Earlier I said that if I had a good time and the provider wished no reviews I would respect her wishes, but under other scenarios, I might not respect them. If I had a terrible time, or she was a ripoff or b&S etc, then I would definitely write the review. Since you asked about a mediocre or fair time, my answer would be that if I felt the mediocre or fair time was my own fault, then I would still not write the review. If I felt it was on her, and that her previous reviews were not accurate, then I would probably write the review.
Posting a review is to give back to the community that has helped a newbie. The provider in mind only has a handful of good reviews. She has a smoking hot body and a great pleasing attitude. I want to post a review to help the community find her. But she doesn't want reviews and hubby insists on respecting her wishes. I owe you guys. I'm frustrated. Guess I just need to get laid.
sometimes it is much better to leave well enough alone..
If I had a good time with a provider and she didn't want reviews, I would not submit one.
what if you had only a mediocre or fair time with a pretty highly rated provider?
Earlier I said that if I had a good time and the provider wished no reviews I would respect her wishes, but under other scenarios, I might not respect them. If I had a terrible time, or she was a ripoff or b&S etc, then I would definitely write the review. Since you asked about a mediocre or fair time, my answer would be that if I felt the mediocre or fair time was my own fault, then I would still not write the review. If I felt it was on her, and that her previous reviews were not accurate, then I would probably write the review.
I saw two ladies recently for multi-hour dates. Both ladies had really good TER ratings but neither performed anywhere near what I would have expected. Both were advertised on TER, seemed to be high end by virtue of theitr posts, ads and web-sites and both had really good scores. I suspect that they are protecting their good scores don't want reviews now as they will decrease those scores. I have a history of giving very good scores when they are deserved and being somewhat charitable when needed.
I am conflicted, on one hand I feel almost ripped off but am not sure if it is enough to not respect their wishes. On the other, I feel a responsibility to let others know but I really don't need the hassle of a pissed-off diva
Wait a couple of months and then review under your alias.
you should still respect her wishes.
Unless she is unsafe. IM
If she asks for no reviews you should be a decent, trustworthy person and respect her wishes. These boards are INTENDED to protect guys from rip-offs, bad experiences, fakes etc so unless someone should be avoided keep it to yourself otherwise these boards are just a bunch of raunchy details and numbers!! The intended purpose has already gotten way off track!
A review will not be written. I was just venting my aforementioned frustration.
Helping the hobbiest avoid the negatives is invaluable. But I like TER because it also helped me find a provider that has all the qualities that I was looking for. It's not just raunchy details. Those details tell me if the provider has the personality, attitude, appearance and skills that I was seeking. If you're putting out almost two grand for a special night, you want to be as sure as possible that the two people are compatible. I don't know what TER's intended purpose was but I, for one, am grateful it's here the way it is.
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her convictions must not be that strong otherwise she would have delisted herself. While I would normally respect a provider's wishes in this regard I would have second thoughts if she has current reviews already posted.
Now, it could be a case where the provider does not normally do doubles and she doesn't want that broadcast. If that's the case, I would forgo the review.
The questions I have is does she have a "no review policy" on her website and did you find her on TER?
She does ask for no reviews on her website and I did find her on TER. As far as I can see, she advertises on a few select sites like 411. She must be doing okay the way she is conducting business but it's a shame I can't tell you guys about her.
Also, I'm sorry that I didn't make it clear. I try to put this in my posts but it's not every time. It was a solo date for hubby and I did not participate. Only dropped him off and picked him up. I did see her however when I waited to make sure everything was a go and then afterwards got all the good details.
Providers with a no review policy should not benefit from TER while requesting not to be reviewed.
Of course, I would honor the request since it was stated on her website. No question.
if a provider had a no review policy on her website, and still advertised here?
She certainly would not benefit from TER. Would you still honor the request.
CH1, has me frustrated. 
Also if there is a bait and switch scenario, all bets are off.
I do realize that some providers have a no review policy and it is not for nefarious reasons. Those requests will be honored.
as the thread seemed to revolve around a good experiences vs bad.
You did raise the valid point of, advertising on a review site(which also hosts ads) while requesting a no review policy
but to get to the point of frustration over this.
After vaguely reading the thread it sounds like -
1. You were not there
2. a good time was had
3. The lady has reviews, advertises on this site(giving her adequate exposure)
What do you want the end result to be?
I would have PREFERRED to write a review. But since that is not happening, I guess I would like to offer the information through back channels. That would be a good end result. Then I feel as if I have given back to the community that has helped hubby enjoy the hobby safely and find a terrific provider.
and going through back channel is a good way to get the info out.
The only thing is you're a third party. You would only be providing what hubby has relayed to you.
...of course it's never a bad idea to get the info out to any interested party.
If the back channel info that you choose to share is not a whole lot different from any other info out there..what would be your point ??
with those who ask, but will NOT publish a review. Can you see the difference? Oh, hell, I'll explain further. She tells Panthera12 who the provider is. Although Panthera12 has a photographic memory, it will be so inconsequential that he will actually forget after a few months because he doesn't really give a rat's ass but he is always curious (it's in my DNA).
If she writes a review 10,000 people will see it this week and it will forever be published somewhere on the internet.
Follow?
you weren't there!
That's pretty simple.
And everything went well so why do you feel the need to go against her wishes.
You may not be privy to all her reasons why so leave it alone.
out of hand. I've clearly said that a review will not be written... in fact never said it would, just wanted to. And obviously I wasn't in the room so that means if a review would have been written -***and it will not be*** - hubby would be the author. That would have been our contribution to the community.
you clearly stated YOU wanted to post a review.
YOU said that in your first post.
HOW YOU wanted to post a review. you never said Hubby would you said YOU!
so bitchy or not YOU said it so Im no mind reader sweetheart.
Just the arrogance of wanting to disreguard the gals wishes to begin with is crap.
Jeesh!!!
We've gone way over and beyond to make sure this provider had a nice time in our area. And I'm not talking about the date. We - I - have done nothing to disrespect her. Just the opposite. Just got ANOTHER email from her thanking me again.
I felt frustrated about the no review policy and said so. Then the whole thread turns into this battle over who's right it is to post a review. Enough already. Not trying to start a war here.
Why are so "frustrated over the no review policy?" Why do you care?! You had a good time, nothing negative needed to be reported to warn your peers…so move the frig on and get over it!! This is what you call anal retentive, control, ego issues! Damn, where are all the REAL men?!
I felt frustrated about the no review policy and said so. Then the whole thread turns into this battle over who's right it is to post a review. Enough already. Not trying to start a war here.
For those of you who know her and have followed her posts, she has spent a great deal of time using this site as a tool, asking questions for help, and felt like she OWED the site a damn review...is that so hard to grasp? I can't be the only person who figured that shit out and I am not even drunk yet. You bitches let me e send you a drink lol. Oh, and yah there was a tiny detail about some location issues that other mongers might have wanted to know.
of bad service...and she requests to not review her, whats the point.
her husband had a good time...theres nothing new to report.
she shouldn't concern herself with the whys and why nots, thats the providers business and not her concern.
Out of respect for the lady do as she wishes.
If you are wanting to write a review to build a web presence then ask her if she will whitelist you.
Obviously she has nothing to hide and most likely a steady following and doesn't need the exposure a new review brings.
Im guessing your husband will p4p again maybe the next lady will be happy to have a review.
Its all about respect on both sides.
If you go against her requests don't ask for a refs, but if you do as she asks she could be a great refs in the future.
Forget it. I already know who, but damn why don't you go out and get laid or something?
All she wanted to do was convey that she/THEY are unable to reciprocate to everyone who has helped them along (myself excluded) because I didn't give her any advice. Seriously, don't be like me and pick apart her posts. It makes you look like an old pantherette without real claws.
Im not angry stop projecting.
You are still hanging out on this thread for some reason and it's not because you are happy. Go home and sleep it off.
This post says it all, and yes Nicole there is ONE detail that might be of use to the guys here looking to hire said provider. In fact, she posted about it on the Newbie board. She just wants to give back to the very people who literally spoon fed her detail for detail on screening, set up, LE, and gosh knows what else for MONTHS before this date happened. Hell, the guys should be grateful, because that is why they are here...for reviews.