Ok, so here's the deal. I'm 48, and there's this young girl who is SO FINE I'd do or pay anything to sleep with her. I used to work with her and it seemed like she flirted with me as much as I did her. I no longer am employed at that place but when I left(on good terms) I told this young lady(22) that I wanted to stay in touch and take her to lunch someday. She said sure, that she'd love that. So is it even possible to offer her a donation for a couple of hours of her time? And what line or lines do I use to imply that I want to pay her to sleep with her. I feel like if I offered her a large sum of cash she might just bite. Or slap me. One or the other. So my other question is, has anyone here ever offered a non provider money for there time and companionship? And how did you approach it?  Or am I just living some fantasy in my horny head? Did I mention how HOT this 22 year old college soccer player is? Plz guys don't beat me up too hard here. I am new, and I know there's super fine girls out there that'll be glad to take my donation. But I can't get this girl outta my head.

Have you ever tried to play baseball following the NFL rules?

Of yourself @  [email protected]  I will tell you if you should proceed and I will be honest with you.  Ask around here.  I don't candy coat things. 😊

Just when I think I have covered all the topics at JDU, you come up with this winner.

If she seemed flirty and agreed to lunch, she may genuinely be up for a roll in the hay with an older man.  Maybe not in the timeframe one grows accustomed to in the hobby, but why not assess her tone during a date? If you want to add sweeteners, bring a present.

she knows about what i do   and she does not judge but it is not her way of doing things
she also dates over 40 but never accepted money for companionship, she has a civie job and goes to school

that site does not work...just bunch of hustlers....who want stuff but dont want to suck d..k for it...they just have bunch of sob stories ready to gain your heart and wallet  

Do you have so little game that you won't even try to bed her with a normal civie date?  WTF.  You offer her money and she takes offense, which is very likely, and you have no other chance, you're done.  

You do not know what she has in mind.   You are having lunch.  Talk to her.  See where she see "relationship".

her and her situation, the better your chances of figuring out the best way to show her your appreciation.  Money may or may not be the way to show her.  As your dialogue progresses........you will probably learn of some financial need she may have........or not.  If so, your perceptiveness will go a long way.

I hope you profited from some good advice. What do you think you'll do with ut?  
 I won't lend anymore other to fulfill the lunch date, guage her interest in a fwb/NSA or other tryst and take it from there.  

I couldn't possibly sit here and tell every little detail of her life and mine. Theres a lot more to the story. And for me to just try the ciivie date is pretty much impossible. I was just wondering if anyone had done something like this before. U know, skip all the BS! I thank you Alyson! I think you in particular hit the nail on the head! That's the best advice here! Why some people here have to act hateful and ugly I don't know. Can't a guy(a new guy) ask questions? Being new here I was hesitant to even post. But I did.  Some great advice(Alyson) some not so great(u know who). I guess I'll keep second guessing myself the next time I'm curious about something

I am hardly an SA expert having only recently joined the site, but my first "date" was dinner and drinks to get to know each other, followed by her spending the entire night with me including sex of course and she asked, and I paid a whopping three hundred bucks.

So I interpreted the 'do' portion of that as perhaps  including dating her in some capacity. I don't think rudeness is called for but I got the impression most responses were aimed at being polite and helpful.

Question number two, What if I offer her a "small" sum of money instead?

The OP isn't looking to pay her to "leave afterwards" the OP is looking to pay because he has so little confidence (perhaps justified) in his game, he thinks it's the only way she will even consider sleeping with him.

...he gave me a really great gifts all the time. I was a struggling single mom. After our first date, he noticed that I had an old TV so he bought me a really nice one. After our second date he gave me a gold necklace. He paid for car repairs.  He took my daughter and me to Disneyland.  All in the first couple of weeks of dating.  He let me know that he was going to make life easier for me if I was dating him.  And that went really long way with me. It wasn't all about that but it made it difficult for me to let him go.

Then this sounds like a great idea.

Your unassuming methods of asking a non pro for sex in exchange for money sound like the subject of a book you could author, and you could title it "How to make everyone fear you and let them know you are a sexual Predator" by Alyson Parker.

plus, if she's not liberal in her attitudes about sex at all, you could be looking at legal problems if she decides to go to the cops because she's terribly insulted by your proposition.

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Obviously it's not perfect, there are some definite gold diggers on the site who want to charge as much as possible and give as little. There are also some who quite plainly state they don't want a "physical" relationship, but there are plenty of others who give quite a bit of themselves for what they get in return and quite frankly I am enjoying myself there.

Normally I like your posts but that sounds like a brain fade.  

Happy to hear you're enjoying yourself so far.  Like you, I'm a mature single monger and enjoy the longer dates.  Dinner, fun, sleep, more fun and breakfast for 3-5 bills.   I have had some amazing local hotties and paid far less than the hobby.  I spent most of last year gone from the TER scene and had a SB that for $2k/mo gave me unlimited access, no clock and kept me satisfied.  Of course that said, you GaG, have a much more active libido than I do, hahaha, so the unlimited plan might wear the girl out.  

have a lady friend who was once approached in such a way and she is still afraid of dating men to this day.

Some guys (gals) are here because they want to be, others are here because they have to be.

I would opine that based on your recent postings you should not be pointing fingers when it comes to creepy.
 
Stalking and predators are a serious problem in this hobby.  Most guys here are just normal horny mongers, but there are those few that are dangerous DBs.  It's a serious issue.  You don't seem to understand that, now THAT is creepy and possibly worse, imho.
 

You don't understand the stigma that hobbying holds to non-hobbyists.

Yes, I am enjoying the sugar bowl as well. but like you said "I have a pretty active libido" so maybe I need two "full access" SBs. lol

Sending a girl a valentine on Feb 14th, while possibly ill-advised in certain contexts at the very worse ... isn't even in the same BALLPARK OF CREEPSVILLE as approaching a civilian "friend" and money for sex.

She is hot like in marriage material type of hot...it is not up your alley lol

Either way she will most likely flip out. Offering her money will creep her out worse if she is a normal civilian girl

I'm not really your friend...LOL  I also said I didn't agree with Alyson.  Comprende?  

ut approaching a civie "friend" and offering money for sex ... equals CREEPY TO THE 1 BILLIONTH POWER.

cause now ... not only are you a CERTIFIED CREEP.

Alyson's advice is almost exactly what I would have had in mind.

o you honestly think the OP or any of the other Romeos in this particular playing are going to do anything but shoot themselves in the face when attempting this kind of feat?

You obviously don't get it.  I've just wasted my time posting 2 responses because you post with such arrogance that you don't even consider what others are saying. I'm saying that your responses to those who challenged you on the wisdom of the VD gift  and your responses to concerns about stalking are creepy.

Now please reread the rest of it because that's EXACTLY what I said. sheesh.

Agree, you can get your dicked sucked plenty on SA, have to invest a little more time and know what to look for , but you can have plenty of sex on there at a $200 to $300 range even.   Octavia is right too, plenty of hustlers on the site as well...