I read a lot of threads on this General discussion board, some valid and some illogical.  Some providers ask, why clients book and then no-show without a courtesy phone call or email.  So here goes, I made contact with a "reputable" provider that posted an ad saying that they would be in my city sometime this week, I emailed my screening info, she contacted me back and a date and time was set.  She said that she would email me the day prior to our appointment to confirm, being that I just perused my city board and saw that she cancelled her trip (and not so much as a email or text), I'm guessing I won't be seeing her as scheduled.  So I guess my question is, where is the common courtesy?  Now I can say I don't feel so bad for providers who get no call/no shows because it goes both ways.  Common courtesy, it is a lost art.

Anyhoo.....

I suppose a personal touch is nice, but she did notify you (indirectly) by posting a cancellation notice on your local board.  I'm sure she did that to save time by avoiding individual contact with every booked client in your town.   You didn't give a time frame, but it sounds like you got the notice in time. --z

Maybe the provider had an emergency and didn't have time to contact each individual client hence the posting in your city. You never know what is happening in someone else's life so a little humanity is nice. Yes that's sucks she didn't contact you directly and common courtesy is nice but hope the provider is okay.

Can't hurt to try, dude, since you already had plans set.  It's possible she hasn't yet gotten around to contacting you, since the reason for her cancelling may entail problems that you have no idea about.

Yeah, cancellations without the courtesy of personal notification really sucks. Lesson learned : she is not the reliable type and does not conduct her affairs in a professional manner. Up to you if you want to take the risk of booking with her in the future. Most gents will put her on their " don't bother" list and move on. If you did give her another chance I'd certainly remind her of this cancellation and request personal notification if there is a change of plans. Remind her everyone might not check the boards everyday.

A supposed reputable provider was visiting a city near me. I booked with her, it was confirmed, and I had made my plans.

...she should contact you directly to officially cancel the appointment.  This should be done on or about the same time that she posted her trip cancelation on the AD board.  

and since when is simply doing what we should have all been raised to do be praiseworthy?

I disagree, through our back and forth emails I also sent her my phone number per her request. Canceling on the local board would have done me no good had I not been bored and decided to log in to TER. When providers ask for references, time, and dates I assume they need this info in order to do their research and book a client. So to ask for the same courtesy that I gave her by booking and responding quickly to her emails, I should be treated the same in return. But GaGambler is certainly right, providers will rant away and blacklist hobbyist for no call/no shows but won't conduct business in return the same way.  

Let's be honest here, she more than likely cancelled because demand was not high enough for her to make the trip.  Also understandable and an acceptable excuse via email.  

Yes, you were treated badly and the hooker in question deserves any harsh words directed her way, but please don't make this a never ending cycle where you treat the next hooker badly, so she treats the next john badly and so on and so on and so on.  

You never got the confirmation email. So there wasn't an actual date set, but a tentative date. Happens all the time in this hobby.

I feel ya, I'm not going to treat anyone that way because so and so flaked on me. The reason I didn't name names is because TER seems to not allow posts that call out names. But I will if contacted via pm.  

While I agree with almost everything you said, I'm having a hard time seeing this as a NCNS. In my mind it wasn't a date until it's confirmed. It wasn't and smart business sense demands she email she didn't these are 20 somethings that never went to college or had a real job. So ...

I would imagine that is what PM's are for.

You are correct that you cannot do so on any national board.

I always pre-screen a provider I am interested in seeing so I can call last minute.  I understand this is subject to her availability and I don't always get an appointment.  No big deal.  Screening takes very little effort for girls that use P411.

As much as you hate to admit it, the "rules" do not favor the johns over the hookers.

Just to be clear: your provider said she'd send you a confirmation e-mail one day before your appt.  You never got a confirmation e-mail, which was a yellow flag.   You then did the obvious thing--you checked your local board, where she posted a cancellation notice.   I'm not sure this qualifies as an NCNS, in which someone is completely blindsided.    

You are free to flame all you want on the regional boards.  I would recommend being sure of your facts before doing so.  Did you reach out to her afterwards?  Did she ignore you, 1, 2. 3 times?  A reputable provider will definitely respond on the board if you post to your board.  Will you story be better than hers?

I did miss the part where she was to send a confirming email the day before the appointment which as Z points out is when the appointment is actually "firm"  

that maybe she had "booked up" and didn't want to have to deal with turning down requests?

and it goes back to H+T's misplaced concerns about "fair play"  

professionalism. Sorry that happened to you

In regard to what unsafe things a hooker might be tempted to do to ensure she is not "rewarded" with a bad review WITHOUT the ability to tell the truth should she refuse and be safe. Other than that, I don't care.  

I have experienced many hookers that will not elaborate in a reference request. Because of the fear of the hooker requesting the reference may go back to the john and let him know what she said.  

Tentatively booked would  and should have been done. I guess she thought posting on the forum would be like a catch all, however you are right...if you did not get bored, you would not have known.  

I think this is what happens with reviews and the overall gaming on both sides. Same with ncns, cancellations etc.

nothing was actually set in stone, ie, no confirmation email the day before.  so i don't think the lady was incredibly rude, but rather simply thoughtless.  

We all know there are a lot of OTHFB's offering BBFS for good reviews, and doing so of their own volition, Is that really so different than being "unsafe" to not get a bad review?

and unsafe in order to get a good review, she clearly does not care.  

from a provider that needed to cancel.

uy walks in to a restaurant in his bare feet. Clearly a liability and health risk.  

Sadly this is not about one bad review for a hooker but I can see the futility in explaining the true essence of my point that has been so conveniently missed by you.  

So please take the very good advice you were just given and "get the fuck over it!!!"

Good luck in your quest to rid the world of assholes.

Tell us how that goes.

When whiny tricks get the fuck over it too.