I am sure a bad day in bed with you beats any good day in bed with a lot of significant others and wives
. I will take a bad day with you any day
I recently had an appointment where unfortunately I was out of focus. I feel like this made things awkward for both me and the client. I got so nervous that I started apologizing for being awkward and that kinda made it worse. I want to make it up to him but don't know how.
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...and the providers certainly didn't react the way you are...I give you much credit for feeling the way you do...
Maybe try sending him an email similar to your post, apologizing for what you feel like was a performance even you are disappointed in and tell him you'd like to try again...I'm not going to be so crass as to suggest offering a discounted session, but I think just reaching out should mean a lot to him, and would go a long way to making you feel better about having a bad day...we all have bad days Savannah, don't feel bad about being human...
...if it were to happen to me I would very much appreciate the provider reaching out and maybe offering a do-over if it wasn't a compatibility issue. Not necessarily a discounted do-over....just her wanting to try again would go a long way towards ultimately making it right.
Nobody is always at their best. Hopefully, he will understand that. If he doesn't, then he is not being realistic.
Most people will appreciate your honesty and concern, and will think better of you for doing so.
Communicating that to him, I think, is much better than anything else you might consider.
but unless this is simply a threAD, I have to confess I give her props for caring, especially as it doesn't look like she is simply reacting to a bad review as it doesn't seem like she gets many of those, and her recent 6-6 doesn't appear to be a bad review at all, it's just the numerical score that is low.
So yes, I do agree that communicating that to HIM, is the best course of action, I am sure two reasonable people with good intentions will find a way to work things out.
finding a woman, in this business, who is reasonable, AND has good intentions is unusual
That is a completely false statement. I have met plenty of young ladies in this hobby who are both reasonable and well intentioned. Sure, ultimately they just want my money but their intention is to rock my world while earning it.
and of course I too am an asshole. So why is it that you and I see mainly good in the women we see here and the BSU crowd seems to think that it's rare to find a good honest woman who happens to be a hooker?
Taking this a step further, why are we the assholes who always seem to get the misogynist label attached to us, when we are the ones who actually respect the women we pay to sleep with?
I can tell you why although it sounds like preaching to the choir
At some point we as men make a decision to live a certain life and we are at one with that. This does not fit in with the norm. Personally, I love women.......I have also figured out exactly the role they play in my life. That does not make me a misogynist.
I find many reasonable women with good intentions here in this business, at all price points.
I have lost track of how many hooker friends, GF's board buddies etc I have made over the years. I don't find a reasonable hooker with good intentions unusual in the least. Why do so many of the BSU crowd seem to think good women are a rarity in the P4P world?
I have lost track of how many hooker friends, GF's board buddies etc I have made over the years. I don't find a reasonable hooker with good intentions unusual in the least. Why do so many of the BSU crowd seem to think good women are a rarity in the P4P world?
who are reasonable and have good intentions. Price tends to vary by location with NYC, LV, and LA a bit more pricey than the midwest, southeast, and northeast.
and I have been fortunate to have known a few myself, and acknowledging that to them is important.
One lady, in particular, however has impressed and spoiled me to the point where my standards have risen. Thus, many others I had seen in the past simply don't compare. Having access to TER certainly does help in meeting a more reasonable and quality woman.
Judging the intentions of others was not my intent.
First dates are always a bit awkward for me.
I feel I have had several dates that were just "eh" that is OK. Some just bad.
Never knowing if she was having a bad day or was it me.
I definitely have never repeated.
Thinking about your "post" I probably would if she were to tell me it was
her and she was not focused.
He wanted to book with you once, so he probably would again.
I assume this was a first date
... and then do it, and just a little more
not that i'd advise against reaching out to the client, and communicating your feelings as you did to us.
i admit if a provider did that to me i would be touched.
however, in my opinion you should offer a little extra incentive to make him want to see you again, esp if this was a first date. not saying you need to discount your price, though that's an obvious option, esp. since most providers i have seen on these boards are not against running a special every now and then. you could look at it as a one time special for a specific client. and i would also make sure the guy knows that if you give him a discount it would be for this one time only and only to help make up for the less than stellar service he got the other time (so don't go around bragging that he got a discount from you).
but another option, and one i would recommend over a price discount, is maybe throw in some extra time...another half hour to his paid hour perhaps.
especially if this was a first date. if it were me and a first date was terrible, even if the lady communicated with me that she felt she was off her game, i would be hard pressed to find it within my self to pay her asking price again on a promise that things would be "better." if she were a total stranger to me, my thinking would be "well that promise of better service was implicit in the first go around, what makes me think she would be any better this time? her word, the word of a complete stranger?"
however if you offered me a discount or extra time, i'm scottish enough to take advantage of a deal and would probably give you another chance. but then again i don't have a huge amount of discretionary income, so my provider dollars have to be spent wisely.
on the other hand, if this was a client you have seen before and obviously have chemistry with, i think a communication alone would probably set things right.
again, i know i'm a minority with this advice, so do with it what you will. i do agree that communicating your feelings would be a good step in the right direction.
Hi Savannah!
First of all, if this was a new client, I wouldn't assume that the he was disappointed. I remember leaving one new guy thinking "Wow, he wasn't into me AT ALL"...only to end up seeing him for then next five years. Some guys just aren't emoters and the lack of overt enthusiasm can read as disappointment (or - worse - boredom!) when they are, in fact, quite satisfied.
That said, if YOU feel uncomfortable about how things ended, and you want to make it up to your client, absolutely send him a note. My own experience with this: I, too, had a date where I was a bit of a mess - and there was no mistaking the client's disappointment because he wrote a review clearly expressing it. I did send him a note expressing regret for my shortcomings on the day in question, and inviting him to return if ever he wanted to try again. He did not want to try again...but I still felt I had done the right thing by acknowledging his disappointment and my part in it.
The other thing I did was to look at what caused me to present him with a mess in the first place. (In that case, I had a rare hotel incall available, and I said "yes" to too many appointment requests.) Some days will always be better than others, but there are so many things we can do we can improve our chances of success!
xo- MiMi
I've had several sessions where the guy didn't seem into me, or I thought I looked terrible that day.
But found out later that each guy really enjoyed it and booked return visits.
Sometimes awkward hobbyists and escorts.
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....I've had a lady offer extra time (half hour, say, on an hour's paid session) on a couple of occasions. Very little skin off her nose--she still gets a full paid hour--but a very nice gesture and much appreciated. I definitely repeated after that.
If it was a regular, I wouldn't ask for my money back and wouldn't write a negative review, I just wouldn't return. I think it would be wise to acknowledge you weren't in top form and offer a little something extra on his next session. It could be more time or perhaps offering too explore a safe kink (pegging, watersports, rimming, etc.)
And its expected we perform 100% of the time, but that's not really humanly possible quite honestly. Just do what you feel is the right thing to you and I'm sure it will be just fine. I had one date where i just felt off and decided to reach out to him afterwards and we had a great second date. He was completely understanding though, where i know some may not be. 100% is expected 100% of the time. I personally try to weed those gents out as I'm screening. Whatever you decide, make sure it sits well with you or it may be awkward again.
Ggxo
That's just crazy to say.
When someone is plopping down hundreds or even thousands of dollars for something, you damn well better expect they have an expectation.
You should stick to taking orders at McDonalds.
Ggxo
i feel guilty too
offer him $$ credit for the next session or free extra time,that is what i would do it, if session went bad
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..because i felt like i had really turned him off and let him down. This bothered me not because i was scared of getting a bad review or anything but because I could see the excitement he came into the room with and then once i turned into a weirdo...the disappointment. He wasn't wrong to be excited because we had great chemistry during our correspondences and for the first half of our session...BUT THEN i started to feel sick and I couldn't for the life of me figure out how to say, "I don't feel well, please leave." Instead I sat there and tried to pretend like i was ok. FML
I took your advice and emailed him with an apology and an offer to see me again for an adjusted rate. Fingers crossed that i didn't completely ruin this experience for him.
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It is really cool that you car enough to do this. It shows a true Pro.
irrespective of if he sees you again or not, you did the honorable thing and went above and beyond the call of what most people would do. good for you.
And if I might add, bring a bottle of wine. It's the effort. Good luck and mad props to you for reaching out to him and I hope he takes you up on your attempt to make amends....Try to make a laugh out of what happened last time.
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Tell him you had an off night and want to try it again. I'm NOT saying a freebie, but toss a bill back to him at the end of the session and say this is for the last time. Don't offer the discount in writing because it sounds tacky. Make it a date night, open a bottle of wine (it helps) and rock his world, tip him when you're done - you'll have a client for a long time because it shows you have class. Just my .02.
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I have had poor dates... One in particular sticks in my mind. She was really having a bad day & spoiled it for me. She knew she did... never appologized... nothing. Guess what? I never went back. And she was a long time favorite.
That said, if you really are feeling ill or stressed because of something in your private life, what ever... say something... please. Communicate. Offer a choice of a refund (time not used) or continue if you can... at his option. On the spot, offer a 'do over' deal. Thank him for being understanding.
Same here AND we wonder if we did something wrong that's the real pisser.
I'm sure your client would appreciate it.
Send him an email accusing him of ruining the session for you and then tell him that if he wants to see you again, it will cost an extra $100.
I'll bet even odds he'll pay it.
I'd also want to see what he writes on here after you so
so how do you handle this?
If only you would use
your powers for good
instead of evil.
I'll bet even odds he'll pay it.
I'd also want to see what he writes on here after you so.
than the one you're making up for. There are times it's not only the client who doesn't click with us, but it's us not clicking with the client. Sometimes it just doesn't happen.
My make up sessions for a job I thought I didn't do right always flopped, and I ended up with more regrets. I just let it go and if they book again, I don't mention it. Or I don't see him. Some people, not many, but some just rub me the wrong way. I think we both know it, and we both move on.
If the bottle of wine does not help ... I agree.
My make up sessions for a job I thought I didn't do right always flopped, and I ended up with more regrets. I just let it go and if they book again, I don't mention it. Or I don't see him. Some people, not many, but some just rub me the wrong way. I think we both know it, and we both move on.
Like Sinatra's "regrets," I've had a few.
My SOP is to walk away without comment, likely never to return.
Unless otherwise and explicitly stated, the lady is —as so many have observed— in it primarily, if not strictly, for the do-re-mi and not assuring that Mr. Client is not disappointed. And as the provider of a scarce resource, she holds all the cards in the transaction.
This observation may not be pretty, but it has the virtue of being true.
If things don't work out, they simply don't work out. Sentiment is for love songs, not hookups with providers of the above-mentioned resource.
How uncool is it to get into a contretemps one is destined to lose?
A former POTUS once advised, "Never get in a pissing contest with a frog." He wasn't talking about amphibians, and he knew something about women
Interesting. I've never heard that one. So French admirer and ass man. Jfk?
I am sure a bad day in bed with you beats any good day in bed with a lot of significant others and wives. I will take a bad day with you any day
or at least as most of us have taken it... if you didn't give your best BUT you don't feel a do over will go better... I think I'd still appologize for not being at your best. But I'd not encourage a do over, if you really don't think it will be up to your standards. The question is really, as he's leaving, do you offer a partial refund... He'll probably/possibly decline it. I would but I would appreciate the gesture.