Idk 🤷🏽‍♀️ about everyone else, but I find it very difficult.

maybe because you are so amazing ...  guys want to keep you to themselves    

From what I can see, you're doing very well. At 83 reviews, including 8 this year, and as someone who is a low volume provider, you are doing extremely well. Often, the hardest part is to break in when you are not established. You have the advantage of attracting customers who found you on TER, and thus provide a greater chance of reviewing you.

But it's not about the lack of reviews for yourself. Your clients seem to love you and that is what really matters.

If the review isn't glowing, more people are concerned about retaliation from providers. Including doxxing and other nasty behavior akin to a kindergartener who doesn't understand criticism, accountability and consumer rights.

a great idea working itself out of a job.  

If you think it is hard think about the providers who do not all ready have some.  First of all the large majority do not even know of TER . TER isn’t a major player in some areas of the country.  
I do feel that there is a hesitancy to write a review- especially the first one for someone.  In my case had over a dozen P411 OKs before I ever wrote a review here.  
The other thing is when talking about TER reviews many here will not see a provider who does not have reviews here and from respected reviewers hence the chicken and the egg.

I am eternally grateful for my repeated friends. I have heard several times their reviews are not being posted due to lack of details.,it takes time regardless. I am thankful for those who try, but why continue to attempt?

I don't disagree with your points about negative reviews. The possible fallout can be a deterent. I'm sure this impacts reviewers, especially if they don't have something nice to say. And yes, escorts mean they want positive, not negative reviews. Ironically, if I see an escort with mostly positive reviews and a very small number of less flatering reviews, I'm going to dig in more, and in the end might be even more inspired to see her because of what this tells me about the authenticity of her reviews.

If you mean digital trail as opposed to paper (ie money but since most pay in cash...) I agree, for sure.

Bia, I truly admire you from afar — your hard work is definitely paying off. I really enjoy the beautiful pictures you share on the discussion boards and the way you engage with TER members on so many topics. It feels like you know everyone here 😉 You’re clearly respected by many, and it’s easy to see why — you’re beautiful, smart, and strong!

Why do you guys continue to use the term "monger" when you are a client? The definition of the word is more in line if you were a pimp, not a client.

And Conan agrees "monger" is a misnomer, but he agrees with others that it is now part of our language and must be accepted. After all, it has been many years that those of us who frequent "filles de joie" are known as whoremongers. That's just the way it is and Conan urges you to accept it.

I always thought it's derivative from whoremonger, which - as far as I'm aware - is someone who likes to engage with hookers.  

We have a winner! This is the best explanation so far. Guys don’t leave reviews because a lot of providers have made it clear they don’t like reviews and they don’t want reviews. Then there are the providers that want reviews but lash out if the review contains any sort of feedback or criticism. Providers are simply getting exactly what they asked for.

My clients are my friends.

This is exactly my point, so I can battle getting my fake reviews removed, but my real reviews don’t get published. Why? 🤔 even after I whitelist these fellas. Hmhmhm things that make you go hmhmhm. 💭  

What explanation is TER giving these reviewers for their rejection of reviews?  Presently am seeing reviews published where the only add is from Listcrawler which I thought was a review site and it even allowed to be mentioned .  
Then see a number shill introductory reviews from the same group of reviewers getting published. Then someone reviewing you can not get a review posted.
Did you piss in somebodies  Cheerios?

It’s crazy because all the events are clearly listed….
BBBJ, GFE, DFK, CIM, Greek, so you need to go in details, but I read reviews all the time and some are bs that get posted with no problems.

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…and I have a simple rule - if i am not satisfied with the service, I will simply not leave a review. It is like someone asking you for a work reference and you saying “no, don’t use me.”

A "whoremonger" is someone who would promote the sale, i.e., a pimp. It has nothing to do with being politically correct, I am just surprised people keep using it in the wrong context on this board. A buyer of something would never be a monger. A "monger" is slang for someone who would sell or promote the sale of something, not a buyer.

I have had several guys tell me that the review they wrote for me was rejected. I am not going to ask guys to keep rewriting it. They have families and jobs to focus on, not a review of a sex worker. I thank them for attempting but that is all. It should not be more difficult to write a review of a sex worker and get it published than writing a college level paper on human sexuality. Are guys on this website more to find a real provider or are they looking for spank material? I was always thinking the former but maybe it is more the latter.

I found these two definitions:
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Dictionary.com
-someone who consorts with prostitutes.
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Collins Dictionary:  
1.  a man who associates with or uses the services of sex workers
2.  a pimp: also: ˈwhoreˌmaster

"a man who associates with or used the services of sex workers" is the preferred definition over pimp, which is listed as #2. The preferred definition is always listed first.

Since monger is akin to master or manager, it would appear it would mean a pimp. Ie, fishmonger is someone who trades fish and sells fish.  

It's hard to speak to the reviews, because there are many unanswered questions. I have rarely had any reviews I submitted rejected or contested, and when they were there were very clear reasons. And, each time I was able to correct them, resubmit them, and they got approved. I believe it's fairly simple if you follow the rules. Are they giving you any specific reasons? And, how do you know for 100% that your clients are being honest, since they are the reviewers, not you?

As a current college student we are always told to refer to the big *dick* Webster ......  

His work is truly never done, nor fully appreciated, here.

It's not difficult at all, especially when the provider already has a profile.
Between this alias and my handle, I've only encountered one question from TER in +13 years. It was my 2nd review,  and they actually pointed out that she was eligible for a higher score than I gave. I declined to make the change and the review was published as written.

When I was new, they would send them back from time to time and tell me they needed more detail. I have heard from new providers say that a brand new member to TER couldn't review her bc one of the two need to have a review history. This is news to me that reviews are getting rejected at this level for established providers. I wonder if it's possible the guy chooses not to write one, and then just tells the provider "it got rejected" as an excuse? idk.

Years and years ago i tried to post a review but they didnt let me give enough points for a brown shower and I didnt want to give a low score.

The only time I had a review flat out rejected was when I submitted a review for an escort that had no reviews. It turned out she was delisted. So, not really anything to do with what I wrote.

It is always the same reason, not enough "details". The entire state of Wisconsin gets maybe one or two new reviews posted a day. I pretty much take care of the top half of the state (NOT bragging, just no other providers) so clients in this area are seeing me or they have to go to Madison or Milwaukee to see someone else. Most of my clients would be "new" on TER as there are no other providers to write a review on. They have sent me screen shots, so I know they are submitting them. I am not going to tell them what to write to get it approved so I just let it go. Not a big deal.

Scarlet you really gonna refer to urban dictionary but ignore the fact that the bible translation five years ago used the term whoremonger to refer to those soliciting prostitutes?

WE "love to prove [we] are right and split hairs."
Pot/Kettle/Black much, dear?
Conan thanks you for the laugh!

God knows, I am a hair-splitter when it comes to English usage, and I'll be damned but you caught me red-handed using a word I picked up on these boards without really getting the meaning.  Shame on me!  But thank you.  More blades to split hairs with.

I guess that would be the key point. Do they take TERs denial and then follow their instructions, or do they punt and not bother to resubmit at that point? TER wants/needs new reviews or the site loses its purpose so they would only be hurting themselves by willy nilly disallowing legit reviews.  
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I am not arguing with you, but I just wonder what in the world is going on bc literally no one I know has this issue, and I know many guys in this realm.

I am not sure what you are asking me. Reviews get rejected all the time for not having enough "juicy details", this is probably the most common complaint I hear from guys for a review being rejected. Not everyone wants to give a thorough description of every spicy detail of the encounter. I would also never want someone to exaggerate as to what transpired either to get the review published or if they think I should get a higher score than what we did allows. I have said this before: the reviews need to be more yelp and less penthouse. I think that would greatly increase the amount of reviews but I also think more gals would come back and participate with that review structure.  

I post here because it is free advertising. As to why some of you guys live and breathe this website 24/7 it has yet to be determined......

He wonders why being endlessly combative -- especially after some playful joshing -- would attract any business?

Please be aware that if you identify as a monger, an ape, or a pumpkin ALL sexual orientations are supported and accepted on this website.

Why in the world would you think I am being combative? lol  What a very odd and farthest from the truth take. And this might surprise you, but many guys like to know a provider's personal takes on a lot of subjects and perspectives. Why you would assume having a discussion is "endlessly" combative is wild. If I have an alternative view point on something I will say it. If I have a similar viewpoint on something I will say that as well. Providers are humans, not just one dimensional creatures. Maybe time for some of the "mongers" on this board to understand that as well??  

Yes, there needs to be certain details, especially if you're rated higher than a 7 in service. I think most of us know anything above a 7 needs one for each number higher from the following list: BBBJ, DFK, Threesome, and Greek. But even a 7 needs some support that makes it clear sexual acts were involved. A review cannot simply say we met, she was nice, and we had a nice time, in so many words. This is okay for the top section which anyone can read. But the VIP section does require some level of detail.

I realize that any score, less than a 10 will negatively affect my score. Keep the brown shower reviews to yourself. TER is a vanilla site. I got 4 likes 👍🏽 on my double fisting 10/10 review. I was 1 😂  

When you criticize how often someone posts, you're essentially saying that your reasons for posting are more valid than theirs. Everyone engages with this board differently. Some people post frequently because they enjoy the interaction or have a lot to say. Some may just be bored. Others prefer to read more than they contribute, and some just lurk and never ever post at all.  
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All of the posting styles above are valid imo. Questioning how often someone chooses to post doesn’t really add anything to the discussion, and if anything, it discourages participation. I guess what I am getting at is why not just focus on the merits of an individuals posts rather than the frequency of them? Just my 2 cents.

I stopped caring about Miss TER a few years ago when I noticed a Admin selected a Miss TER who I went to high school with (she was early 60s at the time) and followed that up with a Miss TER who was morbidly obese. In fairness both had pretty good reviews. At that point I realized that there was something really wrong with the selection process. I guess I see Miss TER being part young beauty queen and part sex kitten/tiger, and those choices indicated to me that TER had a very different view.

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Speaking for myself, the term seemed to have always been used and if it works, why change it?  Even if I had questioned it, I doubt it would have kept me up at night nor caused me to double down so hard to prove once again that men are wrong in choosing what to call themselves or each other and the prostitute is right.  Odd hill to fight over but not completely a surprise.  Are you sure your correct on this or just more focused on establishing that the men are, one again, wrong?

But you aren't. You're posting here a metric fuckton too. And it's not just for free advertising, unlike some other providers.  

When someone has to resort to how much others post, especially given that the poster him/herself is a prolific one, it's usually pretty clear that the person lost the argument.

Providers doxxing guys when they don't agree with a review score makes me inclined to not write reviews. I witnessed this first hand when I visited a lady who outed a different client on social media because he wrote her a 7/7 review.

And the other post says how they saw a provider doxxing a client for a 7/7 review (which is way above average on TER scale)

The guy is a troll, he has never written a review positive or negative. If you see his history, he complains about women cancelling on him or not wanting to meet him. And he has strong opinions about the hobby before he even met a girl.

establishes the max score you are ELIGIBLE for, but the reviewer is under no obligation to give you the maximum score.  This part of the scoring is often misunderstood.  A provider might think that because her menu included DFK and BBBJ, she met the threshold for a 9, which she did, the final arbiter of the score awarded is up to the reviewer.  That's one of the downsides to have activity requirements to merely be eligible for a good score.  Without the DFK and BBBJ, your score would have maxed out at 7.  

It’s definitely not what I strive for, which is excellence. I have not received an 8 in performance in years. I go out of my way and do not entertain often. I cherish my adult fun time. Since I became a GFE & PSE provider by opening my menu the only time I got a low performance is because the person was disabled handicap not physically capable. 7 score performance he told me he gave me a higher score, but TER posted less. 🤷🏽‍♀️  

That sounds like vindictive narcissism to me (not a medical diagnosis - an opinion)....you can probably identify ladies like this on your appointment when you chat. Like real life people who have this disorder (?), they will love to talk about themselves, which in itself is unusual in this profession as the majority of ladies will not do that.  

From my experience, if TER feels your score doesn’t check the boxes, they simply won’t post it and send it back to the reviewer. The reviewer has 3 choices. Do nothing and the review doesn’t post. Add details that check the boxes and resubmit. Lower the score and resubmit. So, they can force your hand to lower the score because you don’t check the boxes, but I don’t think they are lowering it for you.

Just read the review written by what appears to be a totally satisfied client.  There is a possibility that said client ( the way written ) felt cover was applied by mouth before the BJ and sex . Also never stated tongue involved. Would have meant max score of seven. Or felt he had the BBJ but I’d not clearly state and it got sent back and rather then edit and submit again  dropped score.  
Lastly — possibly was posted as a nine and someone submitted a problem report and then TER changed as it did not meet scoring rules .

I’m just happy to be apart of this community. After 20+ years strong. I’ve had more good experiences than bad. I love TER! 💕 Regardless.  

Technically it's possible for some profiles, but you have to be very clever in how you search for it. So yeah I agree.