I'm curious. This isn't supposed to turn into a judgmental post, as everyone here has different circumstances.

im single and not a cheater either, if I was involved with someone I would not be doing this.

As you describe of yourself, cheating or more importantly betraying someone just isn't my style. I too as you describe, am not judging, far be it for me to judge anyone, it's just my own personal choice and integrity, of which I do not impose on anyone.

but I believe we are not an unsubstantial minority here, there are a lot of us who are not sneaking around on anybody, nor did I engage in cheating when I was married or in a "committed" relationship, IOW a relationship where I promised not to cheat.

Do you also pick up women outside the P4P spectrum? I'm single at the moment but I don't see this as a lifestyle I see it as a means to getting laid. I also pick up girls in clubs /social gatherings and other means so I'm not desperately seeking companionship. I find this way more entertaining and I like danger and the unknown.  I have plans on leaving the hobby in the near future without a problem. Some of these women are beyond awesome. I have never cheated on anyone who I have been with and never will. The difference between me and Russ who posted above is that I believe in my heart I'm in there leagues and anyone of them if I found on the outside world would date me.  

No one knows for sure, although there are periodic attempts to find answers.  Not long ago, I asked two providers separately about 4-5 weeks apart, what percentage of their customers were married, guessing about 50%.  The first one said, "For me, about 70% are married."  The second one didn't know the first but she refuted my estimate, saying also  "About 70% of my customers are married, and of the remaining 30%, 15% are divorced and 15% are single."  This is subjective evidence, of course, but I think it's significant.  And the reasons for "cheating" are many and varied.

I get to have sex with beautiful woman without any games. Perfect!

And that's ok, the law of averages says that there must be below average in order for there to be above average. I'm below average in looks, if everyone were beautiful, then no one would be. This isn't to say I'm not confident. I'm very good at what I do for a living, I pay my bills, I have a near perfect driving record, I think I'm a nice, respectable person (a must for someone of below average looks), I do what I say I'm going to do, when I say I'm going to do it. I feel that knowing ones downfalls is an admirable trait, I suck at relationships and I am the common denominator of all the failed relationships that I've ever been in.  

russ.."  

I'm divorced and single. I wonder which category I fall into?

And ... He ruins it. That lasted a full minute didn't it.

I only know how to be me also and that's the only person you need to be. I'm not the best looking guy in the world but I live by the quote if your afraid of rejection don't try and score. Love and basketball quote for movie fans. For every one girl who says yes to me 20 say no. Can't let it get me down. I think that I'm in the providers age bracket know how to treat them and relate to them improves my odds. I don't have it all figured out but I'm having fun trying.  

I started this a year ago, after being with the SO for 14 years. The relationship was not working  and my willingness to stray was my sign that i was done. It took me time to have the courage to change the situation and I moved out of the house in October.

I'll be 39 next month,  so i don't consider myself out of the game.  
But I'm frankly not awesome at relationships.  
They are a lot of work and I'm a little too self absorbed.
I'll typically date for a few years, get burnt out, then stay single for a couple years and get back into P4P.

and I try my best to compartmentalise my life.

Is there a difference of being divorced or single? Because I am both, I'd like some clarification on that one. I've noticed it on questionnaires too, hmm, I know I'm single and I know I'm divorced.

I am happily (mostly) married. So, why am I here? First, like most of the above posts, I used to think I would NEVER cheat on my wife. Well, guys - there's this thing called life and things change. I'm not judging. Just stating what for me, is fact. I've been married a long time. I love my wife dearly, but, there are medical and other issues that prevent us from having sex. Consequently, in addition to the lack of physical sex, there is also a loss of emotional closeness. This totally sucks!  

Some guys like the thrill of the hunt, I don't, literally and figuratively. That is too much work, and hassle especially for the kind of woman that I could attract.  

Although, I'm not quite sure why telling a woman that she is smoking hot ruins anything.

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Maybe because us divorced guys have more relationship experience.

and she is an ex provider, in fact, that's how I met her.

Don't all men, well ... "real men"?

I'm sure it would be a waste of time ...

You married a provider?

Divorced and currently in a long term relationship. My relationship with my GF is quite good and it's the best relationship I have ever had. We are emotionally, physically, and intellectually in tune and she is overall a great person. I'm 100% sure that if she knew about this part of my life she would definitely leave me and I'm completely aware of this risk, but I'm banking on the adherence of discretion. I've had side chicks in the past, but the emotional drain and drama and no professional consideration of discretion redirected me towards seeing escorts. For me this isn't a replacement lifestyle for traditional relationships or a desire to fill a void. I'm just here because I enjoy meeting amazing people, exploring my physical chemistry, and taking part in some exciting fun.

I was in a long distance relationship once. Didn't last.  
We ended up drifting apart and mutually parted ways.  
We are still friends though.  We email a few times a year.  

I'm divorced X2, so I guess I'm very single.

so I empathize with you.  

Pretty solid post mate!
I was in a situation that was similar. I was here for the sex and at home it was sex and everything else.
Unfortunately, there are women out there that provide the "everything else" and don't tell you and you walk away feeling loved (WTF is that). Next thing you know you are headed for a situation that has all of the downside of an affair. I don't know of too many instances where a married man falls in love with a prostitute and it works out well for anyone (unless he buys her a Condo - which would make it work out well for her).
It's a funny old thing this hobby - particularly when it becomes more than a hobby...

Else, that's a complete waste of your time and energy.

Just because the roller coaster is broken, they don't close down the entire amusement park.  

There is no high ground here...

Try to consider possibilities that lie outside your own personal experiences.  Other people may have much different circumstances.

Hey I don't judge anyone as a matter of fact I am in a commit relationship and he hates that I do this and I hate that I hurt him but alas, there's a reason for everything in life I suppose.

I love my wife dearly, but I'm lucky if we have sex any more than 5 times any given year, and after 25 years of continuous sheer will fidelity, I was getting desperate. I was considered the option of getting an affair, but that involves emotional attachment outside of marriage, so it was not acceptable to me. Getting a sugar baby was also considered, but that requires a steady outflow of cash, which becomes expensive, and also involves the risk of personal attachment. In a moment of weakness I found myself in this hobby, and it had brought back the possibility of sex, without the emotional baggage. I continue to love my wife, but no longer have the corrosive feeling that I was missing out on my asexual active years because of her.  

I'm in the same situation except when we had sex it was horrible.

you're considering coming clean. I think more men should broach the subject of P4P or "Outsourcing" as I like to call it. It's just not fair if one person is no longer able or willing to engage sexually while the other person still hungers for that. I can't imagine all people being so selfish that they would deny someone they truly love the pleasure of sex. If they can't/won't do it themselves, they should allow the other to seek it elsewhere, in a way that will not threaten home and hearth. This is the perfect place to find that.  

is always constrained by his experiences until he's willing to open his mind to other possibilities.  

I remain single by choice in my 30s. I pursue this hobby as a more cost-effective means of fulfilling my sexual needs, in terms of both the money, time, energy that I expend and the quality of the resulting experiences. It thereby leaves me free to devote more of my resources to several other hobbies and pursuits that I enjoy and lead a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Only when I thought I was in love.

I'd never thought of that. But I have seen a few threads where the guy falls in love with a provider and she doesn't love him back. Love is a funny animal.

I'm single. If/when I get a girlfriend, I don't see myself hanging around with escorts unless I could convince my girlfriend to go for a couples session.

I've read, and re read the post by me which you replied to in search of some indication that I was taking the high road or attempting to project that I was taking the high road. Can't find it.  

Come on, man. What the hell is up with that? You should be killing it with the ladies.