I was recently in another city and made a date with a working girl ($400 for an hour) who provided the condom we used during the session. After cowgirl and missionary, I elected to finish with her in the doggy position. I was pumping away and noticed it began feeling better and better. We both came hard and when I withdrew, the condom was in tatters. Everything I had in me went deep inside of her, sans condom. She began to freak out! I did nothing to cause this accident, either directly or indirectly and, as stated, she provided the condom and put it on me (with her mouth) before penetration occurred. I assured her I was healthy in every way and asked he if she was as well. She said she was, but I'm going to an M.D. later this week to get checked out.

I have had it happened a few times over the years as well, however nothing came of it.  It must of been the first time this has happened to the provider and can understand her issues.  Unfortunately if a baby bump occurs, you are SOL brother..

By your own admission you it suddenly began to feel better.  That was the moment that a responsible client would have slowed, said wait - and pulled out to check it.  I know because I've had clients do that "just in case".  And it didn't slow the action, it did give me great respect for them and a sense that they valued their health.

There are a number of clients who intentionally cut condom packets or put providers in positions (i.e. lazy doggy) in which they can finnagle the condom off with the motion.  This is why the girl was angry with you. You knew you were blowing a load inside her bare and she knew you knew and that is why she was angry.

You said you've had condom breakage with a civilian girl and she was calm about it.
Well that is a civilian.  Statistics say that most civilians engage in unprotected sex faster than a sex worker will. Her greatest concern was pregnancy.  Our great concern is the end of a lucrative livelihood - our ability to provide for ourselves - and considering how many posts periodically appear on these boards in which clients admit that they hobby with Herpes (and God only knows what else) I'd say that is a valid concern.  A pregnancy can be terminated.  Once an incurable disease is contracted, there is nothing that can be done.

I'd say that the best thing a client can do is be understanding and be comforting.  Freely share with her the last time you were tested and any details about your sexual practices that will assuage her fears if she is upset.  Then ask her how often she tests and about her sexual practices (if she's in a monogamous relationship at home etc.).  Follow up with an email about marking the date on your calendar and test as soon as possible and again 3-6 months from that date to account for any window periods.

but try to understand hers as well. Providers, (especially ones in a low price bracket) often have the issue of clients trying to remove the condom. Doggy, in particular, causes providers to become vulnerable to clients removing the condom without notice. To be honest... it's pretty difficult for women to tell if the condom is on or off, but not really difficult for men to tell. My guess would be she assumed you removed the condom on purpose or when it came off you failed to care that it came off. Providers... very rarely (if ever) have sex without a condom... clients... I'm not so sure. Often it seems if a client can get away with it somehow it will be attempted. She may have assumed you might have an STD if you attempt this regularly and that is a frightening concept. I'm not trying to implicate you as someone who intentionally removed the cover, but "accidents" are more often than not the lie that is used when a provider realizes the condom is no longer in place.  

Nice job outing your own alias too.

I am definitely disqualified from this jury duty.  Dude, sounds like you cracked the case wide open.

I am amazed at how often I hear of this happening, because I am more of a CIM girl than a cum in the condom type, but on the rare occasion a guy did finish that way, I can't say I've gone through this. I have had many condoms that stay in me, which is also a pain in the ass, and makes you wonder. I stick to 3 brands of condoms, so maybe start using one of those...Beyond Seven, Crown, and some Japanese brand I can't spell off hand lol. You were either too big for the condom she provided, or it was not put on leaving enough room at the tip. Both of you need to get tested asap and refrain from having sex for at least six months...yah, that's gonna happen.  

i have had this happen before and i went to get the morning after pill (plan b) and we both got tested and share our results with each other.  that is really all you can do.  

One other thing to think about is the fact she put it on with her mouth. Teeth can  damage a condom upping the odds of a break. Maybe that was the cause and not the brand. Anyway  while it is true it can take up to six months for STD to appear, as long as they play safe there is little cause to sit out because of a break. Just have to keep up on STD screenings and play safe. You are a CIM girl, several STDs spread that way, I bet you don't sit out months for a clean test between do you? I didn't think so. Why the shock when others  don't wait to be 100% sure after a possible exposure?

You are responsible for you partners safety. You should have checked the second it started to feel different. Condoms do break, but you can feel it better than she. She had cause to be a bit upset at you as you felt the difference and never checked why. That is on you.

Please tell me no, because I really don't feel like copying 4 long winded paragraphs from the CDC that say this over and over. You can't get pregnant from CIM either hon. The risk from oral transmission of anything is far less than that of vaginal and anal...everyone knows this, which is why so many of YOU guys insist on bbbj. The main thing is Herpes which duh...any dummy can pretty much spot. Sure, it can be spread during periods the person does not have an outbreak, but that is very rare...another very conservative statement the CDC refuses to admit to, because they can't. Most HIV cases show up in THREE months, not six, but the CDC has to say six. Ask any physician who knows his shit, and he will tell you that by three months 99 percent of cases will be easy to detect.  

Just do whatever you need to do for you to have peace of mind. It happens. Why freak out over it. I'm fixed and clean. That's all I need to know.

You should be concerned about your possible financial responsibility to this woman if you fathered a baby to her. It sounds a little like you would be angry having a baby with a prostitute. This frequently happens in Tijuana where the clients provide the next generation of street children. There is no financial responsibility to children fathered in Mexico since it is part of the risk of being a provider.

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I wonder if it is more the way a condom is put on.
Or something like using the wrong lube that breaks them over a defect.

Seems to me that the OP knew something was up and didn't really give a shit. I don't buy for one second that a functioning male would feel a difference and just think to himself, "Wow, this feels way better all of a sudden! Guess I'll carry on!" She had every right to be upset and I'd actually be more disturbed if he had said that she just shrugged it off.  

Yeah, she had cause to be pissed at you and you should apologize profusely.  You need to pay attention man.  It's pretty obvious to the guy when a condom breaks, even if you aren't looking at it.  (And who doesn't look at it?  One of my favorite parts of doggie is to look at ourselves while I go in and out of her.)  You didn't notice it was ''in tatters''?  Seriously?  Or did you just not WANT to notice?

First off you are talking about one I repeat one STD. There is many most STDs out there than HIV. Some of them have simular transmission rates oral compared to vaginal. Second HIV hardly has a 100% vaginal spread rate even if he had HIV odds still point to a clean result with a single case of unprotected sex. Add the odds are the person did not have HIV given most don't. You are looking at some long odds. Now let's say it did spread and now the lady has HIV. That sucks, but if she plays safe the risk to her clients is very low, The risk of covered vaginal sex dealing with the spread of HIV is next to zero. HIV risks are based on a pattern of behavior not one.broken condom. I really think you are overstating the risks of one break with a John to careless to check after he felt the difference. Six months income is to much to give up for such a small risk. Read my posts, I generally am a huge fan of  safety but even I have to couch it in reality. Plus honestly most providers are BBFS someone any way as are clients, so any guy thinking otherwise is a fool.

He won't you know, he's 14...mentally at least, probably chronologically as well.

I'll take that any day over his blathering about Thanksgiving volunteer work or regaling us about the things his mother taught him about women.  Name your poison.

The protocol is as soon as it stops feeling like protected sex and starts feeling "better and better" you pull out and check the equipmen

I know I need to lose a little weight but barfing at every one of your posts is not my ideal diet dude.

there's always a first time.  
I have had an intact condom stay in her after...  we were enjoying  the moment & my hardness faded before she moved.  No sign of any leakage...  though I was pretty freaky when I felt it staying in her, she was not upset.  It was lazy doggy finale' BTW.  
A gal who does not allow CIM but will work all around bareback... to make me cum...  accidentally got some cum.  After the number of years, she should remember I have nerve damage & don't get the normal sense of about to cum.  She was gone a long time & came back smelling minty fresh...  and pissed.  I was not aware of what had happened until I caught her attitude.  I guess I didn't apologize quick enough to suit her.  

Why pull out if it feels that good?

My point was rather how ironic it is that a lady will blacklist a guy's REAL NAME simply for ASKING about bbfs, yet if a guy cums in her she will not skip a day of work, much less several months to find out if she really is at risk to others...same goes for the hobbyist. So, the constant "OMG he asked about bbfs" and "The condom broke" threads are pointless if the partakers are not even willing to do what is needed to ensure they are not infected, or they infect the next person. If he/she were THAT worried, they would do just that. But alas, it's all about the money and not about another person's health. Fact is, abstinence is the ONLY way to prevent the spread of STDs if one thinks they are infected. Sorry, the average hooker can't afford to take off a few months of work at the risk of spreading AIDS, but I certainly could and it's not because I am rich either. I'm just not an idiot.  

Perhaps that penicillin is kicking in.

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The way I see it we are all high risk sex partners and as long we are play in this hobby the best we can do is play at our risk level, get checked often and realize the truth we all take risks in playing. Now that being said, you got to admit not checking the condom after there was a change in how it felt was a pretty shitty thing to do.

But as a dangerous client who does not give a damn about things like informed consent on activities, I don't expect you to get it. It is plain you have zero respect for the ladies you see with such statements. I feel for any lady that would even give you the time of day.

Maybe Female Condoms can help reduce the failure rate. I read a study that showed the breakage rate for female condoms to be a fraction of the rate for traditional condoms. They can have problems slipping in or out. But failure rates for all condoms drop significantly with experience. Keep practicing folks!  
I like female condoms – it feels closer to bareback. Plus, you can hang around in the pussy for a while after coming without having to worry about something slipping off as you shrink

They are stronger, you don't really need different sizes, at least in my experience, they feel more natural and comfortable, it's just the insertion that is several times longer than a male condom.  

This board is becoming a shit-hole, literally. Turn it off during dinner

I try to reassure the guy on regular testing, low volume, no BBFS, and no CIM IF I get any open cuts in my mouth. I also say, "Let's wait a few days. I'll get tested in a few days as things take a bit to show up… I will let you know everything's ok.

...not only will abstinence prevent the spread of STD, but it will also cure Global Warming and resource depletion as the Earth's populations dwindles from 7 billion people to zero with the resulting negative population growth...

are there any providers that really rely just on a condom for birth control?  nothing is fool proof.  secondary method should be used also.  law of averages would say that the more sex you have the more likely that a condom will fail

I was in a simular situation but the guy insisted on using his condoms. It broke he came and I was extremely pissed. He gave me a couple more dollars but I left highly annoyed that his reaction was non-chanlant about the whole ordeal. I did not get pregnant and I am still clean and clear but I think hobbyist forget that providers are still human and to dehumanize a situation would piss any provider off.  Any female that assumes she is participating in casual safe sex would freak out not to is abnormal.  

I have broken more than a few condoms.  My own and ones provided by the ladies.  If it feels better, I definitely stop to check.  It can be frustrating but need to have respect for the ladies.  I would rather have 'blue balls' than an accident.  They seem to appreciate it