If so I strongly suggest you get yourself a new set of glasses to go along with your hearing aid battery.

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AlexandraMilw1049 reads

What is it with you and the mornings? Do you wake up with a woody? You seem to be feisty first thing in the morning lol.

See ladies, that is how you truly get a guy STFU, just sit on his face and give his mouth something else to do :D

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TheHoundOfCullin1246 reads

While you got him down, you can punch him in the dick too!!

They break newbies balls to test them..
They believe if a newb can't take a few bad words on a screen.
They are not cut out for this type of play.
I think they may be right.. Especially for the guys.
The first time I posted a thread on this board, I got butt slammed by two or three aliases.
But I answered back, didn't get all pissy, and got a little respect for it.
And to be honest.. There was some good advice there..  
Just put in a way that would make a guy who really shouldn't be doing this think twice..
Fortunately I am a horny little dog, so they didn't deter me. :D

In an odd way.. They are doing the ladies a favor.
They weed out the potentially clingy, crazy, in love clients for you.
Call out the people who are full of shit.. Etc..
Simple searches of a handles posts, and the veteran replies can tell you so much about the personality of a potential client!

So yea you old, rich veteran fucktards!!!!!
  Thank you for your service. :D

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