Tell us how you really feel. ? 👌
Pretty complete answer and so true on so many levels.

Mya
I applaud  your honesty.  It's a shame there
is not more  more  of it.

Perhaps this class of men do not exist, but........

I am the OP.  In my case, yes I met my future wife as a client. Found her beautiful, sexy and rather engaging. Visited her again on her tour. A month later, visited her twice again when she returned, and we went out and saw a band as well. Nursed her through an episode of much too much alcohol. Spent quality time together.  

Women have been screaming for equal rights for decades, women don't want to be "just" someone's wife, or at least millions of women don't want that life.

Excellent post and best to you in the future with your gal.  My details are much different than yours, but my sex worker wife (customers thought of her as a whore of course) continued her trade for 25 years until her accidental death. She went to work and I went to work. Had kids, had a family life. Had a lot of fun, banked a lot of money and enjoyed life. It is possible to date and marry a whore. It can work. But it is rare. The guy especially, in my opinion needs to be clear in his mind what is going on. I loved the 25 years with her and would do it again....

but I guarantee you I know more hookers than you, and I disagree that most  hookers secretly, or not so secretly in your case are looking for a man to sweep them off their feet and retire them. Do "some" hookers wish that? Of course, but a LOT of hookers love the idea of having sex on their own terms and being completely independent from any one man controlling her purse strings and by extension her life.

Awesome post!! Very happy for you and your spouse--wish you nothing but future happiness!!

I find the word whore offensive. Prefer escort or see worker. I would never use that term. Nor do I use the C word or B word to a woman ever. Ugh.

Most people here know I use the word hooker mainly as a term of endearment, I do agree that it's hard to use the word "whore" nicely. I rarely use the word either, except I do respond to another term of endearment "Man whore" that a few of my hooker buddies have been known to call me from time to time. I consider it a compliment. lol

I go with "CNA"

Gambler--you nailed it!! Over the years I would say your description of "providers" (I'll stay with the currently "acceptable" job description LOL!!) is spot-on. The vast majority of women I've met in "the life" over the past two decades are doing this on their terms--and by and large they enjoy what they do. They aren't waiting for some knight in shining armor to magically appear to take them to some magic-land. They simply want to do what they do and be accepted like any other person.  

Random: I believe they use the word “cunt” somewhat as a term of endearment in Australia, particularly men saying it to or about other men. (Eg. Aye, you know Mick Dundee royt? Yeh, Mick is a cool fella — a good cunt.)

Some chicks like being called names in the bedroom.

"working girl" almost exclusively until I joined TER.  Posting on these boards has broadened my vocabulary some to where I find hooker, prostitute, and sex worker all acceptable.  I try  to avoid bitch and cunt except when referring to petulant or whiny men.  

I am a bit surprised that five of us have committed in the positive on his subject.  I've been a member of TER off and on from near the beginning of the site. It has only been in the last couple of years (at the most) that I have commented that I married and had 25 good years and two sons with a hooker. As I've stated, I think very few can do it. My wife started hooking at 16/17 and we met when she was 20 and I was 36. I was in the military and already been fucking my way around the world in many countries. I think that the fact that she was already well into the profession and was a middle high $$$ gal and me with a goal fucking as many different women as possible made it possible for us to make our marriage work.  I had/have no blinders that the women I was fucking were only fucking me (whether hooker, shop gal, waitress, bartender, secretary and or the wife of friend, co-worker or the gal in the grocery store).  

How dare you speak of my mother that way!  She has always been a virgin.  I was born when her midi-chlorian count was high enough.  But I haven’t seen her since this Liam Neeson looking guy took me away.  I heard she moved in with some Tuscans.  I sure hope she’s okay.  I don’t know what I’d do if they hurt her.

lol, just how tight was her virgin lips?

It’s def not for everyone.  

You've been married "a few times?"  How many is "a few" - 3, 4, 5?

And let me remind you that I PROVED beyond any reasonable doubt that Inicky was either lying then or lying now and you refused to actually call him out as a liar. Instead you gave some limp wristed acknowledgement that Inicky "might" have either lied or gotten something wrong in his posts.

a little lie previously.  I don't like to count my TWO marriages that ended in divorce and WERE expensive, so I have a tendency to ignore those when talking about my life.  One lasted 3 weeks and the other lasted two months, mere blips on the radar of my life with women.  Both times I was drunk in Vegas and regretted it the next day.  I was 29.  That was a bad year.  Lol  The only reason they lasted as long as they did was to work out a reasonable divorce settlement.  I stopped getting drunk in Vegas after that.  My REAL marriage was at age 32 and lasted 16 years until she died of a stroke.   I see my stalker worked 21 days searching my posting history for his big "gotcha" moment.  What a fucking loser with no life.  Can he make himself look any smaller and petty?  Lol

In LV you can start the annulment process the very next day, just as soon as you sober up in many cases. lol

you could do that.  At that time, I thought an annulment was only available if there had been no sex, and believe me, there WAS sex, a lot of it, but still not worth the final tab.  Had I been that stupid in the last 10 years, it probably would have cost me even more because I have more now than I did then.  I hired a California attorney who said he would take care of it and charged by the hour.  Need I say more?  Lol

Ah, marriage. Also known as the Lawyer's Fair Employment and Retirement Act.

MANY years ago, we are talking late 70's or early 80's at the latest when I was living in LV I got REALLY fucking drunk over the weekend (Yes I know that fact is not newsworthy), I missed work on Monday and came crawling into work on Tuesday morning only to find a half dozen wedding gifts waiting for me. One of my asshole buddies told everyone that I got married during my drunk weekend, fucking fucker.  

spit-my-coffee-all-over-my-keyboard moment.   LMAO

have no doubts that a practical joke like that would have the desired effect.  Lol

"...then I was an admitted playboy for the next nine years (until age 31).  I finally met a woman that I could stay loyal to, and was married (age 32) without cheating or stepping out for 16 years until she passed from a sudden stroke."
8/10/2020 - http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/when-i-was-in-my-20s-----971057?frmSearch=1#971057

back in the 90s i lived part time with a girl who was working the playboy mansion crowd.    i got a kick that other guys were paying $1K or more ( this was 30 years ago)  for something i was getting for free back when even i was broke due to a nasty divorce.  

Imo people shouldn't be so specific with numbers and dates if their memory isn't as good. Approximating things will be a lot safer and they won't be called out as much.

Over the years, CDL has gone from one time to two times and in this thread has added two more times.  Do you really have to approximate the number of times you've been married (unless you're Zsa Zsa Gabor)?

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I was talking about dates and ages.

strong enough word.  He has committed his life to stalking us.  Sometimes I feel like a slave owner must have felt.  Even though I granted him his freedom, he's afraid to leave me.

CDL is the biggest liar on TER, e.g., the number of times he's been married.  I just call him out for his lies - to him that means I'm stalking him.

21 days to go back four years to find something that he thinks is a "gotcha" is an complete obsession, whether he wants to admit it or not.  He likes to take things out of context.  He's always been the most dishonest poster on this board.  He's had a bad attitude ever since TER turned him down to be a moderator back in the days with they were seeking volunteers to donate time and do it for free.  They didn't want him, . . . . . even for free.  They already know of his dishonesty.

that I exaggerate on the Politics board because it makes your head explode.  Its totally  worth it.  Curly, this is one of my other stalkers.  They stick together.  I have another one, but he doesn't post on the GD board.  

of your posts, it seems that you have been settling for the wrong kind of man.  I agree you should not allow a many to spend YOUR money on other pussy.  For that matter, you should not settle for a man that needs financial help from you at all.  But you have to ask yourself if "taking care of a man" and sharing or paying expenses isn't rooted in you being able to control him.  I have found that this scenario is not unique to working women.   Many women I have met that have high incomes in all sorts of professions use their financial depth to control their SO's behavior.  In other words, money makes the rules.  Only relative losers are going to go for this for very long.  A guy who has no place to live or has roommates would be an ideal candidate for someone that you can control.  

When I exaggerate, its to get a predictable response out of you and my other stalkers.  Its commonly called "poking the bear", and its often hilarious the way the politically serious react.    When YOU lie, its because its you regular lifestyle, and there are thousands of posts on the P & R board that prove you just can't help yourself.  That's a huge distinction.  

read some of your P & R posts is not buying it.  

When was the last time you saw me on this, or any other board WHINING about my love/sex life?

I agree about never telling future love interests about past affairs. Oddly some escorts will inquire about how long I've been doing this or how many I've seen.  Even there I tend to avoid direct answers. It's somewhat ironic that many escorts look down on their customers for being customers of escorts.

I am actually about THIRTY years older than you, so thank you. lol

I am dating a girl right now who asked me a bunch of questions about my past sex life when we first started seeing each other. As I have said I multiple occasions I don't like to lie and I most certainly don't like to start off a relationship with a lie. However I don't lead with "My online name is GaGambler and I've fucked literally thousands of hookers" lol

There is a difference between lying and avoiding direct answers.  Although I've been a practioner of both.

I just gotta' ask, how can that be respect when someone is cheating, lying and keeping it from their partner and going behind their back. I know you didn't say anything about lying, but it goes with the territory!

Although sometimes I will tell the truth, but in a manner where I know I won't be believed.

Thats probably the best "equal playing field" you can get but its still not quite equal.  You get to choose providers you are attracted to and for the most part, be catered to while she likely chooses who is a good client and willing to pay her rates if that.  I'd think a true equal playing field would be allowing her to see men she is attracted to too...whether they are male providers or civilian men.  

Request a picture and body stats, that would be fair play. Then let the provider choose. But, she would have to come clean about her appearance and stats if they were off on the website, PS'd, gained or lost a few pounds!

an open relationship with no restrictions.  What is the point of having ANY kind of commitment if there is nothing in place that makes your own relationship with a provider special.  You are not describing an equal playing field.  If the provider in a relationship wants to see anyone she wants, then  I would  able to see anyone I want as well, and in that case, what is the point of having a boyfriend at all?  Most of the provider relationships I have in ended because the provider became jealous of the other providers I having sex with.  Its never been the case that I was jealous of her customers.  I know its just her business.  Sooner or later I will pay for sex with someone they know personally, and that's when the jealousy starts to end the relationship.    

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