For me it is around $4000 or 12 appointments.  I find that with those numbers we get too familiar with each other and take each other for granted.

I collect data and store in my spreadsheets for that past 14 years. Just went back and looked at the data for what I am seeing in my hobby habits.

I don't recall how many of those times was as a provider though. Our relationship has evolved from provider/client, to SD/SB to BF/GF to something along the lines of friends with benefits. lol

Just like with most things in my life, there are no hard and fast rules on this for me. Some providers are a "one and done" type of proposition, others I see many times.

if you need a spreadsheet to keep track of your escapades, you have more issues than realized. who the hell does that? can't you just say, "this week I need to save money, so I will wait until next week to get my dick sucked?"  

Create those spreadsheets for them so they can also be aware that they are sick and tired of seeing some john.  They may not realize it until they have the data.

any provider letting a client see my info is DNS. that's just plain stupid. a screener provider is one thing, but a fucking john? no wonder no one wants to provide real info. you don't know who is seeing the shit.

I would see her again if she came back.

Ghostwriter is the dude doing screening.

And you wonder why the Professor never shagged Ginger? It wasnt b/c SHE didnt want to. I mean what choice did she have? Skipper was fat, Mr Howell was old and Gilligan was gay. But The Prof had no intertest in Ginger b/c he was always trying to figure out how to create a helicopter out of palm fronds.  

Lovey was dishing out the BBFS...and she was +45 and we all know that puts her in the mature category.  And certainly the other two are too young to know what to do.

She's in that age group that all the gals here claim the guys want to see but the TOP 100 is filled with girls mostly 35 and under, and more than half 30 and under. Stupid men.  Hmmm...I'll bet Lovey's eros ad said 49. lol. 30 years in a row.

No idea about the money, but I've seen here well over 70 times.  Don't see any reason to stop since we both have a great time each time.

To keep from overspending. If I don't keep records I will spend $3000 in one month before I notice. My average budget is $900-$1000 a month on the hobby.

I also have the spreadsheet records so I won't forget the write the review. I use the spread sheet to keep a minimum days between appointments. One tab lets me know the last date I have seen a provider. I try not to see to a provider in less than 5 days. Sometimes I can't help myself and see them back to back. I also restrict myself to seeing no more than 2 providers a week. I also try not to see a provider for at least 3 days after I have seen the wife, that does not always work.

How many of you married guys get it from your wife that often???

I think mr fisher has him beat, Time wise that is. I've heard him mention an ATF that goes back about 20 years.

That's the insane thinking that many auditors use as well  LOL

yep...the computer geek in Moneyball.

try a fucking cookie jar or show box. put your money aside for spending, and when you are out, you are out. it's not rocket science. if you can't control yourself, you need a shrink not a spread sheet  

Still another will have our tenth anniversary next year.

When I meet someone I like, I stick with them.  It's not just looks or performance.  Their personality, charm and integrity are all very important.

I think the real trick is not to get burned out by seeing them too much. About once every 8 to 10 weeks seems to work out very well.

we also only saw each other once every few months and it lasted for years. It only ended when one of my "friends" stole her from me. What you find hilarious is that it was one of my female friends that stole her, I had no idea that she "played for the other team" lol

I did have the last laugh though, what I had was a NSA Fuck Buddy, she never asked me for a dime like a SB, or dumped her emotional drama on me like a GF, she and I simply hooked up every few months for a day or two and fucked like rabbits. My "friend" who stole her from me ended up with the worst of all worlds, she too only saw her on occasion but she had a GF/GF real type relationship, she not only supported her financially, but got all those 3:00 AM phone calls looking for a shoulder to cry on. Poetic justice if I've ever seen it.lol

I like hearing this; I don't feel so odd or silly.

8 yrs with one local provider, but it would have been longer if she didn't retire.  I've seen 2 other providers for over 6 years, but since they live in other states, I don't get to see them as often.  As long as I enjoy the company of a particular provider as well as our BCD time and our feeling are mutual, I'll keep seeing her

I take out a certain and that is what I do. I don't use a cookie jar(envelope), but the concept is the same. I still keep records. So for  month that has 5 Sundays I just hobby 4 weeks in the month. I have some over from last week, so If wanted I can see three providers this week.

Emma, there are a lot of stories like that out there.   I've known my ATF a bit longer than that and lost track of how many times I've seen her.  It sure isn't broke!  It's not for everyone, but it works very well for us.

You think one night every couple months is what makes a wife?

A typical single appointment for me runs close to $4K...

Admittedly, I have my standards:  I like longer appointments in general, I often like to do duos, and I often like a kink experience mixed in with my GFE experience, which can sometimes make things a bit pricier--and I only go with TER indies, no agencies, nothing from CL or BP; so maybe I'm just automatically putting myself into a higher price range.

But really?  $4K?  As for number of appointments:  I don't know, I've seen several providers for a greater number of appointments than that.  If there's a genuine connection of some kind, and they push the right buttons for me, I don't know that there is a maximum number of appointments.

I understand the desire for variety, but there's nothing wrong with having your dependable ATF, is there?

It's obvious he plays on a different field than you do, but if he makes it to 12 appts. that is pretty damn good, actually. I get bored after about 5 with the same person, and I am getting paid for the shit.