I agree the only way to see a guy like him is to be very clear that 45 minutes means 45 minutes not two hours, and that when time is up, that means unless he pays up, play time is over.

Now that said, do you REALLY want to have a date like that, having to be constantly on your guard as to not being taken advantage of? You already know the answer to that question which is why you chose to pass on the date, but since you are looking for validation about your decision, you've got it. I completely agree with your decision.

You can see whoever you want to. No judgement from me but I am shocked by how many people turn down people in this world. I thought the idea was to see anyone who isn't dangerous.  I have been turned down due to age and personalty on a sex board. I don't take it personally if you pass but you have every right to say No.  

Or intuition is almost always the best to follow.  

It is hard wired into us, I do not know the science behind it so I can't speak to it with certainty. But I will say that nearly every time that I've listened to my gut feeling and nearly every time I haven't, my gut feeling was right. There are many things or situations in our life which require long, deep thought and then there are situations such as your current which we should listen to our inner self.

I believe you've made the correct decision based upon what you describe. I can say as a seasoned hobbyist, that I have always known exactly how much time I'd like to spend with a lady when I request her time. I have had sessions which in hind sight were too short or too long, but those hind sight revelations were only useful in planning subsequent or not dates.

No, you were right.  
It's your time, your money and your body.  
And you know nothing good is going to come from a guy who can't even decide how much time he wants

If he's "Not sure" about the length of the session, it would make me suspicious of what else he has on his mind.

you did good darlin'...he needs to value your time and not treat you as a beck and call

You could have just told him firmly that because of his hem-hawing, you were going to set the date at a limit of one hour.  But there's no reason to be nice to everyone all the time.  No, you're not wrong for denying the weirdo.

I hope you told him to  beat it!

He'd likely have behaved nightmarishly during the actual session.

Watch out for the little things, so that (hopefully) you don't have to worry about the big ones.

When they can't make up their mind I say Ok, well then lets set it for the low time and if I don't get booked right after I will give you the opportunity to add time if you like.  I make sure they know I am busy in my personal life and not just sitting in a room waiting for more calls.  So after that I make plans, what can I do after this session.  Goto dinner with GF, head for the gym, set up a massage/hair/nail appt at the salon.  When his time is up I ask him if he needs to add more time, or if he is good.  If he doesn't answer but acts real lazy I start getting my space around to leave and ask him if he needs a shower.  If he says yes, he would love to extend, then I ask him to please take care of the finance real quick while I make a phone call to change my plans for the evening.  9 out of 10 times they just get dressed and leave, but the 10th time is sometimes very fun.

Also the term "Clock Watcher" has changed so much over the years.  When I 1st came here in 2001, it meant a lady who got you in, got you off, and got you out usually within about 30mins.  Back in those days you booked an hour but it really meant a single pop and the lady was out after.  GFE was a pretty new term as well.

Now clock watcher is a lady to sticks close to her times

In this world, they think they have options but you're the one laying down those options, it's either 45 minutes or 2 hours, he needs to know that before he gets there because you have shit to do. You gotta let them know that or they will take up all your time and you're the one who needs to pay your bills, they aren't obligated to pay for the time they wasted for you, when he didn't stay.

...and maybe now he'll learn some manners...

eom

here is the perspective of a guy who has been a paying-VIP here for 12 years, has submitted a fair number of reviews (but on fewer than 1/2 of the providers I have sessioned), and is an AARP member:

When I contact a fs provider for the first time who is well-reviewed here if she asks "how long" I usually respond "at least an hour".  If she says that she has appointments following the tentative appointment time, I tell her I will call again in the hope her schedule will not be so full the next time.

Here is a recent example of why I do that:

1)  A provider with good TER reviews (who has not advertised here) had advertised on bp 2 or 3 times on a morning.  I called, she did not ask "how long" (it was a Sunday, presumably her phone was not "ringing off the hook"), and we set up a time.  I brought enough $ to cover more than two hours.

2) When I arrived we talked a little (including about her TER reviews and advertising here) and I laid down enough on her dresser to cover 1.5 hours because I had already sensed a "good vibe" that my time with her would be more than pleasant.  She was grateful.  At the end of the excellent session I asked about her rent and she said it was due that day.  I gave her enough more $ to cover the additional amount she needed to make rent.  

3) Our age difference is enough that I could be her father.  The fatherly instinct (which some males do not have) kicked in.  I went to her refrigerator and as I opened the door (my Dad always called it the "ice box") she said "I need to buy groceries."  I saw there was little food and I gave her more $ to buy food.

4)  I told her that I did not consider the additional money I had just given her as an advance on the next session, it was my appreciation for this excellent session.  I left with her being very happy.

5)  She did not advertise the next day.  I assume that she was buying groceries and destressing because she had been able to pay rent.

Signed,
The Voice of (some) Experience

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As I was reading your description, a light bulb went off in my head:
"That was ME"!
Not literally, but close enough.
I prefer 2 or 3 hour sessions, and a highly rated local provider ran a special with rates for 60 & 90 minutes. I vacillated between booking 2 consecutive sessions at either length, and ended up with a worse idea. I proposed a 90 minute, "and if we click", another 90 minute right after that. Or maybe it was 60s - you get the idea.
I've pondered why I got no response, and now I know.
Thank you for telling your tale. As I read it, my thought was "OF COURSE you reject the guy who doesn't respect your need to be able to plan your day"! Then I realized that that had been me.

How can you possibly run a schedule without knowing a time for his booking?  45 minutes is not a standard time offering.  So let's say one hour or 2.  If you take an hour off between clients to rest, recover, shower...  then you could book another date later that day.  This jerk will tie up your whole day & want to cheap your donation.  BS!  It just doesn't work like that.  He needs to request a time & be prepared to live with it.  I don't think he's a gem so better to pass on him anyway.  

One of my few mistakes was scheduling with a lady & not being clear how long her Special time included...  fortunately we were able to extend (for additional fee)

with a provider.  

With most providers I have not seen, I will schedule an hour. If I have a good time, I will repeat with a multi-hour appointment.

I know my first appointment, I wasn't sure if I was going to stay an hour or 90 minutes. When communicating with the provider, I told her that. Eventually we worked out that I would stay an hour, but I had no intentions of paying for an hour and staying longer, I was just inexperienced at this.