I think some regular guys are very judgmental because to them the women who are escorting, sugar dating could be their future wives, at least in their minds.

Meanwhile, I noticed myself and other guys who can make the strict distinction. In our minds, these are the women to have fun with and maybe I could go to a very conservative country to find a wife..etc. If I chose to.  

What do you guys think? I want to hear you in-depth thoughts.

At least 3 gals I've met have told me that some guys started to ask about marrying at some time or another.   What's more, one of those guys is I.*

 

 
*grammatically correct, by the way.

Me object to the preposition!!!  
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However, I is the predicate nominative.  
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mrfisher is grammatically correct.

I do think some guys have trouble distinguishing the difference. Personally I think I'm kinda in the middle. Intellectually I know if I see an escort it's just a business transaction. But at the same time it's by the very nature a very intimate one. I do think real feelings can and do develop. Sometimes they're mutual, but probably mostly one sided. There's some girls I wish I had met under different circumstances, others I had a good time with but just scratched an itch.

There are three basic type of SD/mongers IMO.

 
One type puts sex workers and SB's up on a pedestal and basically worships them as "goddesses" which is a very unhealthy view IMO. These guys tend to be the ones falling in love with hookers who are only doing their job and providing a very good IOP (Illusion of Passion)

 
The second type looks down on all sex workers as whores, damaged goods, sluts, and not capable of having any real feelings for a man, and certainly not worthy of any decent man's love. This is an equally unhealthy outlook IMO and is usually based in misogyny.

 
And then there is the third type, which is where I happen to fall where hookers/SB's/Strippers et al are just "women" who happen to make their living selling sex which doesn't make them any better or any worse than a woman who does something else for a living.

 
I take it you don't think that sex workers "deserve" to have any REAL relationships in their lives, and that you would never actually date one of these "fallen women" because you are somehow superior to them???  If you want to go to a "conservative country" in order to find a wife I think that speaks volumes about you and nothing about the sex workers that you are intentionally or unintentionally insulting in your OP.

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Hello  Sir,

Indeed,  as  a  Provider  I've  been  asked  to  marry  several  times,  when  
I  first  started  in  the  biz  about  six  years  ago.  

 
I've  found  that  the  lines  become  blurred  in  the  minds  of  Clients  &/0r  
Providers   when  the  tryst(s)   are   so  amazing   that   they're   blinded  by  
the  ecstasy......  and  for  said  Providers....blinded  by  the  money!

 
I  actually  posted  a  thread  a  couple   weeks  ago,   with  regards  to  this
very  query  of  yours....    So  to  expound  on  my  reply,   I'll  simply  recycle  my  
original  thoughts:
   

"How  many  of  you  "Providers"  are  here  in  the  P4P  World  to  not  only
make  money,   but  also  to  find  your  "Savior",   "Your  Knight-in-Shining-Armour",  
or  "Mr.  Save-a-Hoe"?   (lol  no  disrespect  to  any  of  us!)

 
Perhaps  you  desire  to  get  married,  have  children,   and  live  that  "white  picket
fence"  fantasy?   (if  you're  not  already  betrothed)

 
0r  do  you  just  need  a  wealthy  Prince  to  sweep  you  off  your  feet?

 
How  many  Clients  here  are  actually   "lookin'-for-love-in-all-the-wrong-places"?

 
Do  you  find  yourself  seeking  a  partner  for  a  permanent  relationship  being  
drawn  to  P4P   women  or  strippers?

 
Is  it  just  a  dalliance  to  add  excitement  to  your  otherwise  dull  sex-life?

 
Do  you  think  the  P4P  lady  will  provide  this  same  excitement,   day-after-day  
if  you're  in  a  committed   relationship?  

Could  you  trust  each  other  implicitly?

 
The   common  saying  rings  very  true;    "the  way  you  meet  them,  is  the  way  you  
lose  them!"

 
 
Do  yourself  a  favor  Luvs.....   There  shall  be  "dangerous  curves  ahead"   whilst  living  
this   "fantasy" .... for  real.
 

I  encourage  all  to  learn   "mental compartmentalization"   whilst  hiring  Providers,  and  
whilst   seeing  Clients.    
 

This  technique  will  greatly  afford  persons  like  yourselves,   whom  think  for  a  long-term  
honest  relationship  to  flourish,   that  it  can  be  had  with  the  aforementioned.  
 
 
As  a  Provider,  for  the  last  six  years +,    I  compartmentalize  my   "work  life",   from  my  
personal  life,   and  from  all  of  the  other  facets  of  my  being.

 
For  example....   I've  told  myself   "sex  is  just  sex"....  "it  isn't  love".
(Nor  quite  frankly  do  I  care  about   "being  in  love"  these  days  anyway.)
 

No  matter  how  great  the  tryst,   and  the  single  or  {married}  Client's  technique,  
personality,  looks,  bank  account,  and  whatever,....  He's  a  Client  and  I'm  the  "Transaction".

 
I  became  a  Provider  for  many  reasons,  one  of  which,  was  I  enjoy  sex,  making  others  feel  
good  and  I  have  bills  to  pay!

 
If  you  love  having  sex  with  Clients,  and  Providers,  then  face  the  reality  very  quickly,
"the  sex  and  the  accouterments  are  just  a  role/service  which  is  part  of  our  job  description",
nothing  more.

 
Sure,  we  all  say  things  in-the-heat-of-passion  or  do  things  in  light  of  the  euphoria.
But  one  must  always  remember  it  is  within  the  throes  of  pleasure.    It's  not  always  "reality".
 

However  out-of-the-boudoir,   reverting  to  the  compartmentalized   Person/Client/Provider
is  best  served  in  one's  daily  life,  keeping  it  simple,  without  the  unnecessary  "dangerous  curves"! "
 
Regards,
Angelina  Jones

You and PAlaw need to get together LOL

To address your last point. I did not say that what sex workers do with their lives is their business, I am not judging them.  Rather. I have noticed some guys have these mindset. That we'll I have have fun with the sex workers and if they want a long term monogamous relationships with a more "traditional" woman I will go to a conservative country to do so. I don't necessary believe this. However, I have noticed some guys do follow this reasoning. Like they get married to their college GF or woman from a conservative Asian country but see escorts on the side..etc.  

I'm mostly restating what I've heard from other guys.

You certainly seem to be putting your self in with those who only see hookers as passing play mates while a serious relationship would be looked for elsewhere.

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Guys that want traditional wives certainly should look for them in traditional places.  Since we aren't supposed to be judgmental, why judge guys who want traditional wives?  (Hint: People who say don't be judgmental really mean only THEY should be allowed to be judgmental.)

and I do this just to not end up not having done it and not to miss what I would have missed and because it's good, normal and natural or whatever.
I would go to a conservative country and get a wife that wears a burka or whatever but I think they're too weird. It would end up in divorce, if there is such a thing or one of us would have to die by stoning or something.
I'll just keep at this for life. It's all I know.

In reality....... I really don't think that there are men or women who can take a moment say to themselves "Is this just a Sugar/Escort Date or Is this My future Husband/Wife?" Most just think of it being a one  way street so to speak.

How many clients here are actually "lookin'-for-love-in-all-the-wrong-places"?  
--- I can't raise my hand and claim this one, because it doesn't describe me accurately, lol. In my case, it's more like I'm looking for lust, not love.  

Do you find yourself seeking a partner for a permanent relationship being drawn to P4P women or strippers?
--- Nope, nothing permanent for me, please.

Is it just a dalliance to add excitement to your  otherwise dull sex life?
--- Absolutely it is!

Do you think the P4P lady will provide this same excitement, day-after-day if  you two were in a committed  relationship?
--- Nope, not only do I not think that, I'm not even looking for any committed relationship. The sexual excitement I seek and find in P4P isn't even a day-after-day thing for me, based on how I space out the times I see escorts. I might have long bouts of zero excitement about P4P, sometimes lasting hours, or days, or weeks. Also, there's a certain amount of excitement and anticipation that build up during the hunt and in the days and hours leading up to a session I've planned. For instance, when I'm doing my P4P homework/research and adding women to my to-do list, or while going through the names already on my to-do list, or after booking a session to take place in the next few days, or the night before a session, the excitement builds.

Could you trust each other implicitly?
--- Nope, but then again, I'm not looking for implicit trust the way it might exist in a committed relationship or is supposed to exist in a committed relationship. I'm not often disappointed when something unexpected happens between an escort and me, because I don't invest in a deep level of trust.

There are many different ways an entire country can be described as consetvative or might be described as conservative. There are conservative  people within non-conservative  countries, and there are non-conservative people in conservative countries. In I'm the United States, some people consider it to be extremely conservative as a country, while some others do not. In comparing one country to other countries, various criteria exists in determining which is conservative and which is not. Lastly, for those seeking relationships, not every one of them is asking conservativeness.

Two, I don't know if I fall into your vague category of "regular guys". I'm on this website and I participate in P4P for a simple reason: I like getting laid by various women and I pay for it because it cuts to the chase. I'm not dating the women I see in the P4P life. I'm not weeding them out to see which one might eventually be my life partner, because I'm not looking for a life partner. I'm not looking for a wife in this or any other country, conservative or otherwise.

So, in summary, using your own judgements, you've introduced two very narrow alternatives to describe what you assume to be the makeup of the clients in this game. I contend that there are far more possibilities and probabilities of who clients are than those you presented, especially since I know that I personally don't fall under either of them. Many other guys might not fall under them either.

but I never confuse that with a "tryst" with an escort. They are fundamentally different, with far different boundaries and premises.  

 
This is not to say that such a "tryst" with an escort cannot develop further; they can and do. These situations are unlikely, but they happen.

 
I believe you take it too far when you say "these are the women to have fun with". Women are women, neither good, bad nor deserving of such potentially misogynistic judgments.  

 
I say let the situation and possibilities flow and develop, but remain grounded in the boundaries and premises of the basic contract between escort and client.

The more you date someone

I’m open to marrying someone if it happens (did).

four months ago.  Why didn't you respond then while others were still interested in this thread, too?  

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I've definitely had admirers jokingly talk about marriage because it's obvious I love to please and have a bubbly personality. But sugaring an escorting are very different things.

As a sugar baby, I would get very low offers like 500 or so and I always had to spend a night with a sugar daddy. Basically these men were searching for a desperate young women to manipulate. It extremely hard these days to find a sugar daddy that actually likes to spoil a woman.  

Whereas an escort should be treated as a professional. Her rates are set, it's by the hour and you can have an amazing time with her no strings attached and trust that she'll be discreet. I love being an escort because my admirers love to spoil me, care about my pleasure as well and always want to make sure I have a nice time. It's a win win.  

I've had a couple of clients who got way too attached and I had to cut contact because that's not what I'm looking for.