What should I do? I figure Who better to ask than a provider

you have been dating her on the outside without paying her?  Have you seen her yet as a customer?  Or has this only been a written friendship with emails?  The answer to these are going to give guidance as to what advice is appropriate.  More info needed.

Clearly you've kidnapped him and he's dictating messages to you.  But take the gag out of his mouth.

No to your first question. Yes to your second question  

I would ask her out on a regular outside date OTC.  If she goes, then there is the POSSIBILITY of more than just a customer-provider relationship here.  All you have so far is that you are her customer, maybe a regular customer, and she is "e-maintaining" you between appointments.  Many providers do that with their regulars.  If she's willing to go out on a RL date with you OTC, then maybe things have morphed into something more.  Maybe not.  If you pour your heart out at this stage and she says, "Dude, get a grip, you're my customer, this is not real, its a fantasy", you're going to feel awfully foolish.  

We are nice and flirt with our good clients because we want them to come back and see us.

YES
YES AND NO
I don't know
She claims to be single  
She's mentioned wanting to go to DUBIA

You fit the "profile" of so many clients.

No not married  

If she wants more, I am sure she'll let you know. In the meantime enjoy the ride and TRY not to fuck it up by becoming a love sick puppy dog. I would hate to have to "put you down" someday. lol

Only it's worded in "Fancyspeak" which is worse than I write with TWO bottles of tequila in me.

Haha I probably should've come to you for advice before I posted, but you are 100% right about me fucking up a good thing.

You do not want to reveal these feelings; she is a provider for a reason.  This is all or part of her job.  You will drive her away.

From my own experience, I'd tell him to proceed with caution. Been down this path and once was enough. Have no interest in going down it again.

I have dated a lot of hookers and the very best relationships were the ones where SHE was the one who made it official that we were now BF/GF. When she utters those words "I don't want your money anymore, I want you to be my boyfriend" that's when you know. I would strongly advice "hinting" too strongly that you want her to say this or even worse trying to put the words in her mouth, or even worse yet and probably the very worst thing you could do would be to declare your undying love for her without a clue as to how she feels about you.

And love springs eternal, but you might have to grow a pair.  I love meeting you ladies, I love chatting with you, you do make me laugh, keep me young, and some of you I truly love your mind.  But I've never confused flirtation with romantic interest.  You have not even met her in person.  At some point, she will write you off as a time waster because of the multiple e-mails, ignore you, and then someone else here will offer you some rope. See how it goes after you meet her.  

ROGM?

If you had you would know I've seen this provider several times for days, as I don't do hourly sessions with her.

"A couple of hundred bucks" and he's with her for days!?! Sounds like she may be sweet on him already.

She's not charging me at all, which I would probably feel guilty about because if she didn't need the money I don't think she would be escorting

When I see her I don't book hourly session it's for the entire day.  

I didn't see that you did.  However, my old eyes or the Scotch blurs my vision.  Please correct me if I am incorrect.

I am glad I was out golfing for the first several replies, but it you read the rest of his posts it's pretty clear he hasn't just seen her, but has been seeing her for extended dates, which puts a completely different spin on this.

I'll enjoy being in the friend zone until she says or hints otherwise

But might be a little further along than you. I`m seeing a sweet one that`s 1/2 my age who`s not married and neither am I and all I get are green lights and more green lights from her. So I`m thinking that there might be something outside the box but I am scared. I don`t want to get hurt especially at my age. I`ve seen her 4 consecutive times and I don`t want to see anyone else. She says I make her laugh better than all the others and our connection, chemistry is terrific. Tells me I`m her ATF! What??
After our last tryst I asked her to go to dinner later OTC. Tells me she never does OTC. She said she had a 90 min client to see after me. I said I`d hang at the mall and come back and pick her up at 5 pm. Her reply, "OK". Picked her up and now she`s in boots and jeans lookin' so GND and off to a nice Mexican bistro we go. She holds my hand walking from the car to the bistro and I think my poor heart is going to explode and burst through my chest! I love it, this is potent juice like I haven`t felt in a loong time.
Sat at the bar and ate and drank for 2 1/2 hrs and she told me her life history, she didn`t want to leave but a big  snowstorm was forecast and we both had long drives home.. Holy shit! I can`t seem to find my brake pedal, don`t want to or it`s broken. What do I do? I so don`t want to fuck this up but being patient is not my strong point. HELP
When you`re finished with cashorcredit, talk some sense into me too please or tell me you think I got a shot, lol

My boyfriend began as a client.  

My mistake.  However the 'Pretty Woman' comment remains.

The "friend zone" with a hooker is GREAT because you are still getting laid. With the civvy, not so much. lol

When I was newly independent and doing incall in NYC, I had a really cool client who booked 3-4 hours at a time, and became a regular. While I didn’t have romantic feelings for him, I enjoyed his company and found him to be a very endearing and awesome human being.  

It sounds like except for the fact she went out to dinner with you OTC, you are still paying full freight and are still very much a client. If you want to test the waters you might try this. Tell her you love hearing from her, but you don't want to make a pest of yourself when she is busy. Tell her you are't going to call/text/write to her first, but that you would love to her from her, and then wait. If she is into you, she will reach out, if you don't hear from her, you have your answer there too.

Have you considered the implications of dating a (current or former) provider?  Can you handle it for a year?  Two years?  Want to help her get her career and finances in order?  Ready to make a commitment to all this?

CoC, unlike your client, knows he shouldn't be pushing this issue and to either let it develop by itself by HER initiating more rather than him doing what your ex client did.

Thanks for sharing you experiences. From everyone's thoughts letting the provider take the initiative seems like the approach to take.

She was Korean, I met her at an AMP, but she didn't stay there and ended up working at one of the legal brothels in N Nevada. She was one of those "reluctant hookers" she was great at her job, but it was only a means to and end and she certainly didn't "love her job"  

Hey a chance is a chance nonetheless lol.

I went through this exact scenario.  Started off just the same way and it continued to progress.  I had a million reasons to walk away, but there was always one reason I didn't.  I won't tell you how far they progressed for a lot of reasons.  But things ended and what I learned was absolutely disgusting.  

I already let my guard down with her but I've decided to lower my expectations and not fuck up the friendship I've developed with her.

I kept an open mind about it, especially knowing she was a provider.  I'm also not the jealous type.  

Its going to blow up in your face because you are too infatuated with her.  It gives her complete control over you.  You feel LUCKY to be PAYING for her dinner, and I'm sure she knows it from your demeanor.  When I take a girl out OTC, I make sure I have set the stage so that they know THEY'RE the lucky one to be out with me because I have so many choices.  

Just because she said she's single doesn't mean a damn thing.  The only person who knows whether she is single or not is her.  He has no idea beyond what she claims or states.  

Met with a provider I've been trying to meet for some time over the weekend. She emails me she's running late. I wait it out and finally get the nod to come up, 30 minutes after scheduled meeting time.

My friend, who'd been in the business for 8 years longer that I, sized the situation up immediately and accurately. She said that he was trying to get closer and closer by degrees. She thought I should turn him into an SD. But that wasn't what he wanted. He actually wanted a sub!!! Or something like that, never got into the specifics. (I've never been known as a BDSM provider.)  

" but don't tell her you are falling for her."  
More that that -- you DON'T know who she really is. You're attached to a fantasy at this point so get control of your emotions.

None of us have the context to be able to tell you what to do here.  How have you been communicating with her?  Through e-mail and IM?  Or via the phone?  What is the length of her responses?  Could she craft them in minutes or did they take hours to write?  Or have you been talking to her on the phone for hours?  Who is initiating the contact?

I could not have said it better myself. I love it when you keep it real!

The vast majority of guys looking for OTC time are secretly hoping that if the hooker just "gets to know what a great person he is" that she will fall in love with him.

Good news...you are human and not the first, last or only client to develop feelings for her. If you do not tell her she will eventually find out anyway. How you treat her, talk to her, thank her and do small things or small gifts will be a dead give away.  

I've come to the conclusion not to tell her instead let her initiate anything more. Financial I could support her if she quit working but that would be her call.

Nearly 7 or 8 years now. I did say that I was VERY new.  

When a married man falls in "love" with a provider, what exactly is he wanting the outcome to be?  He wants her to fall in love too... And then what?

She should've acknowledged that you didn't get your full time.  She knows it's not ok.  Usually the session goes over a bit.  Never under.

Jockingly I suppose, She told I had better not see any other escorts besides her, not that it has swayed me from seeing other woman but I would like to see where this goes.

If a woman meets a man as the "other woman" with whom he is cheating on his wife, and then she succeeds in "stealing" this man away from said man's wife. If won't be long before he is cheating on her and the cycle will repeat.

I've been a sales person since 1968 and yes, there are some customers who you really like and look forward to seeing. It starts out that they spend some money, take your advice and things work out well -- lather, rinse, repeat.  

The only person who really knows anything is her.  As a provider, she has the perfect set-up to date anyone she wants and nobody is the wiser.  If she travels between locations/cities, you really don't know if she's got this same set-up with someone else.  

(I'm not actually sure he was married... he always just said 'significant other.' So I'm not sure what the relationship was. He never spoke about her beyond that, and definitely never discussed being unhappy or leaving that relationship at any time.)

Still waiting for her response...I'm predicting crickets.

Finally heard back from her yesterday. She said she was out of town and just got the email. She also wrote she completely understands where I'm coming from and is "so, so sorry." And she said if I choose to meet her again, the first hour is on her.