Why should I have to tell a grown person to shower? It's always so difficult to tell someone without sounding rude....I personally feel that if I look and smell great for you it should be the same? Then you have people that shower and it's like "wow you did not just shower right now, you smell worse than when you first went in"

babbles endlessly during a session, when can u say STFU?  At some point cute turned to annoying and you just wish she would go away for a while.   I mean I would drop my rating from a 8 or 9 down to a 6 if a lady doesn't know when to keep her mouth shut.    

I am the squeakiest clean and most closely shaved in my life whenever I'm going in to see a lady.  Breath mints, too.  Clean clothes, too (goes without saying!).  I cannot imagine being so rude as to see a lady in the condition you describe.

I've seen it stated very clearly that if the client is unable to arrive smelling freshly-showered, then he must avail himself of her facilities before the fun stuff begins.  Just make sure he's aware of this when booking/confirming.

Baby I was talking about people with poor hygiene. Am I missing something?

OG I love that idea but I'll be honest I do not like taking showers with anyone. Done it maybe 2x I don't enjoy it. I always offer a back scrub or something of that nature but don't like the idea of it, you know....especially when my hair and makeup is flawless. It's a great idea I just don't like it in practice.  

It's true, I took your advice and stated that on my site, I hope they pay attention but you are right no one should ever be disrespected. I choke it up too as you can see being rude or mean isn't my forte but in my mind I'm like "Oh lord" had such a morbid experience once with someone whose breathe was just fouled that from that day on I didn't allow DFK or none of that. Somethings are learned the hard way. But you are right, we are professionals so we must suck it up sometimes.  

Posted By: DebbieNoonerGirl

I've seen it stated very clearly that if the client is unable to arrive smelling freshly-showered, then he must avail himself of her facilities before the fun stuff begins.  Just make sure he's aware of this when booking/confirming.  
   
 Many of my clients are coming to me from work and are unable to shower directly beforehand. About half will immediately shower without being asked.    
   
 For those who do not shower at my place, and are maybe less than fresh?  As long as he's not wearing a scent that triggers my allergies, I suck it up.    
   
 Why?  Because:  
   
 A) I've learned that no matter how sweetly or nicely I ask him to shower, or even offer to join in and give a helping hand, some men will be put off or even offended by this.  Or they just plain arrogantly refuse to shower.  Either of those responses can set a bad note for the date, which is not what I want.  
   
 B) I'm a professional in this situation, not a hookup he found on AFF, Match, Tinder, or anywhere else.  He sought me out to have the experience HE desires, and if that doesn't include a shower, then so be it. I will be professional and accommodate him squeaky-clean or otherwise.    
   
   
 He's usually only going to be with me for a couple of hours at most, and I can thoroughly scrub any lingering odor off of myself the second he leaves.  Now if the boys reek like dirty socks then I'm not going to give them any attention unless requested to do so.  But, just like if he wants to cover me with his stale body for mish..... I may cringe inwardly but still comply and do my best to act happy about it.    
   
 How you choose to handle these situations is entirely up to you and I honestly don't feel there is any wrong or right way.  This is a VERY intimate service, and I completely respect everyone's perspective on this subject.  That being said, no matter how vile someone smells, HE should still be treated with respect when being asked to freshen up.    
   
   
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 PS~ I've noticed that those arriving from physical type labor where they are really sweaty or otherwise smelly do NOT need any prompting to shower.  They know they reek and often check with me in advance to be sure they can shower upon arrival.  It's just those with office jobs who don't realize that even though it's only lunchtime and they haven't done anything physical, they no longer smell as clean as they did when they left the house that morning.    
 

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Poor personal hygiene/different cultural norms happen outside of the hobby world.

Who does not have proper hygiene I would have to be brutally honest & ask them to shower for a start. Simply, because cleanliness is apart of my “etiquette & expectations"!

I know this is not an act you are putting on and U really have these vapid thoughts in your head.  It's just most men don't want to hear about it.  Ladies, Men tune u out when u talk endlessly about what we consider dumb sh*t. I tune my SO out and she has grown to know when to leave it alone.

....because I want to be fresh as a daisy for her.  
Any body shaving is done at home prior to arrival.

exactly, it's so hard to say that. LOL Imagine having to say it even after they shower. It's horrible having to tell an adult that seriously. It's like might as well offer an prize for being clean lol.

I'm out of the shower within the hour of my date, which is why it's annoying when providers text at date time to say they are running 5 minutes late and show up an hour later. I take an extra long shower and use soap and a washcloth and wash head to toe with extra attention to my junk and my ass. I also shave below the belt in the shower. I dry off and use a hair dryer to dry off those hard to get areas. I shave my face twice to make sure there is no stubble and apply unscented face balm after. I put on a light touch of deodorant. Brush my teeth, floss and rebrush and use mouthwash (I like to kiss) brush my hair, dress and hopefully my doorbell is ringing about the same time as I'm putting on the last shoe.  

Posted By: RoxanneHeartNYC

Why should I have to tell a grown person to shower? It's always so difficult to tell someone without sounding rude....I personally feel that if I look and smell great for you it should be the same? Then you have people that shower and it's like "wow you did not just shower right now, you smell worse than when you first went in"  
   
 Providers: how do you personally handle this?  
   
 Clients : Do you prep yourself for your dates? I mean prep as in shave? Shower? the whole 9?    
   
 If you are a person that doesn't like to shower I would really value your input. WTF dude

Don't realize that if they can smell themselves a little,
Others can smell them a lot.  
Some cultures don't believe in daily showers
And they don't use deodorant. I've lived in Europe and Africa and on a hot day
My eyes would tear.

I don't shave face for a couple days before a date, that allows me to get a much better shave.  I manscape about once a week, whether I have a date or not.  It makes shaving easier than if I let it grow out too much.

I shave & shower immediately before departing...  so less than an hour of travel time.  I will ALWAYS wash hands when arriving (you have no control over who else touched buttons & door knobs before you).  I often bring a small container of my prefered "soft soap" to a meeting ($1 on sale).

Most Asian women I know (and I know a lot) are meticulously, almost fanatically clean.

But I like her posts. So just skip that you don't want to read and leave it for those that do want to read it.

+100 I have a few people on ignore because they suck as human beings or they are boring. It makes TER more enjoyable.  

make it a habit of showering with your clients first.
win win sitch!

Why are you on here?
You wanted to sound important for once in your life?
Also maybe you have this issue or else why would it upset you?

That could be fun for longer appointments, but it's really not an option for an hour.  

Replying here but I also read GaG and swim and h'view.

It certainly is! I do it a lot!

The only reason I even shower before going to see a Korean or Thai woman is simply force of habit. I absolutely HATE going out in public without being freshly showered. but even if it's only been fifteen minutes since I last showered it's a given that the first 10 minutes or so with a Kgirl is going to be spent in the shower with her, and that is just fine with me. I find it quite enjoyable, it usually includes a BBBJ while in the shower and it assures me that there will be no remnants from her last date either. I have ZERO illusions that she most likely has been with someone else in the last hour or less before my arrival, but as long as we are both squeaky clean, who cares?

Some guys work all day and have a SO at home who would notice that they took their weekly shower early so they skip it. Others just never learned "how" to wash properly and actually skip using soap because they think it will make them sick if they wash off their body oil. Throw in cultural differences of bathroom habits, such as their ass wiping WITHOUT toilet paper in India - yup, they wipe with just their left hand and toilet water, and you have a nasty mix brewing. No Shit! Pun intended.  

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If you feel your time isn't being used that way you  like by all means speak up. The issue cant be fixed if don't say anything. I would suggest trying to be polite, STFU, probably wouldn't be the best option, but yea speak up.

by how many people don't take hygiene seriously. I'm sure some women are that way too. It is a big deal in a close setting like a session.

One whiff and I'm hightailing it out the door and going home (blocking him as well). A provider on another site told a story about a client who came to the brothel she was working at years ago. One of the girls let out a bloodcurdling scream...and when everyone came running in, there was unwanted visitors crawling all over. and through the man's private area. I would post more, but I'm getting nauseous just thinking about that story. Men shouldn't have to be told to take a shower. I take showers before I leave and then when I get to the clients location AND after the session is done. I've been unfortunate to have had clients with bad hygiene...and they're no longer my clients.

I learned early the joys of playing with Asian Women. When I was in the Navy many years ago and I met my first "provider" She bathed me tenderly in the bath facility in her location. With attention to all my body including the naughty bits. It took a lot of self control to keep from the happy ending before the happy start.  

Certain aliases of aliases would stop using their alter alter ego.
It's so easy to just ignore someone that adds nothing positive to your life, but it's hard to keep up with (most) aliases of aliases.

to reduce the frequency of bathing.  

Yes! We should all have high expectations for each other!

Are you aware where you are?

Why the F am I here?
I haven't been here long and I don't think I will stay.

Yes. I like to shower before dates either before leaving from home or at her incall if I am coming from work. I also shave upon arrival.  

I would have to agree with you

thank you sweetie, don't even pay attention to them. It's like okay and you sticking up for me and others make it all the much more sweeter when they are ignored.  

OMG, that doesn't sound too good. Sounds morbid , if you can't afford toilet paper how can you afford a provider?  Yikes

Yes it is and even if you say it nicely it can easily be taken offensive. It's a sensetive subject for some.

HA HA on the last part Gagambler you hit the nail on the head but what do I know right?

I don't understand what so hard, exactly with poor hygiene comes everything negative. It's tough.

I shower before and after appointments.Hobbyists and escorts should shower before and after .Play safe folks.

So Roxanne might get a answer to help herself or someone else.
It's really not a big deal.

It sounds like you are not getting enough pussy at home and back up.
So for you to be pissed at Roxanne comment about being clean might really be a personal issue for you?
Just go get some pussy and calm the fuck down.
Please make sure to shower first before you have sex. Lol

Roxanne just keep doing your thing on here and your welcome.

by saving money on toilet paper ... just don't suck his fingers,

I always shower upon arrival at the incall and after as well.  But one time a provider who was otherwise good handed me a damp towel. Needless to say I didn't use it but rather attempted to dry off with a clean wash cloth. Not having fresh towels is a violation that will always prevent me from repeating.

Despite what Sodapop and others may say, you have the best topics. They are thought provoking and the questions most people have on their minds, but are too afraid to ask.  

But do not whine like a baby who dropped his pacifier in a steaming pile of dog shit when "you" get refused certain service because certain body parts reek of old urine, fecal matter, body odor or rank breath.

..."That being said, no matter how vile someone smells, HE should still be treated with respect when being asked to freshen up."...

Grown men who don't know how to wash, are asked to leave or services are flatly refused. There are consequences to being a filthy pig.

Thank you sweetie!

I guess I just cannot wrap my head around any person that is about to have sex with another NOT taking care of hygiene.