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Having been there for real, I . . .
sthebean 11 Reviews 6296 reads
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How many men here have married an escort? Or had a serious relationship (as a single man) with an escort? Pros? Cons? I am a couple days away from my 1 year wedding anniversary and 2.5 year relationship mark.

GaGambler 179 reads
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2 / 69

Pros, very little hangups about sex (usually). I have found that most of them are LESS demanding, both financially and emotionally than the typical women I have been with. I don't have to hide my "past" from a hooker. Most non hookers would freak the fuck out if I were ever to reveal I had been with literally thousands of women.  

 
Cons, having dealt with lying, cheating men for their entire careers most hookers rightfully have some trust issues,  

 
Personally I have found more pros than cons in dating hookers or ex hookers. There are many challenges to dating an active provider of course, ex providers have no more baggage than any other women IMHO.

 
Now I am not about to marry ANYONE, hooker or non hooker, but congrats to you on your upcoming anniversary. I hope you two still fuck like rabbits.

lester_prairie 12 Reviews 118 reads
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3 / 69

I was married to a civie before starting this hobby and remain married. However were circumstances different, their status as an active or ex sex worker would not be an impediment to any future relationship.

RespectfulRobert 164 reads
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4 / 69

How do you handle the jealousy factor? I would just die every time my SO went out to have sex with another man. It would kill me inside. How did you cope/manage? Did she talk about the dates with you or was that a taboo subject? Same question for the OP or whomever else has dated/married a provider. That would be my only hesitancy in doing so. I am hoping you can respond in a civil manner as I am asking in a polite tone as I am truly curious.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 171 reads
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5 / 69

relationships with providers, I am an admitted serial boyfriend, but have not ever crossed the line into ANYTHING that might "feel permanent." (I have allergies - lol).    I have been married a few times, and I know divorce is expensive, so I hate that, even though its always worth it.  (I was also widowed once, but that was inexpensive, and I was not a person of interest because  It was a stroke.)    I can usually walk away from a hooker relationship by giving her a little relocation allowance and still remain friends afterward.  Working girls are pretty intuitive.  They know when its not working out and the end is near, so there is rarely a big scene when I tell them its over.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 153 reads
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6 / 69

If you would be jealous if you SO was a movie star and kissing and making out with another man, or a porn star having sex with another man while the cameras roll, then you probably don't have the temperament for dating hookers.  For them, its a job, not personal.  

 
I've explained this before, but  I insist on a level playing field when dating a provider.  If they are going to continue working (I would never ask them to quit, its not place anymore than if they did some other kind of work), then they most be okay with me seeing other working girls, as long as I pay for the session.   In other words, as long as I'm paying for pussy and as long as she is getting paid for her pussy, we don't consider that cheating.  Its just transactional sex.  With that said, jealousy still invades the relationship in MOST cases, but its not my jealousy, its hers.  She will find out I saw a girl she knows who is really smoking hot, and will become insecure and jealous. In that case, what else can you say, but  . . . . next!  Lol

SinCitySinner 67 Reviews 138 reads
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7 / 69

Are you for real or just trolling...LOL Gain some confidence dawg.. Chicks dig that.. No one likes a wuss..  

 
To answer your question if I have the knowledge that she is fucking another man, it would turn me the fuck on.. Now if we are supposed to be in a monogamous relationship, and she starts acting in a strange manner, would it upset me? YES it would.. Would I get jealous, YES, I would. But with full disclosure, I wouldn't have a problem with that..  Fuck I might even ask to watch..

-- Modified on 5/17/2021 9:51:10 PM

lester_prairie 12 Reviews 156 reads
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Such a relationship would clearly be wrong for you.  You might be okay with someone who left the biz.  But clearly you are not going to be happy with someone still active in the biz.   There are a million fish in the sea.  Stick to those of whom you aren't allergic.

GaGambler 181 reads
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9 / 69

I have a low tolerance for stupidity, are you thinking that your own question was stupid? lol Well just for the record your question has been asked several times, but it's hardly a dumb question, especially if you have never dated a sex worker yourself and as you can see, most guys have never actually dated a sex worker.

 
Ok, back to your actual question, everyone is different in this regard. Some guys LOVE hearing about their wife/GF fucking other guys, just like some women (my present GF included) get off on their man fucking other women. Personally, I can simply get the difference between cheating and "work"  AND sex does not necessarily mean actual intimacy. I would be very jealous if a woman I was involved with was actually "intimate" with other men, but simply having non emotional sex for money doesn't push that button for me. Other guys of course may disagree, but I can only speak for how I feel about the subject, and I don't claim to speak for all men.

 
I very rarely talk to any of my hooker GF's about her customers except in the most general of terms. I won't say that it is/was a taboo subject, just something I never wanted to hear about and every sex worker I have ever dated respected my wishes just like I in return have NEVER thrown her work back in her face no matter how big a fight we were having, all couples fight, but telling your GF "You're just a whore" in the heat of anger is something that you can't just walk back once things cool down. Some guys never learn that, and those guys should NEVER date a sex worker

 
As for whether or not YOU can date a sex worker, Only you can answer that question. If you would be one of those guys constantly obsessing about what your woman was doing with other guys, then the answer is a definitive NO. If not then its a definite "maybe" lol

tomh2 130 reads
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10 / 69

Married to a low volume hooker for a bit over 25 years until her death in a car accident. I met her as a customer, eventually started dating as non-customer/non-whore. We married and had two sons. She continued to see 2-5 customers a week for the entire time we were together. I would continue to fuck some of her co-workers now and then.  All of it was up front and known from the time we started getting serious.  I was military and had been fucking around the world for over 20 years.  So, perhaps my attitude helped us. I think few can do or handle such a situation. But it can be done. I do think guys have more problems with such a possibility than the gals do.  

lol,
as an aside; I've know and met many a wife doing much the same with friends and colleges; but probably not getting paid for the service normally.

RespectfulRobert 160 reads
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11 / 69

But I do appreciate your sincere response. It is interesting that you distinguish "intimate sex" from "non emotional sex." I cant argue that with you, if that is how you feel, but to me, personally, I could not make that distinction, and therefore I don't think I could date an active in the business provider.  I would want her all to my own. But to those that have, and can...viva la difference! Thank you again for your lengthy, quite interesting, and even semi-cordial post! Lol

impposter 49 Reviews 149 reads
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12 / 69

Related concept: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madonna%E2%80%93whore_complex
"... this psychological complex is said to develop in men who see women as either saintly Madonnas or debased prostitutes. Men with this complex desire a sexual partner who has been degraded (the whore) while they cannot desire the respected partner (the Madonna). ... The term is also used popularly, if sometimes with subtly different meanings. ..."

Posted By: RespectfulRobert
Re: Well for one, your incivility is well documented here. Lol
But I do appreciate your sincere response. It is interesting that you distinguish "intimate sex" from "non emotional sex." I cant argue that with you, if that is how you feel, but to me, personally, I could not make that distinction, and therefore I don't think I could date an active in the business provider.  I would want her all to my own. But to those that have, and can...viva la difference! Thank you again for your lengthy, quite interesting, and even semi-cordial post! Lol

GaGambler 196 reads
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13 / 69

People are always accusing me of "unnecessary rudeness" to which I respond that I am very rarely "unnecessarily" rude, most of my rudeness, which I do not deny, is almost always necessary and deserved. lol

 
And yes, I agree that If you can not personally make that distinction than please for your own good, do NOT even consider getting serious with an active provider. The heartache you will subject yourself to will wreck you if you let it.

AlicinWunderland 127 reads
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14 / 69

I was in a 17-year relationship with a man, and for 5 of those, I had my own spot and entertained...

Now, we have parted as friends, but he has been seeing the same 6 ladies for the past 5-10 years... a couple of whom are here on TER...
And I give him references if he needs...

I saw an interview with this one young lady down in Louisiana who used to give River Boat Retreats to her "friends", and her husband was the boat captain! Looked like a nice relaxing ride...

Have a Nice Day!
~ A

DeClemente 48 Reviews 71 reads
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15 / 69

Posted By: SweetMelissa
Re: This was a fun little read!
Its also good to know a few good men understand SW and are ok with it or at least open to it.  
   
 SEX is SEX, Sex work is WORK.  
   
 My ex and I had a Soft swing relationship before I got into this ..  
 We had 1 rule.. DON"T EVER LIE. If you want to taste that. Have fun.. We just had the right to know before and not after..  
 That part of our relationship really enhanced so many things about our relationship for a long time..
I just had a session today with an escort I was seeing for the first time. I plan to see her again, and I let her know that, she was glad to hear it and the subject of a threesome came up, she and I and another woman. She told me she knew a friend of hers who would be perfect for it, adding that her friend was retired from escorting because she had just gotten married three months ago.  I asked, "So she would have been perfect for it except that now she's no longer doing it?"
She said, "Oh, she'll still do a session or two every now and then to earn some extra money."
My obvious questions were, "Does her husband know she used to be an escort?" and "Does her husband know she's still doing it every now and then?"
As it turns out, her husband is a former client with two years of seeing her before they married each other, so yes, he knows of her history in the business.  
However, in order to be in this 3-way, she's going completely UTR, and has to sneak away while her husband is at work, meaning she will only be able do it on the down-low  between 9am-5pm business hours . . .

SteadyAlways 122 reads
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A bit more about my background. My Dad was also military and away a lot of time. We did not, nor could we, go with him on various assignments due to the times.  It took me a while to figure out, but Mom had some special family friends (not family) which she would mostly see privately. When Dad was home and when he was not. Paid or not? I don't know, but probably. I never heard Dad and her arguing about her seeing friends, and such.  lol

20strojl 13 Reviews 191 reads
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17 / 69

Posted By: GaGambler
Re: Actually I am rarely if ever uncivil to legitimate questions asked politely
People are always accusing me of "unnecessary rudeness" to which I respond that I am very rarely "unnecessarily" rude, most of my rudeness, which I do not deny, is almost always necessary and deserved. lol  
   
   
 Unnecessarily rude? You, nah, somewhat caustic and acerbic  which I def find amusing at times. I've learned plenty over the years from reading your barbs. Many of them have kept me from shooting myself in the foot, believe me.

Love to do a couple of shots of some good Reposado someday with the old sage. I`d probably be done after the 4th one, lol

OldRanger 62 Reviews 129 reads
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18 / 69

Tell us how you really feel. ? 👌
Pretty complete answer and so true on so many levels.

rochmn 82 reads
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19 / 69

Mya
I applaud  your honesty.  It's a shame there
is not more  more  of it.

WICardinalfan 37 Reviews 86 reads
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20 / 69

Perhaps this class of men do not exist, but........

What about the guy who can support himself, pay child support, been married for 30 years, divorced and out of his prime.

Sounds like a Sugar Daddy but no, not really.

sthebean 11 Reviews 172 reads
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I am the OP.  In my case, yes I met my future wife as a client. Found her beautiful, sexy and rather engaging. Visited her again on her tour. A month later, visited her twice again when she returned, and we went out and saw a band as well. Nursed her through an episode of much too much alcohol. Spent quality time together.  

This led to a visit to her hometown in Florida where I met "mom", who i Iearned later told her "you will marry him". Another visit to Florida, and a third led to me inviting her to live in my eastern US town. Boom. I guess at that point she was semi-retired. We grew closer and closer, we loved spending time with each other. I supported her 100% and loved her immensely.  

But eventually, the lure of $2000 days got her back into the biz. Not my idea. Hers. Mom moved north also and it was a  "support" kind of thing.

Being married to a very popular sex worker is daunting, no doubt. But it can be done. Both have to be able to compartmentalize work vs. life. We have 5 rules in place to ensure trust. And trust, honesty and transparency are very important.  

Anyhow, love continued to bloom. Marriage ensued and its now 2.5 years later and i love her more everyday.  

Needless to say, there is always discussion about her retiring. I would love that. Her money is her money, i don't need a dime of it. But its hard to give up $100k annually working 15 days a month.  

We love to travel, we love to work out, swim, bike, watch movies and I love waking up to her every morning. I don't regret a minute of it. Will it last for every, who knows.  

But we are not in any way a dysfunctional couple. We both have jobs, and hers happens to be a sex worker.  

I know men don't want to hear this, but for her, sex with clients is work, not pleasure. Her job is to get the client to climax, make him happy enough to hopefully become a regular, and at the end of the day, she sleeps with me, and when we have sex, its for pleasure.  

I think my wife is absolutely beautiful and sexy. But all that means nothing in a marriage if you can't laugh together, and experience all the other things life has to offer.  

The mythos of sex workers being drug users, of not needing love, of having daddy issues, of having abusive history, of being trampy sluts, its mostly bullshit. Its a job. Some of us are IT professionals. Some of us sort packages for UPS. CEO's. Salesman. Uber drivers. Wait staff. Sex work is a job that is sometimes done by woman who are perfectly happy, mentally sound and capable of having a loving marriage.

GaGambler 139 reads
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Women have been screaming for equal rights for decades, women don't want to be "just" someone's wife, or at least millions of women don't want that life.

 
I happen to agree with all those millions of women who value their independence and I have ZERO desire to "take care" of a woman who just wants to lie on the couch all day eating bon bons with no life of her own. I don't want a dependent if I were ever to get married again, I certainly am not going to marry for sex, and I have no desire to "force" a hooker to retire. If she "wants" to retire and transition into some other career I am perfectly capable and willing to support her financially while she does so, but I can't imagine marrying a woman who's sole desire is to be "taken care of" What a horrible basis for a marriage.

 
Which brings us back to the subject of dating or getting involved with an active sex worker. I am perfectly capable of compartmentalizing her "work" as the OP stated sex work is just that, it's "work" and nothing more. I don't date hookers for free sex, I don't actually date hookers at all, I sometimes do date women that happen to sell sex for a living. lol

SteadyAlways 188 reads
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23 / 69

Excellent post and best to you in the future with your gal.  My details are much different than yours, but my sex worker wife (customers thought of her as a whore of course) continued her trade for 25 years until her accidental death. She went to work and I went to work. Had kids, had a family life. Had a lot of fun, banked a lot of money and enjoyed life. It is possible to date and marry a whore. It can work. But it is rare. The guy especially, in my opinion needs to be clear in his mind what is going on. I loved the 25 years with her and would do it again....

GaGambler 95 reads
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but I guarantee you I know more hookers than you, and I disagree that most  hookers secretly, or not so secretly in your case are looking for a man to sweep them off their feet and retire them. Do "some" hookers wish that? Of course, but a LOT of hookers love the idea of having sex on their own terms and being completely independent from any one man controlling her purse strings and by extension her life.

 
Speaking strictly for myself I make considerably more than any hooker I have ever met and I can't imagine having a hooker taking care of me, that's a PIMP, not a boyfriend as you already know.  

 
Again, speaking strictly for myself I don't treat hookers that I date any differently than any other women that I date.  I am sorry you are so jaded about men, just like so many men here are jaded about all the "money grubbing" women that they encounter, but I simply don't share your, or their cynicism in this regard. I know a LOT of very well adjusted, completely independent hookers who don't want a guy to "take care of them" they don't want a guy to "worship" them, they don't want a guy to "look down on them" they just want someone to accept them for who they are. and every once in a while I am that guy. lol

eroticspirit 28 Reviews 136 reads
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25 / 69

Awesome post!! Very happy for you and your spouse--wish you nothing but future happiness!!

sthebean 11 Reviews 99 reads
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26 / 69

I find the word whore offensive. Prefer escort or see worker. I would never use that term. Nor do I use the C word or B word to a woman ever. Ugh.

GaGambler 140 reads
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27 / 69

Most people here know I use the word hooker mainly as a term of endearment, I do agree that it's hard to use the word "whore" nicely. I rarely use the word either, except I do respond to another term of endearment "Man whore" that a few of my hooker buddies have been known to call me from time to time. I consider it a compliment. lol

 
I use the words cunt and bitch all the time, but I use them equally as often to describe men I don't respect as well as women. Actually I think I am MORE likely to call a man a "whiny little cunt" than I am a woman. lol

trex44 9 Reviews 136 reads
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28 / 69

I go with "CNA"

Companion of Negotiable Affection ;)

eroticspirit 28 Reviews 90 reads
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Gambler--you nailed it!! Over the years I would say your description of "providers" (I'll stay with the currently "acceptable" job description LOL!!) is spot-on. The vast majority of women I've met in "the life" over the past two decades are doing this on their terms--and by and large they enjoy what they do. They aren't waiting for some knight in shining armor to magically appear to take them to some magic-land. They simply want to do what they do and be accepted like any other person.  

iHeartMouthHugs 121 reads
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30 / 69

Random: I believe they use the word “cunt” somewhat as a term of endearment in Australia, particularly men saying it to or about other men. (Eg. Aye, you know Mick Dundee royt? Yeh, Mick is a cool fella — a good cunt.)

lester_prairie 12 Reviews 122 reads
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31 / 69

Some chicks like being called names in the bedroom.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 133 reads
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"working girl" almost exclusively until I joined TER.  Posting on these boards has broadened my vocabulary some to where I find hooker, prostitute, and sex worker all acceptable.  I try  to avoid bitch and cunt except when referring to petulant or whiny men.  

SteadyAlways 71 reads
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I am a bit surprised that five of us have committed in the positive on his subject.  I've been a member of TER off and on from near the beginning of the site. It has only been in the last couple of years (at the most) that I have commented that I married and had 25 good years and two sons with a hooker. As I've stated, I think very few can do it. My wife started hooking at 16/17 and we met when she was 20 and I was 36. I was in the military and already been fucking my way around the world in many countries. I think that the fact that she was already well into the profession and was a middle high $$$ gal and me with a goal fucking as many different women as possible made it possible for us to make our marriage work.  I had/have no blinders that the women I was fucking were only fucking me (whether hooker, shop gal, waitress, bartender, secretary and or the wife of friend, co-worker or the gal in the grocery store).  

My wife, by the time we met, had of course fucked just about every type of man with a cock. Did she give BBBJ? yes and continued to do that through out our marriage. Had she fucked bare? Of course. A lot? I don't know.  If your wife/girl friend, significant other was not a virgin when you first had sex with you -- then she fucked at least one other, maybe, or many more.  Might be doing others also right now -- that includes every female relative you know.  Hell, your mom probably kissed you at least once after sucking your dad's cock.   It is life and it is more likely a version of some of the above than not.

I've fucked a lot of women, but no where near as many as my wife fucked guys. So what? We fell in love and made it happen....for us.   lol, when I think about it though, I have probably fucked more wives than not...

iHeartMouthHugs 79 reads
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How dare you speak of my mother that way!  She has always been a virgin.  I was born when her midi-chlorian count was high enough.  But I haven’t seen her since this Liam Neeson looking guy took me away.  I heard she moved in with some Tuscans.  I sure hope she’s okay.  I don’t know what I’d do if they hurt her.

SteadyAlways 94 reads
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AnotherDonJohn 162 reads
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It’s def not for everyone.  

For us, we go through periods of monogamy and being open. It’s tougher on the kids but that’s an unsexy rabbit hole discussion to go down.

BigPapasan 3 Reviews 251 reads
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You've been married "a few times?"  How many is "a few" - 3, 4, 5?

 
Whatever the number of times you claim you've been married, it's BULLSHIT. On 1/4/2017, you posted:
"I didn't get married until I was almost 30..."
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/i-would-say-i-repeat-at-least-once-with------892195?frmSearch=1#892195

 
Seven months later, on 7/28/2017, you posted:
"I was a...bachelor...up until the age of 32 when I married..."
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/when-i-was-a-----920778?frmSearch=1#920778

 
According to your own posts, you were only married once, at either age 30 or 32 - you're lying about that too.  And your sole marriage ended when your wife died of a stroke, so your claim that you know "divorce is expensive" because of your personal experience with divorce is also BULLSHIT.

 
OK GaG - it's your turn to be "objective."

GaGambler 161 reads
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And let me remind you that I PROVED beyond any reasonable doubt that Inicky was either lying then or lying now and you refused to actually call him out as a liar. Instead you gave some limp wristed acknowledgement that Inicky "might" have either lied or gotten something wrong in his posts.

 
I OTOH am as good as my word. You also PROVED that CDL was lying, just like in Inicky's case it's impossible to have simply "made a mistake" about something like this. So I will do a hell of a lot better than you and agree that "at best" CDL was taking the "poetic license" he often admits to, which of course is simply another way to say he's lying.

 
Now THAT is how to be objective and honest. Maybe you should try it yourself some day.  

 
Please keep in mind that CDL and I are actually friends, while you and Inicky have been at each other's throats for the better part of ten years and you still can't come right out and admit he was lying when my proof was every bit as irrefutable as yours. Yes, CDL lied in either the posts you dug up or the post he made today, just like Inicky either lied in the post I linked for you or in every subsequent post on the subject.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 131 reads
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a little lie previously.  I don't like to count my TWO marriages that ended in divorce and WERE expensive, so I have a tendency to ignore those when talking about my life.  One lasted 3 weeks and the other lasted two months, mere blips on the radar of my life with women.  Both times I was drunk in Vegas and regretted it the next day.  I was 29.  That was a bad year.  Lol  The only reason they lasted as long as they did was to work out a reasonable divorce settlement.  I stopped getting drunk in Vegas after that.  My REAL marriage was at age 32 and lasted 16 years until she died of a stroke.   I see my stalker worked 21 days searching my posting history for his big "gotcha" moment.  What a fucking loser with no life.  Can he make himself look any smaller and petty?  Lol

GaGambler 227 reads
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In LV you can start the annulment process the very next day, just as soon as you sober up in many cases. lol

 
As for your/our stalker, although we can disagree about custody, I agree about his lack of an actual life. I guess this is what we have to look forward to if our dicks ever stop working  and instead of "getting pussy" we become one like our mutual stalker has become during all these year of posting on a fuck board without actually having done any fucking since the Obama years.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 138 reads
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you could do that.  At that time, I thought an annulment was only available if there had been no sex, and believe me, there WAS sex, a lot of it, but still not worth the final tab.  Had I been that stupid in the last 10 years, it probably would have cost me even more because I have more now than I did then.  I hired a California attorney who said he would take care of it and charged by the hour.  Need I say more?  Lol

 
I agree about our stalker.  Bitter and impotent is no way to go out, but I think that's his destiny.  My dad just went out with his boots on.  That's the way to go.  95 years old and dropped dead on the volleyball court at his senior residence in the middle of a game.  He beat Covid in January, so he was in pretty good shape.  That beats going out like our stalker is likely to go . . . . . in a wet Depends.   Lol

RegencyHobbyist 109 Reviews 146 reads
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Ah, marriage. Also known as the Lawyer's Fair Employment and Retirement Act.

GaGambler 153 reads
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MANY years ago, we are talking late 70's or early 80's at the latest when I was living in LV I got REALLY fucking drunk over the weekend (Yes I know that fact is not newsworthy), I missed work on Monday and came crawling into work on Tuesday morning only to find a half dozen wedding gifts waiting for me. One of my asshole buddies told everyone that I got married during my drunk weekend, fucking fucker.  

 
Yes, I got drunk, but no, I NEVER got THAT fucking drunk. lol

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 102 reads
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spit-my-coffee-all-over-my-keyboard moment.   LMAO

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 117 reads
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45 / 69

have no doubts that a practical joke like that would have the desired effect.  Lol

BigPapasan 3 Reviews 274 reads
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"...then I was an admitted playboy for the next nine years (until age 31).  I finally met a woman that I could stay loyal to, and was married (age 32) without cheating or stepping out for 16 years until she passed from a sudden stroke."
8/10/2020 - http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/when-i-was-in-my-20s-----971057?frmSearch=1#971057

 
CDL also said: "I'm not married, but I have been twice..."
10/21/20 - http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/there-are-a-lot-of-married-guys-----974171?page=

 
CDL admitted he told a "little lie" because he omitted the two times he was married when he was 29.  But why didn't he mention being married at a very young age - he posted about it twice less than a year ago?  How does he explain "forgetting" his marriage and subsequent divorce at age 22?  I'll tell you how - this is what he said when caught in a lie for the third time in the same thread: "Well, I'm 62 and . . . .my memory is not what it used to be."
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/k-girl-113/well-im-62-and-----25851?page=

 
Yeah, that's the ticket GaG.  CDL will claim his memory isn't so good.  After all, he was divorced 40 years ago.  Anyone would forget they were divorced 40 years ago, right GaG?

nevertoolarge 30 Reviews 102 reads
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back in the 90s i lived part time with a girl who was working the playboy mansion crowd.    i got a kick that other guys were paying $1K or more ( this was 30 years ago)  for something i was getting for free back when even i was broke due to a nasty divorce.  

about 10 years I got close to one of the top TER girls .. she asked my hypothetically " could you marry me"   i said sure! .. she asked, what about what the other neighborhood guys would say,  my reply to them would have been  "Sorry nobody will pay to sleep with YOUR wife! "    LOL !!  point taken

SinCitySinner 67 Reviews 130 reads
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team_rocket_qwerty 35 Reviews 134 reads
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Imo people shouldn't be so specific with numbers and dates if their memory isn't as good. Approximating things will be a lot safer and they won't be called out as much.

 
I consider my memory to be fairly solid, and even I will usually err on the side of approximations whenever I have even any doubt about a date or number. Better be safe than sorry.

BigPapasan 3 Reviews 142 reads
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Over the years, CDL has gone from one time to two times and in this thread has added two more times.  Do you really have to approximate the number of times you've been married (unless you're Zsa Zsa Gabor)?

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team_rocket_qwerty 35 Reviews 114 reads
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I was talking about dates and ages.

Sinxw you asked, I was married approximately 0 times and have impregnated approximately 0.5 women :D

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coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 114 reads
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strong enough word.  He has committed his life to stalking us.  Sometimes I feel like a slave owner must have felt.  Even though I granted him his freedom, he's afraid to leave me.

BigPapasan 3 Reviews 139 reads
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CDL is the biggest liar on TER, e.g., the number of times he's been married.  I just call him out for his lies - to him that means I'm stalking him.

 
You used to post on the Politics board.  After you stopped, CDL started posting there.  Most of his posts are either bullshit or outright lies.  He even admitted it, although he calls it "poetic license."
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/where-the-fuck-----980705?frmSearch=1#980705

 
Try having a reasoned political debate with someone who lies all the time.  CDL makes claims but doesn't back them up with links because he's usually making shit up.

 
As for GaG, he has been obsessed with ME for over ten years.  He thinks he's the bully of TER and that people cower in fear of him.  He can't bully me though so he resorts to telling lies and ad hominem attacks.  His nickname for me is BLRPOS - Big Lying Racist Piece Of Shit.  He keeps repeating The Big Lie over and over in the hope that if he says it enough times, people will believe it.

 
I rebut GaG's lies with the truth - GaG's own words:
"I am both a binge and a 'functional' (sic) alcoholic..."
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/ok-in-that-case-substitute-me-everywhere-i-said-you-970125?frmSearch=1#970125

 
"I have the dubious honor of being both a high school, and college dropout..."
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/dont-feel-alone-in-your-lack-of-formal-education-600984?frmSearch=1#600984

 
GaG hates it when I throw his own words back at him.  He goes crazy and tells even more lies about me.
You asked, Curly.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 133 reads
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21 days to go back four years to find something that he thinks is a "gotcha" is an complete obsession, whether he wants to admit it or not.  He likes to take things out of context.  He's always been the most dishonest poster on this board.  He's had a bad attitude ever since TER turned him down to be a moderator back in the days with they were seeking volunteers to donate time and do it for free.  They didn't want him, . . . . . even for free.  They already know of his dishonesty.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 85 reads
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that I exaggerate on the Politics board because it makes your head explode.  Its totally  worth it.  Curly, this is one of my other stalkers.  They stick together.  I have another one, but he doesn't post on the GD board.  

 
BLRPOS has really hit bottom when he needs YOU to come and try to bail him out.  He's probably screaming to himself, "Laffy, don't try to help me, you just make it worse."  Bwahahahahaha

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 62 reads
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of your posts, it seems that you have been settling for the wrong kind of man.  I agree you should not allow a many to spend YOUR money on other pussy.  For that matter, you should not settle for a man that needs financial help from you at all.  But you have to ask yourself if "taking care of a man" and sharing or paying expenses isn't rooted in you being able to control him.  I have found that this scenario is not unique to working women.   Many women I have met that have high incomes in all sorts of professions use their financial depth to control their SO's behavior.  In other words, money makes the rules.  Only relative losers are going to go for this for very long.  A guy who has no place to live or has roommates would be an ideal candidate for someone that you can control.  

 
I think you want to find a rich guy, and would leave the P4P world for him, but you are wary about not having the control in the relationship that you have with a guy who literally "needs" you.  Guys that NEED you will have no qualms about USING you, and that's the part you don't like. I agree its just as easy to fall in love with a rich guy as it is a broke guy, but with the rich guy comes a lot of uncertainties, and from your posts, that's the part I think you have trouble with.  You want the textbook story of a prince discovering you are his princess, but rich guys are not always perfect.  If you tell a guy who is used to getting what he wants that he can't pay for other pussy, even with his own money, you are not likely to get very far.  It has to be his decision whether or not he needs that variety.  If he decides he does, then the ball is in your court and YOU need to decide if that is something you can live with.  If not, keep looking.  

 
So my point is that the kind of men you are choosing for your personal relationships are not the ones that are ever going to take you out of the business, because they simply don't have deep enough pockets to give you the kind of life you want.  The kind of guy you DO want comes with uncertainties, risks and compromises that you need to come to terms with.  

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 65 reads
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When I exaggerate, its to get a predictable response out of you and my other stalkers.  Its commonly called "poking the bear", and its often hilarious the way the politically serious react.    When YOU lie, its because its you regular lifestyle, and there are thousands of posts on the P & R board that prove you just can't help yourself.  That's a huge distinction.  

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 125 reads
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read some of your P & R posts is not buying it.  

GaGambler 90 reads
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When was the last time you saw me on this, or any other board WHINING about my love/sex life?

 
Jaded people are rarely happy, I am almost always happy. So let me ask you in return "who is really jaded?" Certainly not me.

 
BTW while I don't see marriage in my future I am very capable of monogamy. I NEVER cheated, not even once while I was married and even in the last serious relationship I had with a provider I also NEVER cheated on her except when she would go on tour. Like you she had PLENTY of sexual drive to keep me happy, but I was NOT going to wait at home like a good little boy, having to "self service" myself while she was in another city having sex all day. That is a bridge too far. lol

lester_prairie 12 Reviews 84 reads
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I agree about never telling future love interests about past affairs. Oddly some escorts will inquire about how long I've been doing this or how many I've seen.  Even there I tend to avoid direct answers. It's somewhat ironic that many escorts look down on their customers for being customers of escorts.

GaGambler 75 reads
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I am actually about THIRTY years older than you, so thank you. lol

 
And when did I EVER say marriage was a "pointless waste of time" for OTHER people?  

 
I have even left the possibility open that even "I" might get married again someday, although I will concede that the chances are small.  

 
PLEASE stop trying to put words in my mouth, I get enough of that kind of crap on the P&R board where as you can tell I've picked up a few stalkers who never even TALK about pussy, much less have any real  interest in the opposite sex.

GaGambler 88 reads
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I am dating a girl right now who asked me a bunch of questions about my past sex life when we first started seeing each other. As I have said I multiple occasions I don't like to lie and I most certainly don't like to start off a relationship with a lie. However I don't lead with "My online name is GaGambler and I've fucked literally thousands of hookers" lol

 
Well I really liked this girl and I was torn about sugar coating (LYING)  my past or simply coming clean about it. Well after I told her, surprise of surprises she already knew, found it a turn on and now she also knows I am not a LIAR which would have killed the relationship before it ever started. So "never say never" lol

 
But yes, I have had even hookers "look down" on me for being a "high volume" client. Go figure that a girl who has done more fucking than even I have would look down on anyone for being too big a slut.

lester_prairie 12 Reviews 84 reads
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There is a difference between lying and avoiding direct answers.  Although I've been a practioner of both. :-)

badger48 153 Reviews 105 reads
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I just gotta' ask, how can that be respect when someone is cheating, lying and keeping it from their partner and going behind their back. I know you didn't say anything about lying, but it goes with the territory!

I hope you understand I'm talking about this statement.

 " like many of you fine gentlemen here do your best to respect your wife and make sure she never knows that you have fooled around on her."

Now, I know everyone looks at things from their own point of view, mine is I just don't see that as any kind of respect!

GaGambler 100 reads
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Although sometimes I will tell the truth, but in a manner where I know I won't be believed.

 
SB.   "Hey Baby, how many women have you been with before me?"

 
Me, "Oh I don't know, maybe four or five thousand"

 
SB, "Well if you aren't going to give me a straight answer then just forget I asked"

 
Me  "OK" lol

breannabreeze See my TER Reviews 150 reads
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Thats probably the best "equal playing field" you can get but its still not quite equal.  You get to choose providers you are attracted to and for the most part, be catered to while she likely chooses who is a good client and willing to pay her rates if that.  I'd think a true equal playing field would be allowing her to see men she is attracted to too...whether they are male providers or civilian men.  

DeClemente 48 Reviews 158 reads
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Posted By: breannabreeze
Re: That's why it's not for everyone . . . .
That's probably the best "equal playing field" you can get but it's still not quite equal.  You get to choose providers you are attracted to and for the most part, be catered to while she likely chooses who is a good client and willing to pay her rates, if that.  I'd think a true equal playing field would be allowing her to see men she is attracted to too...whether they are male providers or civilian men.  
You have a good point, breannabreeze, that a provider doesn't have an equal playing field in knowing how a new/unknown client looks when he first contacts her, and usually doesn't find out until they're both face-to-face with each other. I agree with your assessment.

With men being more visually stimulated than the average woman is, the fact that this entire game is first and foremost a business arrangement with a financial incentive on the part of the provider, I doubt many providers are placing odds on a FANTASTICALLY great-looking guy showing up. Sure, everyone on the planet, either male or female, would prefer dealing with a pleasant-looking person, or an attractive person, or an amazingly attractive person. In this business, clients' fantasies and clients' libidos and clients' desire for sexual satisfaction are a large driver of almost every transaction, but for providers, it's a bottom line, a profit margin that satisfies. Providers, just like anyone else, have their own preferences for whom they find attractive or with whom they'd like to sleep, and their own sexual fantasies and desires, yet this particular business isn't primarily geared toward that. If it were, an even playing field would be women and men looking to fulfill and satisfy each other's Dream Girl and Prince Charming sexual appetites with no money changing hands. Instead, the men seek to get their sexual desires filled, and the women seek to get their wallets filled.

More than once when booking with a woman, I've wondered if she wasn't at least a little curious to know ahead of time what package would be dropped off at her door. On some occasions, I've given a written description of myself, it hasn't seemed to make any difference in whether or not she's see me because I'm agreeing to pay the agreed upon fee. After I've asked a woman all my questions about her, I've sometimes asked, "Is there anything you want to know about me?" It's never seemed to be a big deal either way to most escorts, they hardly ever ask anything.

Lastly, I'll admit that some or many men P4P because for whatever reason or reasons, some of is can't or don't get with women we'd like to be with due to something or some things about us.  I'm neither obese, fat, portly, stout, deformed, diseased, scarred, etc., but at thesame time, I don't pull women based on movie star looks or Olympic athlete body. I'm one of those guys who appreciates the simplicity of P4P because of its "I have something that you want and you have something that I want, let's barter" system. I don't pretend she's with me for any other reason than I'm paying her, and during the session she pretends that she's with me for any reason other than the fact that I'm paying her, lol!

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badger48 153 Reviews 153 reads
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Request a picture and body stats, that would be fair play. Then let the provider choose. But, she would have to come clean about her appearance and stats if they were off on the website, PS'd, gained or lost a few pounds!

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 111 reads
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an open relationship with no restrictions.  What is the point of having ANY kind of commitment if there is nothing in place that makes your own relationship with a provider special.  You are not describing an equal playing field.  If the provider in a relationship wants to see anyone she wants, then  I would  able to see anyone I want as well, and in that case, what is the point of having a boyfriend at all?  Most of the provider relationships I have in ended because the provider became jealous of the other providers I having sex with.  Its never been the case that I was jealous of her customers.  I know its just her business.  Sooner or later I will pay for sex with someone they know personally, and that's when the jealousy starts to end the relationship.    

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