Not to judge, but, what's the point of having a significant other, while you are providing?? (financial, raising kids together, you love him, etc ?)
Sorry, but if I loved you, I couldn't let you do it.
For me, jealousy is a real human emotion.  
Your thoughts please

Is this an actual problem for you?

So many of these hookers SO's are just like you...unemployed and worthless.

your obsessive jealous behavior to the point of obsession and stalking. Interesting subject for you to broach given your bad reputation of not controlling yourself. Try to focus there and not worry about other people.

Most people need emotional stimulation also. Providing doesn't offer that; hopefully haha

It is very dangerous to try n be a courtesan while having a BF/husband/whatever

Yea...those courtesans are a whole different breed...not hookers, not street walkers...not prostitutes.

How about Husbands or Boyfriends with Significant others the see Providers? I've never been Married or had a steady G.F. for a long time. So I'm clear of all the Drama.

Really?

the difference between us and him is potential love.
many hate us but love their S.O.

... that is, with OPEN, HONEST communication!  some are also emotionally mature enough to comprehend, on an emotional level, the difference between the affection we have for our clients, and the love we have for our mates.  some are mature enough not to miss the forest for the trees, and are willing to wait to reap the long-term benefits.

Well if you are reading this then I guess so.

no one "lets" me do anything.  how absurd!  i am a human being, i belong to no one but myself.  when i am part of a partnership, i may make agreements with my partner, but they do not make "allowances" for me, nor i them.  love is not a claim to my body and soul.

When is the lungman going to start screening for you?

when you said there are jobs and there is way to pay for school..

If you want to know the backstory....I've attached the TER link.

When I read RT's response it became clear that both he and The Dungbeetle, each in his own way, have a deep-seated lack of respect for providers.
I feel differently and had an experience today that was telling.  I was with one of my favorite girls and we had a great time playing, then chatting about hobby-related issues.  I realized she had another date coming so I left on time.  Went to my car, plugged in my phone and pulled out of the parking space at her apt.  Glanced back and saw a guy headed for her door, clearly her next client.  This hadn't ever happened to me before, at least to the point I was aware of it.
I didn't think less of her, I just was amazed at how these girls are able to do it back-to-back like that. It was impressive in its own odd way.  It didn't make me like her any more or any less.  It just made me marvel she could do it.  She seems to love what she does and, however she manages it, I'm happy for her that she does.
Both Ridgy and Dungy, however would on some level despise her.  Ridge-troll at least would be open about it, while Dungy would bleat about this poor "soiled dove being forced to degrade herself.  What a tool.  And you're right, Curly, the two of them are really peas in a pod and, not only should they get a drink together, they should become butt-buddies.  Then they wouldn't have to soil themselves with these filthy whores.

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So yea...you left your gal pal and get into your car.  She still hasn't showered, brushed her teeth or cleaned up nicky's mess.

You are one of the wisest posters on this board.  And I know you are far too wise ever to be involved with Dungy but your ex who wanted you "to be miserable" sounds a lot like him.

Yes, I would have preferred laboring under the illusion she spaced out appointments by an hour.  I watched her straighten up her place while I was dressing.  When I saw him I was, at first, skeeved out.  But the thing is, she's such a sweetheart I just cut her slack.  Besides, I like girls who like to fuck.  My ATF is quite frank about being fairly high volume.
Anyway, imagine how the other guy felt, watching me come out and wondering where I'd nutted?  In case he read this board and can figure out who I'm talking about, it was BBBJTCNQNS.  And thanks for asking!

Then said to the guy...

The short answer is the point is personal, and if it works for those who do it, it is none of your or anybodies business.

by posting the link. Butterflydust needs to stay as far away from Dungy as possible.  Then again, so does every other provider.  It really is incredible the way he keeps coming back for more abuse and embarrassment.

We KNOW it is. And all the guys who gladly have paid seem to think so too.

It has to do with what two agree upon, I would assume. I'd date someone if he could accept the fact that I do this; however, we would have to be friends first to build trust... you never know what someone will use against you.

when I used to frequent DC agencies...

A manual on what it takes to be an escort's SO. Yeah, not the stuff 99.99999% of dudes are made of. But everybody needs love, agreed?

What's in a name?

One said that almost every provider she knew has an SO. and why not? It make sense. Providing is a JOB. That's it. Jobs don't replace companions.

I am a people person--I get the most satisfaction from making someone happy--even if its just for a little while. I am from Detroit--You guys know what has happened there. I had worked in a hair salon for 20 years---as the factories closed--and people lost their jobs---my clientele dwindled. Finally--I came here to Atlanta. I worked 2 jobs and still could not make ends meet--I was working 80hrs a week--thru ALL of that--my SO also was working extreme hrs. His ass never wavered--he stayed for the long haul. ~Lol
-I have to say--that he is my best friend--i can talk to him about anything--and he NEVER judges me. In my book--that is a huge plus.  
~Anyway---when I came into this industry in 2008--I had no money and was down to my last pack of Raman noodles.  
Call me what you want---and judge me if you think that's the right thing to do---but I know who I am--
And I'm not saying "I'm sorry for being me" to anyone.
~Peace
~Evie

Extremely well thought out & written, you are 100% accurate with your comments.

Seeing you post like this here almost makes me remember what it used to be like around here.

Some people are loners by nature and don't want to deal with seeing someone else's clothes on the floor let alone raise a family; so for them seeing a provider every now and then to get their jollies works just fine.

Others are really into the family life, or at least having someone around them to share their life with.  They may find all the sexual satisfaction they need (at least for a while) with that person, or choose to supplement same with seeing providers.

There are a lot of variations, and nothing has to be written in stone.  People change and their relationship and needs also change.

thru and thru....but on the flip side of the coin, to answer the question you asked...

I was dating a producer while doing this for ten months. Was not about the money he never asked me for any I never asked him.. but our sex was great and happened to be we were both very busy so it worked for ten months I mean he was fucking girls in his films anyway.  Not with him anymore single again.  I guess it depends on how freaky you are some guys really like thinking of you with other ppl.  However yes there are a few providers that SHHHHHH dont like doing this and are here strictly for money so a few I know dont tell their men.

It is question of whether one accept another person for who they are instead of being judgmental about them. Being that said, it is very hard to do for most people on this planet because the day we start having cognizance, we are surrounded by judgmental society.

Basically you are saying, people who doesn’t follow the rules and mores established by some men to control humanity for their own purpose are twisted.

It's not the pussy we're paying for, it's discretion.  You don't pay a hooker to come, you pay a hooker to leave.

Can't have one without the other. So if you just wanted discretion we can sit and chat for the hour?

well said !!

I think he is saying that we just stop over whenever we want.... and then he has to pay us to leave

i'm a bit of a rush, so i likely will not express myself quite the way i want to here, but i did want to reply to you.

For others, this job seems easier knowing they have a man to go home to....don't get that shit either, because the last thing I want is another d(ck to take care of on my off time lol. I don't know what to tell you other than, every person is different.  

misunderstanding at all. Just wanted to hit the other side of the coin. I have been reamed on here about what 'the hobby' really pertains to...as far as true companionship and what gentlemen and the women providing are really doing. It is not about 'getting laid' altho many have told me it is nothing more. I have argued that argument until I am blue in the face honestly.  

"every person is different"..........simple and true answer.
Being alone is pretty cool.......no one to give me grief about anything.
Tiz why you ladies are important to some of us......get some lovin and no drama. ( morally is it right?....it works for me )

I agree 100% Taylor.....kind of the answer I was looking for. Thanks.

I'm in love with my sig other and need him in my life. I only offer body rubs and he does get a little jealous but he is understanding. And my boyfriend does not benefit financially from me being in this industry. He has a VERY good job and he helps me out financially, but of course not enough. He is there for me when I need someone to talk to, we go out on dates, have fun together. There are many reasons to have a sig. other and be in this industry. This industry doesn't provide all the emotional support one needs in life.

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Could you possibly get you head further up your ass?  Doubtful.

As ChicagoCPA suggested way above?  Really?  Gives me hope....I am very definitely a man of means...think I might ever find a provider I really like who'd leave the biz for me?