An ex screwed my life up and called all of my family right now to let them know what I do as a job. Which I should have expected of course. They have been calling me with the worst of stories and heading my direction of town. Has this happened to any other ladies? I don't want to hear from any men's advice. I am not in Provider's only. I'm just so upset and lost. Thank you.

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Immediately upon hearing that ALL of your family was called by your ex to tell them you are a hooker, your first reaction was to come on the national GD board? Ok...

And your family's initial reaction is to throw the "worst of stories" back in your face? Not shock? Not "are you ok"? Hmmmm...

And your family took as gospel what your ex had to tell them from jump street?

"Ismell" something too, just not sure if it's turkey

My mother found out that I was a provider years ago from someone that I used to date...and she's been constantly harassing me about it ever since. For a few years, I stopped speaking to her because she was so hateful towards me. Recently, she found pictures of me and a few websites under my old stage name. She had the damn nerve to text me and ask me to take ALL of my pictures off the Internet! If I didn't speak to her for a couple of days, she would constantly ask me what I was doing...when I made it clear that I didn't want to talk to her.  

She even texted me this "If I find out that you're still doing something that you're not supposed to be doing, may God have mercy on your soul". She's been trying to police my life for years and I finally got tired of her bothering me all the time...so I moved nearly 100 miles away from her (to eastern Long Island)...and feel a lot better. My mother said I put her through so much. Ha! She was a child abuser...and still doesn't think she did anything wrong.

I know what it's like to been outted to friends and family. It was unfortunate that I had to move all way near the end of Long Island, and no one in my family knows my exact location.

If I were ismellturkey, I would be very careful in how I conducted business. I would take new photo to hide my features, especially any identifiable tattoos. I wouldn't post a phone number that could be traced back to me. After my mother found out I was providing, I started using Google Voice (then knows as Google GrandCentral). I would change the title of my ads frequently and change the wording.  

 
I've been waiting for my mom to apologize to me for 25 years (I'm 31 years old) If she was going to make amends, it would've happened before now. She's so screwed up emotionally, it's a wonder she can even function. I brought my current landlord over to her house for a short visit. She said if I came over to her house with him again , then she would leave me standing outside her door. She wouldn't even look my landlord in the eye...and he's one of the nicest guys I've ever known. She has a near abnormal aversion to strangers. My LL is a stranger to her...but she gave him the cold shoulder and acted if he was a walking disease that she should stay away from. She said I should've stayed in Corona, Queens...problem with that was my roommates were backstabbers who talked about me behind my back and when they found out I was a provider, they gave me grief for it. Even their boyfriends were asking me if I had a pimp, where was I going and who was I having sex with. I had their boyfriends banned from the premises due to them being sexually inappropriate. The girlfriend blamed me for his actions, saying I was sexually suggestive towards him. I had no interest in him at all. After that incident, I moved out. And my mom said to me that living with them would be better than where I'm living now, that I made "a bad decision" in moving so "far away" from NYC and that I didn't think things through before I moved.  Sorry for the long post, but being outted really hit a sore spot with me.

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Long story I won't discuss. They tried to drive to see me and discuss it immediately. They found out I danced from another person who followed my car. They thought this was a new low for me. I was hoping to possibly hear advice from providers.

Things were also said to them to make me sound in trouble. I am completely fine but the person posted out of anger. I feel there is no recovery from the email since I have a father who is involved in this industry like most hobbyists but he uses other websites. He pretty much knows.

Thank you. I guess I come from a family that is very very uptight. It is is hard for them to be accepting of anything like this. They have heard enough hints to be concerned due to certain people. I feel bad that I have let them down and I feel truly ashamed I wrecked their pride. I'm not sure where to go from here. I feel so upset and empty my family now has to "pretend" that everything is fine during future holidays. I am so sad..  

You're unbelievable  

What is worse is your suspension ended.  

That was where the mistake happened.

crack me the fuck up ...lol lol lol that's what u said now when she hugged u , did u cum .... lo lol lol and u know since the dinner happened u can review her the mother and we can all read about it .... she even gets her own ter id .... lol lol lllo lol  

Thanks for caring. I was looking for help from providers.

I understand their concern if you are being trafficked, but if this is your choice you have to live with it. Yes, it can be embarrassing for your loved ones to find out, but they will get over it. You have to be more thoughtful and confident with your decisions if you can truly manage to think independent of other's opinions. A tough cookie to swallow, but they will get over it. It's great they are concerned but reassure them that you know the safe ways to play and this is your decision. Obviously you got into the hobby out of need....either sexual or financial. Whatever made you do it is the guns you need to stick to. If they can't accept it, you should find supportive friends who can help get you through. If you like what you do, don't shy away from it.....embrace it! And if they really love you, they will support your decision to continue or quit.

 
I guess coming here for support was a joke.

It is life the people who shun you are they willing  to pay your Bills if not tell them
To shut up and live with what  do unless they are Prepared to change your life.