OK, I'm Mr. super careful (yet super horney - not the greatest combo I know) - so I want to maximize the kinkyness of a session but want to stay as safe as possible, i.e. DATY is out so's BBJ (CBJ good though), FK, maybe DFK if it looks clean.

Question is:  am I better off w/ a provider that seesm to also play it super safe or a provider that's nice and giving/will do things like CIM/DATY but will respect my need to hold back while still keeping it hot and erotic as possible.

I realize that YMMV in many ways but in generalities I'm thinking I'm better off doing the latter.

Thohts/suggestions please ladies and gentlemen.

Much obliged.

With your safety-match lady you don't need to discuss or worry about it.

If there is a different provider whose boundaries are looser than yours just explain your boundaries when you meet.

You should be paying more attention to who you find attractive - be it personality or looks.  When you find the right match you'll have a great time either way!

Discuss it before the session with the provider and you will not run into any obstacles about your boundaries.

daughter!  (It worked for me).   lol

Discussing sexual services in any fashion before a session is often going to get your email blocked/deleted.  The closest I would even come to this would be to mention in your introduction that you are "safety conscious."

Face to face, I can't imagine a lady complaining if you ask for a cover.

for DATY, they are available at most sex toy shops.  I haven't used them but have heard they work OK.  Or find a provider who will indulge  a "latex" fetish and clothe herself (or you) in tight fitting latex body suit .... or go for the less expensive alternative: wrap yourself in cellophane and duct tape...

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"maybe DFK if it looks clean"

This may sound facetious but it's not intended that way:  I think if you worry so much you shouldn't hobby.   The negative emotions afterwards may well outweigh the pleasure of the meeting.

I am also a germaphobe so whenever I am with a woman I first ask her to boil herself then bath herself in Betadyne (I like the bright orange tint it leaves on the body) and then I completely wrap her in sterile wrap.

Problem solved!!!

What have you been doing for the last year? Clearly, at least a year ago your version of things happening during a session were quite different. lol

"We LFK to DFK'd and..." or enjoying a grand BBBJ with attention to the twins. Have you suddenly had a change of heart? Were there no other sessions since 05?

This just seems like a wierd question to ask for someone who has been in the hobby for at least a year, and then wonder what protection level you might be comfortable with.

I think Carrie gave you the best advise already.

wear a full body condom....hell if you are going to act like one you might as well dress like one.

Thank You

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