Some providers have indicated certain racial dis-preference. Is this a sign of nobleness within the providers?

I am not sure I have the slightest idea what you are talking about, but yes some providers do discriminate based on race. I have no idea what is noble about that, but it is certainly their choice and I can't fault a woman for only having sex with people she feels comfortable with. It is by far the most personal choice a person can make. It is a shame that some people feel that way about people of certain races, but the only alternative is much worse than the problem itself.

Interesting topic because I posted a thread about this exact topic that was not posted.

This hobby is a very personal business.  So providers have a right to select who they want.

But why doesn't TER have a section so that Black guys like me know and don't have to send an email to providers every time to find out if they do.

Perhaps providers make that choice because they just aren't attracted to someone of a particular race. It's not that big of a deal to me (and I'm not caucasian btw).

I'm actually glad when providers state that they won't see a person of a particular race. It saves me the time and inconvenience of asking her. I have nothing against those women.

However... yes, there are a lot of girls who choose not see gentlemen of a certain race.

How is that considered to be noble???

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I don't have an aliases so please don't tar and feather me....Here goes.. I personally do not see Blk or dark men of any race. Not because I don't find them attractive.
Not because I am raciest. I can think of at lest half dozen blak guys off the top of me head I would do in a NY minute if not for one Issue.......
Are ya ready for this... I am very into hair although bald men are also exciting however I love love love to run my fingers thru the hair on a mans head while passionately making out.Even the guys with just a band of hair around there head -N- bald on top.
I  love to lay an cuddle and play with  the hair on a guys chest,soft smooth and ooo so sexy.  
I love it when a guy tames the boys but leaves a patch above the shaft cause I even like to feel that too...
With that said Men of color if you will have very course hair and I simple do not like the feel. Please don't be offend it's just a really weird kink I have that I have yet to get past.And I have tried many times.  I truly hope I did not offend any one I just thought some one would like one women's take on it.Did I mention I Love hair.

Well that's it we all have our kinks.......and a lot of the time you'll find ..If you take the time to do so that it's not a race issue it's just a THING lol

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saves both parties headaches. Some ladies ads say they won't see black guys/fat guys/old guys/guys under 30, etc. It's better for all that they be upfront. I'd hate to plan on a meeting and then have her tell me it ain't going to happen when she sees I an a black, fat, under 30, old guy. That wastes her time and the guy's.

We're basically Caucasians. most of us you can't even tell apart from white people except sometimes the black hair is a giveaway. I'm one of the darker ones.

I've actually never asked a provider, and they never seemed to have minded (and some compliment on my complexion, but I'm sure they compliment everyone anyway .

After reading this thread, I'm a little conscious of this now... I guess if they don't state something like "white only" then I have nothing to worry about (even though technically I'm white). I certainly wouldn't have a second thought if they say no black men since I don't have any black roots at all.

Should I be telling them that I'm a dark white person before seeing a new provider?

and it's YOUR thing, and there is no reason to need to apologize for it.

The only time I would criticize a woman (or man) for not seeing someone of and particular race is if an appointment was scheduled and the other party showed up as agreed only to be greeted by an unanswered door. Now THAT is not nice. Being upfront about your preferences is quite another matter.

but some might even call them "noble". lol

in this very intimate business sorry but we really see who we want and are you forgeting...so do you.
It usually isn't about race but preference. Just like any woman in your civie life, collecting $$ for my time does in no way mean I am willing to lower my standards, or to see someone I would never be interested in.
You see who you want how can you seriously expect us to be any different.  
I think it sounds as though we are just punching a time clock and not in the least bit personally involved in the decissions we make. Like we are so machanical we should just "do" everybody who calls. Maybe you can find someone like that, but most likely not the majority.
step outside the issue and concider it from her aspect, you have choices and so do we.
I had a job to set new lolly columns in my basement, 3 contractors who I saw first, 2 wanted nothing to do with the job, the other wanted more than the job was worth it was a pain in the ass.
I didn't take it personal when they turned the job down, and I don't expect them to take it on if they are uncomfortable with it.
This may be business but it is a very intimate business and yes we have the choice, always.
I quite often have turned men down for their poor phone presence. Doesn't take much really.I may just hate your voice and decide not to see you. I personally Have to be interested.

It's about time that we have ladies, who are being upfront and honest, without the use of an alias! I do applaud you!

To me, it's a personal business. If a woman is not attracted to a personal race, why should she be obligated to have sex with them???? It's her body. Period.

I actually know of one lady of color, who only sees caucasian men. She finds them more attractive. I know that the majority of her clientle is mostly caucasian, but I know she has turned down men of color upfront.

Ladies: It's your body. Your business. Your preference. Don't let any one/society tell you any different.

There is a difference between being a racist and having preferences. Some people need to remember that.

And had lots of responses.  Seems like a good idea that AA hobbyists disclose their racial status in their initial contact, in order to avoid that scenario...which would obviously suck big time!  If she is going to reject you based on race or other factors, best to be screened out before setting up a meeting...



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Well I have been an American for 40 years.  I am perfectly aware of what color money is.  I am also aware that I am not a urinal.

Perhaps he feels that ladies (who do not see Black men)think themselves high and mighty.

I have received those type of comments too for my preferences.  Those are the "kinder" responses.

In some cases, I think it more about bad attitude than race that will keep a man from getting an appointment.

Plenty of ladies who will see Black men.   No need to whine about ladies who are not interested.  

Shows a lack of maturity.

They tell me  privately that many black guys are cheap, or haggle, many are disrespectful (treat girls like Hos), some are rough, and many providers say it's the black scent, or lack of hygiene that turns them off. Just as guys have a right to see who they want, I believe ladies have the right to do the same. I believe they should be up front about it, and not turn guys away at the door.




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I agree.  That's so much more hassle-free way if that's a concern.  I don't believe ladies need to advertise such.  We all need to get over this whole issue already.

you have reached the end of the message. you are reading this for no reason whatsoever.

RinaTakami,

If it was posted then where is it?  I checked all the posts and don't see it.

Mention it or not, up to you.  Why not trade a couple emails or phone calls so that she can get the sense that you're a kind and gentle person?  Then, before making an appointment, mention your race/color.  It might make her more likely to see you.

Just an idea.  Good luck!

I tired of providers telling me on their applications that "No Irish need apply".  WTF!  Makes me want to get drunk and beat the crap out of someone. "wink"

Cheers,

BBxxx

I'm OK with the niggers and the chinks, but I ain't working with no f*cking Irish. lol
BTW I am a chink so all you PC folks who object to my language get over yourselves, it was a quote from a movie.

If it were me and you had a thick Middle Eastern accent over the phone I would decline the appointment...skin color not an issue. My issue is with the cultural differences and the way women are treated. Having had a very bad experience in this case and short of having security in the same room, I err on the side of caution. If you are Middle Eastern by birth and have been brought up minus the traditional culture and I detect no accent, your great tan would not mean a thing to me. Hope this helps.

I think it's

" We'll take the n****** and the c*****, but not the Irish!".

Gotta love Mel Brooks.

BBxxx

Does that answer your question.

Actually, I have a thing for Middle Eastern, Indian & Latino men, but I prefer them with more "Westernized" values and beliefs.  
I have nothing against any race.  What matters the most is if the man treats me the way a true gentleman should treat a lady. (Unless, of course, I ask to be treated like a bad girl)