I know I will probably get some backlash for this post, but I would like some input as to how to broach the subject. Like I said , the condom broke while we were going at it and I ended up finishing inside her. Realized what happened when I felt my cum coming out of her and then I went to check.  I was shocked, she was quiet all of a sudden, no one said anything and it was awkward after a few, so I cleaned up and left. I texted her to see if she was on birth control. No response to date. It would just be nice to get a simple yes or no to that question. It would give me a sense of relief knowing one way or another so I no not to worry about being tracked down a year or 18years from now. I don't want to keep bothering her and I haven't in the last week. I hope she just hasn't checked her work phone lately, but what could be the reason she would not be willing to let me know if she is on birth control or not after that happened? Am I being to obsessive?should I just leave it alone? Was I a Dick for asking her if she is on birth control? I would have paid for the morning after pill if she wasn't, but at this point more then a week later...do I even have a right to know? She is a regular I see I thought we got a long quite well,and it is odd to not hear from here for over a week. I just hope my mind is running wild and its nothing to be worried about.

I know it will be brought up, but got std test already,clear. And getting tested in another month to confirm the clear bill of health.

Now, please tell us what brand of condoms you use. From my experience, I never had a well name brand condom bust on me before. I always use Trojans, and almost always avoid the extra thin.

I have however had a condom sliped inside her. I didn't realize it until I looked down and saw BB. I looked around, and it was nowhere insight. She then pulled it out of her vagina and we put a new 1 on. Good thing I got tested about 2 weeks afterwards.

Anyways, your concerns about contacting a provider is legit. She should be professional about it. Shit happens, and for her to ignore your honesty and responsibilities is somewhat childish and immature. You have every reason to contact her. If she reply only once with an answer, then it would have made sense. But she didn't. Its not like you want a personal relationship with her, you just want to know if she is pregnant so you can take care of responsibilities if need be. Who the hell knows, she might get an abortion if she was pregnant. But her neglect to your responses is not right in any aspects. Take care man, and good luck.

Yes condoms break sometimes.
I like torjan blue they don't break and fit me well. I lube my dick, put the condom on, then lube the condom. I also carry a spermicide supository just in case. May be paranoid but I have had some problems in the past.
Don't know how well you know this girl, but I generally don't say anything when a condom breaks I just go down on her, fish it out and pop in the spermicide.
The classic con is to request that you pay for an abortion. She may or may not be preggers and it may or may not be yours. Suggest you go with her for emotional support and see how she reacts. With DNA you won't get nailed unless it really is yours.
Good Luck guy. I wish there was something other than getting cut or condoms that guys could do.
PS Don't let a woman near your condoms, some bitches with fix them so that they do break then deliver the high drama trying to get at your money.

Get this hair cut!

your only worry? Gesh!!!!!!!
At any rate leave the girl alone.. She has enough to worry about as it is..
It is a wierd and awkward position for both of you. If she wants to talk about it she will.
Simply, call her or email and say Hi,, I am worried about you and me.. Hope you are ok.
I went for test and all are A or B and all is well. Would love to see you again or not...

Then move on from there. Do not make it more difficult then it has to be....

Why the fuck any girl not actively trying to get pregnant would not be on birth control/properly taking her birth control is crazy....much less a fucking provider who typically sees many cocks daily...hang in there buddy.

Among the many reasons she may not want to email you about it is this little legal issue of creating a trail of evidence. Unfortunately I have had similar situations arise, and we talked about the important things - birth control, STD test status and follow up - right then. We also apologized to each other and took turns running to the bathroom to wash up obsessively.

You lost your opportunity, now move on. Shit happened, you ran away, and now you are complaining that she is not manning up? Come on.

Well she contacted me a little after the appt to say I was stuck on her mind the next morning. I said that's nice and I really like seeing you.  Then my next message was asking her if she was on some type of birth control. No response to that. She did mention to me in passing once about a month or two ago that there was no way she wanted to get pregnant any time soon as she is a safety girl, everything covered. What else should I be worried about besides std's, pregnancy, and making sure she is ok and trying to do the right thing. Like I said, I only asked once about a week ago, so I haven't  been bothering her. But I guess I will take the advice of just waiting and asking to see her again  down the road and seeing if she is ok. Not much else I can do.

Listen, many men and women have the misconception that this will help better the feeling of both parties and will somehow eliminate the condom from breaking or slipping off.

I visit my doctor regularly, and I inform him of my hobby and he tells me the necessary steps to hobby safe. Once advice he mentioned was, "to never lube your dick, then put the hat on, and lube the hat". Why? The hat will slip off while fucking her!! Haven't you had this problem before? Anyways, don't do it. Put the hat on first, then lube the condom. be safe man, and enjoy!!

I like a dummy.. had assumed that any girl in this business would be on some kind of birth control besides a condom and for some reason I thought she answered you..

Guess I am a bit of a hard ass. but,, Any girl in this business who finds herself pregnant and not using birth control has 0 right to ask for any parental help..

Yes, you have every right to know.. But, who does that? still boggles my mind!

Was he too drunk or something?  Why stay quiet?

I mean a fucking condom broke...  I'd be going ape shit and inform her right there so we can deal with the situation, maybe pull out one of those emergency "my condom-broke first aid kit".

Those KIT do exist and supposedly kills almost everything.  

Seems to me she must be thinking that he intentionally pulled it out while she wasn't looking in order to get a BBFS.


DA

In this business, we take chances. One of them is getting pregnant/getting a provider pregnant. If she were to get pregnant and keep it, that child has a right to be supported by both mom and dad. It's a chance we take and he took it. This story sounds strange in that when he did finally talk to her he mentioned that he liked seeing her. I thought it would be immediately talking about what happened and asking if she is on bc and if not what would she do if she came up pregnant. Anyhoo I hope it all works out for him.

Fuck you dude. Why make the worst assumptions? She knew and I knew that it happened immediately after the fact. What if I say my hands were never down there towards the end, only hers were. And again, the condom broke, it wasn't pulled off. I don't know what brand, its whatever she has, but maybe we were using it too long and should have switched. I don't know. I don't blame her and I know my hands never touched my penis,only she did but to quickly put me back in. So I asked a day later, BFD. Seemed to me we were cool after the incident until I asked if she was on birth control.

You know what I'm thinking after reading your post? You probably seek bbfs, or even do it without the girls knowledge, that would be my guess as to why you carry around a kit like that.
*not fun when your accused of something just because I misinterpreted what you wrote.

Well I can answer that. I didn't just want to come out and go your on bc right? It was only one message saying I really liked seeing her, after she said something to that effect, cause it was a great appointment except for the part I brought up here. Then a few minutes later I brought up bc and asked her if she was ok or if she needed anything from me, then silence. It's just gonna be on my mind till I find out what is going on. I hope everything works out.

Not too long ago, the condom slipped off while with a provider and afterwards she pretended it didn't happen.  I wasn't in there long but still weird.  You sound like you got the same exact reaction as I got from this lady in NYC.   I'm wondering if it is the same indy from NY and if it was Lifestyle condoms.   If it is, she should stock a different brand.

Many women in this business are NOT on chemical birth control for various reasons pertaining to their health and wellbeing. For some women screwing with their hormones is just not an option. Not all women are identical clones of each other in terms of their hormonal reactions and wellbeing.

I agree that if people are going to be big boys and girls and do big boy and big girl things like have "consenting ADULT" sex with each other, they should also be able to have normal ADULT conversations about things like birth control, STDs, what happens in the event of conception, etc. People of either sex who can't have such conversations should maybe re-think their decisions.

However, actual adults are in short supply. It's sort of crazy, but we seem to have this attitude that without regard to how much wisdom they have actually attained, once people have attained a certain chronological age they should automatically be able to make sound decisions.

As for whether or not a provider who conceives has a "right" to ask for what is euphemistically termed "parental help" which really means "25% of a man's income for the next 21 years" -- the answer is yes. HOWEVER, with rights come risks and responsibilities; which is why only true adults should be empowered to make such decisions in the first place. A provider who asked for "parental help" might find herself in a situation where the guy insisted at least upon visitation and quite likely joint physical custody.

In joint physical custody, the guy would have the child half the time; and the direction of child support would depend upon income differential but would be half of what it would be in a sole physical custody situation. Since some providers have bragged about making nearly a million dollars annually, and since family courts don't generally care if the source of income is prostitution, the outcome of a provider asking for "parental help" COULD wind up with her sending daddy a check every week and only having her child every other week.

So what I'm saying is she has a RIGHT to ask for "parental help" because the CHILD has a right to be supported. A mother cannot give up a child's rights. She only exercises those rights on the child's behalf. However, once she initiates that step, depending upon the guy, she might end up with an outcome outside the range of what she expected. So she should consider her options carefully.

One other thing to watch out for, because it is extremely common, is mis-attribution of paternity. There is a tendency among women who have a high number of sex partners to attribute paternity to whichever man she believes would be the "best" father -- whether that simply means the man who is most mature and responsible in his attitudes or simply has the deepest pockets. Do not under any circumstances accept paternity without an iron-clad DNA test. (Personally, I would recommend a DNA paternity test for ALL births -- even virgin births from perfect wives.)

But in the case of the provider being referenced by the OP, I find it pretty unfortunate that she won't have an ADULT conversation with him about things like birth control, etc. It's funny how people are selectively "adults" when it is to their advantage but forget all about being adults when it comes to responsibilities for even just an uncomfortable conversation.

Doesn't matter to me one bit cuz I don't really give a fuck if you did or not. I'm just saying that you not saying anything in that situation was a bit awkward, that's all, no need to get all fucking jumpy.  :P

Did I ever say I carry the kit?  I never ever engage in BBFS so I don't need one.

However, some providers I know carry around that kit so that they can take care of themselves when a condom breaks. It's just being smart.