what about the girls tell the boys what they like? Yeah money , but  yours truely enjoys what & when my partner enjoys , call me naive but if i was a hot chic provider , id want it known i like this or that & not mince words for the sake of catchin a fish.
Too many say yes yes to get a guy in the door , get the donation . Then hope to endure the minimum contact to score cash . I dream of jeanie that loves to do & tells me how she loves to be done.

because that could be perceived as a turn off by the guy, and I bet they are right at least some times.

I like gals who tell me what they like.  I have the best times with them.

i would rather have my partner tell me what she enjoys rather than what she doesnt..a lot of providers have that fantasy or kinky perversion they want to try..so do clients..an open and honest session is always better than a 'routine' one..

First off, I figure I will have more fun if the lady is enjoying herself. Everyone does a better job when they enjoy what they are doing.

Secondly, most providers are talented, experienced, adventurous, even kinky. I figure that every provider I meet can show me at least one new thing that will be fucking delightful, and I want to find that thing.

Lastly, I like to be surprised. If I know exactly what is going to happen on a date before it happens, I am going to be bored. Seeing the same lady is great; doing the same thing every time is lousy.

So I search out ladies who are not shy about telling me how they prefer DATY, whether they want to be smacked on the ass, and all that. But beyond that, I trust them, and encourage them to take over at times, surprise me, do whatever they might like to do to and with me. As you said, most are reluctant, then cautious, worried that they will shock, disgust or otherwise upset me. And I have done some things that were a turn off, and declined to do a couple of other things. But I am fine with saying no, or trying something new that I do not like that much. Anyway, it takes a while to get a lady to relax, trust me, open up enough to feel comfortable suggesting whatever she wants.

But, as you say, once you get there, the real fun begins.

I suspect that most hobbyists say they want to please a lady, but most ladies take that to mean they need to tell the guy that whatever he is doing pleases them. If I had to bet, my bet is that the ladies have it right.

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I would really like a back rub.

...if she wants a back rub then one back rub coming up. I have no idea if I'm any good at it but I've done it before and will again. She can let me know if I need to change it up some to make it better for her.

Of course that wouldn't be all I'd want to do during the time but if she wants one she gets one. It's a great way to get other activities started.

I LOVE a good back rub, and have gotten several from clients!!!

But seriously, I'm there to have a good time too, so I will absolutely tell you what I like (or don't like).  I'd rather turn you on by telling the truth than having to fake anything!

and if asked what I like, I opt for a back rub. It feels great and all the rest of the good stuff is on the table...but just sometimes a back rub feels the best!!!!

Saturn, I  bicycle alot and my hands are very strong from it... and I love giving backrubs.  So if getting her hot is a backrub away I've got 10 minutes to turn up the heat, even a little bit of time to hit those feet, too!

of course but anything above the waist would be extra lol

you have just met your match, yes, I am speaking of your's truly. I never hold back on describing what I like or want and always give direction. read my bio....