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laurensummerhill See my TER Reviews 118 reads
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Look at it this way: Once I've agreed to travel to another country with someone, are see him for a week every month  - I've made the conscious decision I trust him with my life.   Whether or not he knows my name, my well being is in his hands, and there's plenty of opportunity to do harmed while I'm in a metaphorically trapped environment.

Also, what if I get hit by a car? Get food poisoning? Fall ill? How will he deal with medical professionals if he doesn't know my name? What will the police and doctors think when the person I'm staying with, has no clue what my name is, or know anything about me?

What if customs pulls us aside while we're traveling and asks us questions about each other to see how much we know?

At some point in life, you have to become a good judge of character and learn to trust your instincts. If something in my gut tells me I  shouldn't trust someone, I will just stop seeing him entirely.  Otherwise, I'm assuming he's a good person and paying careful attention to his behaviour, interactions and beliefs for verification.  As time goes on, I eventually decide if I trust someone is at the core of his being a good person or not.

And you also have the opportunity to learn as a companion, because you come into contact with new people on intimate terms.  A believe as a companion it's important I acknowledge an unhealthy situation quickly and end it as quietly as possible.  Then digest the mistake to see where the early warning flags were that I missed, so I never make the same mistake twice, and I never make an irreversible mistake once.

There are trustworthy good people in this world, and we are capable of finding each other.    You can't go through life assuming everyone is a threat or you will miss the most important people and opportunities.  To be ruled by blind fear is no way to go through life.  You have to be a critical thinker and if after knowing someone for years, you can't figure out if they're trustworthy or not, you shouldn't be in this business.

-- Modified on 10/29/2010 9:50:00 AM

WhiteEnvelope448 reads

Call me crazy, but I seem to be more attracted to providers with normal names, like Nicole, Summer or Lauren. I am not knocking any provider that goes with a name like Candy SuXXX or Trixie Treats, but I tend to think a normal name seems classier.

Am I crazy, or do you guys agree?

:-)

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keystonekid261 reads

appearance, donation, performance, and attitude (in no particular order).

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WhiteEnvelope233 reads


I agree for the most part. The name is just icing on the cake I guess...especially in forums. I tend to overlook posts by providers with bad porn star names.

I must be crazy.

haha

Posted By: keystonekid
appearance, donation, performance, and attitude (in no particular order).

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literbike250 reads

Posted By: austinpfeiffer
Call me crazy, but I seem to be more attracted to providers with normal names, like Nicole, Summer or Lauren. I am not knocking any provider that goes with a name like Candy SuXXX or Trixie Treats, but I tend to think a normal name seems classier.

Am I crazy, or do you guys agree?

:-)
Guys board names have me intrigued sometimes and I don't mind mentioning that some of them have discouraged me from seeing them. Sometimes a name can tell a whole lot about a person..even when we are all on an anonymous internet board.

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WhiteEnvelope221 reads

Posted By: literbike
Posted By: austinpfeiffer
Call me crazy, but I seem to be more attracted to providers with normal names, like Nicole, Summer or Lauren. I am not knocking any provider that goes with a name like Candy SuXXX or Trixie Treats, but I tend to think a normal name seems classier.

Am I crazy, or do you guys agree?

:-)
Guys board names have me intrigued sometimes and I don't mind mentioning that some of them have discouraged me from seeing them. Sometimes a name can tell a whole lot about a person..even when we are all on an anonymous internet board.
You hit the nail on the head and said it perfectly.

Thank you:-)

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literbike236 reads

Now, this form of screening is not foolproof but especially on a board such as this, name and personality (which is gleaned from board posts), can be a good tool. Although having said that you could get a guy or girl who is a complete asshat on the board, but great in person.  My feeling on that is it's all well and good, but if they are standing in front of you and you two are alone, and they are just like their unsavory board persona, it's a bit too late then. I prefer to lower my risk and not bother to see them.

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ziggy440211 reads

People are much more abrasive on forums and in emails than they are in person. Having been involved in numerous forums where I met people online and then met them in person, the in-your-face jerks and flamers are usually pretty nice people. It is the passive aggressive snarks who turn out to be really unpleasant.

Or to put it differently, the loudmouths with the obnoxious handles are most often pussycats in person, while the ones who make subtle digs and are touchy about how and what others say to them are the truly unpleasant humans.

YMMV, of course.

As for providers, sure I pay attention to their names. It is part of how they are presenting themselves, and it seems reasonable to assume that how they behave in person will tend to follow that. Truly trashy, suggestive names imply a (possibly wonderful) trashy, PSE experience. A classy, restrained name suggests more of a quiet lady who can be a tiger in private, but will be a lady in public, etc. So I do take that into account as part of the whole impression of what I am likely to get.

I actually think that is more indicative of the tone of the experience than the tone of the reviews since each reviewer's definition of wild, trashy, PSE, GFE, etc, will be somewhat different than mine, so unless I have seen some providers in common with the reviewer, I will rely more on the tone of the provider's presentation than the atmosphere reported by the reviewers.

And I will almost always choose Nicole over Bodacious Betty. There are ways that Bodacious can overcome my resistance, though.

Zig

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AWomanLikeNoOther125 reads

Agreed. I'm a petite girl. If your name is 12inFuxAllNight, I'm probably not going to see you.

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Radcow218 reads

Some providers have really bad or even overused names, but in the end, does it really matter? Not if her reputation is in the right range. I agree that some names that can off-putting. Providers who have names of cars are one example. Mercedes, Benz, Lexus, I guess I'll wait for someone name Scion before I take the plunge. Then there's the Diamonds and other assorted gem or precious metal names. Give me a break. The porn names are the easy targets, but I won't see a porn star that has tits as big as watermelons. That's a style thing for me, I guess. I just felt up the best 34 Ds that a Dr. could put in on a 5'3" frame and I asked why do need to be 36 GGG unless they are naturally so? So with a good rep. most any name will do. That is why we pay, right?

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mrfisher233 reads

"...But he that filches from me my good name
Robs me of that which not enriches him,
And makes me poor indeed."


Iago, Othello Act III, scene 3.

Related Link: More of the context for you English Lit buffs.

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johngaltnh272 reads

Imagine you book her for a dinner date and a colleague spots you.

Just imagine the fun that could start with: "Ms. Tanya Tittyfuck, this is my colleague Jim Jones of the Guyana KoolAid Company. Mr. Jones, this is my friend Ms. Tittyfuck whose parents obviously didn't like her very much."

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Radcow218 reads

I happen to know someone by the name of K. Goodhead. The first time she introduced herself, I about guffawed. I haven't seen her in years, but I bet she is still a very comely package.

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literbike181 reads

Mike Hunt, I sure as shit would change it

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literbike162 reads

Just remembered a name that I saw somewhere..Dick Dickless..I would shoot my parents for that one

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laurensummerhill590 reads

"Adora Cash"

I think it makes sense that you might be attracted to women that put on less of a porn star persona and try to present themselves as average people in society. There is a sense of comfort related to that.

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literbike196 reads

I saw name that and laughed..at least she makes no pretense that she's in this biz for the sex alone or the social aspect.

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johngaltnh182 reads

Obviously, there is a bit of a science to picking a name. Soft vowels -- like in Lauren -- sound sexier for some reason.

But it's just crazy IMHO for a lady who ever intends to have dates longer than 60 minutes to go by some crazy name under which she can't be introduced.

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SerenaSinful208 reads

Posted By: johngaltnh
Obviously, there is a bit of a science to picking a name. Soft vowels -- like in Lauren -- sound sexier for some reason.

But it's just crazy IMHO for a lady who ever intends to have dates longer than 60 minutes to go by some crazy name under which she can't be introduced.
Needless to say I would never introduce myself to a gentleman's colleague/friends as "Serena Sinful". I have, however, introduced myself as having a normal last name or merely "Serena". The normal last name prevents the gent's buddies/colleagues/employer from finding my ads--something which has appealed to a few gents I've seen.
Related Link: Serena [Insert last name here]

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laurensummerhill213 reads

By the time a gentleman is introducing me to someone in his life, he knows my real name.  He's trusting me with his life when I meet colleges and friends, I think some even ground is called for.

I wouldn't even want to be introduced to waiters or hotel staff by my companionship name.  One rule: a companion name should be easy to remember.  Second rule: anything easy to remember is easily googled.

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johngaltnh179 reads

At your level of practice, I think your approach makes very good sense.

Personally, while I think the whole "fake name companionship" thing makes sense in a lot of cases; I also think it gives ladies a false sense of security. Real security for women comes from the same place as real security for men: choosing one's companions wisely.

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laurensummerhill194 reads

Well said. If you don't trust him, don't see him.

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LuckyIrishPrick155 reads

She has to be named Bertha or I will not see her. That's my new rule.

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