My porn addiction affects no one, but myself. I don't leave work to go home and watch porn.

that they don't like seeing millennials because they grew up on internet porn jacking off and have desensitized their dicks to the point that they can only finish with a vigorous HJ.  The problem is that most women don't have as strong a grip as a man, so its not enough pressure, and these guys often have finish themselves off at the end of the session.  Meanwhile, you have 30yo's that can't stay hard from BJ's and intercourse.  Yet another reason why Providers gravitate to a preference for older gentlemen (so its not just the deeper pockets).  In our day, you had to BUY porn movies, so unless your dad was a collector, most young guys couldn't afford to watch it.  Super-8 anyone?  Even when VHS came out with porn, the videos cost twice what a first run feature movie would cost.  

"My IRL BF is shooting blanks recently and you know it cant be because of me (look at my pics...I am so hot!) so it has to be something he is doing wrong or too much."

Really good F-F porn can be hot, but it has to be, well, really good.

It's possibly a problem with younger guys who haven't really had much experience with women.  Any guy with a reasonable amount of experience has ridden through performance lows and has developed techniques to overcome them in most cases.  

Used to watch porn got into the hobby and now I hardly watch any porn. Now if I do its so I will last a little longer but I am starting not even to have to do that as I am getting better control.

Harder to finish has nothing to do with porn.If you factor most of it, is in the head, appearance,  performance, looks, hygiene, connection, time, kungfu or kegel grip, etc...

At porn that is unusual such as peeing or rimming and I used to look at a lot of stuff from the Netherlands.  I do not think I have a hard time finishing if I am getting a BBBJ or fucked bareback.  I am only a one shot guy at my age though.  I love at least talking about my darkest kinkiest fantasies with certain providers I get to know.

I watch porn semi-regularly.  Probably 3-4 times a week, and I've noticed that when I'm trying to get off and find myself bored from the videos that what pushes me over the edge is a thought of a really hot sexual experience I've had in the past.  It wasn't really as much a move, or a physical sensation.  It could be something as simple as the way she looked at me, or the sound of her voice  Her enthusiasm and "need" for having more of me that was so erotic that there was no control that I could exert any longer.

I have been watching porn since back in the day when a first run feature on VHS cost around $100 and rentals were $5 a day.  My first addiction was to Traci Lords and I was hooked.  With the advent of Internet porn and the readily available material for any imaginable way to fuck or fetish I found myself satisfying many a curiosity.  I have ebbed and flowed over the years as to the amount of simply viewing vs viewing for "me" time from just a couple times a week to daily.  On occasion I think it has affected my performance in real time either in civvie or hobby life.  Moreso however I think I have learned a few things, found more ways to explore my sexuality and overall enjoyed porn.  I stay away from hard core, truly disgusting and heavily mysoginistic material and am drawn to the more passionate, romantic and erotic lovemaking stuff (am particularly drawn to edging at this exact moment).  Am I addicted, probably, because I don't think I could stop completely but I have come to a place where, in my opinion and experience, it is consumed in moderation and enhances more than diminishes my sex life.  

At one time I would watch it frequently, but nowadays very infrequently.  Much of that is on account of how the porn sites often screw up my computer.

...Plus some of us are more into participating vs. watching. When I'm horny, my go to sites are P411 & TER to see who wants to play.

I am happy there is porn.

...six providers and I have only finished once. Before I started seeing SW's I was watching porn to finish 4-5 times a week
for the last six years consistently. Now maybe once a week. I have always had trouble finishing including IRL. I have been with 7 women in real life. I finished with only 3 of those women. Two were one night stands. I'm 46 and married at age 29. Still married. What I need is familiarity, so I fully expect to finish when I repeat with some of the SW's I intend to see again. Also what gets me is if I am attracted to the woman. Even in porn - they can be going at it all sorts of ways - really hot, but if I am not attracted to the woman it doesn't get me off. As and example who gets me every time, is anyone familiar with Mariah Shane? She was active in amateur porn in Montreal in 2003. Her videos aren't even that great, but she is hot hot hot! Oh and it doesn't hurt that she could DT all day long without gagging (I don't like gagging porn).  

I forgot to mention that my problem with finishing I put down mainly to condoms....so yes it is a sensitivity issue to some degree, but not entirely.

yes, and,

except,
 everyone is on information/stimulation overload  
 and wanting that instant gratification.

When I first got into this hobby, internet access was charged per minute, and I got my porn from the adults only section of the video rental store. Back then, occasional masturbation seemed to be good for me. No premature ejaculation, and I lasted long enough with some women to get them off from intercourse.

That is why I LoVE dirty talk and visuals. Sure sex is fun bit what really gets me of is getting into the head of the person I am fucking and running with it. I was a porn addict myself but found for me it was the stimulus that got me off. The taboo of being caught I guess. Now porn is lame and to fake for me. Plus once you see it being filmed live...it kind of ruins it.  Lol

my bank account is full again.. that's all..  
I understand exactly what you are saying.. but for me... that's the purpose... I would much rather see a real person..

After reading the replies it seems that some folks think that watching porn and masturbating desensitizes a guy so he can't finish.

Your NOT alone man.
I struggled with "why" I was not getting off with the hot providers. One was just fucking smoking HOT and in the 3 visits with her I never got off. The 3rd was so bad that she literally laid there. That's when I figured it out and was kinda pissed. I nailed it deep and hard just ramming her internal organs. I'm sure walking was difficult for her the next day.
Then I scheduled with a less attractive lady.
She APPEARED to be into it. Her enthusiasm had me blow my load in just the BBBJ.  

but perhaps that is because I rarely if ever watch it. The only time I do watch it is when someone posts a link to a porn site and I follow the link. I never just choose of my own volition to watch porn as all it does for me is make me want the real thing.

I can imagine that being the case.

That is very true. I am so turned on by seeing the pleasure of a woman. I enjoy giving as much or more.
In fact my favorite porn right now is watching cam girls getting pleasure from the ohmybods and other toys and having incredible orgasms.

"...just ramming her internal organs. I'm sure walking was difficult the next day". You are a real prince of a guy.

-- Modified on 2/20/2017 5:16:12 AM

I was nothing but a complete gentleman UNTIL she just laid there.
I also fire employees when they don't do the job I pay them for.
I just have a unique way of terminating hookers who don't do their job I guess.

I like the way you think. My gf has put on some weight since moving in with me last year, so she might find it threatening to watch porn with me right now, though that was something that we did a couple of times early in the relationship. My atf (who looks very similar to you) is pretty open-minded and would probably give it a try for my sake.

Ever tried using the female condom?  I hear it doesn't suffocate the willy as much as the traditional male variant.

Maybe get started with some facts or studies on the topic. I have not idea if what you're saying is true in any medical sense or if it's more one of the folk theories or urban legends. I have read this topic in these forums before but have to wonder where the underlying claims are really coming from. Not staying they are unsupported just wondering if anyone has really looked into it or if we keep passing the same assumptions around as facts.

BTW. If I went to costa rica it would be a marriott resort.

It's one of the few sports where everybody can be a winner?  Where's my Super-Fuck Bowl ring?!

As for staying at a Marriott in Costa Rica, it would not be my first recommendation, unless of course you only plan on spending time with one chica. Los Suenos is beautiful Marriott resort property just outside of "Playa de Jaco", and a great place to take a date,  but I still prefer to stay at the Co Cal where all the action is.

Your post has a couple of dozen reads, I bet you it's also generated about a dozen women putting you on their personal DNS list.

Putting me on that list is an unforeseen benefit.
Those would be the ones who don't do their job.

For me, watching porn helps me release some frustration (pun intended) and has decreased my pockets to certain extent.  Not from buying, because you really don't need to buy porn nowadays as it is free.  But if I have a specific urge and I see a provider that resembles someone that I have wanted to see on film, then I go see her.  One of the first ladies I saw was Austin Taylor, back in the CL days.  Instead of quenching my thirst, it just made me more hungry.  So in a sense I can say that porn has been more beneficial than harmful.  I wouldn't say that I am addicted to porn because unless you are missing work, school, meetings, etc. I don't think it is that harmful.  Everyone needs a little me time, even the most gorgeous woman in the world has a dude that she's with that would rather beat off to another gorgeous woman in private lol.  Thems just the facts.  Nothing wrong, disturbing, harmful, or problematic with knowing what pleases yourself.  As far as not being able to finish, that has never been a problem for me.  If the lady is hot and game enough, I haven't had any problem in that department.  

You are more than just a few tweaks away from a healthy outlook on our little hobby.  

I can't imagine what was going on to make her just lay there, can you?

Maybe a few nights at caco then the Marriott?

WOW!! Man I never realized the younger guys had these types of issues!! (And how much OD'ing on porn has contributed to it--SCARY!!) I'm thankful I never graduated to more than being (to this day) an occasional connoisseur of "adult cinema" LOL!! To me it's always been a nice "supplement" to have on hand once in awhile. I feel bad in a way for these young dudes---it's like their sex life is already fucked up by the early 20's!! Very sad!!

DAMN! This really is frightening---(And so sad---these young guys might never know the beauty of sensual lovemaking---which is honestly never depicted in porn!!)

unless I'm jerking off, although I might watch a little during a session. You know, a companionship thingy.  

I didn't mention in my last email that I too have a problem with you attitude towards a date that didn't go well.
But I do have a problem with that.
For me I am paying for companionship. The sex is freely entered into - I am not owed sex. Good or bad.
My attitude once the clothes come off and how I treat the woman will determine if the experience is good or bad.

Physically "punishing" hookers who aren't as good at acting as you might like just makes you a punk.

Not sure why you'd fall for an obvious locker room brag.  Ladies can pop babies out of those things.  Many a guy claims to have really pounded it.  And the ladies are being like -- what?  I could barely feel it.

It's true that even if you have a "coke can" dick, it's still not as girthy as a baby, but if a guy of even slightly more than average length angles himself to pound a woman's cervix, he can make it quite unpleasant for her.

Wow...I have no words, other than I have a deep level of sympathy for the women in your life, paid or otherwise.

I think we all got distracted by the sensitivity issue whereas I think the majority of us have said that is not an issue and some of us have said now we know better how to bring ourselves to orgasm.

Internet porn AND internet dating sites are the downfall for the younger generation. The younger guy's don't get the chance to learn how to seduce a woman anymore, no idea on real intimacy.

To be fair though, the average girl has a lot easier access to sex than the typical man.  Most girls I know could just walk in a bar, point at almost any guy and take them home with little effort, lol.

Took you advice and found the link below among all the hits Google will spit out.

Posted By: AlliLux

There are countless articles containing  studies that have been done to support the theory.  
 It is most common in the younger community that grew up with online access to it but it has been found in all ages too.  
 Again, this is regarding folks that watch it to an extreme level. Not the casual watch and wank

You claim to be in a Siberian waste land. Somewhere in east bumble fuck Texas, but that's irrelevant really.
You also boast of fucking thousands of women living in this dust bowl.............
You also have no reviews.
Your contribution to this website is basically being a internet bully, but this site is "review" based which you don't contribute. but want street cred and bully others if they live life differently than you.  
How about you contribute to the basic premise of this board rather than be some all knowing big penis porn star that belittles all that don't adhere to your hooker values.
Dude, you are a fucking little boy living in some trailer in east fucking bumble fuck Texas that hides behind a keyboard judging others.
You know NOTHING more than the five lines I've written to form your USELESS judgment.  
Did you ever for fucking once consider it was a PSE subordinate prearranged appointment? No, you fucking are the all knowing fucking GOD with NO REVIEWS that judges others on little to no facts.
Please , where are your reviews to support this board and help other mongers ?
Where are they?
Hypocrite !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There could be many reasons. One of the many reasons I stopped doing 1 hours, and even 90 minutes.

Yes. I have had too many instances of not finishing because of too much porn. Its a clear cycle. I watch and get off a lot on porn (daily for a week), look at TER reviews, make and go out on a "date" and can't finish.  And, it doesn't matter how beautiful or talented the provider is. Other times, when I don't use porn, I can finish too quickly!
We can use too much Porn, and like any mind-altering drug, we build tolerance that typical sex doesn't satiate.  
Porn often leads to objectification of women, unrealistic expectations, and delusions. Its such a control thing for me too.
The article you referenced is spot.
I have much better sexual experiences with providers when I don't use porn often.

duly noted. I will try you theory.
I will try to abstain from porn this week as I have one of the best dates ever scheduled for Friday!

You can have the real thing.  Been w two "porn stars" and both were a let down. Not sure what I was expecting, but you regular girls are way better than the actresses.
Watching porn is like watching the travel channel and never getting to go there.  
And oh by the way I still don't come at a moments notice. Just don't feel like I need to hurry before the parents come home

Where is this guys reviews ?
That is after all the BASIC premise of this fuck board is it not ? The basic reason for this board and he ignores that simple fact.
He is a little boy that understands the QWERT keyboard while his parents are working.
He enjoys putting down people while not even contributing to the BASIC premise of this site.
Why people give him the time of day when he regergetates verbal shit without one single review is beyond me.
He is a little boy, without merit, hiding behind a internet keyboard.
Has any of his claims to fucking thousands of women to unnatural multiple mind blowing orgasms been proven ? No, ................. Who fucking cares, but his and Donald Trumps ego.
Dude, take your pathetic ego somewhere else as you cant bully me at least.
Why don't you contribute reviews which are the basic premise of this site ?
Please answer the questions and avoid any Kellyanne Conway diversion tactics.
Why do you judge others but cant contribute reviews to help others ?  Your diversion tactics shall be comical im sure ....................

And pulling it out when you notice signs of him struggling to finish?
I tried that recently & was fascinated at how he turned into a completely different person.

could do that too when we were younger.  With no internet in our youth, we had to learn to seduce a woman face to face, with words, gestures and body language.  When I was in my 20's and single, it was not uncommon for me to walk out of a club with a hot girl in less than an hour.  In fact, my six guy friends and I that went to the same club Friday nights would do a pool for $20 apiece where the guy that picked up a girl and took her home first got the pool.  Sometimes the winner was out in ten minutes taking a girl home.  One guy would follow the winner home to verify the girl entered her apartment/house with him.  He collected the pot the next Friday as we pitched in for the next one.  I had my share of wins and I wasn't the best looking in the group.  Its called having "game."

is the same way the farm boys were with the sheep, so none of them had any social skills with women.  For those that are interested in sheep, slide their hind legs inside the front of your boots and they can't walk away from you until you're finished fucking them. Tip of the day from one of my farmer friends.

I think that part of it is desentizing by doing it too much.  Another big part is that women can orgasm multiple times much easier than men.  Most guys get one or two when they're young, maybe a rare three but as long as your good together the woman will just keep on cumming, it's crazy for a man to see that, hot and confidence building but still crazy.  Then the woman, a lot of times will call a guy out like you just did by making this thread even if it just seems like a simple question.  Now there's more pressure and even responsibility on the man to orgasm which of course makes it harder to orgasm.  Communication is good but sometimes you can bring a guy down by asking about it.  It's normal, just let him know in other ways that you want to make him orgasm and he will appreciate that and make an effort, without the pressure, to do so.

like him or not, that is not the point.  
He's playing the game on another level than you.

that is awesome

At 48 I was routinely having sex with a dozen different women in a single weekend. This poor sap hadn't even had sex a dozen times at age 48. No wonder he hates women and anyone who has had success with women.  

It was really fun & I was fascinated with the response.

It a brand new hotel casino located at the south end of Jaco Beach. It's about a mile or so south of the Co Cal, it's a "family place" but you can bring a chica there as long as she doesn't look or act like a puta.

that you have any "farmer friends."  
😊

LA that was originally all orange groves, like most of SoCal, which gradually, area by area became the suburbs.  Some of the orange farmers kept limited livestock as well, and I went to school and hung out with some farmer kids.  Fewer farmer friends now, but know a few through my business.  If you want to verify it, try the trick with the sheep's hind legs.  It works.  Haven't done it myself, but saw it when I was a teen.  

Yep, figured your dumb ass would pull a Kelley Conway and divert from the subject .
Pretty pathetic that you spent time to review my posts as that one is 4 or 5 pages back from 2014.
You had to spend quite a bit of time to find it......................
Again, I don't see the correlation to this post but then again your diverting like Conway.
Change the subject and try to convince others that it has relevance to the original topic.

I don't review because I don't want to, but if you want to talk about credibility, how about if you go get enough reviews to qualify for the "Reviewers only" Board, do a message search on that board and then try to figure out why the guy (me) with ZERO reviews has at least a couple of dozen posts on that board. When you figure out how I was allowed on the RO board when a proud reviewer like yourself is not granted access, feel free to get back to me.

"Hello?  Yes, is this the police?  I'm calling because I'd like to report A FUCKING MURDER!"  

I would not be surprise that a correlation is present -- its causation I'm wondering about.  If it's really just about a simple stimuli response that gets to the point where the stimulus simply fails to stimulate then I would think these people would largely become uninterested in sex -- it's just no longer fun for them (the mental please never pans out). That that doesn't mess with the general ideas about ED.

You really are a pathetic idiot.

Put down the pipe man..........
You make no sense.

Trump likes to constantly tell us how fucking incredible he is as well. you sir are fucking incredible !
Who the fuck cares (except you) how many woman you've fucked. Why is this fucking relevant, but YOU ALWAYS like to make a point of it - WHY, to stroke your ego to show us how great you are.
Please tell us more about what a great lover and the thousands of whores you've fucked! All of which beg you to fuck them off the clock I'm sure.
PLEASE, we bow to your greatness and live our lives to CONSTANTLY hear of your incredible manliness.................
Dude your mother has called for your bedtime so put away your Gameboy and go to sleep now.
Thanks for ALWAYS, YES ALWAYS, telling us how many woman you've slept with.......I'm Twelve years old and think you are pretty cool !
Please stroke your ego some place else dumbass.
No reviews ..................
No cred on this website ass hat!

I doubt you think much as you would realize that he'd be the last to go. He gave you a hint to let you know he is a somebody, dummy. I wouldn't be surprised to find you moderated, suspended for a time out, or never heard from again.  

That's awesome that you figured some things out together!  Understanding your partner, in a hobby or a romance, is a beautiful thing.  It's a constant struggle, just like anything.  Keep at it and find ways to make it work, that's love and I'm jealous lol.

It reminds me of when the cats catch a lizard and  
 then just play with it  
  til only the dismembered tail wiggles on the floor  
   for the last little bit of entertainment.

Watching porn is okay.  Watching porn with your lover can be fun.  Masturbating too much whether watching porn or not can affect you ability to keep a nice hard erection or even ejaculate.  It, in my opinion, comes from de-sensitization. You get used to your own rhythm, hand, pressure, speed and it does not feel the same when you are actually having sex.  I like to take my time and feel like I'm enjoying the experience.  I like to see and watch what is going on.  I like to see a lady give me a nice BJ or watch as I take her doggy and her tits bounce.  I really like to look into a ladies face and watch the expressions as she enjoys herself or I eat her pussy.  I like threesome with two ladies. It is a turn on to just watch them make love to each other.  If you take a break from the chronic masturbation and give it a rest it will come back.  I like to watch porn before a date.  No masturbating, just getting me in the mood.  And condoms are necessary but they are highly de-senisitizing.  It definitely takes away from the feeling.  Get your lady to try female condoms.  They are awesome.  And if you have to take Viagra then fine.  Viagra was discovered as a result of a side effect of a medicine that was being researched for heart conditions.  Men in the trial noticed they were getting and maintaining stiffer erections for longer.  That is because it allowed the flow of blood to increase in the muscle tissue around the cock.  But if you loss some weight or work out and improve blood flow and cardio and lung health you can greatly improve your love life too.  So watch porn if you want or if you don't then great. I sometimes like to find a porn star that looks as close to my date and imagine it was her.  And if you have a significant other or lady who will let you take pics or film it can be a big turn on.  The issue is that it is solvable!

Yes, and have you ever heard a woman say that can be painful?  

This is absolutely a real thing. My very first session ever, the provider VERY generously stayed with me long overtime because it took me so long to finish.

You are so ignorant it's pitiful. And you REALLY have shown the board what your real personality is like! You are no gentleman, you may USE politeness to get in the door. But you are one angry POS.

-- Modified on 2/22/2017 4:08:12 PM

in a very aggressive way. What a punk.

totally an undone angry dude you are!

Guys addicted to porn expect women to act like porn stars in bed, that is maybe why they hire providers. My first time with a provider felt like I was in a porn movie, considering many of the services she provided, many civilian girlfriends did not do. It might not be about the porn addiction part, but the way the guy masturbates. Since a vagina feels differently than a hand, add in a condom, and suddenly it does not feel as tight.