I have no must see list, personally, but if you know of some girl who excites your imagination that much as to classify her as a "MUST see", then go that route.

I have no idea what the fuck you're talking about in this obscure post other than that options previously unavailable to you have opened up, but it sounds like it's a new beginning for you, so I'd run with that - NEW, not more of the same.

you also want us to chew your food for you ?

OTOH some not so good. but i'll take care of the bad shit privately, for once. (i'll send a PM later. it needs to be techical and dry and not my usual stream of consciousness. i had too much fun this eve chatting up a young lady and sipping cognac to be technical and dry. it's coming though, i promise. you know who you are and you know you made the case.)

it looks like the little health issue that had me temporarily retiring is pretty much resolved. partly there are thanks due to 'johngaltnh' who is one of the folks i find sound and respectable intellectually. he provided me with some interesting suggestions which i pursued, verified in theory and succeeded in putting into practice with interesting effects. (i don't want to discuss them here because i've been pushing the same stuff on my friends and... you never know who reads the boards. LOL!) so, john, if you want to talk about it please start a different thread.

so i am looking forward to rejoining the great game soon. in fact johngaltnh's suggestion is SO effective that it may eliminate the need for me to do hobby "therapy" and i might be able to simply have hobby fun. imagine that!

but, life being but a pale shadow of perfection, there is a fly in the ointment. as i consider my next coming out party do i choose from:

1) past or currrent TER favorites, fondly remembered?
2) one of the UTR ladies who have been somewhat kind though not quite as fun as the TER girls?
3) one of the ladies from my TER "must see" list (which i have neglected)?
4) something civy and different? i didn't sip my cognac in solitude......

each has their plusses and minuses. if you were coming off a hiatus which would you do? ladies gents, both are welcome...........

and is very sympatico with you.

You need your self confidence restored and someone who will focus on you and make you feel like a million bucks is the way to go.

My congratulations to your recovery and kudos to JG for helping you get there.

High five JG!

However, regarding your decision; think about each option separately, take a break, then think of the next option, etc. Whichever option gets lead in your pencil the quickest, go with.

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but rather about which gropy to choose from and to have some fun with it. glad you had yours.

That way you get the best of all your choices. I just kidding, I would go with the UTR that has been kind to you during your ordeal. Kindness should be rewarded. Maybe she will surprise you and out preform the TER girls.

Based on your other posts about enjoying solitude, if civies can't be kept at arms-length ... I'd go with a provider. If they CAN be kept at a comfortable distance without creating angst, I'd go with the civie because civies have a wider range than providers on what they can provide albeit at the cost of certain expectations.

There is no question about the biological benefits of a new sex partner; but there are psychological benefits to a known sex partner.

So I'd start off with an ATF!

Meanwhile, credit for inspiring my ongoing research goes to a certain touring anthropologist; and credit for enabling the research goes to six intrepid souls willing to both trust and share.

you weren't down for the count !  For your cummin out event I'd suggest skipping the civi [ you were just kidding about that..right? ] and try to reunite with an absolute fave.   I had a weird near death experience a few years ago...Took 3 months to recover. When I was ready , I hooked up with my fave who gave me quite the "welcome back...thank God you're alive" experience.    Stay thirsty my friend.

question could be either #1 or #3.  Why settle for sub-standard (choice #2) or maybe not getting satisfaction (choice #4).

I am glad you are doing well and glad to see you are active again! xoxo