Posting a review is to give back to the community that has helped a newbie. The provider in mind only has a handful of good reviews. She has a smoking hot body and a great pleasing attitude. I want to post a review to help the community find her. But she doesn't want reviews and hubby insists on respecting her wishes. I owe you guys. I'm frustrated. Guess I just need to get laid.

sometimes it is much better to leave well enough alone..

If I had a good time with a provider and she didn't want reviews, I would not submit one.

what if you had only a mediocre or fair time with a pretty highly rated provider?

Earlier I said that if I had a good time and the provider wished no reviews I would respect her wishes, but under other scenarios, I might not respect them. If I had a terrible time, or she was a ripoff or b&S etc, then I would definitely write the review. Since you asked about a mediocre or fair time, my answer would be that if I felt the mediocre or fair time was my own fault, then I would still not write the review. If I felt it was on her, and that her previous reviews were not accurate, then I would probably write the review.

you should still respect her wishes.  

If she asks for no reviews you should be a decent, trustworthy person and respect her wishes.  These boards are INTENDED to protect guys from rip-offs, bad experiences, fakes etc so unless someone should be avoided keep it to yourself otherwise these boards are just a bunch of raunchy details and numbers!! The intended purpose has already gotten way off track!

A review will not be written. I was just venting my aforementioned frustration.  

her convictions must not be that strong otherwise she would have delisted herself. While I would normally respect a provider's wishes in this regard I would have second thoughts if she has current reviews already posted.
Now, it could be a case where the provider does not normally do doubles and she doesn't want that broadcast. If that's the case, I would forgo the review.  

She does ask for no reviews on her website and I did find her on TER. As far as I can see, she advertises on a few select sites like 411. She must be doing okay the way she is conducting business but it's a shame I can't tell you guys about her.

Providers with a no review policy should not benefit from TER while requesting not to be reviewed.  

I saw two ladies recently for multi-hour dates. Both ladies had really good TER ratings but neither performed anywhere near what I would have expected.  Both were advertised on TER, seemed to be high end by virtue of theitr posts, ads and web-sites and both had really good scores.  I suspect that they are protecting their good scores don't want reviews now as they will decrease those scores.  I have a history of giving very good scores when they are deserved and being somewhat charitable when needed.
I am conflicted, on one hand I feel almost ripped off but am not sure if it is enough to not respect their wishes.  On the other, I feel a responsibility to let others know but I really don't need the hassle of a pissed-off diva

but to get to the point of frustration over this.

if a provider had a no review policy on her website, and still advertised here?

Also if there is a bait and switch scenario, all bets are off.  

I would have PREFERRED to write a review. But since that is not happening, I guess I would like to offer the information through back channels. That would be a good end result. Then I feel as if I have given back to the community that has helped hubby enjoy the hobby safely and find a terrific provider.

as the thread seemed to revolve around a good experiences vs bad.

Ultimately, it is our decision to write them or not. If you don't want reviews, delist yourself and you won't have to worry about them.  
TER's policy of "one has a right to review" is spot on. This is a review site after all.

and going through back channel is a good way to get the info out.

From my perspective, this is a give and take board. I took a lot of advice and feel it appropriate to offer something back.  

If the back channel info that you choose to share is not a whole lot different from any other info out there..what would be your point ??

VERY good points Katherine.  What's astonishing to me is this:  guys come here and reveal all kinds of information about providers (that they have met at least once, possibly more and have gotten to know) to a bunch of total strangers that they know nothing about!!  I don't care how many reviews a guy has "offered to the community" ..he may be a complete ass in real life & to give up info to this potential ass of a man when a provider specifically states her wishes for no reviews,  is nothing short of disrespectful and just plain wrong.  

before diving in head first. This is a review board, dumb ass.

with those who ask, but will NOT publish a review. Can you see the difference? Oh, hell, I'll explain further. She tells Panthera12 who the provider is. Although Panthera12 has a photographic memory, it will be so inconsequential that he will actually forget after a few months because he doesn't really give a rat's ass but he is always curious (it's in my DNA).  

Wait a couple of months and then review under your alias.

you weren't there!
That's pretty simple.
And everything went well so why do you feel the need to go against her wishes.

You may not be privy to all her reasons why so leave it alone.

I think I have enough at this point lol...in fact, after 4 pages, I had enough. I realize a guy does not need my permission to write a review, but if my service was outstanding he is going to respect my wishes. If it sucked, he has every right to call me out. My latest review is a double's one, so it's not on my regular profile, and I prefer it that way. Said guy wanted to write me a review and then just add the girl so it would appear on MY profile only, and I said no, you can't really do that.

Christ. We start getting women who do not spend all day bragging about their credits and their 10s, and this is how we treat them? Cmon guys. I think this one is a keeper. She has also not tossed out her damn link in every post like so many others, so the advertising routine is a bit much. She answered a question...period.

It appears that she wants this place (which she doesn't own etc) to conform to her policy preferences. But that is just unrealistic. The silly part is that she doesn't understand that this place was created and still exists and is as large as it is precisely because it does not conform to her policy preferences.... Hell, it doesn't conform to most of mine either...  

Atty X goes to an independent web-site where atty's are reviewed and clients can communicate and discuss their experiences. Atty X then goes to the forum and posting as Atty X with a link to her reviews (which are very good and also contain links to her advertising) then argues that the site is for the benefit of the Atty's and that the clients should be satisfied with whatever level of participation the Atty's desire and that anything more is an imposition on them and unethical. Atty X then goes on to argue that his/her own policy preferences are that any reviews beyond what is necessary for the "legitimation" of an Atty as an Atty are excessive and that discussion of Atty's beyond said legitimation on the boards amounts to kissing and telling and gossip and social bonding.

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you clearly stated YOU wanted to post a review.
YOU said that in your first post.
HOW YOU wanted to post a review. you never said Hubby would you said YOU!

so bitchy or not YOU said it so Im no mind reader sweetheart.
Just the arrogance of wanting to disreguard the gals wishes to begin with is crap.

Jeesh!!!

out of hand. I've clearly said that a review will not be written... in fact never said it would, just wanted to. And obviously I wasn't in the room so that means if a review would have been written -***and it will not be*** - hubby would be the author. That would have been our contribution to the community.

We've gone way over and beyond to make sure this provider had a nice time in our area. And I'm not talking about the date. We - I - have done nothing to disrespect her. Just the opposite. Just got ANOTHER email from her thanking me again.  

With that attitude, you need some lessons in respect.

She is getting attacked because she is asserting herself and many of these hobbyists seem to think that they are the ones in control and "who the hell are WE to speak up about anything?!"  It might be your RIGHT to post reviews but it is also your responsibility as a REAL MAN and a DECENT HUMAN BEING to pay attention to, and respect what the ladies prefer or REQUIRE.    You pay for the services that we offer but you don't get to decide how we decide to protect our privacy & safety!!

Get the F over yourself.  Arrogance and know it-all pissy boy personas are flat out annoying

Why are so "frustrated over the no review policy?"  Why do you care?!  You had a good time, nothing negative needed to be reported to warn your peers…so move the frig on and get over it!!  This is what you call anal retentive, control, ego issues!  Damn, where are all the REAL men?!  

It's about privacy and discretion.  

Not that it matters, but I respect your position. Heck, I dig most all your posts. But your position is not what has been discussed above.  

of bad service...and she requests to not review her, whats the point.
her husband had a good time...theres nothing new to report.

she shouldn't concern herself with the whys and why nots, thats the providers business and not her concern.
Out of respect for the lady do as she wishes.
If you are wanting to write a review to build a web presence then ask her if she will whitelist you.
Obviously she has nothing to hide and most likely a steady following and doesn't need the exposure a new review brings.

Im guessing your husband will p4p again maybe the next lady will be happy to have a review.

Its all about respect on both sides.
If you go against her requests don't ask for a refs, but if you do as she asks she could be a great refs in the future.

But the way I interpreted it, it was about reviews getting posted, altogether.  

The relevant discussion was about whether or not providers should have the right and/or ability to selectively control what gets posted about them...  

I'm not saying it is easy, but how else can a review system be useful?

If a gal is using the No Review thing because she sucks, damn right review her, but if a guy loves his time with her and she was as promised in every way, why would he go against her wishes to write the very SAME shit that has been said 100 times, if he has nothing NEW to add? After you have like 30 damn reviews, the rest are pretty much repetitive bs unless she starts doing new services, in which case she might only have done that with HIM, and does not want you to know about it.  

How is that shallow or silly, when MANY women agree? I don't want 200 reviews either...EVER, so you say I can't use TER because of that? That's nuts. She HAS REVIEWS...many women simply want to keep the NUMBER down to appear more low volume. Duh, it aint all that sinister lol. Do I think every time a post appears it's advertising? Nope, sure don't. Not when no one can even access my photos or information without a password, and I am a bitch to boot. If I were here for your money and approval, I would be a lot nicer. You're welcome. FYI, you don't even have to use your provider name to post...many women here are using an alias, so how is that advertising when we don't know who the hell they are?  

Im not angry    stop projecting.

Are you smoking crack? I have 10 pages of reviews that say every guy gets a bbbj, cim, and a hell of a lot more every time. Do you really need to read the EXACT same shit again, or do you only want to know if I started taking up a drug habit or gained 20 lbs.? Get real. I concede to reviews being necessary when shit changes, not just for number effect. There is no need for a person with over 40 reviews to KEEP getting more and more if she does not want to. Many women like 1 new review a month to show they are still active and on point...not for a higher ranking on the damn Top List.

You tell him, girl. Ha ha ha. Fk you bitches. This one is my incoming!

For those of you who know her and have followed her posts, she has spent a great deal of time using this site as a tool, asking questions for help, and felt like she OWED the site a damn review...is that so hard to grasp? I can't be the only person who figured that shit out and I am not even drunk yet. You bitches let me e send you a drink lol. Oh, and yah there was a tiny detail about some location issues that other mongers might have wanted to know.

Forget it. I already know who, but damn why don't you go out and get laid or something?  

It's a rather obvious downside to the exposure we receive on this site. Sometimes guys don't realize that what they post online can have wider repercussions...and a wider audience than well-meaning potential clients. This site is the best resource for info about a girl...if a guy (client, stalker, ex-husband) wants the skinny on a girl, he will eventually wind up HERE.  

You are still hanging out on this thread for some reason and it's not because you are happy. Go home and sleep it off.

She can always express a preference for no further reviews to be written...and a guy can choose to disregard that preference and write one. Simple.

Correct on all counts. Bottom line, we don't have to ASK clients not to review us after the fact, because the guys we might refuse to see are the ones still writing reviews lol. I've never had a guy review me against my wishes unless I did something sinister, and I never have. In fact, most guys I meet are from TER and they still ASK if I need another review, like I need another spray tan this week. It is redundant. Sure, I would love a few more 10s to up the score, but get crucial. I am retiring in less than a year. I don't have a "no review" policy or anything...it just happens I have not had one in a month or so...that's normal for me though. I don't work all that much. I just think men who insist on doing things that could potentially harm a provider they 'CLAIM' to care about, are fkin assholes.

This post says it all, and yes Nicole there is ONE detail that might be of use to the guys here looking to hire said provider. In fact, she posted about it on the Newbie board. She just wants to give back to the very people who literally spoon fed her detail for detail on screening, set up, LE, and gosh knows what else for MONTHS before this date happened. Hell, the guys should be grateful, because that is why they are here...for reviews.  

Do you think and atty who has your stance would be reasonable?  

Why do you post under an alias?  

There is a difference between reviewing someone and mistreating them as you described. The two are not the same. And, reviewing someone honestly is not advocating or abetting misbehavior. It just isn't.  

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I think if you want the benefit of reviews you get the downside too... A controlled and limited downside with an avenue for correction.  

it's not 'opt-in'. Many girls have no idea they even have reviews. We get them without ever agreeing to any terms.

and have obviously never written one, your two cents with inflation means that I don't give a shit. I would have thought that you had learned this by now honey.

And once someone asked. It makes me uncomfortable. Even then, I wouldn't review without asking and haven't. But this isn't about me. Well, I think one post is about me... And, I'm not someone who thinks you all have an easy road to wealth in front of you, far from it. I understand that this is a different profession than anything else as far as personal risk... I get that the initial reviews for a woman on this site are rarely known of before hand... I also understand why a woman would want to control what gets posted: it makes sense. I also understand that de-listing is a pain in the ass.  

I get that guys are reviewed. It makes me very uncomfortable. But I see why it is done and know I live in a glass house and hope I have never claimed otherwise. But, TER was the only way I could get to see quality women in my area. So, I opted-in. It will prob fck me eventually, if this thread hasn't already... But, I kinda made that choice...