Listen, many men and women have the misconception that this will help better the feeling of both parties and will somehow eliminate the condom from breaking or slipping off.

I visit my doctor regularly, and I inform him of my hobby and he tells me the necessary steps to hobby safe. Once advice he mentioned was, "to never lube your dick, then put the hat on, and lube the hat". Why? The hat will slip off while fucking her!! Haven't you had this problem before? Anyways, don't do it. Put the hat on first, then lube the condom. be safe man, and enjoy!!

Well she contacted me a little after the appt to say I was stuck on her mind the next morning. I said that's nice and I really like seeing you.  Then my next message was asking her if she was on some type of birth control. No response to that. She did mention to me in passing once about a month or two ago that there was no way she wanted to get pregnant any time soon as she is a safety girl, everything covered. What else should I be worried about besides std's, pregnancy, and making sure she is ok and trying to do the right thing. Like I said, I only asked once about a week ago, so I haven't  been bothering her. But I guess I will take the advice of just waiting and asking to see her again  down the road and seeing if she is ok. Not much else I can do.

Was he too drunk or something?  Why stay quiet?

I mean a fucking condom broke...  I'd be going ape shit and inform her right there so we can deal with the situation, maybe pull out one of those emergency "my condom-broke first aid kit".

Those KIT do exist and supposedly kills almost everything.  

Seems to me she must be thinking that he intentionally pulled it out while she wasn't looking in order to get a BBFS.


DA

In this business, we take chances. One of them is getting pregnant/getting a provider pregnant. If she were to get pregnant and keep it, that child has a right to be supported by both mom and dad. It's a chance we take and he took it. This story sounds strange in that when he did finally talk to her he mentioned that he liked seeing her. I thought it would be immediately talking about what happened and asking if she is on bc and if not what would she do if she came up pregnant. Anyhoo I hope it all works out for him.

Many women in this business are NOT on chemical birth control for various reasons pertaining to their health and wellbeing. For some women screwing with their hormones is just not an option. Not all women are identical clones of each other in terms of their hormonal reactions and wellbeing.

I agree that if people are going to be big boys and girls and do big boy and big girl things like have "consenting ADULT" sex with each other, they should also be able to have normal ADULT conversations about things like birth control, STDs, what happens in the event of conception, etc. People of either sex who can't have such conversations should maybe re-think their decisions.

However, actual adults are in short supply. It's sort of crazy, but we seem to have this attitude that without regard to how much wisdom they have actually attained, once people have attained a certain chronological age they should automatically be able to make sound decisions.

As for whether or not a provider who conceives has a "right" to ask for what is euphemistically termed "parental help" which really means "25% of a man's income for the next 21 years" -- the answer is yes. HOWEVER, with rights come risks and responsibilities; which is why only true adults should be empowered to make such decisions in the first place. A provider who asked for "parental help" might find herself in a situation where the guy insisted at least upon visitation and quite likely joint physical custody.

In joint physical custody, the guy would have the child half the time; and the direction of child support would depend upon income differential but would be half of what it would be in a sole physical custody situation. Since some providers have bragged about making nearly a million dollars annually, and since family courts don't generally care if the source of income is prostitution, the outcome of a provider asking for "parental help" COULD wind up with her sending daddy a check every week and only having her child every other week.

So what I'm saying is she has a RIGHT to ask for "parental help" because the CHILD has a right to be supported. A mother cannot give up a child's rights. She only exercises those rights on the child's behalf. However, once she initiates that step, depending upon the guy, she might end up with an outcome outside the range of what she expected. So she should consider her options carefully.

One other thing to watch out for, because it is extremely common, is mis-attribution of paternity. There is a tendency among women who have a high number of sex partners to attribute paternity to whichever man she believes would be the "best" father -- whether that simply means the man who is most mature and responsible in his attitudes or simply has the deepest pockets. Do not under any circumstances accept paternity without an iron-clad DNA test. (Personally, I would recommend a DNA paternity test for ALL births -- even virgin births from perfect wives.)

But in the case of the provider being referenced by the OP, I find it pretty unfortunate that she won't have an ADULT conversation with him about things like birth control, etc. It's funny how people are selectively "adults" when it is to their advantage but forget all about being adults when it comes to responsibilities for even just an uncomfortable conversation.