Just read the review written by what appears to be a totally satisfied client. There is a possibility that said client ( the way written ) felt cover was applied by mouth before the BJ and sex . Also never stated tongue involved. Would have meant max score of seven. Or felt he had the BBJ but I’d not clearly state and it got sent back and rather then edit and submit again dropped score.
Lastly — possibly was posted as a nine and someone submitted a problem report and then TER changed as it did not meet scoring rules .
Idk 🤷🏽♀️ about everyone else, but I find it very difficult.
maybe because you are so amazing ... guys want to keep you to themselves 
From what I can see, you're doing very well. At 83 reviews, including 8 this year, and as someone who is a low volume provider, you are doing extremely well. Often, the hardest part is to break in when you are not established. You have the advantage of attracting customers who found you on TER, and thus provide a greater chance of reviewing you.
Here's some comparative data: About 1-5% of customers leave reviews for online sites, such as Amazon. Restaurants and other businesses on sites like Yelp or Google yield slightly higher at 5-10%. These businesses can reach 10-20%, when prompted by the business after the service has been provided. Mind you, you're in a space that might create more reluctancy for customers to review you. They might be afraid to create a paper trail of sorts.
If the review isn't glowing, more people are concerned about retaliation from providers. Including doxxing and other nasty behavior akin to a kindergartener who doesn't understand criticism, accountability and consumer rights.
I mean, take Bia for example. We've seen her lash out and talk shit about clients look when he posted on this board that her statement about screening was false. I'll leave it to people's imagination what she would do if a guy openly wrote a non-positive review.
And that's the thing. When providers (or any sellers, actually) say they want more reviews, they dont actually mean more reviews as in volume. They mean more positive/good reviews.
Many sellers ask for reviews then get a non-positive one and are upset. It's highly ironic. You asked for more reviews didnt you? I suggest they ask explicitly for only more positive reviews then. So people can see what they're really asking for.
I don't disagree with your points about negative reviews. The possible fallout can be a deterent. I'm sure this impacts reviewers, especially if they don't have something nice to say. And yes, escorts mean they want positive, not negative reviews. Ironically, if I see an escort with mostly positive reviews and a very small number of less flatering reviews, I'm going to dig in more, and in the end might be even more inspired to see her because of what this tells me about the authenticity of her reviews.
That said, the paper trail applies specifically to those who never review. No one is worried about cops, their girlfriend/wives, family, coworkers, finding out that they reviewed a Kuerig on Amazon, the local Car Wash on Google, or Pinks Hot Dogs on Yelp. Plenty are worried if others find out about their reviews on TER, which basically outs them for having seen an escort. I am certain their are lurkers who simply don't want to risk it.
If you mean digital trail as opposed to paper (ie money but since most pay in cash...) I agree, for sure.
Hanging around fuckboards, posting reviews etc... theres a lot of room to slip up. Shit I almost slipped up and had some fuckboards and explicit kgirl pics open on my phone around coworkers once.
And I'm single so I don't have to worry about SO or anything like that. In fact, whenever I'm in a long term relationship I quit this hobby cold turkey.
Anyway, I could definitely see someone who is not very tech savvy with a very nosey significant other, not even bothering with reviews or fuckboards much.
We have a winner! This is the best explanation so far. Guys don’t leave reviews because a lot of providers have made it clear they don’t like reviews and they don’t want reviews. Then there are the providers that want reviews but lash out if the review contains any sort of feedback or criticism. Providers are simply getting exactly what they asked for.
But it's not about the lack of reviews for yourself. Your clients seem to love you and that is what really matters.
a great idea working itself out of a job.
TER has been around for so long people don't recall when...the only way to see a provider was on the street or in a brothel. There was no way to know if she was good, bad, LE, filthy, smelly, indifferent or...sh-t -- a man.
Along came TER and changed the world with reviews. The tide rose for everyone. Us mongers can now expect at least a modicum of good service. Safety. Hygiene.
REviews, which used to ensure that we weren't, at the least, going to lose our money, have lifted the level of performance overall. There is less of a need for them, or at least the style of reviews here.
Having observed a lot of comments recently, it seems that most guys want to know a few basics -- is she real? Is she not a rip off? Are the pix real? What, specifically, does she do in a session? Does she do it well? A lot of that can be covered in the tic marks of the profile.
So today, reviews here are often lengthy, elaborate, detailed and florid. Far more than you need to make a decision. And reviews like that take time and effort to write. And there's the rub. Today, guys are not willing to spend the time writing a lengthy review, which may explain the ascendance of sites with much more succinct reviews.
I get it, QB. It's not like it was 20 years ago when it seemed guys tripped over each other to put in reviews.
Perhaps the next question should be, "Reviewers: How long do you spend writing a review?"
pb
Why do you guys continue to use the term "monger" when you are a client? The definition of the word is more in line if you were a pimp, not a client.
And Conan agrees "monger" is a misnomer, but he agrees with others that it is now part of our language and must be accepted. After all, it has been many years that those of us who frequent "filles de joie" are known as whoremongers. That's just the way it is and Conan urges you to accept it.
I always thought it's derivative from whoremonger, which - as far as I'm aware - is someone who likes to engage with hookers.
The main thing, everyone understands what a monger is so it's very clear. Client, monger, John, customer, hobbyist, buyer, trick...many terms for the same entity. Some may appear more PC than others but they all mean the same thing, no?
A "whoremonger" is someone who would promote the sale, i.e., a pimp. It has nothing to do with being politically correct, I am just surprised people keep using it in the wrong context on this board. A buyer of something would never be a monger. A "monger" is slang for someone who would sell or promote the sale of something, not a buyer.
I found these two definitions:
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Dictionary.com
-someone who consorts with prostitutes.
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Collins Dictionary:
1. a man who associates with or uses the services of sex workers
2. a pimp: also: ˈwhoreˌmaster
"a man who associates with or used the services of sex workers" is the preferred definition over pimp, which is listed as #2. The preferred definition is always listed first.
As a current college student we are always told to refer to the big *dick* Webster ......
You guys are welcome to call yourselves whatever you want, but even the urban dictionary (which is the current slang!) uses "whore monger" to refer to a pimp.
The only time I have heard the word monger used today is to refer to "fear mongering" which would be spreading or promoting fear of an idea.
I mean, I guess if you want to say if you are posting reviews you are "promoting" a sex worker, or posting on this website could mean you are "consorting" with sex workers, so in that meaning the word would make sense. Again, you are free to call yourself whatever you want, but if you are just referring to being a client and paying for the services of a provider the word doesn't make sense.
I know you guys love to prove you are right and split hairs, so carry on as usual and have a great Thursday!!! LOL
xoxo
Scarlet
Scarlet you really gonna refer to urban dictionary but ignore the fact that the bible translation five years ago used the term whoremonger to refer to those soliciting prostitutes?
Lol mkay. Like I've said I don't really care what term is used as long as it's understood. Hobbyist punter monger John trick client etc etc
God knows, I am a hair-splitter when it comes to English usage, and I'll be damned but you caught me red-handed using a word I picked up on these boards without really getting the meaning. Shame on me! But thank you. More blades to split hairs with.
What's interesting to me, tho, is that we're witnessing the evolution of the language and, in particular, this word. All right here!
pb
Please be aware that if you identify as a monger, an ape, or a pumpkin ALL sexual orientations are supported and accepted on this website.
His work is truly never done, nor fully appreciated, here.
WE "love to prove [we] are right and split hairs."
Pot/Kettle/Black much, dear?
Conan thanks you for the laugh!
I post here because it is free advertising. As to why some of you guys live and breathe this website 24/7 it has yet to be determined......
xoxo
Scarlet
He wonders why being endlessly combative -- especially after some playful joshing -- would attract any business?
Why in the world would you think I am being combative? lol What a very odd and farthest from the truth take. And this might surprise you, but many guys like to know a provider's personal takes on a lot of subjects and perspectives. Why you would assume having a discussion is "endlessly" combative is wild. If I have an alternative view point on something I will say it. If I have a similar viewpoint on something I will say that as well. Providers are humans, not just one dimensional creatures. Maybe time for some of the "mongers" on this board to understand that as well??
Have a great Friday!!!
Speaking for myself, the term seemed to have always been used and if it works, why change it? Even if I had questioned it, I doubt it would have kept me up at night nor caused me to double down so hard to prove once again that men are wrong in choosing what to call themselves or each other and the prostitute is right. Odd hill to fight over but not completely a surprise. Are you sure your correct on this or just more focused on establishing that the men are, one again, wrong?
Maybe its just another example of men and women see things differently. Case in point, a woman walks into a room with nothing but a table and an object in the middle of it. She wonders what is, why it is there, who put it there, how did it come to be in the first place, what does this mean about her future and what each layer of the object might mean. She leaves the room and will question the experience in subconscious perpetuity.
A man walks into the same room with nothing but a table with an onion in the middle of it. He sees there's an onion on a table and walks back out of the room. An hour later, he will be thinking about a blowjob with no further thoughts about the onion...ever.
When you criticize how often someone posts, you're essentially saying that your reasons for posting are more valid than theirs. Everyone engages with this board differently. Some people post frequently because they enjoy the interaction or have a lot to say. Some may just be bored. Others prefer to read more than they contribute, and some just lurk and never ever post at all.
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All of the posting styles above are valid imo. Questioning how often someone chooses to post doesn’t really add anything to the discussion, and if anything, it discourages participation. I guess what I am getting at is why not just focus on the merits of an individuals posts rather than the frequency of them? Just my 2 cents.
When someone has to resort to how much others post, especially given that the poster him/herself is a prolific one, it's usually pretty clear that the person lost the argument.
I'm actually disappointed by this. Because Scarlet is one of the most intelligent and witty people on here imo, and to stoop to this cliched and banal retort...She can do waay better.
But you aren't. You're posting here a metric fuckton too. And it's not just for free advertising, unlike some other providers.
Youre just like any of us. One of us, one of us!
Embrace it, don't shun it!
Besides it's not like there's much to do in Wisconsin besides fucking and posting on TER.
Since monger is akin to master or manager, it would appear it would mean a pimp. Ie, fishmonger is someone who trades fish and sells fish.
However, whoremonger in English language started to get used as someone soliciting a prostitute over five hundred years ago.
It is used that way as far back as King James Bible, and that translation is from 1500s.
Revelation 21:8 with different translations, as you can see whoremonger is usually substituted with "sexually immoral" or fornicators, not really pimps (were there pimps back then? Anyway)
http://www.biblegateway.com/verse/en/Revelation%2021%3A8
So I mean, if people used it that way back in 1500s...and used it later on.. And are using it now... Seems fine to use for me.
Technically the word "gay" originally never meant a homosexual person either yet I don't think many would use it as synonym to happy nowadays. And that change came to be in 20th century.
My clients are my friends.
If you think it is hard think about the providers who do not all ready have some. First of all the large majority do not even know of TER . TER isn’t a major player in some areas of the country.
I do feel that there is a hesitancy to write a review- especially the first one for someone. In my case had over a dozen P411 OKs before I ever wrote a review here.
The other thing is when talking about TER reviews many here will not see a provider who does not have reviews here and from respected reviewers hence the chicken and the egg.
question
have any providers without reviews complained about a lack of clients?
i seem to recall at least two who came on these boards, no reviews, proudly boasting that they make good money without this site and the reviews
maybe they have a steady stream of regulars? maybe they “network” by telling clients to recommend them by word of mouth?
i mean, based on my internet juris doctorate, if a profile can be tied to a specific user, there is documented evidence of prostitution on here (advertised rate plus sex act and a menu of things she does)…i doubt a prosecutor would waste time as it is a misdemeanor on most areas, but nothing is out of the realm of impossibility
I am eternally grateful for my repeated friends. I have heard several times their reviews are not being posted due to lack of details.,it takes time regardless. I am thankful for those who try, but why continue to attempt?
Bia, I truly admire you from afar — your hard work is definitely paying off. I really enjoy the beautiful pictures you share on the discussion boards and the way you engage with TER members on so many topics. It feels like you know everyone here 😉 You’re clearly respected by many, and it’s easy to see why — you’re beautiful, smart, and strong!
As for me, I’m pretty much still a newbie on TER 😆 I didn’t even know about TER, the review system for several months, and only recently started becoming more active. I’m learning a little more every day.
When it comes to reviews, I don’t focus on quantity — quality matters much more to me. I respect everyone’s opinion, and of course, it’s always nice to read something kind and true rather than exaggerated or inaccurate. Everyone has their own way of expressing things; not everyone is a novel writer, and some (including me, at first!) don’t fully understand all of TER’s review rules and terminology.
Naturally, I’ve reacted to a few reviews that didn’t quite reflect what really happened. Once a review is submitted, it’s done — we can’t clarify or discuss it the way we can on the boards. For example, one gentleman wrote that I charge for a second pop, which isn’t true. I dont have many extra or “silly” charges . It really bothered me, so I reached out to him politely to ask what he meant by saying uncharge for second pop . He admitted he wasn’t able to go for a second round; it had nothing to do with me or any extra fee .🤷♀️
That’s just one example — I always try to keep things real. I always aim to provide the best service possible and to create a comfortable, pleasant environment for a truly amazing experience. I’m a genuinely caring person. Luckily, most of the gentlemen I’ve met have been wonderful. Some became even more than regulars — every time I return to Boston or Chicago, I look forward to reuniting with them. Each date just keeps getting better and better. 💫
I am eternally grateful for my repeated friends. I have heard several times their reviews are not being posted due to lack of details.,it takes time regardless. I am thankful for those who try, but why continue to attempt?
…and I have a simple rule - if i am not satisfied with the service, I will simply not leave a review. It is like someone asking you for a work reference and you saying “no, don’t use me.”
I won’t help them but I won’t jam them up either.
It has only happened once so far because the provider had bad breath (i am very sensitive to smells) and while she was sweet, she was politely but firmly rushing me out the door 45 minutes into our appointment…now that in itself is not an issue as I understand life happens but I specifically asked her when texting that if that date and time is bo good for you then we can re schedule, and she insisted, “no no, we can meet.”
Those two things would have lowered her rating to 6 or 7 but I opted to not write a review instead.
And the other post says how they saw a provider doxxing a client for a 7/7 review (which is way above average on TER scale)
And then people try to do mental pirouettes when I say there is lack of negative reviews and more negative reviews need to be published and not swept under the rug.
No, they say. We need more honest reviews, not just negative ones.
But no, it's SPECIFICALLY negative reviews that are underepresented because of people being either extremely sentimental or scared of consequences.
I have no problem saying out loud that any seller in any business that can't take negative reviews is a pos and shouldn't be in that business. As biggie said, don't be mad, ups is hiring. There you might escape accountability. Might.
I hope the provider who doxxed the client for a 7/7 got all she deserved.
The guy is a troll, he has never written a review positive or negative. If you see his history, he complains about women cancelling on him or not wanting to meet him. And he has strong opinions about the hobby before he even met a girl.
It's not difficult at all, especially when the provider already has a profile.
Between this alias and my handle, I've only encountered one question from TER in +13 years. It was my 2nd review, and they actually pointed out that she was eligible for a higher score than I gave. I declined to make the change and the review was published as written.
Years and years ago i tried to post a review but they didnt let me give enough points for a brown shower and I didnt want to give a low score.
I realize that any score, less than a 10 will negatively affect my score. Keep the brown shower reviews to yourself. TER is a vanilla site. I got 4 likes 👍🏽 on my double fisting 10/10 review. I was 1 😂
My reviews finally posted. I bet someone adjusted my score. If you mark off all the boxes I should get a 9, but ok ✅ I will take the 8. It’s October! I’m happy 😊 my reviews finally got posted. Look 👀 lol I am active! Thank you TER Gods! 💋
establishes the max score you are ELIGIBLE for, but the reviewer is under no obligation to give you the maximum score. This part of the scoring is often misunderstood. A provider might think that because her menu included DFK and BBBJ, she met the threshold for a 9, which she did, the final arbiter of the score awarded is up to the reviewer. That's one of the downsides to have activity requirements to merely be eligible for a good score. Without the DFK and BBBJ, your score would have maxed out at 7.
Providers doxxing guys when they don't agree with a review score makes me inclined to not write reviews. I witnessed this first hand when I visited a lady who outed a different client on social media because he wrote her a 7/7 review.
For me personally, I do not entertain nearly as much as in the past. As a result, there are considerably less ladies for me to review.
It’s definitely not what I strive for, which is excellence. I have not received an 8 in performance in years. I go out of my way and do not entertain often. I cherish my adult fun time. Since I became a GFE & PSE provider by opening my menu the only time I got a low performance is because the person was disabled handicap not physically capable. 7 score performance he told me he gave me a higher score, but TER posted less. 🤷🏽♀️
When I do receive a lower, than usual score I do think 🤔 maybe I could have done something better? Often I have heard that TER will adjust the score, so that’s not uncommon. If I was given a 9, or 10 it is possible TER decreased my score I was given? Question. 🙋🏽♀️
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From my experience, if TER feels your score doesn’t check the boxes, they simply won’t post it and send it back to the reviewer. The reviewer has 3 choices. Do nothing and the review doesn’t post. Add details that check the boxes and resubmit. Lower the score and resubmit. So, they can force your hand to lower the score because you don’t check the boxes, but I don’t think they are lowering it for you.
Just read the review written by what appears to be a totally satisfied client. There is a possibility that said client ( the way written ) felt cover was applied by mouth before the BJ and sex . Also never stated tongue involved. Would have meant max score of seven. Or felt he had the BBJ but I’d not clearly state and it got sent back and rather then edit and submit again dropped score.
Lastly — possibly was posted as a nine and someone submitted a problem report and then TER changed as it did not meet scoring rules .
I’m just happy to be apart of this community. After 20+ years strong. I’ve had more good experiences than bad. I love TER! 💕 Regardless.
I honestly think 💭 sometimes it’s overwhelming and details are missed. Being in cloud ☁️ 9 is understandable. Anyone might miss key points. No hard feelings.
Maybe 🤔 if us as providers can help it definitely will benefit our scores here if we value TER.
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That sounds like vindictive narcissism to me (not a medical diagnosis - an opinion)....you can probably identify ladies like this on your appointment when you chat. Like real life people who have this disorder (?), they will love to talk about themselves, which in itself is unusual in this profession as the majority of ladies will not do that.
You can see the same behavior on Yelp or Google when owners respond to EVERY negative comment in a combative manner without actually acknowledging anything wrong about their business.
I posted a link to someone i wanted to hire who was arrested for trafficking and she used to go on forums on another site using sock accounts and insult and mock posters claiming to be one of her "clients" yet somehow revealing things only the person herself would know. lol