1. Q for providers... Do you get clients where you just feel like you provided a 'boring' date with, while you know you were dressed sharp as a razor, looked perfect (as possible,) but practically had to pull teeth to get anything out of him? I think some just want to chill, but don't really say anything. Does anyone have trouble 'reading' some dudes?

OMGGGGG!!!yessss when I was out in Cali. I had a client, he was nice but not verbal at all...I was trying to converse but NOTHING!!! I was like you're paying for this time DAMN IT and we are GONNA have a BLAST whether you like it or not!! (I said this in my head OF COURSE)..But for the quite ones I can deal with...I actually can vibe better that way kinda go DFK first and see where it goes...I can DFK till he recognize we can do that for an hour lol and then he will get the pic...jk I will take control a bit...but yeah I a couple of clients that were disconnected when I was giving my best....I don't maybe they wanna be intimidating until the provider cracks that shell hmmm....good ?

usually sticking your tongue down his throat and grabbing his ass works wonders..most of these guys are not exactly social butterflies..creepy worms is a better description..

and it does happen at times.

I find the better I know the gal first, the better things will go, so I like to banter back and forth with emails and hopefully get to chat on the phone.  (Did anyone know that phones can still do that?  8o)

It could also be the guy not feeling well, but decided to go through with it anyways; or you perhaps do not look exactly as what he was expecting, and he's turned off and is too timid to say why.

If things are really going south, I think the best thing to do is to ask if you should go and offer to return half of the donation.  That at least might get him to react.

I would not necessarily just get more physically aggressive as that might turn him off even more.

Wow. DFK until they realize you're not gonna' stop until they do something, lol

...but I wouldn't want to make him feel bad if it really is awkward. I can't imagine how I would feel if I hired someone, walked in not knowing what to 'do' or 'say', and she kicks me out bc she feels like I don't like her...

You have seen me and have felt this way, or...

Yep either there is zero chemistry or you have a shy/submissive one. If its first nothing you can do, if the later... lead the way all the way. It never hurts to just be honest and ask in a thoughtful way.

I've experienced this myself with a couple providers. Either the chemistry was lacking or there was a language barrier. I find that the best think to do then is to fill that time with sex. If it's down time for me then I try to get to know each other better by a little exploration. If he (for a provider) or she (for a hobbyist) doesn't want to talk then it's time for more action.

The chemistry thing is important, sure, and no matter what evidence exists prior to the meeting (pictures, reviews, email chatter,etc.), neither really knows what to expect until the door opens and closes, and the two of you are facing each other, all alone in the room.  But, you shouldn't think it's all about you.  Sometimes, we bring baggage into the room with us that even the most interesting and alluring woman cannot dispel.  When that happens, especially when the initial urge is sated, it can sometimes be a greater disservice to go through the motions than to hang around.  After all, time is the one currency that cannot be created, recovered or shifted.  Enjoy it when it's returned to you -- or, better yet, offer it to those with whom a real connection is made and you'd like to hang around a little longer . . . because it (or he) pleases you.

So much was going through my head.
I kinda forgot to talk.
And when I did? Gibberish came out.
Now. Most of the time there is no time to be nervous.
We just go at it. Then talk.
I learned to stop thinking, and start doing.

1. If he shakes hands like a dead fish and doesn't look you in the eyes , he's not your type .  
 I'm not speaking of  shaking your hand with the grip of crushing steel , or shaking your hand
  at all ,  if he does that he's never read the cover of a  romance novel  .
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Posted By: Courtney.ova

1. you just feel like you provided a 'boring' date with, while you know you were dressed sharp as a razor, looked perfect (as possible,) but practically had to pull teeth to get anything out of him? I think some just want to chill, but don't really say anything .  Does anyone have trouble 'reading' some dudes?  
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  2. what the hell do we do if you just kinda' stand there or sit there and stare into space? Jump you, pull out the whips and chains, do a little dance, rip off your pants, or start small talk to warm you up? Not an exact science, I know. Also, if they schedule an amt of time and leave early... what does  
   

 

   

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