I'm 45 and in excellent health. No doubt my libido has gradually decreased with age. But I am generally able to rub one out every night to porn without much issue. Once or twice a week I'll give up, but even those days I can get hard and stay hard.

Get some Viagra.. you'll get over it. Being nervous will kill a hard cock

meaning that you have adjusted to having sex with porn, rather than people.

I feel ya buddy. I'm in the same boat. I have used Viagra regularly for about 6 years, but when I'm with someone new I still can't stay hard. With me it's physiological, not sure what's wrong up there. I feel no embarrassment just can't get it up the first time I'm with a woman. Second time no problem and after that I'm a porn star. Seriously.

If that were true then all my sessions with providers would be bad. Presently it's 50/50. When I started hobbying in my 30s it was 75% success rate. So I am not sure porn addiction is the culprit. But perhaps it has part to blame. I will try increasing the number of days I avoid porn before a session from 4 to 7.

Based on what you describe it seems similar to what I experienced and it's IMO 100% mental.
It also heavily depends on a woman - with some of them it's never an issue and with some it just doesn't work. Some sort of subconscious thing.

If you aren't taking.the blue pill you should consider it.

Try cutting carbs and increasing your healthy fats. You may even want to get bloodwork and see if you’re a candidate for TRT as that will improve many aspects of your life if you’re low. While we all have different reasons for our issues, this has helped me considerably. Or you could always white knuckle a month without porn then book a session and see what happens.

For some reason I am against the blue pill. As mentioned it works ok during porn, so the problem is not physiological..

Tadalafil (Generic Cialis) works better for me than Sildenafil (generic Viagra) less side effects for sure. Both pills were originally designed as BP meds and still work for that but pleasant sides helped make boners so they tweaked them and got FDA approved for ED.
On days that I play I skip my BP meds and my Atorvastatin's which helps a lot. I'm also on testosterone replacement therapy (TRT)  which has been a HUGE game changer for me. I get the package sent from  www.Royalmedicalcenters.com from Florida (Also on FB and Twitter and YouTube) affordable and totally legit compounded by a real and legit RX pharmacy in Fla, USA Without this I'd be useless. My T levels are back where they were in my 20's

if you were new to this or your level of "success" was steady, maybe, but your success with real live providers has declined over the years, so look for another reason.

Agreed, better IMO to address the root of the problem first. Pill should be the last resort rather than the first.

No denying that cannabinoids can help most people relax. Unfortunately, edibles don’t work on me. But, if the OP’s issue can be fixed by addressing any endocrine irregularities, I would avoid any amount of cannabinoids as they have negative side effects on testosterone levels not to mention their impact on work ethic and drive for the average person (but not the super human potheads a la Joe Rogan).

I am 53 and I have experienced the same things. Sometimes putting a condom on makes me go soft. At the start I’m getting a BBBJ by an extremely attractive naked woman and I’m hard and everything is working like it should be. Then the woman puts a condom on me and all of a sudden I’m not hard anymore. Especially if the condom is extremely tight and uncomfortable.

Been there, done that. The big boner buster for me is the time lapse (Less than 30 sec, lol) from when I`m ready to when she opens the glove and puts it on which can be too long and I lose it. Now I've learned to open it myself before  and have it at the ready and within easy reach and this helps and I try to keep my mind off of it and concentrate on the debauchery and stay in the moment.

I learned from a great Vegas provider (she taught me many things) that I was using the wrong condom. It appears that the condoms were too tight cutting off the blood to my shaft and head. She placed a Magnum Gold condom and it was perfect. It didn’t squeeze the blood out of my head and shaft but was tighter around the base so to not come off. I’m a regular sized guy so Magdum doesn’t necessarily mean large. But a single one and try it on for size. No pun intended.

Nothing succeeds like success, especially in psychological matters. Of the blue pill gets you past performance anxiety, then there is less need for the pill next time.

I'll have to say that I like my condoms tight (Kimonos). Not to the point of getting Gangrene but tight. The base of the condom acts like a cock ring and then you'll find yourself going for a while that she'll think you're on Viagra. The trick is how you put on a tight condom, which I show the ladies. Easy Peasy.
She'll compliment you and your stamina, you'll say "Because you turn me on"...then she'll say "why is your dick purple"....lol

I agree that second time seeing  a provider is usually a worse experience. Despite not having any nerves, something just doesn't get me excited.. This is only based on a handful of experiences where I saw the same provider twice.. So I wouldn't read too much into it..

This GILF decides I need a Magnum. Also a vibrator. I must have blown 2 loads in under 15 minutes! At my age 2 loads in a session is highly improbable. She ghosts me now. LOL. I owe her for the condom info.

I used to lose my wood from time to time mid-session. I usually take a 10 minute break for daty, and I found myself losing it at that point sometimes! Now I take 10-15 MG of chewable generic Cialis about 2 hours before the session. No problem sporting a 60 minute missile for most sessions! Also, I continue to stimulate junior with one hand during daty, condom application, etc. if I feel it is needed. No shame there- you see these young guys doing it during porn. Every now and then I forget the pill, and I can still perform as long as junior gets constant attention! Of course we stay hard during porn, as one kgirl told me, “you love your hand more than me”. She said that when I took over for the finish when she wasn’t doing it orally! I think she was insulted, but her bj wasn’t very good- no repeat there!

...now also referred to as the "internal condom."

sildenafil some years ago when I went to see a sports medicine MD for issues with my athletic activities (less productive workouts and trouble increasing muscle mass on my normal workout schedule).  After some tests, Low-T was determined to be the reason, so I went on TRT.  Not only did my overall health and athletic ability return to what it was 20-25 years ago, so did my sex life.  I didn't need the sildenafil anymore.  The side effect of TRT is improved and longer-lasting erections.  

viagra.  happened to me same way.

... That she isn't simulating you right.   Everyone has their thing, pun intended.  Too tight, too loose, too wet, too dry.  Too fast, too slow.  Foreplay, etc.  Make sure you know what works for you, good providers will listen.

You got porn induced ed, the cure is easy stop watching and jacking off to porn to reset your brain. research gary wilson book your brain on porn, it is excellent book that explains it. also you can probably find websites on it. I had it years ago did the 60 day no porn, masterbation or orgasm and it work. everything came back. but like an alcoholic you will have to avoid porn forever or it will come back. we would like to have our cake and eat too, but its one or another, your choice.

Take the fucking pill!, It was prescribed for me when I was your age when I complained that I could no longer take my time during sex because, if I didn't keep at it, I would lose my erection. Doc prescribed 100 mg pills and told me to take a quarter to begin with. Turned out that 1/6 worked perfect for a long, long time and I could fuck for as long as I wanted, stop for daty, wait for as long as it took for her to cum...whatever.

It seems every response so far is from a person who owns a dick, meaning they each have a lifetime of experience, but each with only a data pool of one. Here's a few thoughts as both a women who's worked with a few dicks, and as a functional health practitioner (in the "other side" of my life) who has coached a few clients with similar issues.

See my earlier response for details of my experience since being first prescribed in 2001. 20 years. I've been taking it for 20 years. Until only 8 months ago, I could masturbate to for hours. It was actually a problem because I would be cuming at 6 am after jerking off 4-6 hrs, a hardon for most of that time. And that's the way it was for 40 years. But starting ~20 yrs ago, I had to fuck like a dog when I was with a woman or risk losing my erection. A urologist, not just somebody with a dick or years of experience servicing them, correctly diagnosed it: anxiety. My mind would wander. That diagnosis was a major event in my life, I kid you not! Take the fucking pill...start with a really small dose, say 20 mg.
     One last thing, look at the data! ED meds have been on the market for 25+ years and there's no contrary data. Some anecdotal stuff, and that's not worth the toilet paper those guys use to wipe their asses. Are there some very unlikely serious side effects? Yes, but Aspirin has a higher likelihood of producing serious side effects.

I been rob, beaten, and given sucky service as well as I devoice from a woman. So I know what can go wrong when I see a provider porn nothing will go wrong.  Get a good safe incall hotel, find a cuttle hunny you will be fine. Most of hooker out there are scarry

It depends on what I can get I hate take them when have a cold, so save them and just take dollar store cough medison.  Rub 4 on my dick before I go out. No problems getting hard if kiss and look good just don't I just don't feel the pussy so it take a long while some providers like it other get mad I won't cum.  I just have to hope I don't get BBBJ because she will know Stomthing up when her mouth go numb.

Spot on stuff CDL and I'm on a similar program from Royal Medical Centers.com Who send me the complete package legit from Fla (Google them) They send me the Needles, syringes, drugs etc. all for $195 per mo. compounded from a US pharmacy in Fla. The Anastrozole (Estrogen blocker btw) is already mixed with the testosterone cypionate (200mg strength) which makes it easier. The HCG has been upgraded to Gonadorelin also injected 2x weekly subcutaneously with insulin syringe. The Gonadorelin tells the pituitary gland to tell your testes to produce more T naturally and combined with the Testosterone Cypionate Your getting  the boost naturally AND artificially which should bring your T levels back to where they were at 30 years old. No side effects at all! Been a godsend for me at 76.  

when I see him later this month about the Gonadorelin.   When I saw him last year, he didn't mention any possible upgrades.  Thanks for the heads-up.  

You'd rather take drugs that fuck with your endocrine system than take a harmless one with a short half-life?!? Wow. I guess I don't have anything else to add to this thread.

you off of the science.  Are you an anti-vaxxer, too?   Or would you rather fuck with your immune system by taking the vaccine rather and acquire the antibodies the natural way from the disease?   Got hypocrisy?  Periodic testing assures me that my endocrine system is just fine, and I would AGREE that anyone that reacts negatively to these drugs should not take them.  And Yes, you probably have nothing else of any value to add.  

Actually, I confused you with the OP, so I retract the post. Mind you, however, I'm a proponent of TRT, just not as the approach of first choice. That would have been the case if your post was from the OP. And what I'll say about your ad hominem remarks is that you made a few really bad, erroneous assumptions about me that also have nothing to do with the topic. It seems your reputation among some here  is earned.  
    But it's not your assumptions about me that are truly objectionable, it's your apparent lack of understanding about the acknowledged and well documented limitations about what testing hormone levels can tell you. If you wanted to know whether your endocrine system is healthy, you'd need to stop the TRT for three or more months -- most medical researchers say a year or more -- to know whether it's still at least marginally healthy. Testing your T-level while on TRT doesn't say much about the health of your ES.  
     You stated that you did have low-T, so I'm glad TRT is there for you. Hopefully anybody thinking about it will have not just their overall T-level checked, but also their free and bioavailable T-levels, along with their estrogen levels. You may need TRT, but stick to the facts.

I'm going to look into this.  I appreciate you taking the time to explain it.  

Watching porn with a provider sounds great in theory. In practice, I would feel too self-conscious and "weird". So likely my ED issues with worsen!

Are you saying you have reduced your use of the blue pill then? Do you still use it now?

A month without porn seems a tall order. I think the longest dry spell was 10 days when I was travelling with my parents.. When I came home I was ready to hump a table!

In that case I'd prefer porn which I can do nearly everyday vs. real thing only every couple months...

instead of implying I'm out of my mind for being on TRT, you would have gotten a different reaction from me.  With me, you reap what you sow.  So we got off to a bad start, but after this followup, we're good.  

BTW, I forgot to mention that when on TRT, your red cell count (Blood thickens) will go up as  you'll notice after  subsequent CBC's. My urologists suggested I donate a pint of blood every 60 days and this works along with low dose aspirin. Also blood badly in need for the less fortunate. these days.
Also nitric oxide supplements help considerably.
When all this stuff fails in the coming years, what then?? Ah ha, I'll probably go to Trimix injections which from what I've read absolutely guaranty rock hard boners that can last easily an hour. Scary part is you have to inject your dick with a needle before play  Might have to think long and hard (No pun) about this.
For now, all is well.

'allcomers' was incredulous that someone would rather take a serious drug like TRT rather than the relatively harmless Viagra.  Unfortunately, he mistakenly thought Cuck-Da-Loser posted that statement.

Hey Papa,

donations for a few years.  My doc said four times a year and that seems to keep me well within the "normal" range. I also take the the nitric oxide supplements daily.  If my memory serves me correctly, you have 10 or 12 years on me, so its encouraging to know the TRT will continue to work for me for several more years.  

...now we have NeedleDicktheKgirlFucker.  

Maybe Tylenol Acetaminophen is more dangerous. The acid blockers have probably caused much suffering.

I find my libido appears to cycle - some days Im just all out horny and other ones I think it would take a succubus to make me cum. I kind of suspect good sleep and diet and exercise play a part. When I get a lot of sleep and eat well I suspect I can blast out a bunch of loads in one day. I'm still monitoring the situation.

You said it, brother!  FC have those huge advantages.  
I take them along just in case she doesn't have them but is willing to try.