Why bother exactly if it disturbs you?

I just think that they must suck at screening clients so badly that they have to use stereotypes and whatnot to try and stay safe.

when I see the words "no black gents" or other similar line in the introduction or ad of a provider.  Everyone has a right to her/his tastes, but this seems more than that and I still don't get it.  I know I am risking being sleeping enduringly boring, but I would very much appreciate any explanations one would care to give.

is racism/bigotry/ignorance gift wrapped in claims of "personal preference" and "safety" and that Black men are seen as monolithic and white men are seen as indiivduals.  
   
 The long answer (which may give you a run for your money on the boredom prize):  
   
 I want to preface this by saying I'm writing about white women who have this policy, as that's what I feel I can speak to. It isn't my place to speak about why providers of color might have the same policy.  
   
 There is a long history of myths around black male sexuality and how it pertains to white women. Lynchings were justified by claims a Black man did anything from look at a white woman to raping her; Black men have historically been portrayed as animals coming for the prized white woman. It's an idea that's still pervasive today and rears its head in the benevolently racist "bbc" genre of porn.  
   
 While much of that was propagated by white men, white women don't exactly have a history of fighting for equality, either. A faction of the suffragette movement based their argument off the fact that Black men weren't actually people (sticking to the Three Fifths Compromise well past the end of slavery) and shouldn't have been given the vote before white women were.  
   
 Statistics show that white women are more likely to be harmed by a white man than a man of any other race and, if you look at the men who specifically harm sex workers, especially in large numbers, you will see a lot of white faces. But white women still cling to the idea that not seeing black men will somehow be safer, and whether it is conscious or not, I think it is tied to this awful, enduring legacy of thinking that Black men are an inherent physical threat to white female bodies.  
   
 Something that is sometimes given as a reason is that there are clients who won't see women who see Black men. Which always makes me wonder: would the women who are ok with that and use a "no Black men" policy to attract those clients be ok with seeing a skinhead in Jackboots talking about race traitors? Just because a bigot is clean cut and in a suit doesn't mean he is any less vile (or less violent).  
   
 I think providers should see or not see whoever they want, but I also think those who have racist policies should just be honest about their prejudice instead of hiding behind the "I need to protect my precious white body" or "I'm not just not attracted to black men! No offense!" claims. I have yet to meet a provider who is attracted to 100% of her white clients and yet somehow they get in the door.  
   
 I also think when the discussion comes up, people need to stop giving women who have this policy a pass. Calling someone out on shoddy logic and racist thinking doesn't mean they have to change their policy or start seeing people they don't want to see. It just means you're taking away their ability to blame Black men for the provider's bigoted ideas.  
   
 An excellent example of this is Maggie McNeill, who has somehow risen to be a leader in the sex worker rights movement despite her deeply racist (and just plain idiotic) article on this very topic (linked below). White activists who have fits about people not seeing sex workers as equals just don't seem to have an issue with one of their leaders using pseudo science, revisionist history and tokenism to both justify her own issues and make the manifestation of centuries of deeply embedded hatred somehow be the fault of Black men (Yet she asks the reader to suspend their ideas about Southern racism....oh. Ok.).  
   
 Her constant use of "they" is nauseating and her line of thinking that her experiences and the experiences of a Black provider are the same is exceptionally tone deaf. Having grown up in New Orleans, I feel comfortable asserting that there are plenty of white men there who would be less than ideal clients. But there's no article about that, because white men are presumed to be individuals who are good clients until proven otherwise.  
   
 Anyone who holds Black men to the standard of "well-spoken" and acts as if she is doing Black men a favor by letting them touch her lily white skin should not be the face or voice of any movement that is fighting for equality, and yet....and yet. White women turn an eye because it's rude to insult individual preferences and call people racist - but it's not rude to make reference to the "typical Black man".  
   
 I've had Black clients tell me that they've shown up for dates and women have refused to open the door for them once they saw what race they are; I get emails asking if I see Black men. That is deeply, deeply messed up. No white man has ever emailed me to say "Hi, I'm a member of the race that is most likely to rape and/or kill you. Are you willing to see me?" because white men don't even have to *think* about their race, since white is seen as the default in America.  
   
 I don't see these policies going away and providers are going to see who they want to see, whether their logic on who is safe and who isn't is sound or not. But I do think we can stop acting like these policies are anything other than what they are: white women relying on the pedestal society has put them on in regard to Black men to justify their prejudices.

The only provider that i know has this restriction was because she was being harassed by black pimps and felt threatened.

I've never had this policy, but have encountered many providers who do.  
   
 With a few, it was because their S.O. didnt want them to see AA clients. The majority of these were black men themselves.  
   
 A couple of AA providers I've known wouldn't see black clients; one them never said why while the other was very vocal about simply hating all black men.  
   
   
 However, of the majority of women I've known with this policy, the most common reasons I heard for it  were  (in order of frequency):  
   
 They're cheap and always try to get more than the lady has on offer.  
   
 They have a funky smell down there.  
   
 More likely to complain about using protection and/or attempt to get/TAKE bbfs.  
   
 Classy, wealthy white clients don't want to see providers who see AA men. (Yes, some men won't see providers who entertain black clients, but I wouldn't call them classy lol)  
   
 And (my personal favorite).....they really like black men to the point where they ONLY date black men in their personal lives, and they don't want to blur the lines.  
   
   
   
 All but the last were obviously broad generalizations, stereotypes, that frequently had little or nothing to do with each lady's own personal experiences. They just had these notions in their heads. Or used those reasons to hide real racism and/or fear. However you wanna slice it, the result is still the same. 😀  
   
 Does that help any? Knowing the "why" in this case, still hasn't led to any real understanding for me, if you get my meaning.    
   
   
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When I decided to get into this business and started researching, I was shocked at how many websites had such wording. My very first client was AA, and I absolutely couldn't have asked for a better first experience!! Any subsequent dates with AA men have all been fantastic too. I just couldn't imagine trying to decide what type of client a man is going to be by race, national origin, or any other superficial characteristic.  
   
 I think I probably take it a little more personally than most because I have had serious relationships out side of my race (Chinese and AA), and have seen the racism that goes along with how people treat you as a couple. The way some bigot would glare angrily at my partner, is something that angers and haunts me to this day.