I recently had an appointment where unfortunately I was out of focus. I feel like this made things awkward for both me and the client. I got so nervous that I started apologizing for being awkward and that kinda made it worse. I want to make it up to him but don't know how.

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...and the providers certainly didn't react the way you are...I give you much credit for feeling the way you do...

I agree

...if it were to happen to me I would very much appreciate the provider reaching out and maybe offering a do-over if it wasn't a compatibility issue. Not necessarily a discounted do-over....just her wanting to try again would go a long way towards ultimately making it right.

Nobody is always at their best.  Hopefully, he will understand that.  If he doesn't, then he is not being realistic.  
Most people will appreciate your honesty and concern, and will think better of you for doing so.    

but unless this is simply a threAD, I have to confess I give her props for caring, especially as it doesn't look like she is simply reacting to a bad review as it doesn't seem like she gets many of those, and her recent 6-6 doesn't appear to be a bad review at all, it's just the numerical score that is low.

First dates are always a bit awkward for me.  

... and then do it, and just a little more

not that i'd advise against reaching out to the client, and communicating your feelings as you did to us.

Hi Savannah!

Sometimes awkward hobbyists and escorts.

....I've had a lady offer extra time (half hour, say, on an hour's paid session) on a couple of occasions.  Very little skin off her nose--she still gets a full paid hour--but a very nice gesture and much appreciated.  I definitely repeated after that.

If it was a regular, I wouldn't ask for my money back and wouldn't write a negative review, I just wouldn't return. I think it would be wise to acknowledge you weren't in top form and offer a little something extra on his next session. It could be more  time or perhaps offering too explore a safe kink (pegging, watersports, rimming, etc.)

And its expected we perform 100% of the time, but that's not really humanly possible quite honestly. Just do what you feel is the right thing to you and I'm sure it will be just fine. I had one date where i just felt off and decided to reach out to him afterwards and we had a great second date. He was completely understanding though, where i know some may not be. 100% is expected 100% of the time. I personally try to weed those gents out as I'm screening. Whatever you decide, make sure it sits well with you or it may be awkward again.  

i feel guilty too

finding a woman, in this business, who is reasonable, AND has good intentions is unusual

..because i felt like i had really turned him off and let him down. This bothered me not because i was scared of getting a bad review or anything but because I could see the excitement he came into the room with and then once i turned into a weirdo...the disappointment. He wasn't wrong to be excited because we had great chemistry during our correspondences and for the first half of our session...BUT THEN i started to feel sick and I couldn't for the life of me figure out how to say, "I don't feel well, please leave." Instead I sat there and tried to pretend like i was ok. FML  

It is really cool that you car enough to do this. It shows a true Pro.

That is a completely false statement. I have met plenty of young ladies in this hobby who are both reasonable and well intentioned. Sure, ultimately they just want my money but their intention is to rock my world while earning it.

I find many reasonable women with good intentions here in this business, at all price points.

irrespective of if he sees you again or not, you did the honorable thing and went above and beyond the call of what most people would do.  good for you.

and of course I too am an asshole. So why is it that you and I see mainly good in the women we see here and the BSU crowd seems to think that it's rare to find a good honest woman who happens to be a hooker?

Tell him you had an off night and want to try it again. I'm NOT saying a freebie, but toss a bill back to him at the end of the session and say this is for the last time. Don't offer the discount in writing because it sounds tacky. Make it a date night, open a bottle of wine (it helps) and rock his world, tip him when you're done - you'll have a client for a long time because it shows you have class. Just my .02.

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And if I might add, bring a bottle of wine. It's the effort. Good luck and mad props to you for reaching out to him and I hope he takes you up on your attempt to make amends....Try to make a laugh out of what happened last time.

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That's just crazy to say.

who are reasonable and have good intentions. Price tends to vary by location with NYC, LV, and LA a bit more pricey than the midwest, southeast, and northeast.

I have had poor dates...   One in particular sticks in my mind.  She was really having a bad day & spoiled it for me.  She knew she did...  never appologized...  nothing.  Guess what?  I never went back.  And she was a long time favorite.  

I'm sure your client would appreciate it.

I can tell you why although it sounds like preaching to the choir

Send him an email accusing him of ruining the session for you and then tell him that if he wants to see you again, it will cost an extra $100.

so how do you handle this?

than the one you're making up for. There are times it's not only the client who doesn't click with us, but it's us not clicking with the client. Sometimes it just doesn't happen.

Like Sinatra's "regrets," I've had a few.

I am sure a bad day in bed with you beats any good day in bed with a lot of significant others and wives. I will take a bad day with you any day

I've had several sessions where the guy didn't seem into me, or I thought I looked terrible that day.

and I have been fortunate to have known a few myself, and acknowledging that to them is important.

or at least as most of us have taken it...  if you didn't give your best BUT you don't feel a do over will go better...   I think I'd still appologize for not being at your best.   But I'd not encourage a do over, if you really don't think it will be up to your standards.  The question is really, as he's leaving, do you offer a partial refund...   He'll probably/possibly decline it.  I would but I would appreciate the gesture.

If the bottle of wine does not help ... I agree.

If only you would use  

Same here AND we wonder if we did something wrong that's the real pisser.

Interesting. I've never heard that one. So French admirer and ass man. Jfk?

That was my take on this, I highly doubt it was as bad as you remember it. Maybe not the greatest but unless I really misunderstand what happened I doubt he left particularly unhappy.