Curious to know if some find this a direct enough response or is there a need to personally know the reason as to why a lady may decline your business. Or do you feel it is better for a lady to just say nothing and ignore all requests if she just isn't "feeling" you? Has persuasion in the P4P world paid off for any lady/ gent? What am I missing here?

I will mention our "styles" are not on the same page...eg. I do not provide a fuckdoll experience and those that like that would not be happy with me. No reason why I should be put through something I do not like or the john have to change what he needs. Much easier and logical to find a better match. Forcing either party is, to me, pathetic.

I agree with that begging is not good.  I never have and never will.  But in this place, I can't imagine why any fella would beg

....rather than just being ignored. Her reasons dont need to be explained in great detail, and a "we arent compatible" might have me scratching my head abit if I didn't feel the same way, but I would respect her wishes and move on. At least with a politely declining response you know where you stand, and then you can close that chapter and move on.
 I have heard from some providers that they purposely choose to ignore some requests rather than politely decline them because some won't take 'no' for an answer. Yes that can be a problem, but you inadvertently punish everyone for the bad actions of a few. IMHO as long as the request isn't vulgar or rude, it deserves some kind of reply.

And then block the email address.  

Typically that is a polite way of saying she doesn't want to see you for whatever reason. Providers have the right to reject your business. Some guys think we should take every dollar regardless of the situation. That's incorrect

It means the provider does not want to see you for what ever reason she decides. No problem go to the next one on your shopping list.  

and you will probably never ever know the real reason.

I had one experience where the provider's actions told me "we aren't compatible".  Or maybe she was just having a bad day--it was pretty weird.  But if I ever heard/saw those words, it would tell me I need to move on.  And I'd appreciate that she actually told me SOMETHING rather than give me the silent treatment and leave me wondering.

Disappointed because obviously I wanted to see you but can't and would wonder why. I would appreciate the heads up. Nothing is worse than wasting time wondering if your email got lost or what.

Well, at least she let me know... Then, I move on and don't give it another thought.

But, I have thick skin so I can take criticism. I suppose there are many clients who's fragile egos will get bruised if you are honest with them.

Sometimes, though, I simply don't reply.   I am a firm believer in trusting my instincts and if I'm getting the feeling that I should stop responding, then that's what I do.    

I do something similar... When I get no response... I can't recall ever getting a sorry, we're not compatible response... But the action would be the same... I'll put the gal's profile in my excluded folder on P411... No need to even consider her again.

If I heard that when trying to rebook a provider I'd already seen, I'd think about what kind of connection we had had. Probably not much electricity as that happens between two poles. Maybe we argued over pizza toppings or something.

Personally, I'd appreciate the honesty. A couple of times I've expressed interest in meeting someone new and never heard back from them at all. These were reputable, highly reviewed ladies. When I don't hear back from someone in a reasonable amount of time I start to wonder...did she receive my request? Has she read it? Is she not available? Too busy?  Scheduling conflict? Not interested?  I don't know if I'm not told, and I don't want to seek someone else until I know definitively. It would suck to arrange to see someone else, and THEN start getting the responses I was waiting on. It sucks just the same not to hear anything at all.

But that's not how this works. Not how any of this works... *sigh* Hooker problems. LOL!

There have been only two times I have had to decline an appointment for being "incompatible". It mostly had to do with the reviews, that he was clearly seeking things outside my realm of comfort and/or expertise. So I simply respectfully declined because I thought it was the right thing to do and not leave the gentleman hanging.

I have had a gent over the years I have declined because his meeting request was out of the realm of what I was willing to provide. Fast forward a couple of years and he was still interested and willing to meet. I took a chance and he is one of the nicest and sweetest ever and we have planned an extended trip for later this year. BUT this one is not the case! While other ladies are available and comparable to what he is seeking, he has me on his to do list and seems to think I will just say ok since handfuls of others have seen him. If you piss me off, I am NOT going to suck your dick, bottom line. Maybe I should just say that instead.

But the question should be as to why she feels that we won't be compatible..One reason is that you're probably a hard to please client based on your reviews. She doesn't want to have to work on that 10, when she feels the most she'll get is an 8....then her "ratings" goes down the toilet.

and since we had never had any issues I was baffled by her "radio silence", especially as I saw her roommate on a rather regular basis.

Anastasia your a class act and one cool women to spend time with.

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I'm on someone's "to do" list.

I never heard that term. Please explain.

It's when a submissive girl likes to be used as a sexual toy.  Hence, a fuckdoll or fucktoy. You would probably like to play with such a girl and strap her into one of your traveling leg-spreaders.  Then you would pick up all the used condoms and wrappers and take them with you as you snuck out of the hotel with your little roll-away.
You are a real trip.

The smell of a used condom can get you high when you sniff it, grins. Fun to take back to the lab and look under a microscope.

As many others have said here, I would much rather hear back that you don't want to meet me than to just be ignored and receive silence. I don't want to see someone who doesn't want to see me. The readon is not terribly important. If you don't want to see me, you don't want to see me.  

I am starting to like you.  Somebody smack me.

I don't get it. Scares me.  

No.  You take the condoms and empty them down my *ahem* her throat.  Make her wash IG down with your spit.

You're declining for whatever reason, and that's cool.  These things happen.

first, do say, "no" about seeing a guy or he may keep asking
what you suggest should get the message across, or perhaps "I don't think we're a good fit." He'd have to be dumb as a rock or willfully dense not to get the point. I've only had one lady decline to see me over the years, and she used the "not a good fit" line and it worked and my feelings survived

good for you being one of the good guys!

how a thoughtful, kind reply can leave such a nice impression.  If I ever get to Detroit again I am going to look this cool lady up.  Unless she rejects me  . . . .  

Aww, GB, you're making me blush! I'm going to have to come visit you sometime soon! It's been too long since my last visit to Chi town

I've had to do that, and it wasn't much about the guy, as it was me just not being comfortable with requests. But I do try to tactfully tell someone we're not compatible, or I won't be available to him.

is something you and your True Sweetheart will never have to worry about

no way to know if she was telling me the truth anyway.

I guess you cannot keep lying about why you are on this site.
We can all see it's not about the real woman providers.
The problem is you are in the wrong area. Lol