Perhaps providers make that choice because they just aren't attracted to someone of a particular race. It's not that big of a deal to me (and I'm not caucasian btw).

I'm actually glad when providers state that they won't see a person of a particular race. It saves me the time and inconvenience of asking her. I have nothing against those women.

Perhaps he feels that ladies (who do not see Black men)think themselves high and mighty.

I have received those type of comments too for my preferences.  Those are the "kinder" responses.

In some cases, I think it more about bad attitude than race that will keep a man from getting an appointment.

Plenty of ladies who will see Black men.   No need to whine about ladies who are not interested.  

Shows a lack of maturity.

you have reached the end of the message. you are reading this for no reason whatsoever.

Mention it or not, up to you.  Why not trade a couple emails or phone calls so that she can get the sense that you're a kind and gentle person?  Then, before making an appointment, mention your race/color.  It might make her more likely to see you.

Just an idea.  Good luck!

If it were me and you had a thick Middle Eastern accent over the phone I would decline the appointment...skin color not an issue. My issue is with the cultural differences and the way women are treated. Having had a very bad experience in this case and short of having security in the same room, I err on the side of caution. If you are Middle Eastern by birth and have been brought up minus the traditional culture and I detect no accent, your great tan would not mean a thing to me. Hope this helps.

Actually, I have a thing for Middle Eastern, Indian & Latino men, but I prefer them with more "Westernized" values and beliefs.  
I have nothing against any race.  What matters the most is if the man treats me the way a true gentleman should treat a lady. (Unless, of course, I ask to be treated like a bad girl)

Re: Applauding those ladies who are upfront!

It's about time that we have ladies, who are being upfront and honest, without the use of an alias! I do applaud you!

To me, it's a personal business. If a woman is not attracted to a personal race, why should she be obligated to have sex with them???? It's her body. Period.

I actually know of one lady of color, who only sees caucasian men. She finds them more attractive. I know that the majority of her clientle is mostly caucasian, but I know she has turned down men of color upfront.

Ladies: It's your body. Your business. Your preference. Don't let any one/society tell you any different.

There is a difference between being a racist and having preferences. Some people need to remember that.

Well I have been an American for 40 years.  I am perfectly aware of what color money is.  I am also aware that I am not a urinal.

They tell me  privately that many black guys are cheap, or haggle, many are disrespectful (treat girls like Hos), some are rough, and many providers say it's the black scent, or lack of hygiene that turns them off. Just as guys have a right to see who they want, I believe ladies have the right to do the same. I believe they should be up front about it, and not turn guys away at the door.




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I agree.  That's so much more hassle-free way if that's a concern.  I don't believe ladies need to advertise such.  We all need to get over this whole issue already.

I'm OK with the niggers and the chinks, but I ain't working with no f*cking Irish. lol
BTW I am a chink so all you PC folks who object to my language get over yourselves, it was a quote from a movie.