The tread below got me thinking. Been seeing this TER girl for a while but things are not going well.
So it's over but she needs my monthly income for all her expenses. Because she don't work too much
We spend time 2-3 times a month. Hrs, day, and overnight. There's not a "clock" involved
How do you end it without feeling bad or be the ass*%#
Rules of the hobbyist - provider wouldn't apply on this one. You're gonna have to take her to "Pomodoro" to end it.
That you just got notified that your hours/salary have been dramatically slashed effective immediately.
But you'd still love to keep seeing her, just that you don't have any more money to spend.
See...that was easy!
Posted By: SoConfused
The tread below got me thinking. Been seeing this TER girl for a while but things are not going well.
So it's over but she needs my monthly income for all her expenses. Because she don't work too much
We spend time 2-3 times a month. Hrs, day, and overnight. There's not a "clock" involved
How do you end it without feeling bad or be the ass*%# ?
not on topic, but I'm a huge whovian great screen name!
i guess you have a heart if you even think twice
when i had sd this past summer, he just cut me off when i was no longer novel...
that is the way the cookie crumbles
being in a provider/hobbyists is much easier emotionally
dude i would never cut you off...
Other guys will never feel bad, no matter how well deserved.
If things simply "aren't going well" no need for an explanation, just lose her phone number. Otherwise, I think the good doctor has the best suggestion, just tell her you have no money and ask if she still wants to see you.
That's the fastest way to end it. I have no money, but you still will see me right?
Posted By: GaGambler
Other guys will never feel bad, no matter how well deserved.
If things simply "aren't going well" no need for an explanation, just lose her phone number. Otherwise, I think the good doctor has the best suggestion, just tell her you have no money and ask if she still wants to see you.
Second, you say it is not going well...have you talked to her about what you feel is not right?
Bottom line, she can always work more, and you can always stop the paid arrangement because she is not your girlfriend. You will not be an asshole if you do it with kindness or at the very least "professionally'.
...you don't have a girlfriend, those are free; you have a wife, those cost lots of money regularly. Next time you see her, instead of cash, give her a ring, then she will be the one breaking up with you, or worse, sealing the deal for good.
Remember the last time you flew, the attendant announced that in the event of a loss of cabin pressure, you are to first put on your air mask first, and then assist children, etc.
Same here.
Shore up your financial situation or you'll both be on the road to ruin.
When circumstances permit, ask if she is amenable to resuming the affair.
She won't be happy about it, but it is the best course of action
She can fuck and suck other guys, when your well drys up.
For this very reason, I love the hobby. If a woman I'm seeing starts lacking on her service, I simply stop seeing her
Posted By: SoConfused
The tread below got me thinking. Been seeing this TER girl for a while but things are not going well.
So it's over but she needs my monthly income for all her expenses. Because she don't work too much
We spend time 2-3 times a month. Hrs, day, and overnight. There's not a "clock" involved
How do you end it without feeling bad or be the ass*%# ?
Things are not working out. Step up and tell her.That's not your problem her expenses.Sound like she making you feel guilty for ending it and no money.....No reason to feel like ass
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Really, with such sporadic meetings, there's no telling what percentage of her income you provide. I've not met many on either side of this hobby that open the kimono with lovers.
With any luck, she's been strategically rounding down.
If not, that's on her. A simple explanation (true or not, that's your business) and/or last visit sounds fine.
Month is a 3k allowance plus "cover" some unexpected expenses
So it's 4-5k
I might be wrong I might be right.
No one will know the perfect answer.
Just like a girlfriend breakup or a bandaid. Rip it off quickly and be done. No discussions, no drama. This doesn't work, I'm done, as of now we are done. The fact that you're worried just shows you're a nice guy. Thats cool, I am too and hate ending things but you learn they will be over it sooner than you are usually..Even if you think you have a "special" arrangement..sadly it wont take her long to find something very similar. Pretty girls don't stay alone long..
My sugar babe live in boyfriend called my phone. I used that as a legitimate excuse to end the relationship.
