Once again the "date" that I personally dread the most....."The why am I here" date
Am I the only one that thinks this is a mood killer?
Roxanne, why am I here? Am I addicted to sex? What wrong with me? I'm going home and I'm going to hate myself. You-you are so pretty and funny why are doing this? Do you like being a whore, you have a ring on, does your SO like that you do this.
*Rolling my eyes* (He didn't notice duh)
"Tim maybe you should see a psychologist, don't worry about me, worry about yourself"
Longest look I ever seen in a man's eyes..for sure.
I just hate calls like this, fine you hate yourself (by the way his wife knows what he does and doesn't care) for seeing providers thats all nice and dandy but for you to try to tell me I'm doing something wrong or morally wrong and why don't I CHANGE myself...yeah I'm going to have a problem with it. And it wasn't like he was a regular that has some legs to stand on when it comes to asking asking you certain things, this is a person I have never met before our date and will never see again. I mean it's just ridiculous. I wish dates like this could say that before the session starts that way I can terminate right then and there.
Hobbyist and providers I know this isn't the craziest thing anyone has ever said in the history of the industry but in your experience what has someone said that made you say "Wow that's f*cked up"?
i had guys ask me "does your family knows you do this?" "do you neighbors know you do this?"
it is also annoying when somebody asks "how long have you been doing this?" like what is the point of this question?
My website clearly says NOT to ask me questions about my family or my SO.
Just as a meeting is supposed to be a fantasy for them.. sometimes WE need to keep it somewhat of a fantasty too... I'm not thinking about home when I'm on a date.
In regards to how long I've been doing this: well it's in all my ads.
But I must say I've never once had a "why am I here" guy.. not once in almost 2 decades - so maybe I'm just super lucky.. then again maybe not coz here's a funny but true story (I know my regular "readers" get a kick out of them):
At a massage parlour I used to own back in Oz, we had a strict NO sex policy.
One of the ladies, who was probably the most "plain Jane" of the girls we had.. would ALWAYS have any customer who chose her, keep sending her out at the end of their hour to extened the ession for another hour... after the next hour she would pop out of her room again with a handful of cash and keep extending.
This would go on for hours... every single customer!
Many times gentlemen would spend 5 6 or even the whole 8 hours shift with her.
All the other ladies started getting jealous and accusing her of having sex with the clients. I agreed to look into it if only to stop the rumors .
Now, because due to to OHS rules we, we had little "peep holes" on each rooms door (for ladies security) which only managers were supposed to look through. So I looked through the peep hole.. she was sitting on fthe sofa next to a client TALKING.. both fully dressed.
some of the clients would have the massage .. but they'd all end up sitting upright talking.
So after a week of this I approached her and asked what her trick was:
"I'm a Psychologist grad at Uni.. doing my Masters... they talk to me."
A couple of years later I found myself doing univerisity again, I threw psychology into the mix because of that girl
That's crazy. I took psychology too in college but never did anything with it. Was more interested in Animals and children. So basically I'm easy to talk to is what you are saying 
xoxox 
My wife has a psychology degree.... Think it's part of the reason I'm here... haha
When you have a wife who analyzes everything (or at least you feel she does) and you just want to have some fun!!
But Roxanne!!
You're SUCH a nice girl!!!!
Don't you need saving!?
In all seriousness, do providers get a lot of that sort of thing?
Posted By: RoxanneHeartNYC
Once again the "date" that I personally dread the most....."The why am I here" date
Am I the only one that thinks this is a mood killer?
Roxanne, why am I here? Am I addicted to sex? What wrong with me? I'm going home and I'm going to hate myself. You-you are so pretty and funny why are doing this? Do you like being a whore, you have a ring on, does your SO like that you do this.
*Rolling my eyes* (He didn't notice duh)
"Tim maybe you should see a psychologist, don't worry about me, worry about yourself"
Longest look I ever seen in a man's eyes..for sure.
I just hate calls like this, fine you hate yourself (by the way his wife knows what he does and doesn't care) for seeing providers thats all nice and dandy but for you to try to tell me I'm doing something wrong or morally wrong and why don't I CHANGE myself...yeah I'm going to have a problem with it. And it wasn't like he was a regular that has some legs to stand on when it comes to asking asking you certain things, this is a person I have never met before our date and will never see again. I mean it's just ridiculous. I wish dates like this could say that before the session starts that way I can terminate right then and there.
Hobbyist and providers I know this isn't the craziest thing anyone has ever said in the history of the industry but in your experience what has someone said that made you say "Wow that's f*cked up"?
There is actually a clinical term I believe (I'm not a shrink) it's called the Madonna-Whore Complex (not the singer Madonna because that would be redundant, but the religious Madonna) Google away kiddies.
Posted By: The_Lies_We_Tell
But Roxanne!!
You're SUCH a nice girl!!!!
Don't you need saving!?
In all seriousness, do providers get a lot of that sort of thing?
Posted By: RoxanneHeartNYC
Once again the "date" that I personally dread the most....."The why am I here" date
Am I the only one that thinks this is a mood killer?
Roxanne, why am I here? Am I addicted to sex? What wrong with me? I'm going home and I'm going to hate myself. You-you are so pretty and funny why are doing this? Do you like being a whore, you have a ring on, does your SO like that you do this.
*Rolling my eyes* (He didn't notice duh)
"Tim maybe you should see a psychologist, don't worry about me, worry about yourself"
Longest look I ever seen in a man's eyes..for sure.
I just hate calls like this, fine you hate yourself (by the way his wife knows what he does and doesn't care) for seeing providers thats all nice and dandy but for you to try to tell me I'm doing something wrong or morally wrong and why don't I CHANGE myself...yeah I'm going to have a problem with it. And it wasn't like he was a regular that has some legs to stand on when it comes to asking asking you certain things, this is a person I have never met before our date and will never see again. I mean it's just ridiculous. I wish dates like this could say that before the session starts that way I can terminate right then and there.
Hobbyist and providers I know this isn't the craziest thing anyone has ever said in the history of the industry but in your experience what has someone said that made you say "Wow that's f*cked up"?
Personally the ones I hate the most are the, "You should be paying me for this.",guys. Those words will turn my smile upside pretty quick.
those are usually either guys under 40 , which is why i only see men over 40 and prefer men over 50 actually
Posted By: satinbutterfly
Personally the ones I hate the most are the, "You should be paying me for this.",guys. Those words will turn my smile upside pretty quick.
It has nothing to do with age it has to do with confidence. I'm sorry you had bad interactions with people closer to you in age. Not all guys under 40 are bad. I can tell you are missing out on meeting some amazing people. I have heard from two providers who we don't manipulate each other where they have told me that they should be paying me as I do more for them confidence wise than anyone they see. I take it with a grain of salt. Over time true feelings come out. I'm not talking about love or getting this line on the 2nd or third date but when I hear it I tend to believe it
"I should be paying you,""I wish all my clients were like you","You are my favorite!","you're the only client that I cum with," and my favorite," ____ is my real name" ... guess we have seen the same girls LOL.
You know they teach them to say those in hooker school.
Posted By: Zak0326
It has nothing to do with age it has to do with confidence. I'm sorry you had bad interactions with people closer to you in age. Not all guys under 40 are bad. I can tell you are missing out on meeting some amazing people. I have heard from two providers who we don't manipulate each other where they have told me that they should be paying me as I do more for them confidence wise than anyone they see. I take it with a grain of salt. Over time true feelings come out. I'm not talking about love or getting this line on the 2nd or third date but when I hear it I tend to believe it.
I could care less if it's true or not. I think the way I think you think a different way. No harm in that. Just because your synical doesn't mean I can't have an open mind.
A psychiatrist I knew quit his job to become a plumber since he was tired of dealing with peoples shit. I think the mental therapy part of providing is much more demanding than the sex part since it can be so emotionally taxing.
Don't take anything you hear from your clients seriously since its business, always be "half-deaf", its so you don't get too angry or rustled over the bs a client says when he's comfortable. Look at it this way: he's paying you money to listen to his problems with you and its good money.
In business you will never know when a customer will repeat, some of my best customers have been the ones who at first pissed me off however later on as they knew more about my personality their behavior changed to compliment it. All I had to do was be my best and honest with them.
For me it was when a provider said how terrorists are good people because they care a lot about their own families. I was like "wtf" then I just shrugged it off.
Put on your dominatrix outfit and go to town.
NOT ALL SIGNIFICANT OTHERS KNOW!!
A few men have got busted and ended up getting a divorce and then it's MY fault cuz i'm the one that sought after her husband to have an affair with him- i'm THE ONLY GIRL HE'S SEEN!
But you gotta love the question; "how long you been doing this?-What got you started?"
I reciprocate: "how long have you been doing this.?" What go you started."
I always asks back does your kid or wife knows where you are?
Posted By: SamanthaKillington
NOT ALL SIGNIFICANT OTHERS KNOW!!
A few men have got busted and ended up getting a divorce and then it's MY fault cuz i'm the one that sought after her husband to have an affair with him- i'm THE ONLY GIRL HE'S SEEN!
But you gotta love the question; "how long you been doing this?-What got you started?"
I reciprocate: "how long have you been doing this.?" What go you started."
That would be a good topic for another time. However when you watch Blue notice how Julia Stiles is extremely guarded and on high alert when ever she has conversations with men. Just wondering how is a provider's personality like in her real life when interact with those who might not be of the demimonde but know that she is an adult companionship provider. Does she tend to be sensitive around others and is always of the assumption that other might know.
Posted By: NinaofBoston
I always asks back does your kid or wife knows where you are?
Posted By: SamanthaKillington
NOT ALL SIGNIFICANT OTHERS KNOW!!
A few men have got busted and ended up getting a divorce and then it's MY fault cuz i'm the one that sought after her husband to have an affair with him- i'm THE ONLY GIRL HE'S SEEN!
But you gotta love the question; "how long you been doing this?-What got you started?"
I reciprocate: "how long have you been doing this.?" What go you started."
I have that answer! It's like what do you say to a man like that?
Oh Capt. Save a Ho, I had no idea you would leave your wife and kids for me. When can I meet your mom?
Posted By: RoxanneHeartNYC
I have that answer! It's like what do you say to a man like that?
I was really horny, and the easiest way to get laid with no commitment is to charge for it.
I have never had a date like that...at least, not that I can remember.
I've had accuse me of lying if I even superficially discuss my academic background (that was in my agency days). Or who assume I'm doing this for some negative reason (10 kids at 16, drug issues, etc).
But I've honestly never had a client dump his guilt issues onto me.
I have one client who's bipolar and WAY into drugs, who sees me because I am not into drugs. I satisfy his phyiscal needs without leading him to further debauchery and chaos. He's discussed his struggles with me a few times. But, he's always framed it so that it's about HIS life and HIS temptations and he puts no responsibility on me.
I've seen guys who feel guilty about cheating, and try to explain themselves to me. But, it's always been about their needs and/or their wives.
I've definitely attracted some losers, but maybe I really don't attract that particular type of client
There's always that one special person that wants to rain on the parade. I attract them all except the millionaires
But, some clients view the p4p experience as something negative...some don't.
You probably prefer to attract the ones who will seek you for a positive whole experience, rather than just a 'release'
We mongers call those guy "Capt. Save a Ho" LOL They are trying to put their own psychological baggage on the provider. I hope you put him on your Do Not See List (DNS). Because they do come back sometimes. Guys like that fuck it up for the rest of us.
I really haven't had any providers do anything like that. I've had a few ask if I was married of had a girl friend, which is annoying since I'm single and say so upfront. One provider asked me how many other girls I've seen "this week" during a session, which was weird. I don't think it was a jealousy issue at all, but it seemed weird since we were fucking when she said it. It was a gauge of my hobby budget, but it still seemed like my jealous ex wife.
Nothing too terrible
You guys were having sex while she said that to you.....hmmm maybe it turned her on. Jealous ex-wife now that's a role play i haven't tried. HMMMMM
Yup, she was on top and doing a great job too until she said that. I don't mind role play, but tell me first. I'm down for almost anything, but I have to know about it first. I should have said, "what day is it again?"
Posted By: RoxanneHeartNYC
You guys were having sex while she said that to you.....hmmm maybe it turned her on. Jealous ex-wife now that's a role play i haven't tried. HMMMMM
She was away being saved and petting unicorns on a remote island. Ssshhhhh don't tell!
I was away for longer than that 
and Roxy almost dropped out of the top ten, I hope she gets her groove back. I kind of like having her and Octavia spicing up the boards. You, me and Drew can't do all the heavy lifting here, now can we?
Thanks. I didn't notice. What do I win?
Posted By: GaGambler
and Roxy almost dropped out of the top ten, I hope she gets her groove back. I kind of like having her and Octavia spicing up the boards. You, me and Drew can't do all the heavy lifting here, now can we?
he is the spam of the board lol
"thoughts, if any?" lmao
Posted By: GaGambler
and Roxy almost dropped out of the top ten, I hope she gets her groove back. I kind of like having her and Octavia spicing up the boards. You, me and Drew can't do all the heavy lifting here, now can we?
Can't we forget him for a moment?
and considering I was staying at the Del Rey seeing three, four, five chicas a day, I suppose it was a fair question. I did learn to think like a hooker and not leave dirty towels, empty condom wrappers and the like just lying around. The maids always gave me at least 8-10 clean towels each day as it seemed like every chica would dirty at least two towels a session, but I always did feel better knowing that each chica would shower both before and after a session, especially knowing that she would go right back to work looking for another date five minutes after leaving my room, and that is was likely she was fucking some other guy twenty minutes before me meeting her.
I have hookers ask me all the time if I am married, I usually respond "no baby, I've been waiting for you" Honestly, the question has never bothered me.
I wouldn't care, but if it's accusatory during sex, it's makes me feel weird.
Gambler I guess the working sex professional knows that your a ubiquitous and frequent customer. I wonder if the girls compare notes about you when they get a minute. I am thinking that you are fairly high on their rankings when it comes to patronage. Just got to ask since you do frequent the women, does the agency down there ever give you mailers for when you come down with savings incentives? Also when a fairly new girl starts to they send them to you to determine how well they will do in this business?
I was describing how things are when visiting Costa Rica and all the women there are independents. You simply go to a bar where they congregate and strike a deal with whichever chica strikes your fancy, it's all done out in the open (the negotiations that is) and completely legal down there. No reason for subterfuge, code words or pimps. Actually pimping is illegal.
Picture your local sports bar, now picture it with a five to one ratio of women to men and then finally picture all of those women being providers free to market their services as they see fit. It's a monger's dream.
What Gambler is describing is 100% accurate.
You could readily sleep with 5 girls a day, they literally come to you seeking your business.
Hotel Del Ray in San Jose comes to mind.
Also similar places in Puerto Rico...but the girls there have pimps who negotiate with you.
Posted By: GaGambler
I was describing how things are when visiting Costa Rica and all the women there are independents. You simply go to a bar where they congregate and strike a deal with whichever chica strikes your fancy, it's all done out in the open (the negotiations that is) and completely legal down there. No reason for subterfuge, code words or pimps. Actually pimping is illegal.
Picture your local sports bar, now picture it with a five to one ratio of women to men and then finally picture all of those women being providers free to market their services as they see fit. It's a monger's dream.
Tim can't come out and directly ask you if you have a pimp, or ask you if tour SO is your pimp... and trust me if a guy doesn't get a satisfactory answer to his round-about questioning, he won't come calling again.
Who fucking cares.
Its just conversation.
Its not like we get a chance to discuss what
We do outside our world!
I dont see the big deal talking about us in this world on a 1 hour date.
So condescending!!
I've only encountered it a few times but my answer to "why am I here?" type questions is always "because you choose to be"
After that there isn't much else to say on the topic lol
I've had multiple experience where reputable providers have asked me (the client) similar questions. "You're a good looking, funny guy, why do you do this?" "I'm sure you have no problems meeting women"
It's just as odd when it's the other way around. It's odd because, what does that even mean really? So only unattractive and/or socially awkward people do this? That seems like a negative stereotype.
I know when they ask, it's coming from a good place, it's meant as a compliment. I just answer with "because it's a really fun thing to do, from time to time". I don't let it ruin the mood, because I know it's asked out of curiosity and with no ill-intentions. But I guess it just catches some providers off guard? I don't know.
You nailed it. I tell them the girls at Webster Hall are not as sexually promiscuous they usually laugh.
My boyfriend can go all night long.
Why did you go see that fat bitch?
I've got our life all planned out.
Can I start the shower (at the 30 minute mark of an hour session)?
Are you married? (thanks for increasing the guilt)
Let me get the saran wrap.
I'm sleepy because I partied all night long
I think a $1000 an hour escort is NOT charging too much.
The shit you all gotta put up with sometimes...
Posted By: RoxanneHeartNYC
Once again the "date" that I personally dread the most....."The why am I here" date
Am I the only one that thinks this is a mood killer?
Roxanne, why am I here? Am I addicted to sex? What wrong with me? I'm going home and I'm going to hate myself. You-you are so pretty and funny why are doing this? Do you like being a whore, you have a ring on, does your SO like that you do this.
*Rolling my eyes* (He didn't notice duh)
"Tim maybe you should see a psychologist, don't worry about me, worry about yourself"
Longest look I ever seen in a man's eyes..for sure.
I just hate calls like this, fine you hate yourself (by the way his wife knows what he does and doesn't care) for seeing providers thats all nice and dandy but for you to try to tell me I'm doing something wrong or morally wrong and why don't I CHANGE myself...yeah I'm going to have a problem with it. And it wasn't like he was a regular that has some legs to stand on when it comes to asking asking you certain things, this is a person I have never met before our date and will never see again. I mean it's just ridiculous. I wish dates like this could say that before the session starts that way I can terminate right then and there.
Hobbyist and providers I know this isn't the craziest thing anyone has ever said in the history of the industry but in your experience what has someone said that made you say "Wow that's f*cked up"?
Why are so many hookers so insecure about why they do this? Don't get me wrong. I don't lead with 20 questions on a first visit. The truth is, I am fascinated by hookers, and yes after multiple visits I will ask questions. If they shut me down I let it go. I have found that many are more than happy to share things about their life with someone who is genuinely interested. I have no problem if they ask questions about me either. I actually like it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to know something about whom you are making the "beast with two backs" with. I get that some johns are way overbearing and that makes things unpleasant but some of us are just interested in you as a person with out falling in love with you.
Give me the opportunity and I'm going to say the wrong thing, or something that will be misinterpreted as the wrong thing. I rather just have sex and skip all the small talk, lets face it if the lady and I were friends we'd just be talking and not having sex.
You nailed it. Totally agree.
Papito, there is nothing wrong with you.
You're just special.
You are different.
The worst thing to say,"God loves you."
I had a one hour back in the day, who needed a one hour phone interview for a one hour date. I still look back and can't believe I let some dudes jack me around like that. lol. That doesn't have to happen.
We sit down for a drink, (this is why I don't do one hours anymore,) and he yaps - says, "Ok Courtney. Convince me that what I'm doing isn't wrong."
I said, "I'm sorry, but morally I can't do that to you. My morals require that I do not take men and purposefully draw them away from their wives, They must already be looking, and they have to choose me."
Really what I meant is "Next time book a fetish date."
I think some guys fantasize about being seduced and drawn into doing something they "shouldn't be doing". It's very erotic, and I definitely can see the turn on. But don't drop that bomb on me in the date. But also, don't get me to convince you to see me via email for sure. I definitely don't want that in writing lol.
Just say "I want to do a seduce and convince me fantasy, and I want to be a victim." If the guy wants it, I will for sure do it in person. Sounds fun as hell. But for me, I can't do it unless I can prep my mind and heart into an acting role. Since it goes outside of my moral code, (Don't be a Jezebel-type hooker,) I would need to be able to prep my mind and heart. It's also a dominant role, which I can do. I don't do sub.
I would also need to be compensated to go outside of GFE into playing a manipulative whore lol.
That guy later figured that out when he tricked me, but I'll spare that story.
P.S. I've been asked by religious folk if I was "ashamed of being an escort". I said "Nope. Not at all." The only way I would be ashamed is if I convinced someone into going against their moral code. So that role play would need to be specified as role play, clearly communicated that it is a fetish, and then I would charge for it to identify it, and book / prepare it as a fetish date.
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"I want to do a seduce and convince me fantasy, and I want to be a victim."
That is not something i ever thought about...but it actually sounds like it could be fun!
Like the hard-working family man who is faithful and you're the sultry evil boss-lady making him have sex with her or else...unemployment!!
Though now that I write it out I think there's probably a movie or at least a Lifetime Original with that plot line
IMO providers should offer 15 minute dates. Let's face it, most guys are done in 15 minutes and we don't feel like talking afterwards!! Fuck me and either get out or let me get out....I'm done!! What do we need to have bullshit conversation about??? I don't care about what is going on with you and you don't care about what is going on with me!! Let's not make this anymore complicated than it needs to be!!!
I will check my phone and make a to do list while you do your thing. You do not even have to open your mouth...and nor will I. Stick it in. pump x 10 and get off and then you can get out. Cha ching!!!
