My ATF who I have seen for several years has gained weight steadily over the last couple. I still enjoy seeing her and like her personally.  I really don't want to say anything and hurt her feelings. I was wondering how others would handle.

If you still enjoy seeing her then what's the problem ? If she is becoming unnatractive to you then simply stop seeing her. It's not your place to talk to her about her weight and I guarantee that won't go over well.....

I would never tell her that. She does ask about how she looks since I have seen her for years. There is more to this then just looks. I also get a lot of texts/phone calls from her when times are slow and I always try to see her, but I imagine her business is slowing down cause of her weight gain

Their businesss dries up this time of year as does there 3 month supply of Ben and Jerrys. LOL

1. Continue seeing
2. Stop or slow down appointments
3. Slip her a tapeworm

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there to many lazy clients at her end.

I would not saying anything.

You're not falling for your suddenly fat ATF provider, are you?

ecause if that's the case, then I don't know what to tell you.

Can't agree more. Its a business araingement. Nothing more.

Don't EVER bring up a woman's weight.  Most females are insecure about weight/body issues so a single comment will haunt you for years.  It really sucks to put someone you like on ignore because of some insecurity-fueled rage against you. Do yourself a favor and just don't say anything! Stop seeing her if it's an issue, but keep silent.  
 

Sex worker go on welfare. Sex worker get ebd card. Sex worker eat more free food. Sex worker gain more weight!

Too Much weight! Plus since You buy The Groceries for Her you can control Her Weight gain!

...she'll think you're an ass, man.

Nothing more needs to be said.

I've had two ATFs. One was an AMP K-girl who I connected with the very first time I met her even tho' she had terrible teeth (great bod, bad teeth). I and others convinced her to spend her money on dental work and not on fake boobs. She was a mind-reader and each time (I lost count, maybe 40 or more dates) was pure bliss. She started to gain weight before she retired but it didn't matter to me. She is now retired and I would have to guess that she has plumped up even more but I don't think I would care if I could just lay there with her again.  

Just a little more to work with and I don't see the issue at all.

You didn't sign up for an overweight lady.
Her business will suffer and so will service, along the way, like dominos.
Most would agree, let her know.
Coming from a regularist in her circle, she's going to appreciate the honesty.
Many weight loss clinics with amazing results, supervised meds,etc.- So, to sum it up, let her know, before she becomes more of a mercy than a pleasure for you.
Happy New Year.

She's turning into a Wife!

Maybe she fit the description of you then but if she doesn't then there should be an understanding ... Now if you guys have great chemistry & her personality is great I say stick with her because that can be hard to come by.

My advice is learn the difference between advice and advise because they are NOT the same.

My guess is he "sees" double chins and a "muffin top"

NO ONE???

For BBBBB this is a huge step forward in writing coherently. I actually give her kudos for the vast improvement over her usual unintelligible gibberish.

I mean, at least I do. And all the fat broads i know, in this business or otherwise, know it too.

It probably helps that it wasn't a novel like her usual garbage.

There is a certain denial period where once skinny people start to gain weight, but convince themselves "I don't look so bad, I still look better than...."  

let's be honest here. If society did indeed favor the fat, fat broads everywhere would be raking it in, and not just in this industry. It's actually far more culturally acceptable to shame fat people into losing weight (there's no program, outside of a rehabilitation center, focused on selling weight gaining products to women because they're too thin, but the weight-loss industry is literally a billion-dollar one).  

This board is full of men who have "let themselves go" I work hard to make sure I don't join their ranks.  

Men can and do "let themselves go"...I did...I hold only myself responsible for the condition I found myself in...

Oh for sure; I get that totally. But I'm not talking about individual cases here. I'm talking intrinsic societal stigma. Men are of course susceptible to this, but the context is different.  

...I agree with you...

I don't care because it's more woman to fuck for me.
So I think it more of a equipment issue for some of you hobbyists too. Lol

or even better - become more wiser and developed basic human basic qualities,such  as kindness and ability to listen positively?

Never comment on their age or weight.  Period.  If you're not attracted to her, stop seeing her.  It is your money.  Choose to spend it as you will.  As some other posts have commented, in the end, this is a business arrangement.  If you still enjoy seeing her for other intangibles i.e. personality, etc. then continue.  It is not like you are dating, married, etc.  You don't owe it to her to see her.  My two cents.

If not, I'm sure she is already aware her clothes are tighter and the reflection in the mirror isn't as svelte as it once was.