Happy to hear you're enjoying yourself so far. Like you, I'm a mature single monger and enjoy the longer dates. Dinner, fun, sleep, more fun and breakfast for 3-5 bills. I have had some amazing local hotties and paid far less than the hobby. I spent most of last year gone from the TER scene and had a SB that for $2k/mo gave me unlimited access, no clock and kept me satisfied. Of course that said, you GaG, have a much more active libido than I do, hahaha, so the unlimited plan might wear the girl out.
A post by Zangari a couple of years ago got me interested in SA and while I agree there are a few pros and gold diggers, there is also an abundance of hot as hell, sweet young women who want to pay for school or get a new car with sugar money. I think for the guys who are married or have SOs and/or sensitive jobs, the hobby gives them much more discretion and some of the women here are just so HOT that one has got to keep all options open.Ok, so here's the deal. I'm 48, and there's this young girl who is SO FINE I'd do or pay anything to sleep with her. I used to work with her and it seemed like she flirted with me as much as I did her. I no longer am employed at that place but when I left(on good terms) I told this young lady(22) that I wanted to stay in touch and take her to lunch someday. She said sure, that she'd love that. So is it even possible to offer her a donation for a couple of hours of her time? And what line or lines do I use to imply that I want to pay her to sleep with her. I feel like if I offered her a large sum of cash she might just bite. Or slap me. One or the other. So my other question is, has anyone here ever offered a non provider money for there time and companionship? And how did you approach it? Or am I just living some fantasy in my horny head? Did I mention how HOT this 22 year old college soccer player is? Plz guys don't beat me up too hard here. I am new, and I know there's super fine girls out there that'll be glad to take my donation. But I can't get this girl outta my head.
Have you ever tried to play baseball following the NFL rules?
Then why are you trying to pursue a RL civie romance using hobby life rules?
I would think that if you offered her money, you'd find yourself shortly missing a gonad or two.
Take her out to lunch, then progress to a dinner and movie, then a play or opera, etc. Didn't you ever learn the deal?
And keep in mind above all: Patience is a virtue
Then why are you trying to pursue a RL civie romance using hobby life rules?
I would think that if you offered her money, you'd find yourself shortly missing a gonad or two.
Take her out to lunch, then progress to a dinner and movie, then a play or opera, etc. Didn't you ever learn the deal?
And keep in mind above all: Patience is a virtue.
I can't believe people confuse the hooker world with the civilian word.
You do not know what she has in mind. You are having lunch. Talk to her. See where she see "relationship".
Of yourself @ [email protected] I will tell you if you should proceed and I will be honest with you. Ask around here. I don't candy coat things. 😊
that site does not work...just bunch of hustlers....who want stuff but dont want to suck d..k for it...they just have bunch of sob stories ready to gain your heart and wallet
I am hardly an SA expert having only recently joined the site, but my first "date" was dinner and drinks to get to know each other, followed by her spending the entire night with me including sex of course and she asked, and I paid a whopping three hundred bucks.
If she were a hooker she could easily get $3-400 hour even here in Texas.
If she were a hooker she could easily get $3-400 hour even here in Texas.
Obviously it's not perfect, there are some definite gold diggers on the site who want to charge as much as possible and give as little. There are also some who quite plainly state they don't want a "physical" relationship, but there are plenty of others who give quite a bit of themselves for what they get in return and quite frankly I am enjoying myself there.
Thank you
Happy to hear you're enjoying yourself so far. Like you, I'm a mature single monger and enjoy the longer dates. Dinner, fun, sleep, more fun and breakfast for 3-5 bills. I have had some amazing local hotties and paid far less than the hobby. I spent most of last year gone from the TER scene and had a SB that for $2k/mo gave me unlimited access, no clock and kept me satisfied. Of course that said, you GaG, have a much more active libido than I do, hahaha, so the unlimited plan might wear the girl out.
A post by Zangari a couple of years ago got me interested in SA and while I agree there are a few pros and gold diggers, there is also an abundance of hot as hell, sweet young women who want to pay for school or get a new car with sugar money. I think for the guys who are married or have SOs and/or sensitive jobs, the hobby gives them much more discretion and some of the women here are just so HOT that one has got to keep all options open.
Yes, I am enjoying the sugar bowl as well. but like you said "I have a pretty active libido" so maybe I need two "full access" SBs. lol
I kind of doubt I will stop seeing hookers completely, but if I had one or two women that kept me happy sexually, I might drop down to seeing hookers a bit more sporadically, maybe once a week or so.
I do kind of like having a girl (or two) to go out with, drinks, dinner, movies etc without having to get emotionally involved with her or paying her a fortune.
Agree, you can get your dicked sucked plenty on SA, have to invest a little more time and know what to look for , but you can have plenty of sex on there at a $200 to $300 range even. Octavia is right too, plenty of hustlers on the site as well...
Just when I think I have covered all the topics at JDU, you come up with this winner.
Let's review for the audience keeping score at home, shall we?
You think she may be into you i.e. her flirting with you.
You flirted back.
She accepts your offer for lunch.
At that point, you are THIS close to fking her civilly and YOU want to pay her???
With your application to my fine university, please enclose your Man Card.
You won't be needing it anytime soon.
Oh! One last thing.
When the check comes for that lunch with the 22 yr old hottie at the Olive Garden, dont offer to pay extra for the bread sticks and salad.
Those things are free too. 
Ugh..
...he gave me a really great gifts all the time. I was a struggling single mom. After our first date, he noticed that I had an old TV so he bought me a really nice one. After our second date he gave me a gold necklace. He paid for car repairs. He took my daughter and me to Disneyland. All in the first couple of weeks of dating. He let me know that he was going to make life easier for me if I was dating him. And that went really long way with me. It wasn't all about that but it made it difficult for me to let him go.
plus, if she's not liberal in her attitudes about sex at all, you could be looking at legal problems if she decides to go to the cops because she's terribly insulted by your proposition.
If she seemed flirty and agreed to lunch, she may genuinely be up for a roll in the hay with an older man. Maybe not in the timeframe one grows accustomed to in the hobby, but why not assess her tone during a date? If you want to add sweeteners, bring a present.
If she's not up for a romp, I'm convinced the offer of money would do more harm than good. I would be consternated if someone I met in the civvie world asked me out and then made an offer during our date. And I'm a working girl! Lol
Even taking emotions out of it, being asked could feel like a test of some sort.
If you must offer, be clear but not too blatant. When I worked in the strip club, the ones who would openly offer scared me away. One I did see out of the club and he said during a convo "You know I had a friend who I helped through college and we'd hang out at my place for a couple of hours..." and guaged my reaction and went from there.
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she knows about what i do and she does not judge but it is not her way of doing things
she also dates over 40 but never accepted money for companionship, she has a civie job and goes to school
if you offered her large sum of money for 2 hours of her time, she would decline it and would never talk to you again....some people are just not wired this way...
do what mrfisher said
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Question number two, What if I offer her a "small" sum of money instead?
She is hot like in marriage material type of hot...it is not up your alley lol
Do you have so little game that you won't even try to bed her with a normal civie date? WTF. You offer her money and she takes offense, which is very likely, and you have no other chance, you're done.
her and her situation, the better your chances of figuring out the best way to show her your appreciation. Money may or may not be the way to show her. As your dialogue progresses........you will probably learn of some financial need she may have........or not. If so, your perceptiveness will go a long way.
Since she is a civvie and may not know what is on your mind (other than the physical attraction you both share)........the indirect approach is almost always the best approach.
IMHO
I hope you profited from some good advice. What do you think you'll do with ut?
I won't lend anymore other to fulfill the lunch date, guage her interest in a fwb/NSA or other tryst and take it from there.
If she is expecting remuneration, let her bring it up. You may find she's looking for an experienced lover. If that's you ... take the bait, hook, line and sink her.
Or if she's looking for more experience, you can offer her my number ...yeees
I couldn't possibly sit here and tell every little detail of her life and mine. Theres a lot more to the story. And for me to just try the ciivie date is pretty much impossible. I was just wondering if anyone had done something like this before. U know, skip all the BS! I thank you Alyson! I think you in particular hit the nail on the head! That's the best advice here! Why some people here have to act hateful and ugly I don't know. Can't a guy(a new guy) ask questions? Being new here I was hesitant to even post. But I did. Some great advice(Alyson) some not so great(u know who). I guess I'll keep second guessing myself the next time I'm curious about something
So I interpreted the 'do' portion of that as perhaps including dating her in some capacity. I don't think rudeness is called for but I got the impression most responses were aimed at being polite and helpful.
Then this sounds like a great idea.
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Some guys (gals) are here because they want to be, others are here because they have to be.
It's pretty easy to tell which camp the OP is in.