I was wondering how providers feel when a client that is a regular of hers ask for a reference to see another provider and you realize that he is paying the other provider more money than he pays you for the same services?  Do you get angry/jealous or annoyed?  Are you willing to give the referral or are you more likely not to see him again?

Glad to be a reference and don't mind if my client sees other people.... If I see the other lady charges more then that's fine... That's her rate and I'm okay with what I charge for now,if I wasn't I would change it...

We each set our donation for particular reasons including: volume of clients, amount of expenses incurred, how much the market will bear, do you tour or not, the list could go on. Ultimately a provider has the freedom to set his/her donation wherever they see fit. This should have no bearing on providing a reference or any feelings one way or the other.  

This just sounds petty and unprofessional. If this happens to me, I'd stop seeing her.

i do feel annoyed and probably even if i see him again, chemistry will be ruined  

Not giving references isn't the best policy.

I've had regulars see women in the 600-1000 rate. I have no problem as a matter of fact I refer them to other providers if I'm unavailable. The sun shines for everyone why be greedy a provider saying no in my opinion means that she's very insecure of herself. Sorry but it's true. At the end of the day this is business, that man will remember that you did that for him and eventually come back.

It's easy to say here "oh, why would I EVER have a problem with that?"

...it's not a high school cafeteria table full of mean girls trying to top each other.

i did not name myself after damn yogurt ...i am Octavia, not octivia or activia  

i don't think anybody openly refuses to give references out  

Providers need to give references just for safety reasons alone. We set our own donations, so if a provider is that catty she should get run out of the business.

Does this apply to all of your clients or just your regulars?

Sex workers are not married to hobbyists.Hobbyist have right to do whatever.REFERENCES part screening process.Jealousy ,annyoyed feel runied chemisty....... Sex workers don't want money going to others sex workers.

I'm the one who decided to charge $XXX. Why on earth would I be angry that he'd pay my rate? Is he supposed to pay me $3000/hour just because, once, he saw a porn star for that amount?  

I dunno, looks like Fancy did just that!

You can be real or pretend, it is a pretend world for most.  

I don't think that anyone engaging in this activity would be simple minded enough to think that these ladies are in love with us.Lol  We wouldn't be paying them if that was the case. I would tend to agree with Jack.  While I think Fancy and Roxanne and other ladies are being honest on the subject, there are just as many that will not post their honest feelings on the subject.  I do think that it is wise for women to give out references for safety reasons.  On the other hand, I do think that many get upset when they realize that they are getting paid less to suck the dick that they have been sucking for the last few months and now this guy wants a reference so he can go and pay another chick to do this for twice that amount.  I once had a regular provider tell me that I was visiting another lady more than I was seeing her.  I don't know how she knew this but she was correct.  She joked about it but I could tell that it bothered her.  I know I would be highly upset if I found out that a lady was posting a certain price on her ads but was charging me double for the same service that she was providing to others at a lower price.  I certainly would not continue to see this lady and I know a lot of guys get upset if they are charged as little $20 more than the previous guy.  So it goes both ways!

Heck, just through private messages on this site alone, I have referred at least 5 or 6 nice, over-40 TER members away from my less enthusiastic reference givers.  

But personally i dont mind giving references at all. Im still fairly new to this environment but everyone has a plethora of desired tastes. If a previous client wanted a reference for someone else, there shouldn't be any emotional attachments involved. How could a provider maintain NSA professionalism if they get all worked up every time one of their clients deciedes they want to try strawberry this time vs chocolate. I think if one declined to give references it would make guys less likely to see them again anyways..

Financial jealousy is definitely more the inclination than any emotional territorialism. However, curiosity beats all.  Is she better looking than lower-priced girls ? More permissive in bed? More aggressively marketed? Lol If she had no signs of being any of those things, I'd wonder and be slightly consternated.lol
But, I think it's common for both guys and girls to wonder what goes into a provider's rates when they are higher

Not very many women, hookers or otherwise are that confident.  

and that is that she charges high rates.

i see a lot of ladies, and a few ladies many times.

i have yet to be disappointed when i've ventured into the "elite rate" waters of this hobby.

I have no issues with providing a reference...

for a provider whose rates are higher or lower than mine.
I provide many references to providers all over the us whose rates have been doubled sometimes triple my rate.
There is no reason for me to be annoyed if the providers rates are higher most of the time I don't even know the provider's rate who is contacting me.As long as she is a legit provider I will give the reference.
The only time I am annoyed is when I don't receive a thank you for providing a reference from the provider but hey...not everyone has manners but I still provide the reference.
It is about safety although I do find having alternative methods can also solve a bit of bs that sometimes occurs with the reference system.
Seeing different type of ladies is what this is all about.No strings and no drama.
Just my .02


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Re: I have no issues with providing a reference...

This is a good question.  I have never asked the ladies that I see regularly for a reference.  It would be interesting to see what would happen if I did.  I guess I will have to try it and see what type of response I get.Lol

sorry, i meant to imply that i have ALWAYS been disappointed when paying higher prices.