I do this with most of the providers I see.....it's funny because I tend to be the one asking the questions and then they kinda open up and we can have a good dialog about likes and dislikes and fantasies etc.   If I were I provider and once the screening process was complete I would ask all kinds of questions.  I would want to know about the person before I saw him or her.   DO you providers do this or NOT?  What are the upsides and downsides of this type of dialog?

When you text them, you are really talking to Dungie.. Just Sayin' [e]

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I love to Email and talk and really develop a personal connection before we meet...  

I usually keep it pretty brief and just wait till I see them in person. Also, if possible I try to do everything only thru email/texting. I hate talking on the phone for a couple different reasons. Much prefer in person/email/text. Thankfully it seems like quite a few providers do this or even prefer it.

Caittlyn-  I just wonder why more don't do that.  I guess they lack the people skills or really don't want to be in this sport but have to be....I would think it's good for business, plus you get to know them before you meet.  It already a little weird when we show up horny and some women comes to the door....it's like "Lets fuck now" .,...right?   Well maybe not like that but you know what I mean..?

On her way to our incall for a 2-hr session, running late from a hair styling, my friend emailed: "I'm getting on the F train now". A bit early, yes, but accurate.

Yes, Classic @!!

Why would a provider ask a client all kjnds of questions after he passed her screening?

You are missing the point.   To get to know the client.  What do you like, dislike, what would you like me to wear? Things like that.  Simple to get to know you stuff.   Perhaps you like the complete mystery and thats cool everyone is different.  I like a little of both.  Some times I'll ask the provider if she likes oral, if so, how does she like it (gentle, hard, fast, etc.).  Again, everyone is different.  I respect that

ten, you may have nothing to do but think about your date, fantasize about your date, get excited about your date, or masturbate over your date, but the lady whom you are going to meet is really not thinking about you in the interim. You are NOT on the clock. The lady is trying to deal with other gentlemen whom they are seeing before you, or dealing with setting up future business. She is not really interested in engaging FIDCUOF in hours of stimulating conversation (whether its talking, E-mail or text) in order to learn about your likes, dislikes and fantasies, hopes and dreams. She doesn't have time (and frankly she is not being compensated for this "time spent talking to you") If you want to set up a particular type of session (i.e. a specific role play scenario), fine, that should be communicated so you both know what to expect. But the ladies do not have the time and to be honest, most are not interested in learning about you before the session.  Understand reality. The ladies only want to know that you are a respectable gentleman who is going to pay the proper donation for their time and will cause no problems before, during or after the session. Anything else about you can wait until your appointment begins.  

I just show up, have fun, and leave.

We get it in real life, you get it in hobby world.  

with a phone call you either take the call or you don't. With texting, you can have a conversation at your own convenience, answering in between other things you are doing during the day.

I have a few provider friends that I will have all day conversations with at times. Sometimes I respond and don't hear back for an hour or two, which most likely means she is in a session, sometimes I don't respond back for several minutes or even a few hours which means I might be in a session too. So we might have an "all day" conversation, but have only spent a few minutes of actual conversation time at our own convenience.

might be used against you in the legal system.  This pertains to both you gents and us ladies.  I only do this if I am CERTAIN about who is on the other end and what they do for a living and then I generally avoid such discussions.  Wake up . . . stings occur everyday.  Sometimes they focus on the provider (more often) and other times the client.  Everything you write will be used against you if you if it is not your lucky day.

You aren't going on a "first date" with a civvy, you are paying a hooker to fuck you. Not to mention the fact that no provider with a lick of sense is going to discuss sex acts with someone that she has scheduled a paid date with prior to meeting said client.

Do you really expect a provider to spend as much time 'getting to know you" off the clock before meeting you as she does on the clock doing her job and getting paid for it?

I guess Dungy doesn't have the SPOTY's locked up yet, you are certainly making a run at it.

I really can't imagine anything dumber to do.

What part of not discussing sex for money does the OP not get?

This one post alone may win the SPOTY for FIDIOT, even the Dungbeetle wouldn't ask providers to do anything THIS stupid.

One word....MORON

It's getting comfortable with person you are going to be intimate with... I actually require a phone convo to see if we will mesh convo-wise...  

Everything in moderation. It can be great to build a pre-date rapport...I personally find it reassuring to exchange a few friendly emails before meeting.  

If I am TOFTT I will ask a lot of questions over the phone and see how she answers.  If she hangs up on me because of the questioning...oh well, scratch her off my list.  I don't TOFTT unless there is something special about her pictures and/or she advertises a special skill I seek.

Since some guys want to be your pen pal for months before a date and then when they are satisfied they cancel anyway. Once you set the date you may exchange 1 letter with me per month until we are one month out. then one email per week until the week of. Then 1 email the day before to confirm. When I say one, I mean you can write me a note and then I will answer it. Any follow up questions or comments should be saved until the next appropriate time to write.  
I had to do this because I have a life. I want to devote all of my attention to the guy I am seeing today, not sometime in the future that may never come. If you want to get to know me then you can send me the donation for my time and we can schedule a time to chat or email.  
Leave some mystery for the date. We have plenty of time to chat then.

Before, During and After.

I have many friends that I email/text/call often. I only do it, if they appear to want to do it.  
Otherwise, if you call and set up and appointment, and I dont hear from you again other than to confirm your appointment, I dont. But, if you contact me after your all set up to make conversation, then I keep the convo going. I dont want to get anyone in trouble for call/text at wrong time. If its over email, I usually dont wait for them to start the dialogue but if its texting or calling, I let them start the dialogue and then continue it. I enjoy meeting new people and having stimulating conversations, and when you get to know each other before you walk in the door, that leaves the whole entire time for fun. Cuz some people don't feel comfortable until you've done a little chit chat, but if we take care of that before you arrive we dont have to.  And then pillowtalk at the end. :

Your guidelines are not strict at all, very reasonable

Well, I've lost a few suitors when i told them about them.  

Than you, I hope the horn dogs can actually read and get your message....it is only about you once you have arrived and the  
Payment....Amen Sister

A lot of UK escorts don't deal in texting or email you have to call

Well, "Discussion Boards" have there place and "role" IMO

It's fun to get excited and email and tease.   Builds the excitement....for the visit.  Good stuff.  Had a great experience Friday with a LA top 10.  Unreal....emails and teasing made it that much better.

I came across this post today which is perfect timing as I have recently become exasperated with clients texting in between visits which can get really exhausting.