i will admit it, my dates with providers have for the most part been short - of the one hour variety. Thus, casual chit-hat has served me well enough.

So what? Are you telling her real info about yourself?  Hope not. Live the fantasy.

Spots we've traveled or just finding out what each other does for fun. Most will tell what they do for work just maybe not the company.

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asking a bunch of whoremongers is hardly going to put you on the path to being a witty, charming dinner partner.

Did I miss a memo somewhere that says she's not a person with interests and hobbies?  If you were to meet or hang out with someone that you didn't know all to well, what would you talk about?  

Well, you start out talking about her first two Ivy League college degrees and why she still can't get a regular job. Then it's about how world traveled she is thanks to hooking. Then you talk about how exclusive she is. And then...........well you get the picture.

The only reason I suggest this is because this is kind of how my guys have picked me out for more extended dates, and/or have trusted I'd know how to talk to them.

See? Ok, maybe for me it's easy. Already thinking up a story.

That was harsh.

I know your intention was to be helpful, but if people really don't know how to have a decent conversation without having to have their hand held that's just really sad/pathetic.

Tree mode dude! Tree mode.
Why are you replying to GaGambler when your post was obviously meant for the OP?  

Was that really harsh by GaGambler standards?

Socks, toothbrush choices, other people's bad habits, Black Sabbath. You know just what ever comes up.

common interests. If we don't have any common interests it's very doubtful she would have been the one invited to dinner. Plus, most atfs will let you into their private lives. Just no names, dates, addresses, etc. I think every lady I've ever met has a daughter. In fact, I tried to set up a date with a lady, but she declined because a new grandchild is imminent.  

Hahaha.  When guys react like you did, you ladies will joke that all the blood rushed from the big head to the little one.  Wonder what the name is when it happens to you ladies?  

I do extended and dinner dates all the time with women who barely speak English and rarely have any of those awkward silences. London and I have always joked about who would ever get in a word edgewise when two of TER's biggest blabbermouths of all time were to go out and get drunk together.

and enjoy your time! If your find yourself in that position (no pun intended) then you are not with the right provider… or you need another drink LOL!

There are some guys out there who are beyond sad/pathetic.

I wonder if old Deb is still "hanging" around somewhere? lol

You do know that some people are so smart they do nothing but absorb information into their brains and produce work, right? Then for a certain segment of time, they have to walk away from the only thing they do and try to focus on another person?

But Jack always manages without too much trouble. Lol

Just give the guy a break he may be shy or nervous around a beautiful lady one on one.
You try to sound so important but it's really your own insecurities.
So a person like you is just full it.
 

because you might just get what you ask for"

Look, a lot of dudes here ARE here because they cant/wont/don't get civie girls. They are uncomfortable around women as maybe they are shy or geeks and feel more comfy around a machine or what have you.

Women are unusually comfortable with me. I actually friends with them on social media, which normally would be ill advised, but these girls know how to be discrete which is less than I can say for one porn girl who tried to book me through said social media. They tend to open up more about personal info. Heck I know most of their real names, I'm told I'm very easy to get along with, and open up to.

Yeah it's even worse and louder now than before. I'm more stubborn than a couple years ago lol.

Why, whatever is relevant in the moment.  Time works that way.

Of course for those who love and French and Russian,  

kids...our journeys to the hobby, etc.  Usually it flows...it is an art to be present and open.

Compliment her on her nails or hair. This may tend to get the convo flowing. Of course compliments on her hair after a session may not be such a good idea.

Talk about a good way to clean out your entire system.

and then talk about the first thing that pops up!

Yes, I'm well aware that there are those intellectuals who don't have social skills.  I work with them on a daily basis.  Ask them a question on something that interests them and they can talk about it for hours.  I've also known special needs children and know what a tough time they have.  

like he always suggests others to be sure they do....

No, have never been to one.  Contemplating on attending one, but haven't sold myself on it.  Still undecided.

you'll get a pretty decent insight in to things that we like. or at least things that we like to talk about.

He said basically that two subjects were off the table, talking about her personal life and doing a "data dump" of his own life. That leaves EVERY other topic still on the table.  

If you ever start thinking that you are getting too old, too fat, too bald or too whatever for the ladies to possibly ever enjoy the time spent with you, just go to a M&G, it will reassure you that whatever you are unhappy with about yourself, you are still not "that bad" lol

would write a dang review...

Except of course a provider is less likely to tell a client when he is being a boor than a civvy chick, not being paid to be there, AND he knows he is going to score whether he is charming or not.  

It also can be a matter of what people have been exposed to for a long time. Trying to pick up a new game in a different environment takes some getting used to.

why are you saying i am guilty acting if providers are different.... perhaps you didn't read my reply to the op. maybe you should.  

We made a love ...

I quit trying to "impress" women years ago. It's an effort in futility and most women with even a half a brain see right through it.  

All you know about me here is what you can read in my reviews and what I type.

Take  about 2 hours to relax and listen that.

You can tell a LOT about a person by what they type. Your words about guys needing to "impress" on civvie dates are quite revealing.

You're just not loving it that you can't sit here and act so tough to me and so many others since we are catching on to your bullshit.

Harsh is doing it for them... or perhaps watching to make sure they do it correctly...at gun point.  

Over the years I have spent many long evenings on multi-hour and dinner dates.  In general, I do so with ladies that I have "clicked" with in the past, or am relatively sure I will "click" with on our first meeting if I am out of town.  Most of the time we discuss the same type of stuff I would discuss with a new business associate or vendor -- hobbies, food, movies, vacations, travel, hotels, educational background, sports, entertainment, dessert, whatever else comes up. While I try to not bring up specifics on topics like family, when they do come up, and they do sometimes come up (especially with someone you've met a few times) I normally share the basic truths of my life, and, in general, I think most of the ladies do the same. Maybe I have been lucky (or perhaps I'm just a sucker, LOL), but it seems to me that when the lady sees that I'm truly not trying to pry into their private info, they tend to be fairly open and we are able to have pretty deep discussion on most topics.  (And I like smart women, so I tend to look for this when scheduling longer meetings!)  Just remember, this all is supposed to be fun for you.  The lady wants it to be fun too.

For putting your 100th handle on "ignore"...THATS RIGHT AM, you get that coveted TER steak knife set!!!

I generally spend a lot of time corresponding with gentlemen before we meet, so there's never any problem with it comes to finding things to talk about. I am rather inquisitive, so I tend to ask more questions than I answer. I'm happy answer them though. Common topics have included food (that's a big one), our jobs (for me outside of this profession), family, life's motivations, travel (another big one), our common hobbies, our unique hobbies...lots to talk about. I'm also always on a mission to make him laugh!

Well an ego boost is not my thing; the only person I have to impress is myself.  When the day comes that I feel that I'm getting or feeling any of the ways you mention, I'll most likely stop.  

This makes my common interest point exactly. I love history, archeology, world culture, music, two guitars, songs in languages I don't even understand, and much more. Our dinner conversation would be endless. Oh, and I've never had Slivovit. But I'm open to new tastes. Here's to your culturally enlightened sense of style.

"The time has come," the Walrus said,
"To talk of many things:
Of shoes--and ships--and sealing-wax--
Of cabbages--and kings--
And why the sea is boiling hot--
And whether pigs have wings."