Earlier I was trying to set an appointment, the man seemed nice enough but hits me with my pet peeve! He doesnt know how long he wants to stay and will decide when he gets here, anywhere from 45min to two hours. Which to me is is usually a sign he's going to go for the shorter session and wants priority because he "might" stay longer.  
 
Get me?  
 
 Then i check out stats hes only been a member for a month, on the Site he's on and has given one review which wasn't the greatest. I chose to not meet considering the circumstances.  
 
Am i wrong for denying this client? & If so, please let me know your opinion, ladies & gents!  
 
Xoxo  
Ms. Lovely

I agree the only way to see a guy like him is to be very clear that 45 minutes means 45 minutes not two hours, and that when time is up, that means unless he pays up, play time is over.

You can see whoever you want to. No judgement from me but I am shocked by how many people turn down people in this world. I thought the idea was to see anyone who isn't dangerous.  I have been turned down due to age and personalty on a sex board. I don't take it personally if you pass but you have every right to say No.  

Or intuition is almost always the best to follow.  

No, you were right.  
It's your time, your money and your body.  
And you know nothing good is going to come from a guy who can't even decide how much time he wants

If he's "Not sure" about the length of the session, it would make me suspicious of what else he has on his mind.

Definitely hun! & I am typically the type of girl who would even stay extra or so ... If the chemistry is right, I hate to rush, I like talking, taking my showers & more ... Staying longer isn't the problem just the part of being taken advantage of!

you did good darlin'...he needs to value your time and not treat you as a beck and call

You could have just told him firmly that because of his hem-hawing, you were going to set the date at a limit of one hour.  But there's no reason to be nice to everyone all the time.  No, you're not wrong for denying the weirdo.

If you are anything like me (perish the thought. lol) it's not the extra time you begrudge, it's the fact that instead of feeling good about it, you feel used and taken advantage of, not to mention unappreciated when it happens this way.

I hope you told him to  beat it!

He'd likely have behaved nightmarishly during the actual session.

When they can't make up their mind I say Ok, well then lets set it for the low time and if I don't get booked right after I will give you the opportunity to add time if you like.  I make sure they know I am busy in my personal life and not just sitting in a room waiting for more calls.  So after that I make plans, what can I do after this session.  Goto dinner with GF, head for the gym, set up a massage/hair/nail appt at the salon.  When his time is up I ask him if he needs to add more time, or if he is good.  If he doesn't answer but acts real lazy I start getting my space around to leave and ask him if he needs a shower.  If he says yes, he would love to extend, then I ask him to please take care of the finance real quick while I make a phone call to change my plans for the evening.  9 out of 10 times they just get dressed and leave, but the 10th time is sometimes very fun.

In this world, they think they have options but you're the one laying down those options, it's either 45 minutes or 2 hours, he needs to know that before he gets there because you have shit to do. You gotta let them know that or they will take up all your time and you're the one who needs to pay your bills, they aren't obligated to pay for the time they wasted for you, when he didn't stay.

...and maybe now he'll learn some manners...

Like u said as a seasoned provider you know what you want! I prefer dealing with men who know what they & get it!

A woman who constantly watches the clock can make a session feel rushed even if she gives a guy his full time, but makes it very clear that he is "on a clock" and he better not run over. No guy likes that kind of treatment as most of us are perfectly aware of the time and don't need to be reminded that "you better hurry and finish before the hour is up"

but that doesn't mean that even an asshole can't be a "courteous asshole" lol

eom

here is the perspective of a guy who has been a paying-VIP here for 12 years, has submitted a fair number of reviews (but on fewer than 1/2 of the providers I have sessioned), and is an AARP member:

that was very sweet of you, but a lot of us do have other things that we are involved in from day to day, such as family, school, another job, etc etc, not necessarily other appointments lined up...all we ask is to take in consideration that we are not just a service and our time is valuable

As I was reading your description, a light bulb went off in my head:
"That was ME"!
Not literally, but close enough.
I prefer 2 or 3 hour sessions, and a highly rated local provider ran a special with rates for 60 & 90 minutes. I vacillated between booking 2 consecutive sessions at either length, and ended up with a worse idea. I proposed a 90 minute, "and if we click", another 90 minute right after that. Or maybe it was 60s - you get the idea.
I've pondered why I got no response, and now I know.
Thank you for telling your tale. As I read it, my thought was "OF COURSE you reject the guy who doesn't respect your need to be able to plan your day"! Then I realized that that had been me.

definitely the right thing to do.  You sound like a true gentleman.

How can you possibly run a schedule without knowing a time for his booking?  45 minutes is not a standard time offering.  So let's say one hour or 2.  If you take an hour off between clients to rest, recover, shower...  then you could book another date later that day.  This jerk will tie up your whole day & want to cheap your donation.  BS!  It just doesn't work like that.  He needs to request a time & be prepared to live with it.  I don't think he's a gem so better to pass on him anyway.  

I eventually noticed that one Fav gal always had a travel clock in the room we played in (not always the same room).  It was off to the side & often I couldn't see the bed side clock...  but I was never rushed & never caught her looking at it.  I felt I always got my full time.  
Other gals use other tricks to keep on schedule...

with a provider.  

I know my first appointment, I wasn't sure if I was going to stay an hour or 90 minutes. When communicating with the provider, I told her that. Eventually we worked out that I would stay an hour, but I had no intentions of paying for an hour and staying longer, I was just inexperienced at this.

But then so am I. Why is it that only a few of us respect the women we see. I to enjoy OTC time as much as anyone, but that is for her to initiate. If I spend OTC time with a hooker I want her to enjoy it as well. I don't want her to feel like it's being forced on her.

Jesustittyfuckingchrist still remains as my favorite Tobi'ism, but thank you just the same.