Yes, Classic @!!
I do this with most of the providers I see.....it's funny because I tend to be the one asking the questions and then they kinda open up and we can have a good dialog about likes and dislikes and fantasies etc. If I were I provider and once the screening process was complete I would ask all kinds of questions. I would want to know about the person before I saw him or her. DO you providers do this or NOT? What are the upsides and downsides of this type of dialog?
Have a great weekend. I'm seeing a new TOP 10 LA
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I love to Email and talk and really develop a personal connection before we meet...
Texting? no thanks...
I will text you AFTER we have met if you are ok with it and want it...
Caitlyn
Caittlyn- I just wonder why more don't do that. I guess they lack the people skills or really don't want to be in this sport but have to be....I would think it's good for business, plus you get to know them before you meet. It already a little weird when we show up horny and some women comes to the door....it's like "Lets fuck now" .,...right? Well maybe not like that but you know what I mean..?
I usually keep it pretty brief and just wait till I see them in person. Also, if possible I try to do everything only thru email/texting. I hate talking on the phone for a couple different reasons. Much prefer in person/email/text. Thankfully it seems like quite a few providers do this or even prefer it.
On her way to our incall for a 2-hr session, running late from a hair styling, my friend emailed: "I'm getting on the F train now". A bit early, yes, but accurate.
Why would a provider ask a client all kjnds of questions after he passed her screening?
if he passed screening wouldn't all the important questions been answered?
You are missing the point. To get to know the client. What do you like, dislike, what would you like me to wear? Things like that. Simple to get to know you stuff. Perhaps you like the complete mystery and thats cool everyone is different. I like a little of both. Some times I'll ask the provider if she likes oral, if so, how does she like it (gentle, hard, fast, etc.). Again, everyone is different. I respect that
I just show up, have fun, and leave.
You aren't going on a "first date" with a civvy, you are paying a hooker to fuck you. Not to mention the fact that no provider with a lick of sense is going to discuss sex acts with someone that she has scheduled a paid date with prior to meeting said client.
Do you really expect a provider to spend as much time 'getting to know you" off the clock before meeting you as she does on the clock doing her job and getting paid for it?
I guess Dungy doesn't have the SPOTY's locked up yet, you are certainly making a run at it.
ten, you may have nothing to do but think about your date, fantasize about your date, get excited about your date, or masturbate over your date, but the lady whom you are going to meet is really not thinking about you in the interim. You are NOT on the clock. The lady is trying to deal with other gentlemen whom they are seeing before you, or dealing with setting up future business. She is not really interested in engaging FIDCUOF in hours of stimulating conversation (whether its talking, E-mail or text) in order to learn about your likes, dislikes and fantasies, hopes and dreams. She doesn't have time (and frankly she is not being compensated for this "time spent talking to you") If you want to set up a particular type of session (i.e. a specific role play scenario), fine, that should be communicated so you both know what to expect. But the ladies do not have the time and to be honest, most are not interested in learning about you before the session. Understand reality. The ladies only want to know that you are a respectable gentleman who is going to pay the proper donation for their time and will cause no problems before, during or after the session. Anything else about you can wait until your appointment begins.
This is the biggest problem many hobbyists have. You are on the clock when your time begins and you are off the clock when you walk out the door. Before the session, you mean nothing to her. After the session, you mean nothing to her. If you had a good session, of course the lady wants to see you again. But she doesn't want to hear from you until you are ready to set up another appointment.
We get it in real life, you get it in hobby world.
But it's fun while it lasts!!
with a phone call you either take the call or you don't. With texting, you can have a conversation at your own convenience, answering in between other things you are doing during the day.
I have a few provider friends that I will have all day conversations with at times. Sometimes I respond and don't hear back for an hour or two, which most likely means she is in a session, sometimes I don't respond back for several minutes or even a few hours which means I might be in a session too. So we might have an "all day" conversation, but have only spent a few minutes of actual conversation time at our own convenience.
One word....MORON
Than you, I hope the horn dogs can actually read and get your message....it is only about you once you have arrived and the
Payment....Amen Sister
Listen, you may have nothing to do but think about your date, fantasize about your date, get excited about your date, or masturbate over your date, but the lady whom you are going to meet is really not thinking about you in the interim. You are NOT on the clock. The lady is trying to deal with other gentlemen whom they are seeing before you, or dealing with setting up future business. She is not really interested in engaging FIDCUOF in hours of stimulating conversation (whether its talking, E-mail or text) in order to learn about your likes, dislikes and fantasies, hopes and dreams. She doesn't have time (and frankly she is not being compensated for this "time spent talking to you") If you want to set up a particular type of session (i.e. a specific role play scenario), fine, that should be communicated so you both know what to expect. But the ladies do not have the time and to be honest, most are not interested in learning about you before the session. Understand reality. The ladies only want to know that you are a respectable gentleman who is going to pay the proper donation for their time and will cause no problems before, during or after the session. Anything else about you can wait until your appointment begins.
This is the biggest problem many hobbyists have. You are on the clock when your time begins and you are off the clock when you walk out the door. Before the session, you mean nothing to her. After the session, you mean nothing to her. If you had a good session, of course the lady wants to see you again. But she doesn't want to hear from you until you are ready to set up another appointment.
might be used against you in the legal system. This pertains to both you gents and us ladies. I only do this if I am CERTAIN about who is on the other end and what they do for a living and then I generally avoid such discussions. Wake up . . . stings occur everyday. Sometimes they focus on the provider (more often) and other times the client. Everything you write will be used against you if you if it is not your lucky day.
This applies even to very established providers as well as those gents who write the most reviews. I know and have heard of people who have cut deals to get charges dropped, a lessor sentence, or even to just keep their names out of the paper.
There also those in LE who monitor these boards everyday. I am sure that they are very sophisticated. Lucky for most of us they tend to go after the low hanging fruit. That is why keeping your mouth shut and screening are critical to enjoyment and success! LE just love to get written records and recording to support their cases. Don't make it easy.
Guys . . . incalls are where you get busted if it is a John trap. You can bet it will be wired with stereo sound and HD video. Ladies . . . outcalls are where they most often get us. Screen, Screen, Screen.
I never discuss money . . . my reviews and website say it all . . . and the sex . . . actions speak louder than words and are a lot more fun. Of course I always screen heavily though most clients may not even realize that I am doing it. Don't ask me how I do it for that is not for public release. You can bet I am even more cautious now than I ever was when I first started and I have never had any trouble.
I really can't imagine anything dumber to do.
What part of not discussing sex for money does the OP not get?
This one post alone may win the SPOTY for FIDIOT, even the Dungbeetle wouldn't ask providers to do anything THIS stupid.
It's getting comfortable with person you are going to be intimate with... I actually require a phone convo to see if we will mesh convo-wise...
HAPPY TGIF EVERYONE!!!
Everything in moderation. It can be great to build a pre-date rapport...I personally find it reassuring to exchange a few friendly emails before meeting.
HOWEVER. A whole bunch of LONG emails before a date isn't OK...neither is wanting to know about my fantasies/likes/dislikes, IN DETAIL. Both are huge red flags for me. Save chattiness and explicit talk for the appointment. Or else I'll either think that 1) You're a lonely guy looking for a girlfriend and/or pen pal, 2) You think that your stiff dick is my responsibility even when you're not paying, and/or 3) You are extremely needy and demanding. Some girls will tolerate it in the name of $$, but IMO it's not really appropriate. In the past, behavior like that has accurately augured a huge pain in my rear.
I don't need to know much about you before the date. Basically, I want to know that you will pay, and won't be an asshole or a hassle.
If I am TOFTT I will ask a lot of questions over the phone and see how she answers. If she hangs up on me because of the questioning...oh well, scratch her off my list. I don't TOFTT unless there is something special about her pictures and/or she advertises a special skill I seek.
My usual routine with reviewed girls is: one brief e-mail to get myself screened; one brief e-mail to exchange and/or confirm each others phone numbers and schedule; a short text to re-confirm before I shower and drive; a text in the parking lot asking for the room...and we're off to the races.
Respect a provider's time...she will reward you in the room. 
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Since some guys want to be your pen pal for months before a date and then when they are satisfied they cancel anyway. Once you set the date you may exchange 1 letter with me per month until we are one month out. then one email per week until the week of. Then 1 email the day before to confirm. When I say one, I mean you can write me a note and then I will answer it. Any follow up questions or comments should be saved until the next appropriate time to write.
I had to do this because I have a life. I want to devote all of my attention to the guy I am seeing today, not sometime in the future that may never come. If you want to get to know me then you can send me the donation for my time and we can schedule a time to chat or email.
Leave some mystery for the date. We have plenty of time to chat then.
Your guidelines are not strict at all, very reasonable
Well, I've lost a few suitors when i told them about them.
Before, During and After.
It helps our relationship.
Well, "Discussion Boards" have there place and "role" IMO
and "Dates" well, have a different "role" LMAO
but thank you for reading and responding to all of my dumb questions.
I have many friends that I email/text/call often. I only do it, if they appear to want to do it.
Otherwise, if you call and set up and appointment, and I dont hear from you again other than to confirm your appointment, I dont. But, if you contact me after your all set up to make conversation, then I keep the convo going. I dont want to get anyone in trouble for call/text at wrong time. If its over email, I usually dont wait for them to start the dialogue but if its texting or calling, I let them start the dialogue and then continue it. I enjoy meeting new people and having stimulating conversations, and when you get to know each other before you walk in the door, that leaves the whole entire time for fun. Cuz some people don't feel comfortable until you've done a little chit chat, but if we take care of that before you arrive we dont have to. And then pillowtalk at the end. :
A lot of UK escorts don't deal in texting or email you have to call
It's fun to get excited and email and tease. Builds the excitement....for the visit. Good stuff. Had a great experience Friday with a LA top 10. Unreal....emails and teasing made it that much better.
I came across this post today which is perfect timing as I have recently become exasperated with clients texting in between visits which can get really exhausting.
I like my clients, many I like a lot but I have lots of other things going on in my life too so texting messages describing what I am wearing or what we are going to do next time can get very time consuming. I also think it shows a lack of respect of our time.
Before a date I always have a phone conversation before confirming the meeting and then the morning of the date I text to check everything is still good for that time and send over my details.
I have actually cancelled bookings because someone has arranged the booking for a week away or more and then expected text dialogue everyday until we meet with question after question which is clearly just mucking about so if this seems to be the case I am afraid it's game over.
There is one chap who has sent me over 130 text messages in the space of 3 months even though I have said I am not interested in meeting him. The bombarding of texts and calls put me off and safety and sanity come first!