: TER General Board Discussion : First, it is a paid arrangement

SoConfused 1470 reads

posted 11 years ago

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The tread below got me thinking. Been seeing this TER girl for a while but things are not going well.
So it's over but she needs my monthly income for all her expenses. Because she don't work too much
We spend time 2-3 times a month. Hrs, day, and overnight. There's not a "clock" involved
How do you end it without feeling bad or be the ass*%#

sasha2cute See my TER Reviews 443 reads

posted 11 years ago

2 / 21

so basically you got a gf LOL

Rules of the hobbyist - provider wouldn't apply on this one. You're gonna have to take her to "Pomodoro" to end it.

Dr Who revived 467 reads

posted 11 years ago

3 / 21

Easy...just tell her...

That you just got notified that your hours/salary have been dramatically slashed effective immediately.

But you'd still love to keep seeing her, just that you don't have any more money to spend.

See...that was easy!

Posted By: SoConfused

The tread below got me thinking. Been seeing this TER girl for a while but things are not going well.
So it's over but she needs my monthly income for all her expenses. Because she don't work too much
We spend time 2-3 times a month. Hrs, day, and overnight. There's not a "clock" involved
How do you end it without feeling bad or be the ass*%# ?

octavia.lexa See my TER Reviews 394 reads

posted 11 years ago

4 / 21

sd/sb relationships are too complicated

i guess you have a heart if you even think twice
when i had sd this past summer, he just cut me off when i was no longer novel...

that is the way the cookie crumbles

being in a provider/hobbyists is much easier emotionally

satinbutterfly See my TER Reviews 365 reads

posted 11 years ago

5 / 21

@dr who revived I love your handle

not on topic, but I'm a huge whovian great screen name!

GaGambler 372 reads

posted 11 years ago

6 / 21

Some guys will always feel bad, no matter how undeserved

Other guys will never feel bad, no matter how well deserved.

If things simply "aren't going well" no need for an explanation, just lose her phone number. Otherwise, I think the good doctor has the best suggestion, just tell her you have no money and ask if she still wants to see you.

hbyist+truth=;( 378 reads

posted 11 years ago

7 / 21

First, it is a paid arrangement

Second, you say it is not going well...have you talked to her about what you feel is not right?

Bottom line, she can always work more, and you can always stop the paid arrangement because she is not your girlfriend. You will not be an asshole if you do it with kindness or at the very least "professionally'.

PocoHunter 15 Reviews 318 reads

posted 11 years ago

8 / 21

If you worry about her thinking that you are an ass, then ....

...you don't have a girlfriend, those are free; you have a wife, those cost lots of money regularly. Next time you see her, instead of cash, give her a ring, then she will be the one breaking up with you, or worse, sealing the deal for good.

mrfisher 115 Reviews 319 reads

posted 11 years ago

9 / 21

You have to put your own interests first....

Remember the last time you flew, the attendant announced that in the event of a loss of cabin pressure, you are to first put on your air mask first, and then assist children, etc.

Same here.

Shore up your financial situation or you'll both be on the road to ruin.

When circumstances permit, ask if she is amenable to resuming the affair.

She won't be happy about it, but it is the best course of action

Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 225 reads

posted 11 years ago

10 / 21

It's your money. Don't forget that eom

END OF MESSAGE

Durhamdrew 19 Reviews 290 reads

posted 11 years ago

11 / 21

Re: Some guys will always feel bad, no matter how undeserved

That's the fastest way to end it. I have no money, but you still will see me right?

Posted By: GaGambler

Other guys will never feel bad, no matter how well deserved.

If things simply "aren't going well" no need for an explanation, just lose her phone number. Otherwise, I think the good doctor has the best suggestion, just tell her you have no money and ask if she still wants to see you.

russbbj 89 Reviews 251 reads

posted 11 years ago

12 / 21

That thing, which first brought you to her isn't broken

She can fuck and suck other guys, when your well drys up.

For this very reason, I love the hobby. If a woman I'm seeing starts lacking on her service, I simply stop seeing her

Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 309 reads

posted 11 years ago

13 / 21

Sex worker doesn't want to lose her money

Posted By: SoConfused

The tread below got me thinking. Been seeing this TER girl for a while but things are not going well.
So it's over but she needs my monthly income for all her expenses. Because she don't work too much
We spend time 2-3 times a month. Hrs, day, and overnight. There's not a "clock" involved
How do you end it without feeling bad or be the ass*%# ?

Things are not working out. Step up and tell her.That's not your problem her expenses.Sound like she making you feel guilty for ending it and no money.....No reason to feel like ass

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BigPeterJohnson 38 Reviews 287 reads

posted 11 years ago

14 / 21

Re: sd/sb relationships are too complicated

dude i would never cut you off...

Squeezetheorem 254 reads

posted 11 years ago

15 / 21

Slip out the back, Jack

Really, with such sporadic meetings, there's no telling what percentage of her income you provide. I've not met many on either side of this hobby that open the kimono with lovers.

With any luck, she's been strategically rounding down.

If not, that's on her. A simple explanation (true or not, that's your business) and/or last visit sounds fine.

SoConfused 265 reads

posted 11 years ago

16 / 21

Every....

Month is a 3k allowance plus "cover" some unexpected expenses
So it's 4-5k
I might be wrong I might be right.
No one will know the perfect answer.

ABC1234qq 23 Reviews 266 reads

posted 11 years ago

17 / 21

subject

Just like a girlfriend breakup or a bandaid. Rip it off quickly and be done. No discussions, no drama. This doesn't work, I'm done, as of now we are done. The fact that you're worried just shows you're a nice guy. Thats cool, I am too and hate ending things but you learn they will be over it sooner than you are usually..Even if you think you have a "special" arrangement..sadly it wont take her long to find something very similar. Pretty girls don't stay alone long..