I wanted to start a different type thread.  

Simple as that. Maybe she found a new arrangement/life situation that didn't have room for your friend. In my case, I've only had one instance of a regular stop seeing me and that's because she quit the biz and got serious with her bf. Go ahead an have that period of mourning, then move on a find someone else. It can sometime take a while to find someone you click with really well, but that's part of the journey. The best thing anyone can do for themselves is to let go of the concept of "The One" and realize that you can cultivate a unique connection with many people over a lifetime.

That's a great post.

Yes, so did I, but I'm still horny and I'm still the one paying.  The hard facts are that providers do grow old with all the resulting factors, weight, skin, etc.  So I'm moving on.

There will always be greener pastures to plow.

Constant communication I can definitely understand being a problem.

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

There will always be greener pastures to plow.  
   

Posted By: Zak0326

 
  Ladies why at times do you end it with a regular?  
 

   
 Sometimes, when you've known someone for years, they start trying to take advantage or asking for things I won't do.  This could be Greek, BBFS, or even just going out with them in public or constant communication.    
   
 They might start wanting a romantic relationship.  
   
 Or, just like any other non-regular client, they step over the line in some way and get straight to my DNS list.    
 For me, there are certain transgressions where I absolutely will NOT give that person another chance.    
   
 xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxxooxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

You know the type. Guys that fall for their hooker, have to email/text them every single day, etc.

trying to take advantage of me. Anyone who has done this for more than a year has seen most of the scams, tricks, lies and games that some providers use to separate a hobbyist from his money. I'm not talking about the minor BS like telling me your real name is Beth and then a couple months later you say it's Sue. Because that's harmless. I'm talking about the heart-sinking feeling (mine) of realizing that one of my favorite providers just scammed me for a few dollars. That sucks.

intelligent and with big tits for life. Never asks for discount. Never whines about life. If wants to dine with me off the clock and good with all I mentioned below, he is most likely good to go. Well, and of course he likes cats and Jesus. lol. Xo

Pushing boundaries, expecting more than they should, holding their contributions over your head as if you owe them more than what they've been given.

I agree if I ever feel like an ATM I would walk away. Luckily I have never felt that way.  

I'll admit that I am not one for being a "regular" (how in the hell is that defined, anyway?); I am more of a "repeater". In a sense, I don't "end" it  - there just may be some time involved before I call to get together again.

Hahaha
Nope, Debbie, I find your answers straight to the point and good common sense.  
That's all we can ask from anyone we deal with in any situation

I had a regular for a couple of years.  
Wasn't exclusive as I had one or two I'd see from time to time
But this one was like seeing the best friend with benefits you could ever ask for  
The sex got downright amazing as we grew to know each other's likes.  
I'd give her business advice because she had an entrepreneur's spirit and very inquisitive mind for business.  
She was commuting from a mid size town in Texas to here in S CA.  
One day a dear childhood friend of hers died in a car accident where they grew up.  
It hit her really hard.  
Next thing I knew she was packed and gone  
Good lessons on a couple of things: at the very core of the relationship it was still a P4P arrangement and I'm glad I never stepped over any lines and if we'd really been "friends" she would've said goodby

I just don't get around to calling her again, EVER. lol

The most common is that they disappear into thin air, but beyond that:

Debra, I was just wondering, how would you characterize your relationship with a regular? Also in the development and evolution of it , what are five indicators that might tell you that it is time for a change or a break from that person?  Also how is it , when they start to encroach on other facets of your life?  Also how sensitive are you when the needs of the man exceed the boundaries of the relationship?  I am thinking when a established relationship starts  to go south these are the questions that you start to ask.

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

There will always be greener pastures to plow.  
   

Posted By: Zak0326

 
  Ladies why at times do you end it with a regular?  
 

   
 Sometimes, when you've known someone for years, they start trying to take advantage or asking for things I won't do.  This could be Greek, BBFS, or even just going out with them in public or constant communication.    
   
 They might start wanting a romantic relationship.  
   
 Or, just like any other non-regular client, they step over the line in some way and get straight to my DNS list.    
 For me, there are certain transgressions where I absolutely will NOT give that person another chance.    
   
 xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxxooxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Damn I disagree that this is the case for most. Your first year must have been brutal. Prolly your second year too.

IMO it leaves and wondering and slight emptiness to do this to your really good P4P friends.  But that's just me.

I appreciate it. I will say that there is no world like this one.  

but then again I see at least a hundred women in a typical year, so even a 1% rate of scammers means at least once a year.

I ended things with a regular last summer after about eight months.  Throughout the last three months she increasingly became more and more dependent of me...for everything.  It started out with cigarettes then maybe a bottle of wine here or there ( NOT for us).  It got to the point where I was buying toiletries for her (including feminine products).  There were some other things too but I'm not an ATM machine lo

1. Her service level dropped dramatically. Based on her reviews, I was not the only person who experienced this. This happened to two of my prior ATFs.

Once a week?

Her service level dropped dramatically over the last few session. The last one she fell a sleep on me afterwards.. She was drunk or high on something when she show up that’s why she fell asleep. I felt like that it was more about the money then enjoying my company. I just couldn't afford her anymore. I would rather spend my money on my other regular that is total amazing and fun to be around. Then spend it on her and sit around listen to all of her problem in life. Just not worth the time and money with her.

Gal #1)  I liked her & generally had a goodtime.  She had a limited menu but I waas ok with that.  Her performance slipped & I felt that it wasn't worth the cost.  So just I stopped calling her.
 
Gal #2)  I put up with a lot of drama with her over a lot of years (6 I think).  It was different things that interrupted our time & was not directed at me...  even though it was interrupted I got my full time.  We had established 1 hour of play time & roughly equal time OTC dressed...  because it was a long drive, I'd get off the highway & purchase lunch fixings for us.  The final straw was she had a family event within a few days of our appointment (I assume she' told the truth) that she didn't mention when I booked...  we could have / should have rescheduled or tightened up the schedule, if she'd told me.  I'd just got out of the store when she called me with a rant...  where was I?  Am I standinig her up? etc.  I promised her I was on my way.  I arrive & she went ballistic on me again.  If I hadn't promised, I'd have walked back out...  I spent half an hour calming her down.  So we had our session & I left.  I wished I'd stayed home.  She could have set things right with an appology...  She knew she'd screwed up but didn't do so.  And she's no kid...  guessing nearly my age...

I prefer being a regular client and had seen someone several times and thought it was great until she called me with 25 minutes notice before a 2 hour date and cancelled saying "something had come up" after I had cleared  my entire schedule. I would have been fine with a short explanation but I can only assume a better offer came up at the last minute and I got dumped.  So thats the end of that.  Hard to understand since she had indicated she really enjoyed my company.  Oh well, the search continues.

My regular is based in Manhattan and doesn't tour.

i said, eofm, mf!

but maybe i've got my research methods down so it's only a few clicks of the mouse, and a couple of emails.

I too make only a few clicks of the mouse and a couple of emails, but since I am pretty sure I see a lot more different women than the average guy, I can't imagine a year going by without someone at least taking a shot at scamming me. Are you saying your vetting is more than 99% effective?  

..Perhaps they should put that effort into civvie girls if they want something more (like as you say a romantic relationship), which is something that a provider is not so quick to agreement (even over a long period of time), especially without a payment and a possible DNS in the future when crossing the line

In no particular order.

It has happened, but always by the lady moving on.  Regardless, if you know how to hobby, you always can move on as well if the situation warrants.  At the end of the day, you have the gold, and you make the rules as far as your personal situation as a hobbyist goes.

Sugar Babies.

...she's a lucky lady, Jack! xoxo

Then you're doing it all wrong.  

Or they can find an escort, which is different than a prostitute.  

First off, if you're spending $400 on her, I'm assuming you're getting at least a 4 hour date out of it, correct?