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There definitely is such a thing....

DatyRookie 2786 reads

posted 10 years ago

1 / 54

Burnout?

I have been with a particular provider many many times over the past few years. She is reputable in my area and has decent reviews (8's across the board) with over 30 reviews.

Last year or so she has been acting strange. Cancelling at the last minute, couple of nc/ns. At times ignore my emails and texts. I am not the only guy who has experienced this.

While I am careful not to share too much info with other ladies, I spoke to one in general terms because I wanted to understand WTF, might be the issue. My acquaintance said it could be burnout and that it is common for ladies to feel this way once in a while.

Is burnout common place in the hobby? I mean I think it's good that we all take breaks from this underworld, but I can see how a lady could experience this. For a guy, we get to see and have sex with beautiful women, but their experience is different from a client's. At the Same time, if this is the case, why bother agreeing to meet if you know you need a break (whether it be a break from the hobby or a break from a client)? It's frustrating to go through it. Where I am, higher quality women are rare so I don't want to give up on this lady because I find that the only other option is BP, which is nasty to me, or SA, but I don't have the time that some of the ladies require there. There are a couple others I can see in my area, but this one in part is a true diamond in the rough.

Happy hobbying!

MfSD 39 Reviews 744 reads

posted 10 years ago

2 / 54

Burnout

Had the same thing happen about a decade ago with a lady I considered an ATF.

It could be any number of different things, aging parent(s), their kids, financial problems, drugs/booze. Escorts have the same challenges in life as any one else: they're trying to make a living.

As far as the burnout aspect, we all cope in different ways. One high end escort I see takes a month every summer and goes to Europe with one of her GFs. Doesn't work, just travels like any other tourist.

MfSD>>>>

RobbinYoung See my TER Reviews 820 reads

posted 10 years ago

3 / 54

Have You Considered

Having a talk with her? If I had a longtime client, I'd appreciate and understand his candor when speaking with me.

DatyRookie 867 reads

posted 10 years ago

4 / 54

Re: Have You Considered

Yes I have tried to talk about it, but she is guarded or ignores my communication when I try...there is also the respect and boundary thing that it's none of my business.

At first I explained I was upset because it was rude to treat any client this way. Why schedule and cancel several times in a row? I can move on and don't mind seeing others, shit, I saw someone new this week who toured here ; ).

At the same time I told her to hmu when or if she wants to see me, but don't get my hopes if she has no intention on seeing me.

I have found that some people in this hobby are more candid and upfront than others.

Thanks For You Comment.

DatyRookie 626 reads

posted 10 years ago

5 / 54

Re: Burnout

I guess we either move on and wait or both? Thanks for sharing.

JakeFromStateFarm 606 reads

posted 10 years ago

6 / 54

Actually, it's none of his business.

Why would you suggest he get involved with her life? If her service has declined for any reason, just move on. Before you turn into Captain Save-A-Ho

RobbinYoung See my TER Reviews 895 reads

posted 10 years ago

7 / 54

You're Welcome

And if all communication has failed, I'd say it's time to let go and move on.

DatyRookie 579 reads

posted 10 years ago

8 / 54

Re: Actually, it's none of his business.

Agreed, not trying to save anything or anyone. Just confusing AF.

Thanks for your slap and post.

MasterZen 34 Reviews 832 reads

posted 10 years ago

9 / 54

Sometimes you just have to be satisfied with....

"You don't get to know". Leave the door open, respect her boundaries and don't be a pest; move on. Nothing wrong with giving it some time and checking in after a few months. Meanwhile, enjoy the fact that there are plenty of new experiences awaiting you going forward

DatyRookie 771 reads

posted 10 years ago

10 / 54

Re: Sometimes you just have to be satisfied with....

Agreed

2horses2many 727 reads

posted 10 years ago

11 / 54

Take a look at youself in the mirror,....you are obsessed with her....

No such thing is a burnout,. Professional ladies knows how to manage their life..She simply doesn't want to see you anymore and you're NOT getting the message and still persistent... When someone are tired of you, they will come up with all kind of excuses , goblins, trolls and magical creature and nothing you can do about it.. Move on dude, your're so closed of being a stalker.....

-- Modified on 12/18/2016 6:35:35 AM

JakeFromStateFarm 653 reads

posted 10 years ago

12 / 54

You're welcome! DATY on! eom

END OF MESSAGE

DaveMogal 74 Reviews 712 reads

posted 10 years ago

13 / 54

[Choose to save] Yes you can get burned out.

It is good to take a break every once in a while. While you are taking a breaking you can rebuild your assets.

mrfisher 115 Reviews 734 reads

posted 10 years ago

14 / 54

It's a stressful business, so why be surprised?...

While some gals have an iron constitution and go on day by day seemingly forever, others begin to feel like getting away from it, but struggle to keep going, thus behaviors like nc/ns appear - self fulfilling prophecies, so to speak.

As Jake suggested, don't try to "save" her. Instead move on, leaving a friendly door open for her to contact you in the future if she so decides. I've done this several times and the gals have used that door to our mutual benefit

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 549 reads

posted 10 years ago

15 / 54

Move on.Million sex workers out here.

Posted By: DatyRookie

I have been with a particular provider many many times over the past few years. She is reputable in my area and has decent reviews (8's across the board) with over 30 reviews.

Last year or so she has been acting strange. Cancelling at the last minute, couple of nc/ns. At times ignore my emails and texts. I am not the only guy who has experienced this.

While I am careful not to share too much info with other ladies, I spoke to one in general terms because I wanted to understand WTF, might be the issue. My acquaintance said it could be burnout and that it is common for ladies to feel this way once in a while.

Is burnout common place in the hobby? I mean I think it's good that we all take breaks from this underworld, but I can see how a lady could experience this. For a guy, we get to see and have sex with beautiful women, but their experience is different from a client's. At the Same time, if this is the case, why bother agreeing to meet if you know you need a break (whether it be a break from the hobby or a break from a client)? It's frustrating to go through it. Where I am, higher quality women are rare so I don't want to give up on this lady because I find that the only other option is BP, which is nasty to me, or SA, but I don't have the time that some of the ladies require there. There are a couple others I can see in my area, but this one in part is a true diamond in the rough.

Happy hobbying!

Related Link: http://twitter.com/888fancy

donbecker54 19 Reviews 584 reads

posted 10 years ago

16 / 54

There is such a thing...

I watched my former ATF go through it, as she was working like crazy in 2013 and 2014. She was overbooking herself. She finally took some time off last year, and this year isn't doing anything. She was always guarded with saying things about herself, but she actually told me she was burned out

DatyRookie 589 reads

posted 10 years ago

17 / 54

Re: Take a look at youself in the mirror,....you are obsessed with her....

Ok...thanks

DatyRookie 551 reads

posted 10 years ago

18 / 54

Re: There is such a thing...

Thanks for sharing. This shit is for real.

DatyRookie 405 reads

posted 10 years ago

19 / 54

Re: Move on.Million sex workers out here.

Just not where I am. Maybe three or four quality ladies and then tell nuts in BP. No thanks, but your suggestion is duly noted.

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 641 reads

posted 10 years ago

20 / 54

Re: Have You Considered

Posted By: RobbinYoung

Having a talk with her? If I had a longtime client, I'd appreciate and understand his candor when speaking with me.

Why did you contacted sex worker about her customer??????Are you trying to find things out to see if you want to pick up paying customer????????? Million sex worker out here.Move on dude.

-- Modified on 12/18/2016 7:20:25 AM

Related Link: http://twitter.com/888fancy

RobbinYoung See my TER Reviews 582 reads

posted 10 years ago

21 / 54

If You're Speaking To Me

Posted By: Fancy8888

Posted By: RobbinYoung

Having a talk with her? If I had a longtime client, I'd appreciate and understand his candor when speaking with me.

Why did you contacted sex worker about her customer??????Are you trying to find things out to see if you want to pick up paying customer????????? Million sex worker out here.Move on dude.

-- Modified on 12/18/2016 7:20:25 AM

You misunderstood my post.

BTW, Fancy, I hope you have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! xoxo

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 680 reads

posted 10 years ago

22 / 54

Re: If You're Speaking To Me

Posted By: RobbinYoung

Posted By: Fancy8888

Posted By: RobbinYoung

Having a talk with her? If I had a longtime client, I'd appreciate and understand his candor when speaking with me.

You misunderstood my post.

BTW, Fancy, I hope you have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! xoxo[/quote Why are you having a talk with her ??????? Happy holidays to you

Related Link: http://twitter.com/888fancy

RobbinYoung See my TER Reviews 612 reads

posted 10 years ago

23 / 54

Fancy, You Misunderstood My Post!

Sweetheart, I didn't contact anyone...I just replied to the OP on TER's discussion board.

Thank you for the kind holiday greeting, and I hope you have an awesome day! I've been up all night working on my website and posting on TER, and I'm sleepy and FINALLY going to bed. Goodnight! xoxo

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 416 reads

posted 10 years ago

24 / 54

Re: Move on.Million sex workers out here.

Posted By: DatyRookie

Just not where I am. Maybe three or four quality ladies and then tell nuts in BP. No thanks, but your suggestion is duly noted.

You are crying over high rate hooker doesn't want nothing to do with you or your money....You're are talking sh!t about others and BP

Related Link: http://twitter.com/888fancy

DatyRookie 529 reads

posted 10 years ago

25 / 54

Re: Move on.Million sex workers out here.

Men should have standards. I won't sink low or sacrifice my standards just to get off. Your average John may not care who he sees, but it's my dime and I will do as I please.

GaGambler 414 reads

posted 10 years ago

26 / 54

I agree, can you imagine if only hookers like Fancy worked your area?

"Most" of the advice you got here was good. There are always going to be a couple of morons like the guy who claims hookers "can't get burnt out" At least Fancy was only the second worst/dumbest reply you got.

As for your actual OP, I have to say people don't like to hear "constructive criticism" and that goes double for burnt out hookers. I hate to say it, but I think it's time to move on, at least unless and until she figures out for herself that she needs to get her act together.

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 580 reads

posted 10 years ago

27 / 54

Re: Move on.Million sex workers out here.

Posted By: DatyRookie

Men should have standards. I won't sink low or sacrifice my standards just to get off. Your average John may not care who he sees, but it's my dime and I will do as I please.

Dude what's f******* problem.You look good paying high rates on your dime..Your crying over high rate hooker that's burnout on you.Sun doesn't rise and set high rate hookers .High rate hookers trying to make money like rest of hookers...Yes ALL hookers and clients have standards.

Related Link: http://twitter.com/888fancy

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 774 reads

posted 10 years ago

28 / 54

Re: Fancy, You Misunderstood My Post!

Posted By: RobbinYoung

Sweetheart, I didn't contact anyone...I just replied to the OP on TER's discussion board.

Thank you for the kind holiday greeting, and I hope you have an awesome day! I've been up all night working on my website and posting on TER, and I'm sleepy and FINALLY going to bed. Goodnight! xoxo

Why do you keep explaining yourself if I misunderstood your post.Why are you going to have a talk with her?????Goodnight.Happy holidays to you.

Related Link: http://twitter.com/888fancy

souls_harbor 511 reads

posted 10 years ago

29 / 54

why

Why do they book and flake? Because they are torn between wanting the income and not enthusiatic about the work. At any moment in time one aspect or the other may dominate their thinking.

GaGambler 709 reads

posted 10 years ago

30 / 54

That's simply NOT true Fancy. Not all clients (or hookers) have standards

The fact that you somehow manage to make a living doing this is proof positive of this fact.

Personally I can relate to the OP's dilemma. Until relatively recently I lived in a hooker mecca, but now I live in a small city with virtually ZERO "TER reviewed providers" I too might have been tempted to excuse some bad behavior from a former girl of quality, given the very few other options here, but fortunately I tried out the Sugar World and once again find myself with no lack of quality options, although I will admit I have to work a bit harder at it. If my only option had been hookers of your ilk, I would have either gone celibate or found myself a GF. I may have no morals, but like the OP, I do have standards. I know this is a foreign concept to you, so feel free to STFU any time now.

DatyRookie 368 reads

posted 10 years ago

31 / 54

Re: Move on.Million sex workers out here.

You are a goofball. It was just a general topic and personal experience. You are making a bigger deal of it than it is. Chill out psycho.

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 684 reads

posted 10 years ago

32 / 54

Re: That's simply NOT true Fancy. Not all clients (or hookers) have standards

Posted By: GaGambler

The fact that you somehow manage to make a living doing this is proof positive of this fact.

Personally I can relate to the OP's dilemma. Until relatively recently I lived in a hooker mecca, but now I live in a small city with virtually ZERO "TER reviewed providers" I too might have been tempted to excuse some bad behavior from a former girl of quality, given the very few other options here, but fortunately I tried out the Sugar World and once again find myself with no lack of quality options, although I will admit I have to work a bit harder at it. If my only option had been hookers of your ilk, I would have either gone celibate or found myself a GF. I may have no morals, but like the OP, I do have standards. I know this is a foreign concept to you, so feel free to STFU any time now.

Dude what's f***** problem to show your ass on a board and tell me STFU....Your pissing over a board and posts.LMAO. No one was talking to your ass.Reports all level hookers having bad behavior.High rates doesn't always mean quality.It's your dime clients pay high rates.That's funny how this topic got turn into attacking me.

Related Link: http://twitter.com/888fancy

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 428 reads

posted 10 years ago

33 / 54

Re: Move on.Million sex workers out here.

Posted By: DatyRookie

You are a goofball. It was just a general topic and personal experience. You are making a bigger deal of it than it is. Chill out psycho.

Look in the mirror psycho your attacking me over board opinions and making big deal yourself.LMAO

Related Link: http://twitter.com/888fancy

russbbj 89 Reviews 636 reads

posted 10 years ago

34 / 54

I am not sure if it's burnout, or what it is

because "Cancelling at the last minute, couple of nc/ns = no further consideration".

I treat everyone with respect, until they give me a reason not to.

Last minute cancellation or ncns is simply disrespect, she won't get a second chance to disrespect me.

DatyRookie 538 reads

posted 10 years ago

35 / 54

Re: why

I like your post.

DatyRookie 595 reads

posted 10 years ago

36 / 54

Re: Fancy, You Misunderstood My Post!

I think she misunderstood my post too. Take care and thanks for your input.

breannabreeze See my TER Reviews 655 reads

posted 10 years ago

37 / 54

There definitely is such a thing....

It usually comes from seeing too many clients....or trying to juggle too many things at once. I've suffered from it and I'll admit my services declined. It helps to decrease the amount of clients you are seeing and have a supportive group of friends and family that know along with taking time off on a regular basis. It's less money but in the end it's better for business. Anxiety causes a lot of health issues that can roll down hill.

rembrnad0284 12 Reviews 424 reads

posted 10 years ago

38 / 54

I like this

I've given lots of second chances; sometimes they've worked out well enough, and sometimes not... but that's largely because I was lazy and wanted to stick with what I knew (or who I knew).

But you'r right - there should be a presumptive default in my brain not to be dis'ed twice as even when things have worked out well enough to keep seeing a provider who flaked once, it's never been quite up to par after that.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 568 reads

posted 10 years ago

39 / 54

She's hoping you'll . . .

Get the hint without her having to spell it out for you. Apparently, you haven't figured it out yet.

DatyRookie 619 reads

posted 10 years ago

40 / 54

Re: There definitely is such a thing....

Great post, couldn't agree more.

DatyRookie 623 reads

posted 10 years ago

41 / 54

Re: She's hoping you'll . . .

Possible I know, yet others gave noticed how quiet she has become. Several now don't trust her.

2648667 31 Reviews 501 reads

posted 10 years ago

42 / 54

Facepalm. EOM

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coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 545 reads

posted 10 years ago

43 / 54

And the reason you . . .

Want to keep seeing a provider that many seem not to trust is . . . . ?

DatyRookie 642 reads

posted 10 years ago

44 / 54

Re: And the reason you . . .

Great question. We have history on the hobby and I guess I want to re-live the good days, especially in an area where there are already relatively few quality ladies.

Ya I know. I do give a fuck about her and I should not.

2horses2many 505 reads

posted 10 years ago

45 / 54

I agree with moving on but..

Again, I'll say, there's NO such thing is burnt out..If you get burn out you need professional help..Normal people recognizes their limits and knows how to slows down or take a break in any job or chores, if you burn your candles on both sides and justifies it, that you don't have a choice, then you don't know how to manage your life and really needs help...

breannabreeze See my TER Reviews 795 reads

posted 10 years ago

46 / 54

Re: I agree with moving on but..

Posted By: 2horses2many

You don't even know what you are talking about. Are you one of those people who believe depression and anxiety is all in someone's head as well? Everyone has their different threshold. Some can burn out from seeing 5 people a day and some can burn out from seeing 3 people in a week. The nature of this job makes it extremely easy to be susceptible to burnout regardless of how normal you are and how many of us are really "normal" anyways considering we chose a profession that's riskier than most?

DatyRookie 555 reads

posted 10 years ago

47 / 54

Re: I agree with moving on but..

Well said Brenna

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 429 reads

posted 10 years ago

48 / 54

I have many good days, too, with . . .

My regulars, but when the good days turn into bad days of the sort you described in your OP, it's time to create some good days with somebody new. Something to think about.

DatyRookie 603 reads

posted 10 years ago

49 / 54

Re: I have many good days, too, with . . .

Thanks man

DatyRookie 446 reads

posted 10 years ago

50 / 54

Re: I agree, can you imagine if only hookers like Fancy worked your area?

Agreed GA. There is a bit more to the story, but yes, I must move on...

DatyRookie 572 reads

posted 10 years ago

51 / 54

Re: That's simply NOT true Fancy. Not all clients (or hookers) have standards

GA. Gambler gets it.

There may be millions out there, there me dozens in my area on the rat infested backpage, but I don't settle. I choose. My choice.

Fancy does not get that sometimes a couple click, hang for a while, and when one moves on from the other it can be confusing.

I do hope to hear from her again, she's a great person and truth be told, It's none of my business, but it does impact me in some way.

Thanks Georgja, Great post

EvaFantasy See my TER Reviews 476 reads

posted 10 years ago

52 / 54

Burnout.

It is very possible this provider is tired and burned out and just needs time to herself. Maybe her taking the month of she likes to rejuvenate herself and just not wanting to deal with people just she just pulls back and does her own thing. Me doing this personally I enjoy it so much. It is like a rush of excitement I get meeting the client and enjoying the company of many different people. Maybe just give her sometime and she will come around.